Dear Annie: I have been married for more than 24 years, and we have three wonderful daughters. My husband has always been a wonderful father and an OK husband.
However, he has always treated me with a lot of disrespect, and over the years, I always brushed it off because he was such a great dad to my daughters and because he provided ...Read more
Dear Annie: "Numb and Lost" wrote to you regarding emotional detachment as a result of trauma and challenges in their life and struggles with finding proper therapy. As a 37-year-old male who has had difficulties and consequent challenges in therapy, I can relate.
In many ways, finding good therapy is its own battle, on top of the battle ...Read more
Dear Readers: Happy Martin Luther King Jr. Day! In honor of this great man, I have attached some of the best excerpts from his famous "I Have a Dream" speech. The words today still ring true -- that we should be drinking from the cup of truth, love and kindness, and not the cup of hatred and division.
"I say to you today, my friends, even ...Read more
Dear Annie: My relationship with my in-laws is a bit strange. I have three children, and my husband's parents have never shown love or that they care for them, or for my husband and me, for that matter. It breaks my heart that my children do not have a relationship with them, as they are their only grandparents.
When I visit their home, they ...Read more
Dear Annie: Without trying to sound arrogant, I am smarter than the average bear. Not quite a genius but certainly up there. I won all kinds of academic awards in school and hold three degrees.
But my problem is this: I am now 48, the mother of two children with special needs. I have spent most of my life being their caregiver (for which I do ...Read more
Dear Annie: I am a published author and have been struggling to write my next book. I've written a handful of adult-oriented fictional books. My most recent published book came out almost five years ago. I've tried several times to start the next book, but I haven't been able to get any thoughts together or gather any momentum in the writing ...Read more
Dear Annie: Recently, a friend confronted me about something that I didn't think was a big deal: Sometimes I forget to respond to texts for a while, and then I reply and say that I just saw the message. Technically, most of the time, it's a lie; I did see the message, and I just got sidetracked or zoned out or didn't feel like replying until ...Read more
Dear Annie: When I was 10, I began asking for a phone. Every kid in my class had one, and I was being left out and bullied because I was the only kid without one. Now, three years later, I finally have a phone!
But my mom has restricted my access to it; I can use my phone only when she says so. I'm not allowed to text my friends -- even though ...Read more
Dear Annie: I used to write every day -- mostly poems but also essays. I really want to get back into it, but my motivation has waned. When I used to write every day, I was deeply depressed, and writing was an outlet, a stress reliever. I still want to write, but I never seem able to get myself to actually put pen to paper. I don't want to ...Read more
Dear Annie: My twin sister and brother-in-law visited me for the recent holiday. I love my sister, and we have always gotten along well. As is stereotypical with twins, we grew up inseparable and have remained emotionally close, even as the physical distance between us widens. We now only see each other a few times a year, and I cherish these ...Read more
Dear Annie: Politics took over as the main topic at our holiday dinner. I don't mind open debate among parties with differing views, as long as those debating have logical and fact-supported positions. Our dinner usually goes smoothly, as everyone gets along and, despite differing opinions, we all can adequately defend our positions. Dinner will...Read more
Dear Annie: Hope you can give us some sage advice! My daughter is married to a man who has many good qualities but is very controlling. He knows everything and always must have things his way as well as the last word. When we are all together, he dominates the conversation when we are eager to hear from his wife who we all miss and love.
My ...Read more
Dear Annie: Our son has been married to a lovely girl for over 20 years. She is a daughter-in-law everyone should have. She cares for us; she keeps a gracious home; she is a good mother.
My problem is with her mother. We see them two or three times a year. Her mother will get me alone and start to share things about our son and his wife that we...Read more
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been friends with this couple for over 10 years. We met when our kids were in grade school. We would get together with this couple regularly over the years for dinner and drinks, while the kids would stay at home.
When we go out, we would always split the bill 50/50. Fast-forward to today, their kids are always ...Read more
Dear Annie: I cried when I was reading the letters from parents about not letting go of their children in college. My mother was so strict with me that I was not even allowed to go to college.
A new local college was opened the year I graduated from high school, but my parents' excuse for me not to go was that they couldn't afford it. They ...Read more
Dear Annie: When I was a 21-year-old assistant English instructor (an "intern") at a summer program for high school seniors in New Hampshire, I developed an interest in one of the students. She was 18. The relationship was completely chaste. I'm not kidding. I never touched her, and she never touched me. But we were clearly attracted to each ...Read more
Dear Annie: My husband and I enjoy your column and often read it out loud to each other and discuss possible answers before reading your response.
In regard to "Grossed Out in Georgia," about the brother-in-law who licked his fingers or plate to "get every drop of dinner," we would counter that the writer simply wait until it starts to happen...Read more
Dear Annie: I am a 62-year-old Nana of two beautiful girls, ages 6 months and 3 years. My son and his wife live 2 1/2 hours away, so I visit them every six weeks or so. My daughter-in-law took extra precautions during the pandemic. She limited visitors, including her family, and I've been blessed to go into their home and help out between au ...Read more
Dear Readers: Happy New Year! May the following thoughts encourage, enlighten and inspire you as we begin anew in the chapter of 2022.
"For last year's words belong to last year's language
And next year's words await another voice." -- T.S. Eliot, "Four Quartets"
"In the New Year, never forget to thank your past years because they enabled ...Read more
Dear Annie: You get a lot of letters about people whose partners fell in love with someone else, causing a rift in their partnership. I find a lot of these partners lacked communication, so I thought I'd share my story of what can happen when you just talk.
My husband and I celebrated nine years of marriage this year. During COVID-19, he ...Read more