Life Advice



The Seeds Already Planted

The call came early in the morning from his mother. The matriarch of my husband's family, their nearly 100-year-old grandmother, had passed away.

Unbeknownst to me, funeral events happen quickly in their culture; the wake was scheduled for that evening, and the church service and burial would follow the next day, only a day after she died at ...Read more

Millennial Life: The Charge of Democracy

As I was being charged by name with genocide and cowardice by the protesters yelling in council chambers, I thought about my great-grandfather. His crime had been speaking out and warning about cowardice.

The Nazi officers had wanted to kill someone in front of him. He told the officer with the gun not to be a coward, that if the officer wanted...Read more

Millennial Life: The Transitional State of Women

I can't remember how I got suckered into going to Girls State. I didn't run for student council and was certainly not a high school activist. I was an editor for the yearbook, part of the supercomputing club, and watched too much anime.

Girls State was a well-meant attempt by one of my teachers to develop a fire I didn't see in myself. This is ...Read more

Millennial Life: Just a Normal Ride Along

Officer Castaneda was already waiting for me at the front as I pulled up.

"She's mine," she called to the people at the front desk, puzzled at my handing them paperwork for the ride along. I had just dropped off the kids at school, but Castaneda had already been on shift since 6:30 a.m. It was her "Monday," the start of her week, and she was ...Read more

Millennial Life: Seek Out the Change-Makers, Not Just the Young

I had a meeting with young activists last week. They each had prepared statements and a binder with my name on it, with handwritten tabs for each section. I had at least 10 to 15 years on each of them and had an almost maternal pride watching them. But it wasn't their youth that inspired me; it was the gumption they had to organize. It was the ...Read more

Millennial Life: The Wrinkles of Legacy

A long time ago, a colleague from several jobs ago took a leap in vulnerability over lunch. She explained that she noticed a shift between her interactions with people when she was younger and now, as an older woman. She spoke about an invisibility that settles over women as they age, as conventional beauty fades.

"I felt that people listened ...Read more

Millennial Life: It Was a Good Day

It was a good day at the university. At the start of the day, the masked pro-Palestine student protesters were on bent knees, chalking their requests for a ceasefire on the ground. A military Humvee was parked next to the entrance of the student center, as the Pentagon had come recruiting that day. The university police were already slowly ...Read more

Millennial Life: When Information Isn't the News

The alert on my phone tells me that my package is seven stops away. Clicking into the app, there's a little outline of a truck, but what pulled up was a white sedan, someone's personal car with a few years and more than a few miles on it.

I'm of two minds. Sure, if you're in a neighborhood where you might question whether your package will ...Read more

Millennial Life: There's No Place Like Home

I didn't know how much I must have been hated as an apartment dweller. I lived in the same complex, moving into different units for different reasons, for 10 years. However, when you talk about apartments with some people, it's as if the worst of the worst crawl out of them and slink into our streets.

While living in the apartment, I worked at ...Read more

Millennial Life: When the Mandate Is Simply 'Do Something'

The email didn't address me by name, so I looked at the header to see if I was the only one listed or if it was a mass email blast. It looked like it was just sent to me, demanding I "do something" about the homeless encampments at a park near my house. For a change, I knew what the steps would be in this case, and I happily tip-tapped on the ...Read more

Millennial Life: Missing Out With Old-School Tactics

My office is right next to the entrance, with some seasoned and stalwart administrative assistants bearing the weight of navigating employees to their meetings, fending off lost students on campus, and enduring the dad jokes from the mail delivery drivers. Since I keep my door open, I heard the student come in to ask to speak to a hiring manager...Read more



Scary Gary Mike Smith Peter Kuper Mike Beckom John Cole Joel Pett