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Stepson Snubbed By Family's Habit Of Selective Gift-Giving

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I were together for eight years before we married a year ago. He has a kid from a previous marriage who just turned 11. The boy has been a part of my life since he was 3. But it wasn't until his father and I were married that my parents began sending him Christmas presents. They don't usually send him birthday gifts.

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Family Tragedy Raises Concern About History Of Mental Illness

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have a 14-year-old daughter I have raised alone. Her father has never been in her life, nor has he been in the lives of his other children with other women. He has a long history of criminal behavior and mental illness. Although he hasn't been part of her life, I have done everything in my power to keep her in touch with her ...Read more

Christmas Babies Find Plenty To Celebrate At The Holidays

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: This letter is in response to Blessed in New York (Aug. 4), the mom who gave birth to her precious daughter on Christmas Day and wondered if maybe she should have timed her pregnancy better.

Our daughter was born on Dec. 20. When she was only a few years old, we purchased a 2-foot-tall artificial tree and named it the birthday tree. ...Read more

Man Keeps Wife In The Dark About New 'business Partner'

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My husband met a gal 33 years younger than he is at a doctor's office. It seems they became close, so they went off and bought real estate together in another state. They spend weeks at a time together there alone.

When they are both here in town, they have business meetings several times a week. I am not allowed to attend, know when...Read more

Husband's Luddite Attitude Puts A Heavy Burden On Wife

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been together for 40 years. Like most people, we've had our good times and bad, but we've both been committed to the marriage, and so we've made it work.

Now I'm faced with a problem for which I see no solution. My husband refuses to learn to use a computer. He knows nothing about computers, not even how to turn...Read more

Years Of Bailouts Fail To Help Sister Who's Drowning In Debt

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My only sister has been borrowing money from me every month for years. She has a ton of credit card debt and cannot afford to meet her monthly financial obligations.

Last year my husband and I paid her property taxes for her so she wouldn't lose her house. It was over $5,000. She promised to pay us back with her tax return money, but...Read more

Unwilling Husband And Father Just Wants A Life To Himself

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I joined the Navy after I learned I was becoming a father. I didn't want to be a husband or father, but I did both. In 2010, my wife died. My feelings about being a husband and father never changed.

Our two children are now grown and want me to move near -- or in with -- them. They say, Won't it be great to be with your grandkids? No...Read more

Time Allows Man To See Role He Played In Divorce

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: After 16 months of casual dating, I married my ex-wife. We met through Facebook. Unfortunately, we couldn't make the marriage work, and after two years we divorced.

That was two years ago. It was my first marriage and her second. I was angry that we couldn't make it work, and I blamed her for it. I felt hate and disgust for her and ...Read more

Expectation Of An Early Death Puts Man's Life In A Tailspin

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I spent an evening with a guy I've been wanting to date for some time. After a few drinks he confided to me that he has a serious heart condition. He said he doesn't expect to live past age 23 and he could die any day.

I don't know the details of his condition, but I'm sure he believes what he told me. Because of this his life has ...Read more

Non-Hugger Seeks Polite Way To Keep Others At Arm's Length

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am not a hugger. In fact, I pretty much always hate it. But people think I'm rude when I don't open my arms to hug after they've opened theirs. And they also think I'm rude when I tell them I'm not really a hugger. It happens with friends, fellow church congregants and audience members (I'm an entertainer) all the time. Although I ...Read more

Teen Girl Feels Pressure From Society To Have Sex

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm a teenage girl who has always heard and seen on TV and in movies that there's pressure from guys to have sex. That may be true, but I feel there is also pressure from society. I never thought I would feel like that when I got to high school, but now I do. It hurts, and I am writing this for all the girls who feel the same way I do...Read more

Woman Is Ready To Hang Up On Constantly Calling Husband

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I argue more than I'd like. I am pretty easygoing and passive; he likes his feelings to be known. Over time I have become worn down, and my patience has worn thin.

We are starting to rebound from what I call the year from hell. His drinking and poor choices nearly put us on the street, and I was ready to walk. Things ...Read more

Only Child Feels Pressure Of His Parents' Expectations

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm 17 and so is my boyfriend. He is an only child, and all throughout his life, his parents have put a lot of pressure on him. Recently, they've been talking about him getting into an honors program in a college. Abby, his parents act like if he doesn't get in, they won't be proud of him. He always feels like he's disappointing them ...Read more

Update On Knitted Prostheses Program Delivers Good News

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR READERS: I am often asked, Do you ever hear back from the people who wrote to you? The answer is yes, I do.

A year ago, Claire G. in California wrote to bring awareness to a program called Knitted Knockers. Its members knit or crochet soft, lightweight prostheses for breast cancer survivors, and provide them at no cost to women who need ...Read more

Best Friend's Long Shadow Proves Difficult To Escape

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm 22. Ever since I was 8, I've had the best friend I could ever have asked for. Kylie stood up for me when I was bullied as a child and hung out with me when I had no other friends.

The problem is, Kylie is extremely pretty and has always been charismatic, too. It's not her fault, but people have always been attracted to her, both ...Read more

Memories Of Molestation Cloud Girl's Thoughts Of The Future

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm almost an adult now, starting to think about having children and a good marriage of my own. But I have a disturbing childhood memory I have never been able to erase.

When I was 6 or 7 and staying at my grandparents' house, and my grandmother would go outside to check the mail or water the flowers, my grandfather would try to put ...Read more

Woman's Marriage Deadline May Be Working Against Her

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am a 27-year-old woman who can't seem to find a man to call her own. Every time I search on websites or at gyms, I can't find anyone decent who lives nearby.

I met someone who took me to his house in Wisconsin for the holidays, but I live in Illinois. Ever since I slept with him (on the fifth date), he has come here less often -- ...Read more

Wife's Private Photo Album Makes Its Way Onto The Web

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: Six months ago, I asked a close female friend to help me prepare a gift for my husband for our fifth wedding anniversary. I wanted to create a photo album of sexy nude photos of myself. Her excellent camerawork provided me with a wonderful collection, and my husband loved it.

I recently found out on social media that my girlfriend's ...Read more

Young Couple Seem To Click Better When They're Apart

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been with my boyfriend for two years. When I'm with him, I often find him annoying and think we have nothing in common. But when we are apart, I miss him a lot -- especially when one of us travels for work.

When we're apart and talk on the phone, we have amazing conversations and discuss a future together. But when we're ...Read more

Well-Paid Son Is Slow To Pay Debts He Owes To His Parents

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My 25-year-old son, Jay, would like to come home for Christmas. I'm paying, so I made his reservation yesterday. Late last night, he told my husband he needs to go back two days early because of work. This change will cost around $150 more than the $215 I'm already paying.

Although my son earns a six-figure salary, he is unable to ...Read more


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