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Notes on a College Admissions Scandal II

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Readers: We were overwhelmed with letters about the college admissions scandal, and this is a continuation of yesterday's column, filled with questions, criticism and praise from my many talented and brilliant readers.

Dear Annie: I usually feel quite comfortable letting other people have their own opinions. But you were terribly off in ...Read more

Notes on a College Admissions Scandal I

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Readers: Many of you have strong opinions about the college admissions scandal, and because there were so many thoughtful replies, I am devoting a few columns to reprinting some of the feedback to my proposed solution of fining the parents to pay for scholarships:

Dear Annie: Loved your answer to "Friends in Disagreement." But there was ...Read more

Nonexistent Monsters Have Mom Missing Sleep

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie. I have a 6-year-old daughter who won't go to sleep on her own. She has an innate fear of staying alone in her room. We have tried every way we can think to motivate her to feel comfortable. We reassure her that she's safe, that we're in the room next door, that every night she sleeps safely, that we preform monster checks. My ...Read more

Pain Causing Short Temper

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I have chronic back pain thanks to sciatica. I chose to treat it with physical therapy and exercise, and I take muscle relaxers and or anti-inflammatory drugs when the pain really flares up. I chose to forego all painkillers, be they opium-based or synthetic. The problem is that the pain can make me very impatient and snappy. I ...Read more

When Friends Fill Void Left By Family

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My husband and I moved to another state following our retirements a few years ago. We moved to a resort town six hours away from my brother "Billy" and his wife, "Patty." We encouraged them to visit, but they gave one excuse after another. Billy eventually told me that they were "just homebodies" who don't like to travel.

My ...Read more

Make New Friends But Keep the Old

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I'm having a hard time trying to keep in touch with my boarding school friends. We went our separate ways after graduating high school and were adamant about keeping in touch. Lately, I feel like we are drifting apart because I'm always the one having to reach out. And whenever I try to see if we can FaceTime or talk, they come up ...Read more

Obit Omission

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am in my 80s and recently lost my beloved sister-in-law, who was 90. She married my brother when I was just a child, and we had been close ever since. Aside from the many things I did for her, I loved her dearly as she was the last of my ties to my brothers, who have all passed on. So that leaves me as the only one left. My ...Read more

Beyond Time to Cut the Cord

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I've been in this relationship for five years now, and my boyfriend, "Steve," still puts his adult daughter, "June," before me. I'm a parent, and I understand their relationship to a certain point, but there are boundaries crossed. June is 29. Every time she's in a relationship, she ditches Steve. And then he comes venting to me ...Read more

The Five-Year Itch?

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I've been with my significant other for five years. We're each other's "person." I'm more comfortable with him than I've ever been with anyone else, but there's a catch. We've noticed a trend: that I'm better at taking care of myself when he's not around. It's not a conscious thing. I'm not intentionally sulking. But it seems that ...Read more

TV Tug of War

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie. My husband and I have very different television interests. I tend to prefer prestige shows that require significant time and attention commitment. He tends to enjoy brainless sitcoms. He says he doesn't have the attention span to sit and watch many of the large-scale prestige shows. I feel that I'm wasting my time watching sitcoms ...Read more

Putting Your Best Foot (and Shoe) Forward

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I've been working as professional for more than 10 years, and I'm arriving at the point in my career where I'm now responsible for spending more time meeting with clients. I'm excited for my continued growth and success, and I'm always seeking ways to grow. I have a handful of mentors who teach me, and I frequently read about ...Read more

Can't Buy Graciousness

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My oldest is about to graduate from high school, and we are celebrating with a party. We plan on having our daughter write out a thank-you card to those who give her a gift and help celebrate her big day. However, last year, at several parties we attended, there was a sign that read: "In lieu of sending thank-you notes, we will be ...Read more

Love Letters to Mom

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: Over the years, I've read a number of beautiful Mother's Day poems and notes in Ann Lander's column. One that stood out began with something about a "one-in-a- million Mom" from her kids. It reminded me of my mom. Another one talked about a mom and dad getting ready for bed. That one hit home for me! Can you find these letters in ...Read more

Never Too Late to Thrive

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am an older gay man. The bullying started when I was young. The boys in the neighborhood didn't want me around because I was lousy at sports. The girls didn't want any boys around while they were playing. When I started school, it wasn't any different. Bullying increased with junior high, and high school was the worst.

To cope, ...Read more

Past the Breaking Point

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I'm caught in a cycle of being too busy, tired and stressed out to ask my family for help with household chores. My husband tries, and he helps a bit, but the kids only chip in a little when I ride them. I've tried schedules, rewards and taking away privileges. But in the end, it's just easier for me to cook, set and clear the ...Read more

Passionless Partner

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am in a relationship with a 71-year-old woman. I am 72. We have a lot in common and our relationship has moved toward moving in together. We have been intimate, but when we are, there is no passion on her part. Even after extensive foreplay, she has no passion. She just lies there. She never touches me and is never the aggressor....Read more

PTSD and Forgiveness

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: Your recent column signed by "Blamed for Bedlam" struck a chord with me, and I'd like to share my story.

For 60 years, my brother and I were the closest of friends. He is godfather to my children, and you could even say he was a "soul father" to them as well. With my mom, we were a very close-knit family unit. I am in my mid-60s ...Read more

Miserable at Home

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I've been married for 32 years, but my wife and I have never made a great pair. We now have two grown children and a well-established life in the local community. I find great fulfillment in my work and my hobbies, but our home life is miserable -- for me, for my wife and for my children. I've thought about divorce, of course, but ...Read more

Wrecking a Home and a Career Opportunity

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: Recently, I met "Todd" through a friend of a friend. I went back to school to study graphic design a couple years ago and will be graduating this fall. Todd is also a graphic designer, so our mutual friend introduced us so that Todd could give me career advice and maybe even get me a job or apprenticeship at the company where he ...Read more

Matters of Health and HR

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I've been working at the same company for the last 10 years. It's a small office that trains temps, so we have new people all the time. I train them on office work. Though I'm friendly with each new employee, it's rare for me to get to know people on a deep level when they only stay for a few months or so. So, we normally talk ...Read more


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