Life Advice



Friendship With Doctor's Wife Puts Patient In A Tough Spot

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: For several years, I have gone to a medical specialist I'll call "Eric" for certain issues. Eric's wife, "Nina," and I were very close friends. Our families celebrated holidays and special occasions together. However, over the course of our friendship, Nina shared many details about their personal lives with me. They are now separated...Read more

Elderly Pair's Connection Ruffles Feathers For Some

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: Two and a half years ago we lost my dad, who was 94. He and Mom had been married 72 years. She entered assisted living right before COVID -- with all its difficulties -- set in. We made it through that, we're all vaccinated now and her facility has opened back up.

Mom has met and befriended a similarly aged widower. They eat together...Read more

Woman Accosted After Church For Saying Things She Didn't

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: A friend, "Marie," approached me in the parking lot after church, raising her voice, flailing her arms and saying three people had told her that I told them to stay away from her and her husband. I told Marie it wasn't true, and she and her husband were my friends. She reiterated that three people said it, shaking her hand and holding...Read more

Cross-Atlantic Romance Hits Snag Over Driving

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I met my boyfriend online last year. He lives in the U.K.; I'm in the U.S. I love him dearly and we talk about moving in together within the next year. The original plan was for him to emigrate, since I am closer to my family and have an established job. However, I'm a bit worried because he doesn't drive. It's not just because of the...Read more

Wife Seeks Path Forward After Decades Of Abuse

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My husband of 30 years has always made me feel like I wasn't good enough for him. He would flirt with other women and say things to me about an ex-girlfriend he broke up with before marrying his first wife. (I caught him private messaging her.) He has told me four different times that we should separate. The first three times, I cried...Read more

Bride-To-Be Doesn't Want Sister In Wedding Party

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I became engaged to a wonderful man five months ago. We have set a wedding date for next year. I'm ecstatic -- thrilled to be planning such an important milestone in my life. I'm the youngest of five girls. Four of us are extremely close. Three of my sisters have graciously offered to help with the wedding planning and preparation. I ...Read more

Couple's Marriage Has Become A Partnership Of Convenience

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: Although my husband and I are no longer in a romantic relationship, we are what I call "life partners." After cancer left him impotent, he rejected any physical affection at all. I had an extramarital affair which lasted four years. My boyfriend passed away last year. I have no desire to be physically involved with my husband, but I ...Read more

Mother Deals With Fallout From Decision Made Years Ago

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: Fifteen years ago, I "ran away from home" to get away from my adult children, and I finally made a life for myself. They were able to stay in the house because I continued to pay the mortgage. Their dad -- my ex -- and his family all lived nearby.

Now, none of my children wants anything to do with me or my family, and they don't want...Read more

Wife Is A Second-Class Citizen In Her Own Home

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been married for five years. My husband and I are both past middle age and have been married before (me twice; three times for him). For much of our early marriage, my husband was ill. He required several surgeries and a lot of care. I never complained or felt burdened, yet the smallest ache or pain I have is, apparently, a "...Read more

Husband Merely A Bystander As Wife Goes Off The Rails

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been married for close to a year, and in this short time I've seen a side of my wife I've never seen before. Although I met her during a period of sobriety, she drinks now. The problem is what she does when she drinks. On one occasion, she was supposed to go to the market and return on foot. Instead I found her in a car with a ...Read more

Man's Opinions On Women Spark Reader Rebuttals

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DEAR ABBY: I would like to respond to "Ready To Bail in New Jersey" (Sept. 1), who was complaining about women being on their phones all the time. Does this man have any idea how much information and communication is shared electronically now? Work emails, school emails, group texts about various kid activities, and even grocery shopping are all...Read more

Woman's Second Marriage Gets The Cold Shoulder

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I left a manipulative and abusive marriage after 18 years. My parents fully supported my decision. When I became engaged to the wonderful man who is now my husband, my mother and many other family members told me that second weddings were "not important" and I should have just gone to the courthouse.

I had a very small wedding. Even ...Read more

Relationship With Boyfriend Is Now A Dangerous Nightmare

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am in a relationship I can't get out of. I was told by my "boyfriend" that what he's doing is normal. He says it's what people who love each other do, and he loves me more than anyone has ever loved me. I have told him repeatedly that I don't love him.

He drives by my house and follows me to work. He has also watched to make sure I...Read more

Wife Overhears Husband Make Demeaning Comments

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am a wife and mother in my late 30s. I'm also a registered nurse, beginning a master's degree program to advance my career. I consider myself to be an intelligent person, and I did well in college.

My husband is also intelligent, and I'm proud of his accomplishments in his career. However, he can be arrogant at times, giving the ...Read more

Middle-Aged Daughter Hasn't Left The Nest

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My husband passed away two years ago. I hope you can give me some advice on how to deal with my 53-year-old daughter who never left home. We generally get along well. She does freelance art, but doesn't earn much. She contributes only $30 a month. Also, she has a driving phobia, so she doesn't drive. She expects me to drive her to ...Read more

Husband Handed Out Hugs To All Women Except Wife

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My strongest "love language" is physical touch. For 23 years, my husband gave hugs galore to any and every woman, but never to me. The word "never" is not an exaggeration. He has recently begun to change and try to be better. Now he does hug me as much as I want. But when he hugs other women, it still feels like a knife through my ...Read more

Beau Maintains Presence On Multiple Dating Sites

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am a widowed woman who met a gentleman online two years ago. We met in person and get along really great. Everything seems perfect, but my girlfriends keep telling me they see his profile on numerous dating sites. When I asked him about it, he said he had closed the accounts. Well, close friends say they are concerned because he is ...Read more

Widow Encounters Happiness Following Years Of Violence

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been a widow for six months. My late husband was a physically and verbally abusive alcoholic. I spent numerous nights in the ER waiting to be seen and nursed many black eyes throughout the years. During all those years of abuse, which was witnessed by numerous friends and family, I remained faithful and dedicated to him and our...Read more

Husband Feels Powerless Amid Marriage Struggles

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I married for the second time two years ago to a younger woman. Seven months after our wedding, she announced she didn't like my dominating personality, which is why she was stepping out of the marriage. She then went back to her deadbeat ex-boyfriend for six months. I went for counseling and have made a major change in how I treat, ...Read more

Woman's Judgmental Nature Unleashed On Close Friend

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I had a close friend, "Kayleigh," for about 10 years. She helped me through tough times and was always there for me. Now I feel like she has turned into someone else. For the last six months, she has been putting down everyone I love, even in front of my daughter. She sees no problem with it, nor does she have any remorse.

Kayleigh ...Read more



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