Life Advice



Talkative Woman Gives Her Friend The Silent Treatment

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm a busy woman. My friend Adele was calling me excessively on my cellphone. She would call up to three times every day, even when I was at work. When I would take her call, she'd start questioning me, asking me what I was so busy with. At times she would lecture me about things she thought I should be doing.

Her perfectionism and ...Read more

Man With History Of Cheating Is Caught On 'hook-Up' Sites

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I just found out my husband of 18 years has been going to hook-up websites. He says he was just looking at the pictures, but I don't believe him. I have caught him cheating twice in the past, so it's hard to trust him.

My problem is, he knows I can't leave him because I have no job, no skills, no money -- nothing. I went right from ...Read more

Man's Low Ambition Casts Shadow On Couple's Future

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been dating a great guy for a year and a half. He's funny, smart, and when he comes to my house, he washes my dishes and plays with my son. He is attentive, and he cooks for me. He is always buying me little things like a desk coffee heater because he knows I love hot coffee, or smart bulbs that create cool colors in the living...Read more

Mom Regrets Her Marriage Set A Poor Example For Kids

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I married someone who turned out to be very abusive and controlling of me and the kids. I felt powerless to leave with them because of the emotional control, and I had no way to make a living to support them.

They are all adults now, and three of them have been in unhealthy relationships. I know their example of a good marriage or a ...Read more

Family Has Trouble Accepting Parents' Move To Warmer Clime

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I relocated to a warmer climate a few years ago, putting us more than 1,000 miles away from my adult children. The kids all seem to think this trip was just for fun, and continue to ask me to come home.

All three of them are busy with their own well-rounded lives, and the last few years we were there, their visits ...Read more

Girlfriend's Birthday Bouquet Arrives In Shabby Condition

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: Is there a delicate way for me to tell my boyfriend not to use the same online floral delivery service again? The birthday bouquet he had delivered to me arrived with limp, wilted, torn petals and leaves and broken stems. It was one of those box-of-flowers deliveries.

I doubt my boyfriend realized they would not arrive in a vase and ...Read more

Separated Man Is In No Hurry To File For Divorce

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year. I love him, and we have an undeniable connection I have never had with anyone else. The problem is, he's separated but not yet divorced from his wife.

I have a hard time moving forward in the relationship and meeting his family when he hasn't filed for divorce. He says he's going to ...Read more

Man Disabled As A Teen Is Haunted By Parents' Inaction

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: When I was a junior in high school, I sustained a neck injury (at school) that damaged my spinal cord. I recovered mostly from that, but I have residual weakness in my right side and severe neck pain. I was able to work until, at 57, I had to go on disability. Because of that, my financial situation is difficult, increasingly so now ...Read more

Man's Explosive Anger Causes Concern For Easygoing Fiancee

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm engaged to a wonderful guy. He is very sweet, and I'm beyond thankful for him. I wouldn't trade him for the world. But he has a character flaw that's hard to ignore. When he gets frustrated, he screams out loud and takes a while to get himself together.

When he lost his phone on a plane and was angry for hours, he pouted and ...Read more

Parents Oppose Relationship With Man Of Different Culture

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am a 25-year-old college student on the verge of graduation. Over the past three months, I have been dating a slightly younger man (he's 21). We get along well, and I thoroughly enjoy his company. He has never been anything but kind and supportive.

My parents have an issue with the match. My boyfriend is Latino, born and raised in ...Read more

Man Is Reluctant To Share Memories Of His Late Father

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend of two years and I recently moved in together. When we first met, he let me know he had lost his father to cancer a few years prior. While I know a little about his father, it is mostly superficial.

As our relationship has progressed -- moving in, talking about our future -- I long to know more about his dad. What kind ...Read more

Daughter Wonders If Mom's Meddling Changed Her Life

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: Parents frequently write to you asking for advice about their children, seemingly asking permission to butt in where they should not.

When I was in my 20s, I dated a guy who had just returned from the Navy. I saw him -- and others -- while working and going to college. Sometimes I'd drive 40 miles to visit him and stay with my mother...Read more

Absence From Guest List Hurts Old Friend Of Groom's Mother

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have had a friend, Kimberly, for 52 years, ever since first grade. We went all through school together. Teachers described her as a social butterfly. My dad described her as a phony. She's an extrovert with a nice personality and many friends. I am more of an introvert, but I do have a few good friends. We are both happily married ...Read more

Ashes Have Waited 30 Years To Be Scattered Over Hawaii

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: Thirty years ago, a friend of my husband's roommate passed away of AIDS and was cremated. His family had ostracized him. I have no idea who they are or where they are. The roommate left and later died, also from AIDS. He left his friend's ashes in his old room in my husband's house in the San Francisco Bay area with instructions to ...Read more

Couple Is Target Of Ridicule For Their Healthy Lifestyle

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: We need advice about how to respond to friends and family who poke fun or show disdain because of our healthy lifestyle. We are in our 60s. We rarely eat out, and when we do, we avoid fast food. We cook most of our meals with an emphasis on vegetables, fruits, fish and chicken. We exercise regularly and have occasional treats. We have...Read more

Sister Gets More Of Man's Time Than His Wife And Kids

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I don't know how to handle this. My husband of 29 years spends more time with his sister and her family than he does with me and our children. If I say anything about it, he jumps all over me, defending her. He says she doesn't have anyone to help her. But Abby, she has two grown sons and a husband she recently decided to divorce.

I ...Read more

Man's Family Treats Him As A Second-Class Citizen

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been married to a wonderful man for 33 years. He doesn't drink or smoke and has never used pot or drugs. We have the best time together, love each other and enjoy our life together.

The trouble is his family. He's the youngest, and they treat him like an outsider. Whenever we get together, his mother often tells him he was a ...Read more

Leftover Gofundme Money Should Help Others In Need

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm responding to the Oct. 25 letter from Maria in California regarding the leftover money in her late husband's GoFundMe account.

If more than enough is contributed to help someone in need pay their medical expenses, that money is not intended to be income for the recipient's family. You rightly suggested considering her husband's ...Read more

Pariah Living With Relative Finds Safety But Not Security

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have dysfunctional parents. For the sake of my sanity, I made the decision to remove them from my life. They have retaliated by spreading lies to immediate and extended family.

I was supposed to get an apartment with my father to help him now that he is aging. However, he became violent and threatened to kill me. I moved away and ...Read more

Bride's Choice Of Groomsman Brings Back Painful Memories

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am a 37-year-old man who is getting married for the first time. My fiancee, Holly, and I went to middle school and high school together, but never really got to know each other until a few years ago. I love her more than words can describe, and I'm happy to be getting ready to spend my life with her.

Growing up, I was socially ...Read more


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