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Asking Eric: News podcasts cause marital discord
Dear Eric: My wife and I, both seniors, have similar views, but get our news from different sources. I read online and listen to podcasts while doing mindless tasks, at the gym and on walks when she does not join me.
She is totally devoted to cable TV and prefers me to not interrupt; I can do better and am trying.
She feels my podcast ...Read more
Law School Acceptance Makes Friend Jealous
DEAR HARRIETTE: I told my friend that I got into law school, and immediately I could see a shift in energy -- she was jealous of me. We have both been applying to law schools, and she didn't get into any of her top choices. I was already hesitant to tell her, but I felt weird trying to keep it a secret from her. When I shared the news, I ...Read more
Sick Child Should Trump All Else
DEAR MISS MANNERS: We had arranged with our son and daughter-in-law to babysit their 1- and 4-year-olds so they could go to an out-of-town concert, being gone for two nights. Three days before we were to arrive, the 4-year-old got sick and they took him to urgent care.
He continued to get worse, and the doctor sent them to the children's ...Read more
Grandma's Jewelry May Be Lost, But Her Love Isn't
Dear Annie: My 15-year-old daughter was given a piece of sentimental jewelry on the day of her grandmother's funeral. It had belonged to her grandmother, and the gesture was meant to be a beautiful way for my daughter to carry a piece of her with her.
At the time, my daughter seemed touched. She wore it a few times, and I remember feeling ...Read more
Once Married, Wife Realizes Her Husband Is Someone Else
DEAR ABBY: I have experienced something that other women I know have said they have also experienced. I dated a man for a year. We became very close and fell in love. He was sweet, loving and kind in every way. Before I would commit to marriage, I made sure we had discussions about respect and what I expected from a life partner.
The change in ...Read more
Millennial Life: The High Holiday of The Beautiful Game
I had forgotten about the time change and the hour that I thought we'd have before the game vaporized. We checked in and raced to the Mexican restaurant, where the likelihood of the game playing would be high.
My husband dropped me off to verify if TVs were playing the game. There were and there were others with green jerseys like what all of ...Read more
Asking Eric: Daughter accepted to college, but she may not be ready
Dear Eric: My daughter recently committed to a university across the country, and she is supposed to start in the coming fall. She is only 17 and we think that she should be older before starting this new chapter of her life.
This among other reasons is why my husband and I have been increasingly hesitant to send her off to college this year ...Read more
Neighbor Is Taking Attendance at Church
Dear Annie: My wife and I are members of a local church, though I will admit we are not exactly front-pew regulars. We go about once a month, sometimes more during holidays or when life is calmer. Our faith matters to us, but we practice it quietly and privately.
One of our neighbors and her husband also belong to the same church. They are ...Read more
Widower Boyfriend Still Acknowledges Wedding Anniversary
DEAR ABBY: I have been dating a wonderful man for 10 months. He was married for 45 years until his wife died after a five-year illness. He is kind, thoughtful, smart, generous and romantic. Our relationship is exclusive, and things could hardly be better.
Recently, he and one of his grown daughters and her family gathered for dinner to ...Read more
Asking Eric: Sister posts paternity secret on Facebook
Dear Eric: Last year my sister posted on Facebook that I was the result of an affair my mother had many years ago. It was with her first husband which ended in an annulment in 1941.The affair was in 1957.
Throughout my life I did feel that way. My father, mother and three siblings had blond hair. I had brown hair, now gray. My paternal ...Read more
Friend Embarrassed After Goat Yoga Fiasco
DEAR HARRIETTE: I recently went to goat yoga, and it was a horrible experience. The goats were going wild and defecating everywhere. I had seen so many cute videos online of people doing yoga with baby goats climbing on their backs, and I thought it would be a fun and relaxing way to spend a Saturday with some friends. Instead, it felt chaotic ...Read more
Ignore Message From Old Girlfriend
DEAR MISS MANNERS: When my husband died, his old girlfriend crawled out of the woodwork and wrote a tribute on his memory page about their "relationship from years in the past."
This was extremely hurtful to me. I feel like writing a response to her in the comment section of what she wrote.
GENTLE READER: Please don't. Let your friends be ...Read more
Dear Annie: Embracing Carpe Diem
Dear Annie: I have been with "Garrett" for over four years now. I have a son who is 9, and we share a daughter, 3. I was a single mom for four years before I met Garrett, so I did everything on my own.
Garrett is always willing to make my lunch for work, clean after I get home from work, do laundry, etc. so I can relax. My problem is I tend to ...Read more
Keystones Of A Happy Marriage Have Slowly Crumbled
DEAR ABBY: I'm a gay man who has been married to a wonderful man for seven years (together for 12). Throughout our relationship, my husband has struggled with religious trauma that affects his desire (and ability) to be intimate. We've seen counselors, talked through it and addressed the value we place on physical intimacy. Nothing has changed. ...Read more
Asking Eric: After 20 years, breakup still hurts
Dear Eric: I am having a hard time getting over an old fiancé from 2004 and the way this person went from "I can't live without you" for six years to turning on me viscously.
We never cursed at one another until one night in October. I was so crushed. I am with a wonderful man now. But I just cannot figure this out.
I can't and do not want to...Read more
Dad Needs To Make Better Health Choices
DEAR HARRIETTE: My father is a little larger and doesn't properly take care of himself, and I believe it's starting to affect his health. My family and I tried walking around New York City, and after 15 minutes, we had to stop at a park bench. He was panting, and I genuinely thought he might have been having a heart attack. He has high blood ...Read more
Delete The Emails, Not The Friendships
DEAR MISS MANNERS: It is like a compulsion for many people to forward emails they've received, usually filled with jokes and such. To my surprise, many seem to enjoy those emails.
I stopped everybody from forwarding me those emails by telling them the truth: If I want jokes, I will buy a book of jokes. I have TV sets, radios, newspapers and all...Read more
Dear Annie: Flustered by Funeral Flowers
Dear Annie: I've been friends with "Jessie" for several years, but lately, I've been feeling like the friendship is one-sided. I'm always the one reaching out, making plans and putting in the effort. Jessie has been responding to my texts with one-word answers, if at all.
I value our friendship a lot, but I'm starting to question whether she ...Read more
Son Of Late Friend Brings Feral Kids Along For Visits
DEAR ABBY: My husband's best friend died when we were in our early 30s. His son, "Marty," recently moved back to the area with his wife and three boys. We think of them as family.
My husband often needs help with heavy handyman jobs. (I was diagnosed with cancer and am unable to help him.) He frequently recruits Marty for this kind of help, and...Read more
Asking Eric: Busy professional avoids socializing
Dear Eric: I'm mid-50s and I have three jobs (two part time as a college professor). I also have three grown children, a husband, my parents and many friends. I constantly get requests from co-workers and other friends for happy hours, dinners, brunches, workshops, seminars and other events.
As it is, I have a brutal work schedule of about 60 ...Read more
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