Life Advice



Text Message Brings Trust Issues

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 21 years. Our sex life has been very active, but other than that, he's never shown me public affection.

Whenever we go out, whether it's to the store, kids' concerts, open house at school, or sports tournaments, he never walks with me. In fact, he usually walks far in front of me and never ...Read more

Major Advice Misstep

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Readers: Did you ever offer advice that you regretted because you were focused on one issue but failed to see the big picture? I did that recently, and my mistake was a doozy. A reader wrote to me telling how she had escaped an abusive marriage and found a new partner and had been happily married for many years. I chose to congratulate ...Read more

Family Dynamics After Divorce

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I'm a recently divorced mom with three adult children. My husband was physically and emotionally abusive throughout our marriage. He originally left me and my three young children when they were just toddlers, but we eventually reconciled. However, when the kids were in college, he sent me divorce papers. I begged him to reconsider...Read more

Tension at Home

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am part of a family that also has a woman renting a room in our house. I have always been extremely sensitive to smells and scents, but this woman's odors send me gagging out of the room. My son is also sensitive to the smell.

Now that the weather is getting warmer, the smells are becoming stronger. While she is OK with my ...Read more

Healing Heartbreak With Grown Son

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My son and I had a falling out a few years ago, right about the time he got engaged and was planning his wedding. I was blamed for not treating his fiancee nicely because I was once impatient at a dress shop. I bent over backward to be nice to her. The straw that broke the camel's back was at Easter, when I finally said something ...Read more

Surviving School Without Snapchat

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My friend and I are part of a very small percentage of upcoming high schoolers who are without Snapchat. Socially, this can be very difficult, as it is hard to communicate with friends and even girls because everything is run through Snapchat nowadays. In this post-Covid world, and after the tech boom, everything is run through ...Read more

Caught Between My Husband and an Old Flame

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I'm in quite the pickle and need your guidance. My husband, "Peter," and I have been married for eight years, and while our relationship has always been strong, I've recently found myself in an unexpected situation. About six months ago, my old college friend, "Scott," moved back to town. We were close back then, and catching up ...Read more

Confess Feelings or Stay Silent About My Work Crush?

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I have been employed at this local government agency for years and have had the pleasure of working closely with "Catie" for the past four years. While we are not in the same department, we have collaborated on numerous projects and have developed a close friendship.

Over the course of our friendship, I have come to care deeply ...Read more

Let Freedom Ring

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Readers: Wishing you all a very happy Fourth of July. I hope you enjoy the following quotes celebrating independence and freedom.

"We shall go wild with fireworks ... and they will plunge into the sky and shatter the darkness." -- Natsuki Takaya

"Where you see wrong or inequality or injustice, speak out, because this is your country. ...Read more

The True Struggle of Single Parenthood

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: Ten years ago, I became a single parent when my ex-husband, who had worked in the World Trade Center on 9/11, became addicted to drugs and alcohol. The love of my life became abusive toward me, threatened our young children and pets, and refused treatment. After a lengthy and expensive court battle, I gained sole custody of our ...Read more

Insight into Doctor-Patient Etiquette

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: You told a reader to call doctors by their last name until invited otherwise. Your writer had called the doctor by the first name on the first visit. Had she never been to a doctor before? No one should think this is appropriate!

This is a formal, professional relationship, and a measure of respect is needed. This is not a casual ...Read more

Handling a Business Dispute With Grace

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I get my car detailed at a business near the beach in Los Angeles. When I took my car there, I meant to move the spare change that I kept for parking meters and laundry out of the car, but I did not. I forgot.

When I got my car back, there were about $8 in quarters missing, but dimes, nickels and pennies were left behind. I ...Read more

Caught in a Web of Lies and Betrayal

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am divorced with two teenage children. I caught my ex-wife having sex with her best friend's husband ("Cris"). My wife and I had a long-standing friendship with this other couple, including taking many family vacations together with our children. It turns out my ex and Cris had been having a secret, torrid affair for years.

At ...Read more

Managing a Toxic Team Member's Impact

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I'm writing to seek your guidance regarding a challenging situation with a member of my team. The relationship with this staff member has been tumultuous, marked by frequent ups and downs that have left me and the rest of the team feeling unsettled and uncertain about how to proceed.

This team member has pronounced personality ...Read more

Supporting Sibling's Struggles, Protecting Parents' Well-Being

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My brother, "David," has been struggling with alcohol for years, and it's starting to take a toll on our family. Recently, he lost his job and moved back in with our parents, who are both retired and not in the best health. They feel obligated to help him, but it's causing a lot of stress and financial strain.

I want to support ...Read more

Should I Attend My Ex's Funeral for Our Kids' Sake?

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My ex-husband is in bad health, and I expect he might pass away soon. We divorced over 20 years ago and ended on bad terms, so we haven't communicated since. But we share two adult children who have maintained a relationship with him.

I'm struggling with whether or not I should attend his funeral when the time comes. Part of me ...Read more

Staying Away From Social Media

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I used to complain about not receiving thank-you notes, but how many times have you been to a shower where, at the end, the gift receiver graciously gives a heartfelt "thank you"?

In this day and age, it really doesn't mean that a person isn't grateful. It has been drilled into their heads to text and to send an answer right away....Read more

Tips for Dust Mites

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Readers: One of the more interesting letters we received recently concerned dust mites, which are always a problem but especially during summer months when temperatures and humidity rise. I thought you would find these tips, offered by David Chapman of Ultimate Mats, helpful for keeping your home free of dust mites this summer.

"Increase...Read more

Silence After Tragedy Comes Off As Carelessness

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: We would like to respond to your answer to "Retired and Busy," the grandparent who complained about overscheduled grandkids. To us, your answer was spot-on. We never felt "gaslit." At 80 and 76, we are still traveling to see our young adult grandchildren doing what they love, from five-hour trips to see a play to driving to another...Read more

Navigating Family Dynamics in the Aftermath of a Narcissistic Parent's Death

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: Very late in my life, I realized I was raised and influenced in a narcissistic family. My late father was a (mostly angry) narcissist, and my late mother was a patient, long-suffering enabler. My father had a governmental position where he was "in charge." At home, he was also large and in charge, which suited his narcissism.

...Read more



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