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DEAR HARRIETTE: My neighbor's child recently vandalized my fence and got caught lying about it. My husband and I have security cameras, so when we first saw the damage to the fence, we immediately went and checked them. We clearly saw our next-door neighbor's child do it purposely. We went over to their house and asked if anyone in the family ...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: When I am sick, I need to rest and conserve my energy. I don't want visitors, as then I feel I have to host, perform and even offer food and drink when all I want to do is sleep.

I don't look presentable, and I shouldn't feel obligated to shave and shower to receive guests. I don't want them to see me in pajamas, unshaven, ...Read more

Dear Annie: My husband and I are at odds over whether to send our two children to sleepaway camp next summer. He went every year from the time he was 8 and talks about it as one of the happiest parts of his childhood. He says camp taught him independence, helped him make lifelong friends and gave him a confidence he never would have developed ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have friends who are kind, intelligent and warm. However, as we have spent more time with them, "Phyllis'" compulsive talking has become a real problem for us. She hijacks whichever one of us is sitting next to her and starts a monologue that goes on and on.

Phyllis doesn't even look at the person she's talking to ...Read more

It was a meeting-heavy week. They were mostly one-on-one, which I like best, but those tend to take the most effort. The morning of day three, bracing for more meetings and sitting outside a cafe with the creeping heat starting, I watched a mother and son walk past me into the shop. Cute, I thought. Then, a continuation: Even though those two ...Read more

Dear Annie: I am 16 and met a girl while visiting relatives over summer break. We spent almost every day together, and I felt closer to her than I have ever felt to anyone. By the end of the summer, we both admitted that we had fallen in love.

The problem is that she lives on the opposite coast. Since coming home, we text constantly and talk ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: I suggested to my husband that he invite his nephew "Ryan" (age 26) to stay with us. Ryan definitely needed some male direction. He was homeless, jobless and didn't even know how to apply for a job. Ryan is not mentally challenged. He simply was never taught anything until he was thrown out on the street with no skills.

Once Ryan ...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: I went to Ariana Grande's concert at the Barclays Center in Brooklyn. I had an amazing time at the concert, especially since she's my favorite singer of all time. As a result of my excitement, I felt the need to purchase a $50 T-shirt. When leaving the concert, I made it all the way out of the arena before realizing I left the ...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I'm 62 and have been divorced for 26 years. I've been dating the love of my life for 15 years -- we are obviously not in a hurry to tie the knot, though I did give her a beautiful engagement ring last summer.

My problem is my past history. A couple of times, in conversations with other people while my fiancee is present, I ...Read more

Dear Annie: I'm 37 and the oldest of four siblings. We lost our mother to cancer 15 months ago, and then about a month ago, our father died very unexpectedly at 60. We never expected to be orphans this young, and the whole thing has been a shock for us.

But we were in for an even bigger shock. After Mom died, Dad apparently rewrote their will...Read more

DEAR ABBY: I have a chronic illness and have been on a long-term leave of absence from my job for two years now. I have always surrounded myself with good people and have been blessed with great friends and family. When I was diagnosed, everyone was supportive. There were many platitudes, not the least of which was the ole standby, "Let me know ...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: My brother and his wife came up to stay with me to celebrate my sister-in-law's birthday. My family and I mapped out a fun itinerary covering everything they mentioned wanting to see. It's safe to say some money was spent in the making of this production. Unfortunately, though, at home, we found ourselves in disagreement on a few...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: Our family is fortunate to have a beach house. The last couple years, we have allowed our boys, ages 15 and 13, to invite friends for a week to 10 days.

The first year, we didn't expect or ask for money to cover any of the friends' expenses. In one case, the family sent the child with no spending money whatsoever. We covered ...Read more

Dear Annie: My sister, who is also my roommate, started a new job that is keeping her super busy. She doesn't come home from the office before 10 p.m. most nights, and she's gone again early in the morning. Her last job was remote, as is mine, so I'm used to having her around all the time. Now I can't even get her to respond to a text.

I know...Read more

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been living with my mom for a little over a year. Our 4-year-old lives here also. Mom has guardianship of her because of our past. A month ago, my husband decided he was leaving. I didn't leave with him because of my daughter. Now he acts like everything that was wrong in our marriage is my fault.

We are ...Read more