Life Advice



Babysitting Mother Disregards Boundaries

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DEAR HARRIETTE: What should I do if my mother is smothering me? My husband and I recently moved closer to my parents because we have two little ones. My daughters are 3 and 4 years old, and I need help with them because my husband and I both work full-time.

My mom has a key to our house for when she comes to watch my kids. While I appreciate ...Read more

Reader Wants To Keep The Peace At Wedding

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DEAR HARRIETTE: Is it OK not to invite my foster parents to my wedding because my biological parents think they're racist? My biological parents, who are Black, feel uncomfortable around my white foster parents due to some comments they made before that seemed racially insensitive. Now I'm stuck between keeping the peace and addressing these ...Read more

Parents Ready For Adult Son To Move Out

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DEAR HARRIETTE: How do I politely kick my son out of the house? My 24-year-old son lives with me and my husband in Phoenix. He recently graduated college and doesn't want to leave our house, even though he has a job and makes enough money to be able to afford an apartment. He would just have to live a more humble life.

Right after he finished ...Read more

Woman Wants To Explore Romantic Relationship With Friend

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DEAR HARRIETTE: I am a 25-year-old woman, and I want to pursue a relationship with my childhood friend. He and I have been friends since we were 5 years old. We went to the same schools from elementary through college, and now we both live in Boston.

Over the years, our friendship has been a constant source of joy and support in my life. We've ...Read more

New Husband Unable To Keep Up With Job

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DEAR HARRIETTE: My husband, who is 31, and I, at 29, tied the knot just two months ago. In this short time, he has resigned from two jobs and is now onto his third position. Despite the recent job change, he is already expressing complaints about the workload and seems to prefer procrastinating rather than tackling tasks head-on.

I'm unsure of ...Read more

Son Frustrated By Academic Struggles

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DEAR HARRIETTE: My son is 10 years old and is behind his peers academically. His literacy and writing skills are not nearly where they are supposed to be, and I can't afford to help him. I am a single mother working two jobs, so I am unable to practice these important skills with him, and I don't have the money to hire extra help.

My son ...Read more

Performer's Communication Challenges Disrupt Relationship

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DEAR HARRIETTE: Am I being selfish for pointing out to my girlfriend that she will not always be the top priority in our relationship, which is a reality due to my commitments as a performer and dancer? Often, the group requires us to relocate to another state for monthslong event preparations, leaving me with limited communication time as ...Read more

Co-Worker Steals Employee's Ideas

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DEAR HARRIETTE: During a recent team meeting, my co-worker "Alex" presented an idea that I had shared with him over a cup of coffee. He claimed it as his own and received praise from our boss while I sat there feeling frustrated and overlooked. This is not the first time Alex has taken credit for my contributions, and it's starting to lower my ...Read more

After Five Years, Boyfriend Still Afraid To Commit

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DEAR HARRIETTE: I have a boyfriend of five years. Yes, you read that right: five years. I love him very much and have been waiting patiently for around four years for him to ask me to marry him. I know it sounds bad and I need to have more respect for myself, but I can't see my life without him. His hesitation stems from his parents' divorce ...Read more

Roommate Doesn't Respect Boundaries

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DEAR HARRIETTE: My roommate has been repeatedly borrowing my clothes without permission and returning them stained or stretched out. I recently discovered that she also used my laptop without asking, leading to scratches on the screen and unauthorized downloads. Confronting her about these incidents makes me uncomfortable and anxious about ...Read more

Woman Wants To Help Sister Going Through Divorce

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DEAR HARRIETTE: My sister is going through a divorce to a man she was married to for 20 years, and she's having a hard time coping. She feels overwhelmed, sad and uncertain about her future. She has always been a strong and independent person, but this situation has really taken a toll on her emotional and mental well-being. She often expresses ...Read more

Mom At Odds With Family About Sleepovers

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DEAR HARRIETTE: I am a mother to a 9-year-old and a 12-year-old. We have a huge debate in our home about whether my children are allowed to go on sleepovers. I am fully opposed because I don't know or trust the adults in the homes they would possibly be staying in. My husband and my children, on the other hand, say that this is a crucial part of...Read more

New Dad Wants To Jump Ship

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DEAR HARRIETTE: After giving birth to a healthy baby boy, I experienced weight gain due to health issues. My partner admitted that he no longer finds me attractive, and he suggested an open relationship. His suggestion has left me feeling hurt and insecure about my body. While I strive to understand his perspective, I find myself struggling with...Read more

Parent Wants To Make Memories With Growing Kids

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DEAR HARRIETTE: As summer approaches and another school year passes, my kids are now 11 and 13 years old. I can't believe how fast time is going; it seems that just yesterday, they were babies. With each passing year, I'm increasingly aware of how precious these moments are, and I want to make the most of the time I have with them while they're ...Read more

College Junior Worried About Lack Of Internship

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DEAR HARRIETTE: I would love some advice on how not to feel behind in life compared to my friends. I am going into my last year of college, and all my friends are doing things to take steps toward their careers. One friend is off to New York City and another to Dallas, both to work in finance. Two of my friends graduated a year early and are ...Read more

Girlfriend Jealous Of Man's Friendships

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DEAR HARRIETTE: I've been dating my girlfriend, Sarah, for a year now, and she has become increasingly insecure about my friendships with my childhood buddies -- both men and women. Sarah often expresses her discomfort when I plan to hang out with them, fearing that I might grow closer to someone else. Despite reassurances of my commitment to ...Read more

Traveling With Couple Put Strain On Friendship

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DEAR HARRIETTE: I recently went on vacation with my husband and our close friends -- also a couple. While we were excited about the trip and the opportunity to spend quality time together, I found myself feeling frustrated and disappointed by some of their behaviors during the vacation. Despite our close friendship, there were instances where ...Read more

Friend Moving Away Leaves Feelings Of Doubt

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DEAR HARRIETTE: My best friend of 20 years is moving away with her husband and family all the way from Connecticut to Thailand so they can both teach English there. They will be gone for five years, with the possibility of moving there permanently. While I'm excited for their new adventure, I can't help but feel a sense of loss at the thought of...Read more

Engagement News Leaves Sister Out In The Cold

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DEAR HARRIETTE: Recently, I discovered that my sister had gotten engaged, but not from my sister directly. Instead, I had to find out from our mom, three weeks after the fact. As someone who shares a close bond with my sister, I couldn't help but feel blindsided by her decision to keep such significant news from me. While I understand that ...Read more

Excessive Spending Bothers Benefit Attendee

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DEAR HARRIETTE: A while back, there was a benefit held for a person who has cancer. A generous sum was raised by friends and relatives who collected items from donors. The collected items were sold, as were baked goods and other foods, and there were raffles and other games.

My question is this: What is the etiquette surrounding the spouse of ...Read more



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