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Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My wife of more than 31 years recently passed away. She had three children from a previous marriage. We had none. She left behind a large sum of money from her savings and IRA for them. Her eldest son has a mental condition, and most of his needs are met by the state of New York and Social Security. Her youngest son has an ...Read more

Breaking the Cycle of Guilt and Pain

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: About two years ago I was pregnant with my firstborn. About five months into the pregnancy, my partner, the father, cheated on me. When I found out about it, I was devastated; I didn't know what to do with myself.

I felt he did it to me on purpose with the reasoning of "getting even" because I'd cheated on him years before. It was...Read more

Humbled and Loving Husband -- Too Late?

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I was a lousy husband. Not because of physical or emotional abuse but because of ignorance. I grew up in a household where I never heard my father tell my mother he loved her. I never heard him give her a compliment or ask her opinion.

He was a hard worker and a good provider. She bought whatever she needed, never wanted for ...Read more

Searching for Balance

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am writing in hopes that you can provide a different and fresh perspective. I have two sons: "George," 28, and "Fred," 35. George has lived with us on and off for the past 10 years. I call him my "boomerang kid." He has finally landed a decent job, and we are giving him six more months of living with us to get his finances in ...Read more

Harkening Back to Less Hardware

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am the proud owner of a flip cellphone, and I probably wouldn't have it if public telephones still existed. I use about 100 minutes a month and have sent, in my lifetime, no more than 300 text messages, most of them one or two words in response to a text sent to me. I use no data. I still use physical maps to navigate car trips.

...Read more

You Say Ta-May-Toe; I Say Ta-Mah-Toe

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I used to date a lady from Australia who was taught to hold her fork in the European/continental style. When she came to visit me in Milwaukee, she noticed my American style. She seemed put-off but didn't say anything. We had a pending dinner date with mutual friends, and she thought I would be set straight by seeing how other ...Read more

A Softy or a Sucker?

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: One of my young relatives came to me when she was thrown out of her house at the age of 23 by her parents for "no reason," she claimed. I agreed to cosign her lease so she could get an apartment, and I also agreed to pay her rent until she could find a good job. Two years later, she hadn't found a job, and I was still paying for ...Read more

Pouring Cold Water on Romantic Entanglements

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: A few years ago, I moved into a duplex owned by an old college friend of mine, "Robby," and his wife. During this time, I became very close friends with Robby's wife. Earlier this year I moved out. Around this same time, Robby's wife told him that she was thinking of divorce. The wife pretty much stopped talking to me once I moved ...Read more

Passive-Aggressive or Perfectly Appropriate?

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My wife and I are approaching our 70th birthdays this year. As we have aged, hosting company and taking care of visiting children and grandchildren has become more stressful. Both of us have age-related health issues. One of our daughters (my stepdaughter), "Janet," visits with her 8-year-old daughter and 70-pound dog. The dog eats...Read more

Teachers Deserve Parents' Patience and Respect

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am a teacher in a small town in New England. When I began my job, I thought it was the best job in the world. I spent a lot of time, money and effort to learn the skills to become an effective teacher, and I couldn't think of a better way to give back to my community.

Fast-forward a few years. Most teachers work very hard to ...Read more

Leave the Drama at the Door

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My husband and I are planning a big party to celebrate our 25th wedding anniversary. Sadly, two sisters are all but ruining the event. They are both close friends of mine, but they are feuding with each other. I did not send out online invites but rather traditional paper invitations. Through the grapevine, I heard they are both ...Read more

Closed Door, Open Heart

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: One of my cousins lives about two hours away. Her parents are deceased, and she is estranged from her siblings. She has been in the hospital several times for mental health care. I believe she is bipolar but don't know that for sure. Because she lives alone now, we invite her to family gatherings for the holidays.

About once a ...Read more

Up in Smoke

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I smoked cigarettes for 18 years and tried to quit many different times. I tried all the recommended treatments including hypnosis, nicotine gum, patches and a hundred other things. But three years ago, I quit for good, and I feel so much better. That was possible because I started vaping. I have said many times that vaping is ...Read more

Watching From the Sidelines

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My son "Bo" has been with his wife, "Joyce," for 13 years. Several months ago, my husband and I spent a long weekend at the beach with our children and grandchildren. My husband rises early, and he was in the kitchen at 4 a.m., starting his day, when he ran into Joyce. She was just getting home. Without my asking, Joyce explained ...Read more

Avoiding a Wild Workplace Romance

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I never thought I'd write to you, but I have no one else to ask. I work part time as a customer service representative. Like me, all of my co-workers are mostly retired women except for one man who is our age, "John." He's been in our department for about two years. A year ago, he began having a friendship, for lack of a better ...Read more

Fractured Friendship

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I've been friends with this girl for several years. She's my (adult) daughter's age. We have never had a disagreement before. Long story short, she said something out of the blue that hurt my feelings. She says she was joking but the fact remains that she hurt me. She won't apologize, and now she's stopped speaking to me. When I ...Read more

Thank You, Readers

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Readers: In the spirit of Thanksgiving, I would like to thank all of you -- my readers. I particularly want to single out those of you who have reached out by offering your questions and opinions. Without you, the column would not be possible. To celebrate this special day, I'd like to share one of my favorite poems, because it helps ...Read more

Supportive Sister Doesn't Want to Be Overbearing

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I have a sister who has had six surgeries to beat two types of cancer. She has residual complications but is working forward. I have been with her through all her surgeries and rehab. I live on the West Coast, and she lives on the East Coast.

I have called her every day since her first diagnosis. Now that she has had a relapse, ...Read more

Fretting Over Familial Financial Friction

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I'm very upset about my brother and my sister-in-law's friction over finances. My brother and I are very close. I'm single and spend a lot of time with them and their two kids.

They fight about money often. It's mostly centered on their mortgage. My brother thinks they should pay extra every month in an effort to pay off the house...Read more

Gift-Shopping for a Special Child

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: Christmas is coming up, and I like to give each of my friends and neighbors a little something. There's a very nice family nearby; I usually give the adults a box of candy and their older child a smaller box of candy. Their younger child has Down syndrome. Last year, I gave him an ornament. This year, I'd like to do something ...Read more


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