Life Advice



Woman Struggling With Infertility Amid Sister's Joy

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DEAR HARRIETTE: My sister recently had a baby, and while I am happy for her, I can't help but feel a deep sense of jealousy. My husband and I have been trying for a child for 10 years, and this is a milestone we've been dreaming of reaching. Seeing my sister achieve it so effortlessly -- especially since she is five years younger than me -- has ...Read more

Friend's Visit Strains Budget, Tests Patience

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DEAR HARRIETTE: I moved to New York City this summer, and a friend of mine wanted to stay with me for a weekend. However, the weekend didn't go as well as I had hoped. My friend seemed to expect me to know everything about the city, even though I've only lived here for three weeks. She relied entirely on me for directions, and when we inevitably...Read more

Neighbor Seeks Balance In Helping Elderly Friend

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DEAR HARRIETTE: I'm reaching out for your advice regarding my elderly neighbor, "Mrs. Thompson." Over the years, we've developed a good connection, and I've gladly assisted her with tasks like fetching her mail and running occasional errands. However, Mrs. Thompson has been increasingly dependent on me for these tasks. While I genuinely want to ...Read more

Mother Of Nine Faces Divorce, Financial Uncertainty

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DEAR HARRIETTE: I am a housewife and mother of nine children, ranging from toddlers to teenagers. Yesterday, my husband told me he wants a divorce. He says he no longer loves me and believes we should part ways. I have to face the reality of supporting our large family on my own. He proposes splitting custody of the children, but I have no clue ...Read more

Group Frustrated By Friend's Boyfriend's Freeloading

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DEAR HARRIETTE: I have a close group of six friends. "Jane" has always been tight on money, and we've often covered her expenses without much fuss, since the other five chip in. Whether it's going to movies, restaurants or clubs, it's been fine. However, things changed when she started bringing her boyfriend along; now he freeloads off of us, ...Read more

Wife Questions Fairness In Gift-Giving Disparity

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DEAR HARRIETTE: My husband is upset with me for not buying him the shoes he wanted. Last Mother's Day, he got me a $20 salad bowl. Normally, I'd appreciate any gift, but then I saw what he bought for his mom, sister and cousin: The items ranged from $450 to $500 and were thoughtfully chosen. I'm usually generous and love making my loved ones ...Read more

High Earner Questions Boyfriend's Financial Gaslighting

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DEAR HARRIETTE: Every chance he gets, my boyfriend says, "I don't have any money." He works in the fitness community, whereas I am employed in a corporate setting; I earn significantly more than him, but he has a more robust savings account.

Despite my higher income, I also have more responsibilities within my family, so I tend to spend more ...Read more

Man Grapples With Coming Out To Girlfriend

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DEAR HARRIETTE: Planning to tell my girlfriend about me being gay feels like stepping into an emotional unknown. We met through a mutual friend two years ago, and I was drawn to her beauty from the beginning. In our year together, she doesn't know about my past with guys. Lately, I've been feeling more attracted to men again, and even though I ...Read more

Workaholic Boyfriend's Job Worries Hopeful Future Spouse

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DEAR HARRIETTE: I'm 29 years old, and I've been dating my boyfriend for a few years now. We have a great relationship; however, his work-life balance has been an issue. My boyfriend works long hours and is often preoccupied with his job, even during our personal time together. While I understand that his career is important and allows him to ...Read more

Overprotectiveness Challenges Partner's Autonomy

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DEAR HARRIETTE: I've been in a committed relationship for over seven years, but recently, my partner's attitude toward my disability has shifted. As someone who uses a wheelchair due to a spinal injury, I've always appreciated my partner's support. However, lately, they've started making decisions for me without consulting me, assuming I can't ...Read more

Navigating Judgment And Family Disapproval After Coming Out

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DEAR HARRIETTE: I've known I was gay since I was a teenager, but I only recently came out to my family and close friends. It was a huge relief to be open about my identity, but now I'm facing a lot of judgment. My family comes from a military background, and they have made it clear that they do not approve of my sexuality. Despite their love for...Read more

Tech Worker Weighs Resignation Amid Family Obligations

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DEAR HARRIETTE: I've dedicated nearly a decade to the tech industry, diligently working for the same company. Recently, however, I've felt increasingly dissatisfied and unfulfilled in my role. Despite my apprehensions, I gathered the courage to draft a resignation letter. Now, uncertainty clouds my thoughts. What if I struggle to secure another ...Read more

Introvert Struggles To Connect In New City

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DEAR HARRIETTE: I am very introverted, and I find it challenging to find my footing when I'm in group settings. I recently moved to a new city and have been trying to build up my social network, but I'm struggling to make genuine connections because of my introversion. When I am one-on-one with a person, I feel more comfortable, but as soon as ...Read more

Bartender Stuns Future In-Laws With Prenup Reveal

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DEAR HARRIETTE: My boyfriend and I have been dating for four years. He recently proposed to me, and his parents personally contacted me for a get-together. My boyfriend was not included, as they claimed they only wanted to get to know me. I work as a bartender, which is what they know about me. However, besides that, I have investments and ...Read more

Mom Wants Daughter To Reject New Step-Mom

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DEAR HARRIETTE: I'm a recently divorced mom with three adult children. My husband was physically and emotionally abusive throughout our marriage. He originally left me and my young children when they were just toddlers, but we eventually reconciled. When the kids were in college, he sent me divorce papers, but he eventually reneged after I ...Read more

20-Something Wants To Buy Car Instead Of Saving Money

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DEAR HARRIETTE: I have been saving up for the past few years with one goal in mind: To finally get my hands on my dream car, a classic 1969 Ford Mustang. The thought of owning this iconic vehicle has fueled my day-to-day work and drive all these years. Yet my family -- especially my parents -- have expressed concerns about my decision. They fear...Read more

Colleague Makes Work More Difficult For Bartender

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DEAR HARRIETTE: I am a bartender, and I have a colleague I work with about four times a week. He is a nice guy, and we generally get along well, but there are some aspects of his behavior and work ethic that are becoming increasingly difficult for me to handle. While he is friendly and personable with customers, he often lacks the ...Read more

Sister's Indulgent Parenting Causes Worry

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DEAR HARRIETTE: My sister is the mother of 14 children. Her family is blended, with some of her children coming from foster care and others being her biological kids. I have growing concerns about her parenting approach. It seems to me that she is spoiling them excessively and enabling them in ways that might be detrimental to their growth and ...Read more

Friend Always Tries To Grab The Spotlight

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DEAR HARRIETTE: My best friend always seems to need to be the center of attention. Her behavior is starting to cause a strain on our friendship, and I'm not sure how to address it without hurting her feelings. She is 25 years old, but her actions remind me more of a teenager who craves constant validation. Whenever we go out in a group or even ...Read more

New Girlfriend Keeps Stealing Money

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DEAR HARRIETTE: My girlfriend and I have been dating for five months. How do I tell her that I know she is stealing from me?

I met "Dian" on an online dating app. The first instance of stealing occurred after two months of dating. I am a bit messy with my wallet, and that day I had withdrawn a significant amount of cash. She offered to organize...Read more



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