Friends at Church Think I'm Ghosting God
Dear Annie: I have been going to a particular church religiously for over 30 years. During the pandemic, I realized that my relationship with God isn't defined by my church attendance, and I found a really great practice of getting to know a God of my understanding through readings, prayer, meditation and attending 12-step meetings to address ...Read more
How to Win the Shame Game
Dear Annie: I have a 40-year-old child who is transitioning from male to female. I was told of this decision by email. We haven't had much in-person discussion about this, but each time I post a picture or a memory, I feel I'm being scolded by them saying, "That's not who I am anymore," as if anything we did together or any memory I have doesn...Read more
Out of Options in My Marriage
Dear Annie: I am writing to you in a desperate effort to give my kids a good environment in the midst of a very turbulent marriage.
My wife and I are both in our late 30s. We have one 5-year-old and one toddler. We love them a lot. But it appears that we don't love, respect or trust each other any more.
We have been married for 12 years now ...Read more
Smoking While Pregnant -- Do I Intervene?
Dear Annie: I am a waitress, and there is a lady I work with who is six months pregnant.
Every time she takes a break, she goes in the back and smokes cigarettes and sometimes she smokes weed. She has been smoking ever since I started four months ago, and I kind of knew that she was pregnant, but I never said anything until she told me.
I'm ...Read more
DNA Site Sparks Fresh Family Drama
Dear Annie: I have a family estrangement issue. It all started when a 44-year-old woman contacted my older brother on a DNA site. I immediately wrote her and acknowledged paternity and expressed a strong desire to establish a long-term relationship. She seems to be a very nice person.
She told me she wasn't ready yet to meet me; over the next...Read more
Last Straw With Mother-in-Law
Dear Annie: How much is one person supposed to take? My mother-in-law has no filter and will say anything she wants at any time, just to insult.
I have been married to "Frank" for more than 30 years, and the whole time my mother-in-law says the most insulting things, and Frank wouldn't dream of telling her to stop.
Years ago, it was about ...Read more
A Friend in Me
Dear Annie: I just wanted to let you know that I read your column for the first time today and think you gave excellent advice. You are much better than some of the other advice columns that lack empathy or understanding. Good job, and keep it up. People need to get advice from those who help them be better people and not validate their worst ...Read more
Protecting My Kids From My Parents
Dear Annie: Let me start off by saying I got married at 19 and divorced at 24. My ex-husband and I had three kids during this time, two females and one male. I got remarried at 26 and had a son. My second husband already had three girls from previous relationships. One of his girls I have never met because her mom moved to Texas, however, his ...Read more
Mom's Mooching Is Going Too Far
Dear Annie: I am the adult child of divorced parents who divorced 25-plus years ago and both remarried 20 years ago. I have three siblings and three stepsiblings. My mom and her husband are retired, very comfortable moneywise and own several investment properties and "toys." My dad and stepmom are semiretired and do OK, but are probably a ...Read more
Husband and Son Will Never See Eye-to-Eye
Dear Annie: My husband of 34 years has become increasingly disappointed in our 30-year-old son. He and my son have had a rocky relationship, as my husband sees the world through opportunity and is always working toward improvement (which makes him a great engineer), but this also means he has expectations that rarely get met by the people in ...Read more
Cellphones Have a Time and Place
Dear Annie: Do you think my husband loves me? He yells at me, and in his sleep, he yells obscenities, but he says it isn't about me. He never wants to talk or anything. He just wants me at home. He is upstairs, and I'm downstairs. If I ask a question, I'm stupid. Never a nice compliment or "I love you." Am I wrong for staying in this ...Read more
Run for Ozempic Endangers Diabetics
Dear Readers: My comments critical of people using diabetes drugs for casual weight loss generated a storm of protest from clinically obese readers who had found a solution to their lifetime struggle with weight loss. But their letters touched on the subject I was most concerned about, which is that diabetics were suddenly unable to find the ...Read more
Doctor's Disappearance Hurts My Feelings
Dear Annie: The doctor I have gone to for years recently took a five-month medical leave of absence. His office would not tell me anything, which I understand. I had been extremely distraught not knowing if he was all right. There was even gossip that he had passed away.
Turned out he had pneumonia. He once told me that if I ever moved out of...Read more
Survivor of Trauma Is Stronger Than Ever
Dear Annie: I just read today's "Second Chance Daughter" column about "putting away the bitterness, regret and anger of growing up with an abusive mom." Her dad wasn't much better; he deliberately never stepped forward to intervene on his daughter's behalf.
My sister, brother and I never went to our father and told him about what was going on...Read more
Post-Divorce Dating Dilemmas
Dear Annie: I'm a recently divorced man in his mid-60s. I have no children and am secure in my job. I've been on a couple of dates since my divorce that haven't gone well.
One day, I ran into one of the nurses I met while I was in rehab after my stroke in 2016. We became friends and shared intimate details about our private lives with each ...Read more
Grateful for Luck and Love
Dear Readers: Happy St. Patrick's Day! Today, March 17, we remember and honor St. Patrick, the patron saint believed to have popularized Christianity in Ireland during the fifth century.
In the spirit of the occasion, I wanted to share with you one of my favorite quotes about luck from Roald Dahl: "We are all a great deal luckier than we ...Read more
Father Playing Favorites Is Destroying My Family
Dear Annie: I am writing because I don't know how I ended up so unhappy. Part of me is angry for letting this go on for decades, while other parts of me keep hoping my husband will see what he has -- an amazing family! I have been married for over 30 years and have four beautiful and amazing kids. I was so blessed to grow up in a wonderful ...Read more
Family Exclusion Feels Personal
Dear Annie: I have been married to my husband for 50 years. During that time, I have been close to my husband's family. Over the years, the family has grown, and our get-togethers have been less frequent. I've had a friendship with my husband's brother's wife, my sister-in-law, who occasionally has a gathering in which she has included her own...Read more
Needing Alone Time -- Even From My Spouse
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 30 years. For the vast majority of those years, his jobs have involved a significant amount of travel, anywhere from 25 to 60% of his work days, depending on the job he has held. Sometimes he would be away for weeks at a time. Additionally, his workday when he was not traveling usually brought...Read more
Smartphone Addiction Is Taking Its Toll
Dear Annie: My husband is constantly on his phone, scrolling through social media, playing video games or chatting with friends. I feel like I'm always competing for his attention, and it's driving me nuts.
I have complained many times, and he promises to pay more attention to me, but his addiction to his smartphone takes priority every time....Read more