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DEAR HARRIETTE: My daughter's teacher asked me out on a date today and I said yes. However, I am worried about how this will affect her. I am a single mom to my 10-year-old daughter, and she is my world. I haven't been out on a date in four years and I'm nervous, especially because he is my daughter's teacher. My daughter really likes her ...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I understand that one usually does not decline gifts. One accepts the piece of bric-a-brac gracefully, and after some tactful time, regifts or donates it.

But my in-laws give us furniture. Not single pieces of treasured family heirlooms, or even a single chair -- entire suites of furniture! A bedroom set, a dining room set, ...Read more

Dear Annie: I walked away from a 50-plus-year friendship. I've known "Ralph," his wife and his kids since the late-1970s. We both worked construction. We never had a deep friendship; most men from the boomer generation don't. Ralph has a sense of humor that others would say is off-putting, including uncomfortable joking, but we went through ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: All members of my family are white. When my children were smaller, an incident occurred at a family holiday. One relative has a history of making racist comments, so this time we told everyone that if it happened again, we would leave. He did, and we left. My husband raised his voice at that person and made polite excuses to everyone ...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: My son quit medical school about a year ago to chase his passion of becoming a model. He moved to New York City, but he hasn't been able to book many jobs. He also works part time as a server to be able to cover his living expenses. I will admit I am disappointed that he quit medical school to pursue a path that isn't working out...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: How do you thank people for their support after a devastating fire destroys your home?

We just had a grease fire in our propane grill. I did what I always do: I turned the burners off and shut the propane tank valve, then closed the lid and waited for it to go out.

Well, this time it didn't go out. Instead, it burned through...Read more

Dear Annie: I'm 28 and live in a two-bedroom apartment in Washington state with my friend "Jess." She's an excellent roommate -- clean, considerate, quiet. I know I'm lucky. But there's one thing driving me crazy: the thermostat. She works from home and keeps the heat cranked to nearly 80 degrees! When I get home from the office, I start ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: I am a 79-year-old woman who, over time, has suffered the loss of several family members. Now I'm facing the worst loss imaginable. A year ago, my 24-year-old grandson "Rafe" cut himself off from his father and from me. Until then, we had been a close, loving family who did things together. Rafe and his girlfriend live rent-free in my...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: My 71-year-old husband is refusing to retire even though we have more than enough money for both our retirement funds. He's been working at the same bank for 45 years and won't let go of the company. I have told him so many times that it is his time to retire and rest, but he says he'll get bored without working. I understand his...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I hope you will weigh in on a situation that has caused quite a hubbub in our community. At public meetings, a member of our school board knits. It seems rude to me to be preoccupied when you are supposed to be listening to reports from the staff or comments from the public.

Others defend her with outcries of, "You're dissing...Read more

Dear Annie: My aunt has the strangest quality. I see her at every holiday and family party, and she always brings something delicious made from scratch. For my cousin's birthday, it was a key lime pie that disappeared within minutes. It was unreal.

On several occasions, I've asked her for the recipe. I like to cook, and she clearly has good ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been together for 16 years, married for 14. I was injured in a bad car wreck 12 years ago, and I stockpiled the leftover pain medicine. We scheduled a cruise nine years ago, and I was going to take a few with me just in case. When I went to get some, they were all gone! My oldest son had been staying here for a ...Read more

Of all the aftershocks of love's endings, bitterness does the most damage because it's sneaky. While it clouds perception, it silently fulfills its own prophecy, which is that people will stay away. Potential friends and lovers keep their distance from an embittered person, which only serves to confirm his/her sour view of life, completing the ...Read more