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Grandson's Sleepovers Alarm Grandma's Friend

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have a friend whose 11-year-old grandson stays overnight with her sometimes on the weekends. She has only one bedroom, and I'm concerned because he still sleeps with her in the same bed.

I have mentioned it to her many times, and she says there is nothing wrong with it. I even purchased a nice air mattress, very easy to inflate, ...Read more

Wife's Online Snooping Reveals Her Lack Of Trust

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My wife used the search feature for the Ashley Madison emails and discovered an old account I had signed up for late one night, before we were together. I had forgotten all about it. When she brought it up, I panicked and lied because I was embarrassed, but immediately told her what it was. She was upset, but I explained the situation...Read more

Man's Anger Issues Threaten To Break Loving Relationship

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have anger issues and sometimes I take it out on the ones I love. When my fiancee recently told me we are having a child, I hoped my attitude would change. It hasn't, and at times it has gotten worse. I hit her last night and it left a mark.

I feel awful for the pain I continue to cause her, and I keep telling myself this is the ...Read more

Teen Becomes Tongue-Tied When She Tries To Say Thanks

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm a 17-year-old girl, and all my life I have had trouble accepting gifts, even inexpensive ones. I do believe it's the thought that counts, but I have trouble expressing gratitude.

An example: My brother was disappointed by my reaction when he got me soap shaped like a rock last Christmas. My smile was forced. I feel anxious when I...Read more

Caregivers For Sick Pets Also Deserve Respite From Stress

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: Our family dog recently passed away after a year-long decline. I had grown up with him. He had reached the point where he needed daily care for his body, even though his mind was 100 percent there. Near the end, things got very bad. I got only about four hours of broken sleep a night caring for him, and no one in the family would help...Read more

Man Can't Cope With Pregnant Girlfriend And Ailing Ex-Wife

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My situation is upsetting and I don't know what to do anymore. My girlfriend, Dana, is pregnant. My ex-wife showed up at our door with terminal cancer and nowhere to go. When I told her she could stay with us, Dana moved out.

There is no one that my ex can rely on except me. I am torn. I love Dana and don't want to lose her, but I ...Read more

Needy Mother-In-Law Plays The Diva In Family Drama

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been married for 22 years. My father-in-law's health declined and he died last year. My mother-in-law, Babe, and I didn't get on well in the past, but we have seemed to patch things up.

Since my father-in-law's death, she has become very needy. As a result, my father has been at her beck and call, and I have ...Read more

People Who Ask About Accent Are Being Friendly, Not Rude

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have lived in the United States for 40 years. My first 32 years were spent in Puerto Rico, so I speak with an accent. My problem is almost everyone I meet asks me where I'm from. I usually try to disguise my discomfort by jokingly asking them to guess.

The truth is, I feel singled out as being different and not belonging. My ...Read more

Mom Back In Dating Game Should Be Careful To Score

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My mom recently separated from her husband. They're in the process of getting divorced, and she is already talking to another man. She has known him since high school, but they only recently reconnected again.

Last night they finally decided to go out. She says they're just friends, but she got home at 5:30 a.m., wasted. She woke me ...Read more

Woman Wants To Disconnect From Long-Winded Friend

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm a woman who has always had trouble with women friends who like to call and chat. It has never really been my thing.

One of them never asks if I'm busy; she just plunges into a conversation that usually lasts an hour. I never call her. If she asks me to return her call, I'll wait a day or two. I'm afraid to tell her I don't like ...Read more

Teen Without A Plan Has Trouble Finding Direction

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm 18 and live with my boyfriend, Austin, at his parents' house because, frankly, my mom is too much for me to handle.

I graduated from high school with no plan for anything afterward. I was going to follow Austin to the school of his choice, but then he changed his mind about college. I'm happy to stay here in Colorado, but I now ...Read more

Two Heads Are No Better Than One At Grocery Store Checkout

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: There are no words to express how disappointed I am at the education kids receive now and still graduate with honors. I was at the grocery store a short time ago. Two young ladies working there just completed their freshman year at the local college. One of them had been on the honor roll all through high school.

I bought four ...Read more

Birth Mom Is Not Out Of Options For Repaying Daughter's Loan

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: Your advice to Poor Birth Mother in Georgia on June 12 -- Because the college loan agreement with your daughter was verbal and wasn't put in writing, you don't have a legal means to force her to assume the loan payments -- was wrong!

Verbal agreements are enforced if they can be proven to be true. Even if the daughter didn't promise ...Read more

Couple's Open Relationship May End Up Closing Theirs

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am a 24-year-old woman and currently live with my boyfriend. We have a child. Before we started living together, we discussed having an open relationship. We realized how messy it can be, so we agreed on having a free pass with ONE person, ONE time. I have met that person; it is a woman.

At first, my boyfriend was OK with it. But ...Read more

Woman In Toxic Relationship Will Need Cousin's Support

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have a very close cousin (and friend) who is in a toxic relationship with a man who breaks up with her repeatedly, manipulates and abuses her emotionally, and probably cheats. It has made me sad to see her go through the same pattern with him for so many years.

They were supposed to be married soon, but are having the same problems...Read more

Couple's Adoption Of Foster Child Causes Family Rift

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My husband, Jeff, and I are fostering a 17-year-old girl we plan to adopt. Jeff's mother grew up in foster care, and after learning about her life and hardship, I felt we should help out in this way.

I am a stay-at-home mother with three other children (6, 8 and 14), and we are a very tight-knit family, spending most of our time ...Read more

Octogenarian Is Grateful For Longtime Friendships

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: Last Christmas I didn't hear from several of my longtime friends. I don't have a computer, but someone looked up online obituaries and was able to tell me they had passed away.

This Christmas I'll be 89. My health isn't the greatest, and I'm thinking of including a note in my cards to the other few good friends I've known for 60 ...Read more

Teen Would Like To Stiff-Arm Mom's 'affectionate' Friend

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm 16, go to high school, play football and make good grades.

At church every Sunday, a lady who is one of my mom's friends always makes a point of coming up to me to talk. She says things about me growing up to be a man, and asks me if I'm dating. She always gives me an extended hug. It's really uncomfortable for me, and ...Read more

Man Overcomes Disabilities, But Not High School Prejudice

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: Today was my high school reunion. I was the most notable student for all the wrong reasons. I was born with some birth defects and learning disabilities. I overcame them, but it was hard. While working blue-collar jobs, I lived in my car for a few years.

On a cold winter night several years ago, I met Dr. X in the emergency room. He ...Read more

Sapphires Pass As Diamonds In Case Of Mistaken Identity

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: Last year I gave my new (at that time) girlfriend, Alyssa, a pair of earrings for her birthday. They were in a box from a department store marked fine jewelry. She loved them and became emotional in expressing her gratitude. I thought it was because it was the first piece of jewelry I had ever bought for her.

When she opened the box ...Read more


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