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Stress Of Pandemic Changes Beloved Sister's Personality
DEAR ABBY: My sister and I are best friends. She has always been caring, empathetic and passionate about helping others. Now, however, COVID has turned her into a real piece of work.
Since the pandemic began, she has become increasingly selfish. She interrupts other people's conversations to talk about herself and complains nonstop about how ...Read more
Man Wants To Quit Trying After Wife's Multiple Miscarriages
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have had a total of six miscarriages -- one before our miracle son and five since we began trying for a second child more than two years ago.
I always wanted a boatload of children, but my husband and I agreed on two before we got married. Now he wants to call it quits. He doesn't want to keep trying because he sees ...Read more
Schedules Collide When Mother And Daughter Share A Car
DEAR ABBY: I am a 16-year-old girl, and I'm having a conflict with my mom over my car. Her car broke down and she needed to use mine, which is completely understandable, and I agreed. However, I have a work schedule I have to stick to, and I need my car to get to and from. I pay all the bills for it, and the title is in my grandfather's name.
I...Read more
Family Estrangement Is Hard To Explain To Kids
DEAR ABBY: I am a woman who has been through a lot. I grew up thinking my grandmother was my mother, my mother was my sister, my uncle was my brother, and my own siblings my nieces and nephews. A family issue brought it all out in the open, and now I am estranged from my family.
My grandmother who adopted me passed away a few years ago. The ...Read more
Needy Woman Takes Advantage Of Co-Worker's Kindness
DEAR ABBY: There is a woman where I work who is emotionally needy. My work is autonomous, but we are in the same group, so I have to interact with her to some extent.
Early on, I made the mistake of offering her emotional support, thinking she was going through something temporary and her life would get better. This is not the case. Her life is...Read more
Distance Tests Strength Of Military Couple's Engagement
DEAR ABBY: I've been in a long-distance relationship for 2 1/2 years. We are now engaged, but haven't set a date for our wedding.
We are both in the military, and we have maintained this relationship well. But there was a time before we dated that I was dating someone else. I ended that relationship, but haven't healed from it because I see him...Read more
Accusations Fly After Friend Develops Covid
DEAR ABBY: A friend of 35 years recently accused me of exposing her and her mother to COVID. She told me she thinks I did it on purpose because I thought so little of them. This is not true!
I had been home for eight days and saw her on a Friday. The following Wednesday I felt sick, so I got tested. When my test the next Monday came back ...Read more
Long Marriage Becomes Abusive Over Time
DEAR ABBY: My husband's dad, Adam, is very mellow and can talk to anyone. His mom, Eve, is friendly, but a little more reserved.
Early in their marriage, Adam was a drinker, and my mother-in-law has never forgiven him for the way he treated her during that time. She has always treated him disrespectfully, but as they get older, it's becoming ...Read more
Mother-Daughter Fight Leads To Threats Of Leaving Home
DEAR ABBY: My best friend (since we were babies) and I are having a disagreement. She had two kids when she was 16 and 17 who are now in their early 20s. One of them still lives rent-free under her roof.
My friend struggled her whole life but got a college degree, bought a house five years ago and owns two cars all on her own. She has recently ...Read more
Man's Tattoos Draw Fire From Disapproving Wife
DEAR ABBY: My tattoos are destroying my marriage, and I just don't understand why. I'm a 56-year-old elementary art teacher and the father of three grown children. Since I was young, I have loved the artistic expression of tattoos, and I ALWAYS envisioned having them, lots of them.
It had been about 10 years since my last one, but I decided to ...Read more
DNA Tests Make Racial Heritage Undeniable
DEAR ABBY: My ex-husband was the product of an extramarital, interracial relationship. Both of the parents who raised him are white, and he has always denied he was biracial despite the obvious physical characteristics that say otherwise.
Our two beautiful teenage children were raised to believe they are white. We recently took ancestry tests, ...Read more
After-Hours Texting Keeps Retiree Up At Night
DEAR ABBY: My wife and I are both recently retired. Our 19-year-old daughter lives 100 miles away at college. My wife has an elderly mother. My problem is family and friends who text early in the morning.
When I was working, I had to get up at 4:30 a.m., so one of the biggest rewards of retirement is no alarm clock. My wife keeps her cellphone ...Read more
Man Is Weighed Down By Sadness Four Years After Separation
DEAR ABBY: I've been separated from my wife for about four years, at her request. It was justified. I wasn't the best husband. I wasn't abusive, but I was sad and feeling sorry for myself, like now.
I took her for granted and didn't show her the affection she deserved, but I have been going to therapy to work through issues that I had ...Read more
Middle-Aged Man Has Bone To Pick With Middle-Aged Women
DEAR ABBY: I have something to say about Still Fun in the South (Jan. 4) and her complaint that single middle-aged men only look for younger women, instead of women their age. I am a 53-year-old widower. I have a six-figure income. I'm smart, healthy, easygoing and have a good life with many hobbies and interests.
On multiple dating apps, I ...Read more
Pregnancy Changes Dynamic Of Women's Friendship
DEAR ABBY: I'm in my late 20s, married and happily child-free. My best friend recently became pregnant, and I am having a hard time with it. I don't enjoy children, and it feels like I am losing my best friend. All she wants to talk about is the baby. I've tried hinting that I'll be here when she and her husband need a break from being Mom and ...Read more
Loving Relationship Stops Short Of Intimacy
DEAR ABBY: I recently met a man, and I have fallen in love with him. He says he feels the same way and tells me often that I treat him better than anybody ever has.
Unfortunately, when the time came to move our relationship to an intimate level, I found my attraction to him was one-sided. When I asked him why, he said he did not find me ...Read more
Unguarded Comment May Cause Brothers To Break Permanently
DEAR ABBY: I am a senior male. I understand I may have some beliefs that others find old-fashioned. However, I consciously try to be tolerant of others' feelings and beliefs. That said, my problem is with my younger brother, who is a homosexual. I have always tried to ignore that side of his life and, consequently, we have always had a good ...Read more
Marriage Is Not In The Future For Man With Divorce In His Past
DEAR ABBY: I'm a single mom. I have a man in my life who I have been with for almost four years. He went through a bad divorce during the time we got together, and anytime I try to mention marriage in the future, he gets upset. I'm unsure what to do or how to respond anymore.
I know my kids aren't his, so he owes us nothing, but I need more ...Read more
Trainer Turns Woman's Head, And Husband Starts To Notice
DEAR ABBY: I have grown really close to Pete, my trainer at the gym I joined two years ago. We are both married. I know it's wrong to feel this way. I love my husband, but I'm not sure I am in love with him anymore.
I think what I feel for Pete may be more than just a physical attraction and connection. Our lives are so parallel. We are both ...Read more
Man Talks About His Will But Won't Put It In Writing
DEAR ABBY: I have been married to my husband for seven years. We are in our 60s. He refuses to make a will. He tells me what he would put in his will and asks me if I am OK with his wishes.
He has an adult child from his first marriage and would like to include her in the will. I'm fine with what he wants. This conversation has been going on ...Read more