Life Advice



Homewrecking Co-Worker

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My husband of 19 years had an office gathering at our home in mid-August. He has been at his job for 18 years and switched departments four years ago. I had never met any of the current team members due to my work schedule.

One of his teammates, when introduced to me, grunted when she met me. My heart sank.

As I worked my way ...Read more

Living Without My Wife

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My wife of 44 years passed away after a nine-day bout with cancer.

We started dating at 16, went to college together, married at 20 and graduated at 21, when we started our life together for real.

"Sally" passed away two months after her 65th birthday. I will turn 65 in a month. I was to retire in three months, while Sally was ...Read more

Letting Go Doesn't Mean You Have to Lose

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Readers: Thank you for all your responses to "Letting Go Is Hard to Do." We have undeniably wonderful parents among our readership. Here are two of my favorite letters.

Dear Annie: This is in response to "Letting Go Is Hard to Do," who was worried about the choices her daughter might be making at college after seeing a questionable bank ...Read more

Testy About Takeout

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: Both my adult daughter and her husband are employed. Since they do not cook, when my husband and I visit them, which is approximately four times a year, they send out for food and ask us to pay our share of the bill, or, on occasion, she will use my credit card to pay for the whole bill. When we go out to eat at a restaurant, I ...Read more

Left Out of Family Fun

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am a single mother to my one daughter, who is now 29. She moved from our hometown because that's where she met her husband, and she now has a son, my grandson, who is 1 1/2 years old. She asked me when she first got pregnant if I would move down to where they live to babysit Monday through Friday for them. Long story short, I did...Read more

Unanswered Prayers

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Dear Annie: This letter is addressed to all those who think back on a first love and believe their feelings are undiminished.

I did that and had the ability to discreetly check back on that love. I found that he had told his wife he was glad he married her because he never could have married an independent woman, which is what I am. I also ...Read more

Resources for Depression

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: Please tell "Ready to Die" that she can get disability payments because she has a mental health disorder. The problem is that people tell the disability examiners how badly they feel. But that is not the examiner's job to assess. They want to know how dysfunctional your daily life is.

I am writing to offer suggestions to her and ...Read more

Twitter Treachery

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I knew my husband had a Twitter account, and I thought he only followed groups. Then, one morning, I looked at his account and saw that he was following around 75 people. They included two women. I saw that he had been tweeting at one of those women between six and eight times a day for several weeks. He said it's not a big deal ...Read more

'Tis the Season for Setting Boundaries

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I have read the "Ask Ann Landers" column and now the "Dear Annie" column since I was a little girl, and I am writing to you at age 66. I always wanted to write into the column but never did.

But the recent letters about families feeling obligated to spend Christmas together, even when they live far apart, gives me a unique ...Read more

High School Still Haunts Me

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am a 76-year-old woman who is still not over her teenage friendship troubles.

I should preface this entry by stating that I am by no means stuck in the past. This instance simply comes to mind whenever I face shortcomings in life.

I'll now set the scene: It was early September of 1962. I had just turned 17, and I was a senior ...Read more

Exclusion From a Picture Is Worth a Thousand Words

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Dear Annie: My brother has been dating a woman for several years, and they recently became engaged. I do like her, but here is my issue: She is another nationality, and her family (in another country) does not like her dating a "white guy." They refer to him as "white trash," though he is well-educated and makes good money.

She has a very ...Read more

I Feel Like a Second Choice

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Readers: As I'm sure you all know, today is Thanksgiving, a holiday dedicated to celebrating the things we're grateful for. To get in the spirit, I'd love to hear what you are grateful for this year. Send your responses to

Here's a letter from a reader who got creative when it comes to holiday scheduling:

Dear ...Read more

Swallow Your Pride; Ask for a Ride

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am an 80-year-old female, a widow. I live alone.

I have a history of having arthritis, and I can't take medications for arthritis due to having had stomach ulcers. I had a hip replacement in the spring, and I had hoped I would be able to walk without the use of a walker. It is apparent that I am going to need the walker to ...Read more

Husband Feels Like a Roommate

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for six years. We're older, and it's the third marriage for both of us.

At first, my husband was very passionate, loving and anxious to please. We took a lot of trips and went out to eat and socialize regularly.

Gradually, over the past three years, he has moved into the guest bedroom, and we ...Read more

Tipping Hurts My Business

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I was a little amused by the letter on tip jars.

I operate a "food truck" (technically, it's a trailer) and am a one-man band. I have worked alone for the past 10 years because the quality of employees available to me has always been questionable at best, and there is a degree of "babysitting" involved that I don't care to be a ...Read more

Chronic Procrastination

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am an 18-year-old girl living very far from you, but I recently read one of your columns and thought you might be able to help me. I am doing really well in my academics and was just accepted by one of the best engineering institutions in our country.

Everyone around me is proud and happy. But something inside is pinching me.

I...Read more

Grieving Niece Won't Help Herself

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I need help. I've let my niece move in with me, my husband and my 17-year-old daughter after her husband committed suicide.

You see, she and her husband had issues for the last two years. They were both on drugs. I felt sorry for her after he passed. She has a sister and a 16-year-old son. Her son lives with his best friend and ...Read more

Affection Is Absent

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My spouse and I have been married for over 40 years. Our children are married with children of their own. They seem happy and well-adjusted, and our whole family seems happy and healthy. I am very blessed and glad things are the way they are.

The problem: There is no love or affection in our marriage, and there hasn't been for ...Read more

Sad, Stuck and Not Sure Where to Start

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I have been technically single all my life. I did have a casual long-term relationship with a man that lasted for 12 years. We were never exclusive. We would have never worked exclusively, and we both knew that.

That relationship ended badly. An unplanned pregnancy resulted in a painful miscarriage that required surgery. Not only ...Read more

Readers' Thoughts on Neglected Spouses

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Readers: Many of you wrote about why the husband of "Neglected Spouse" has not had sex with her in years. We received quite a variety of opinions and comments; here is a sampling:

Dear Annie: "Neglected Spouse" wrote that her husband hasn't shown interest in her sexually throughout their 30-year marriage. Your answer was thoughtful and ...Read more



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