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Gamer Boyfriend Scores Low Points While Visiting Mom

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My daughter and her boyfriend have been together for four years. Despite being almost 30, he is very immature and constantly distracted by either his phone or his video games.

Abby, he travels with his PlayStation everywhere he goes. When he comes into our house, he sets up his console in the living room, puts on headphones and plays...Read more

Woman Is Alarmed To Discover Man Lied About His Last Name

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I've recently started seeing someone, and we have shared a wealth of information about ourselves with each other. When I asked him his last name, he said it was Erickson. When I asked him if he had a middle name, he responded that he didn't.

Soon after, I saw his driver's license. It had a completely different last name from the one ...Read more

Woman's Higher Income May Bruise Her Boyfriend's Ego

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend, Hal, and I have been dating for a year and a half, living together for six months. I'm afraid he feels emasculated. Because I make more money than he does, a lot of the responsibility for paying the bills lands on me. We try to split things down the middle, but recent complications with his job have meant it doesn't ...Read more

Man Vacillates Over Inviting Late Wife's Mom To Wedding

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My wife passed away two years ago at age 40 after a long bout with cancer. We had three children, ages 7 to 12. I am 44 and engaged now to a wonderful woman. We are planning to have a small wedding with fewer than 50 guests.

While the kids and I are doing well, my late wife's mother, Karen, is still grieving. She has a forceful ...Read more

Couple Celebrates 50 Years Together With Abby's Blessing

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: When I was 16 and wanted to get married, my father suggested I write to Dear Abby (your mom was writing the column back then) and ask her opinion. He said he would agree with what she said. I did, and Abby wrote me back. We did get married, and I decided that on our 25th anniversary, I would let you know how we were doing. You printed...Read more

Wife Loses Lust For Husband, But Wants To Save Marriage

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm not attracted to my husband. I love him and don't want to live without him, but I do not want to be physically intimate with him. I know it is unfair to him, and I have tried everything from antidepressants to meditation to diet, but nothing works.

I used to have a high libido, but I haven't wanted to have sex with him in years. ...Read more

Medicinal Marijuana User Is Shunned By Husband's Family

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My brother-in-law found out I smoke marijuana. I have a medical card and some mental disabilities. Marijuana helps with my anxiety.

Although we live near each other, my in-laws now say they don't want me in their homes. The stress this has put on my husband is unfair. His brother obviously has a problem with me.

I never discuss ...Read more

World Travelers Mooch Rides To The Airport From Friends

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: We have some friends who take a couple of expensive extended vacations each year. They go to Europe and take cruises. For the last four years, they have never once booked ground transportation from home to the airport and back. Instead, they rely on friends to take them to the airport.

They have plenty of money. They are just too ...Read more

Dating Is Biggest Challenge For Young College Student

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm a 16-year-old girl who has started college early. I love my classes, and I'm glad to be here. The problem is, the dating culture here is huge. People go on dates all the time.

I have been asked out several times, and I feel comfortable going, but I feel dishonest when I don't tell them that I'm 16. However, if I'm upfront about ...Read more

Mother And Grandmother Clash Over Girl's Living Arrangements

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: How old does a child have to be before she is able to choose a relative to live with? I'm the one my granddaughter wants to stay with. Her home life is in turmoil because of her parents' nasty divorce.

Ever since her mother (my daughter) found out my granddaughter wants to live with me, she has forbidden her to talk to me, and me to ...Read more

Strings Attached To Son's Gift Have Mom Tied Up In Knots

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My son bought me a car in 2012. I had no idea he was doing it. He traded my car in for this newer car.

During the last five years this gift has been nothing but a sore spot. If I get a ding from a parking lot, it's my fault. If I let someone smoke in it, I'm unappreciative. It's always, I do something to help you, and you're so ...Read more

Wife Of Man With Parkinson's Wants To Start Dating Others

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm a 72-year-old married woman. My husband has atypical Parkinson's and can no longer talk or walk.

I exercise six days a week, but I need someone to talk to, to share life with. I tell my husband what I do each day, but of course, there is no feedback. He's at home, and we have 24-hour care.

Can I date? If I explained to him how I...Read more

Dad Of Twins Fears Wife Is Suffering From Depression

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My wife gave birth to our twin girls almost a year ago, and for the most part, things have been great. They are happy and healthy, but I'm not sure how happy my wife is. I'm afraid she may be suffering from postpartum depression, but she won't see anyone about it.

She's always putting the girls first and is stressed out because there...Read more

Family Splinters In Response To Transgender Son-In-Law

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: Our daughter, Joan, and her husband, Frank, have been married 19 years. Their only child will be 4 next month. A year and a half ago, Frank came out as a transgender female. Joan is handling this exceptionally well. Our son, Alex, is not.

Our family will never have the traditional holidays again because Alex doesn't want his ...Read more

Woman Freed From Cooking Is Not Eager To Dive Back In

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm a 64-year-old woman, divorced for 27 years. A nice guy I'll call Ronnie has taken me out to lunch and dinner several times. He really likes me and I really like him, but I'm skeptical about getting into a serious relationship because I don't feel like doing a lot of the wife duties anymore, such as cooking.

I know this may sound ...Read more

Bride's Second Wedding Plans Complicate Shower Etiquette

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My younger sister is planning a destination wedding this summer. Recently she had a courthouse wedding for health insurance purposes because she's going back to school full-time.

I am the matron of honor and she also has a maid of honor (which I am confused about; can you have both?). She is still planning her destination wedding ...Read more

Pregnant Worker Fears Reprisal From 'boys Club' Management

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: A few months ago, I informed my bosses I was pregnant. Within a week, they were trying to fire me and blame it on other things at work that made no sense and hadn't been issues before. They made me sign a letter of reprimand in our first meeting about the issues.

I spoke with a co-worker who told me she had a similar experience ...Read more

Graduate Longs To Distance Himself From Family Strife

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm an 18-year-old guy who's having troubles regarding my family. My parents are divorced, and I moved out of my mom's house after I graduated.

After the divorce, I flipped back and forth between living with either Mom or Dad. I moved into my mother's after an argument with my stepmom, who insists that I call her Mother. I don't ...Read more

Man Puts Drinking Problem On Display In Widow's Yard

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm a widowed senior who has been dating a very kind man, Ben, for three years. He's retired; I am not. He does things for and with me, and we enjoy traveling together.

The problem is, Ben usually starts drinking about 3 p.m. at the neighborhood bar. I'm welcome to join him, but I prefer to work at my job or volunteer in the ...Read more

Relative Gladly Funds Niece's Insurance, But Not Vacations

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My 25-year-old niece still lives at home. She works full time and attends college online. She's a hard worker who doesn't do drugs or engage in risky behavior.

I pay her a bonus for every A she earns, and I also pay for her health insurance. While I gladly pay the college bonuses, I have misgivings about continuing to pay for her ...Read more


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