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Feeling Overlooked at Stepson's Wedding
Dear Annie: I recently attended my stepson's wedding. My husband and his ex-wife were announced as mother and father of the groom as they entered the wedding reception together.
His ex thought nothing of taking my husband's arm as they entered. Meanwhile, I'm sitting at our table by myself as this is happening. My husband and I have been ...Read more
Playing It Safe vs. Living the Dream: Can You Have Both?
Dear Annie: My name is Jess, and I've always prided myself on being the "steady one." I have a good job as a marketing manager, a wonderful husband named "Fred," and a life that feels stable and predictable. On paper, everything looks perfect. But lately, I can't shake this persistent, nagging feeling that something is missing.
Growing up, my...Read more
Supporting the Strong One
Dear Annie: I've always been the person who people turn to for support -- friends, family, even co-workers come to me when they need advice or a shoulder to lean on. And while I genuinely love helping others, I'm starting to realize I don't have anyone I can turn to when I need the same kind of support.
I'm not sure if it's because I've built...Read more
When Is It Too Late to Heal a Marriage?
Dear Annie: My husband has always seemed "old for his age." For years, I managed the household while he worked full-time, but when he retired, I expected him to pitch in more with chores. That expectation has become our biggest source of conflict. He struggles to keep up with my energy, and I feel like he holds me back. I've grown bitter. I ...Read more
Love and Loyalty: When Your Partner Won't Take Your Side
Dear Annie: I've been in an eight-year relationship that now seems to be ending, largely due to issues with my partner's daughters. They've become disrespectful and jealous, and one has crossed serious boundaries by stealing from me and sabotaging our relationship.
Over the past year, I've been struggling with a mental health condition, which...Read more
My Mother-in-Law's Criticism Is Hurting My Marriage
Dear Annie: My husband, "Mark," and I have been married for eight years, and we have a good relationship. We've always butt heads a little bit about his mother, but recently we have started really clashing over her. She's always been a little overbearing, but lately, it feels like she's trying to control our lives. She'll drop by unannounced, ...Read more
Seeking Help for Hoarding Brother-in-Law
Dear Annie: I have a brother-in-law that I need help with but don't know where to turn. He's a hoarder. The house he lives in belonged to his parents, but it is now full of junk and he does nothing to keep it clean. He has purchased several items and his garage is overflowing so the new items are left in their boxes outside.
He had a good job...Read more

Letting Go of an Emotionally Draining Friendship
Dear Annie: Where do I even start? My senior friend has been draining me emotionally for the past 15 years. We were neighbors and acquaintances, but we never went anywhere or did anything together. Our friendship was limited to exchanging small gifts or cards for events like birthdays, and that was fine -- until one fall day when she completely ...Read more
Finding Holiday Harmony in a Blended Family
Dear Annie: I've learned something surprising over the years as a step-parent: Holidays don't have to be confined to specific dates. In our family, Christmas Eve is just as special as Christmas Day, and we've even repeated Thanksgiving on the Friday after, with leftovers and a fresh pie. We've also started alternating years for who gets which ...Read more
Torn Between Pain and Healing
Dear Annie: My relationship with my mother has been deeply strained since my grandmother's death five years ago. My mother and I were her primary caregivers, and I loved my grandmother dearly. After she passed, I endured severe verbal and emotional abuse from my mother's brother, who has a history of anger issues and domestic violence. Despite...Read more
In Limbo In Love
Dear Annie: I am hopelessly in love with my best friend and have been for most of our lives (we've been friends since childhood). Over the years, there have been moments when it felt like we were moving toward being together, but it never progressed. We currently live together and share almost every aspect of our lives but don't even sleep in ...Read more
Gracefully Handling Intrusive Questions About Marriage
Dear Annie: I would appreciate it if you'd consider helping me figure out an answer to a question I am so tired of being asked, which is, "Why haven't you gotten married?"
I am a 65-year-old single woman who has accomplished a lot in life. I've contributed to society and volunteered. I'm independent, self-sustaining and have never been ...Read more
Overcoming Loneliness and Building Connections
Dear Annie: My mother died when I was 5, and I grew up in a very abusive childhood -- abuse in every sense of the word. I'm still traumatized over my childhood and I am now 65.
I ended up in what I thought was a great relationship in my early 20s and thought he loved me. I ended up getting pregnant, and he wanted no part of it. He left, and I...Read more
Balancing Compassion and Independence
Dear Annie: My sister expects me to make my son and his friends spend time with her son. Our sons are in their early 20s and used to spend a lot of time together when they were younger. Her son, whom I love very much, is on the autism spectrum and had some emotional regulation issues as a child and teenager. Now, as a young adult, he has much ...Read more
Family Boundaries and Open Communication
Dear Annie: I'm 58 years old and have seven grandchildren who mean the world to me. One of my sons, however, only seems to reach out when he needs me to watch his kids. I adore spending time with them -- they're all under 5 -- and I don't mind helping out at all. I have serious health issues, so every moment with them is precious. I hope to ...Read more
Navigating Family Disappointments and Toxic Relationships
Dear Annie: My daughter took in some kittens that a mama cat delivered on her property. She was very selective about who she would give them to and wound up only finding a home for one of them. She decided to keep two of the kittens, along with her existing two cats, which left three without homes. She kept them for seven months and then ...Read more
Thoughts for Martin Luther King Jr. Day and Election Day
Dear Readers: Wishing you all a very happy Martin Luther King Jr. Day and Inauguration Day!
I thought it would be a good time to find some impactful quotes from presidential inaugural speeches and from King's "I Have a Dream" speech. I found quotes that inspire, unify and motivate audiences toward a shared vision for the nation. Comparing ...Read more
When Is It OK for a Woman to Propose?
Dear Annie: After nine years of waiting for him to propose, I finally decided to take matters into my own hands and popped the question myself. His response? He said he'd need to "see what his finances look like" -- and then a week later, he broke up with me via text.
Looking back, it's painfully clear: If he doesn't ask, he doesn't want to. ...Read more
Reacting to Mother's Dementia
Dear Annie: I just wanted to say thank you for keeping an open mind.
I've noticed that, on different occasions, readers sometimes challenge you or want to "add to" some of your answers based on their education or personal experiences.
You are willing to keep an open mind and welcome the input. For that, I say, BRAVO!
Of course, not all of the...Read more
Friend or Thief?
Dear Annie: I have a very dear friend who is like family. I am 20 years older than she is, and at times I feel more like a surrogate mother than a big sister.
I know she has mental health problems, including anger management, trust issues, obsessive-compulsive disorder and, at times, I think, narcissistic tendencies. But she truly is a good ...Read more