Finances Front And Center Amid Child Support Debate
DEAR ABBY: I have a child with a woman I'll call "Kara," who is now my ex-wife. Our son lives full time with me and my new wife, whom I married three years ago. Kara was diagnosed with schizophrenia five or six years ago, which is what ultimately led to our divorce. She has only recently been able to keep a job despite her condition, which is ...Read more
The Perceptions Of Others Complicate Health Issues
DEAR ABBY: I am struggling with an invisible illness and losing patience with friends, family and acquaintances. I'm working with doctors to manage my conditions, and I'm tired of all the suggestions and seemingly positive comments I'm hearing, like, "You can do it; just put your mind to it!"
I am seeing a therapist to help with the emotional ...Read more
Zonked Boyfriend Seems Content With Status Quo
DEAR ABBY: I have been dating a man for more than two years, and I thought we had a future together. I'm 57, divorced, no kids. He's 58, divorced and has two grown children. At first, he said he was living with his parents so he could take care of his dad, who had been very ill. But it has been more than three years now!
I put bids on four ...Read more
Boy's Sensitive Nature Worries His Grandmother
DEAR ABBY: My grandson is 6 and very sensitive, maybe too sensitive. He's also lovable, super scientific-minded, good-hearted and generous with his little sister. However, he still uses a diaper at night and has CVS (cyclical vomiting syndrome). It's heartbreaking. For that reason, he's on a special gluten- free, no flour, no chocolate diet.
Colleague Notes What Is Really Going On At Work
DEAR ABBY: A guy at work, "Leon," is my age, very friendly and down-to-earth. When we've worked together, we have had great conversations, and he has told me a lot about his girlfriend who he's been with for years. I feel guilty knowing this because Leon is having an affair with a girl here at work who's almost a decade his junior, and they've ...Read more
Bridesmaid's Pregnancy Adds New Stress To Wedding Plans
DEAR ABBY: I got engaged five months ago, and my wedding date is seven months from now. My soon-to-be sister-in-law and bridesmaid has just announced she's pregnant with her second child and due a week after our wedding.
I have conflicting emotions. While I'm happy for her family to grow, I can't help but worry it will detract from my fiance ...Read more
Daughter Gets An Eyeful When She Drops In On Mom
DEAR ABBY: My mother is 90 and has been a widow for 10 years. When we moved to this city 30 years ago, my parents made friends with a group of people. In this group was a couple nobody in our family liked (Dad especially), but Mom remained friends with them. Abby, the husband is a smarmy narcissist.
A couple of weeks ago, I went into my mom's ...Read more
Friends Express Skepticism For Couple's Reconciliation
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I were married nine years. He unexpectedly left me when COVID first hit. We were apart for a year and eight months and ended up divorcing. I filed because, even though I didn't want to believe it, I eventually accepted that it was over. Even though he hadn't actually filed the papers, he had taken all other necessary ...Read more
Vulgar Comment To Woman Makes Waves At Pool Hall
DEAR ABBY: My wife and I play on a pool team. About a year ago, the team captain looked at my wife and said, "So, can I play with your lower private area?" (He didn't use those words.) My wife, who is very shy, was shocked.
He has made dumb comments before, and I've warned him several times. This time when I told him, he was dumb enough to ...Read more
Woman Obsessively Monitors Former Rival's Social Media
DEAR ABBY: I'm a 45-year-old woman who has been dating "Ben" (53) for two years. We have known each other for more than 20. He treats me like a queen. Prior to our dating, he had a girlfriend he used to confide in me about. I was very jealous of her. She knew we were friends, so she made a point of posting lots of pictures of their PDAs on his ...Read more
Aging Man's Antics And Ego Make Him Hard To Be Around
DEAR ABBY: My narcissistic father feels entitled to do whatever he pleases. He has always insisted that since he makes the money, far more than my mother's income, he should be waited on and cleaned up after. If he stays in my home, he leaves messes everywhere. He's 70, but he acts like a 4-year-old.
He loves attention and will do anything to ...Read more
Jilted Wife Hesitant To Give Second Chance
DEAR ABBY: I married a recovering addict, and for years he did great. We made a lovely home and family together. Then one of my husband's drug buddies (a woman) resurfaced. My husband had an affair, went down that nasty road again and did some very cruel things to destroy our marriage. We have been married 19 years and separated for the last ...Read more
Fiance's Kisses Make Woman Physically Ill
DEAR ABBY: I struggled for years with vomiting and nausea, as well as other digestive issues I dismissed as having a "sensitive stomach." When my fiance, "Marc," and I started dating, he urged me to find out the cause of my issues. Six months ago, I was diagnosed with celiac disease, an autoimmune disorder that is managed through a gluten-free ...Read more
Woman Hopes Dating Leads To Committed Life Partner
DEAR ABBY: I'm a 32-year-old woman. My 20s were spent in a serious long-term relationship. It was a lot of firsts for me. After we split, I took a couple of years to sow my wild oats and find out who I am as an individual.
I'm now looking for something more than "friends with benefits." However, the last few men I've met and gone on dates with,...Read more
Poolgoers Leave Towels To Claim Shady Locale
DEAR ABBY: The other day I went to the pool in my neighborhood and found there were four lounge chairs with towels on them indicating they were "reserved." They are the best chairs in the pool area because they are covered by a small roof and protected from the sun. I then had to use another chair that only partially covered me.
It wasn't until...Read more
Childhood Trauma Resurfaces For New Mom
DEAR ABBY: Throughout my childhood, my mother was controlling in many ways. One of them was my clothes. She dressed me in ridiculous outfits that I found humiliating. If I expressed an opinion about anything, I was treated as being "bad." It affected my mental health, which resulted in me hating the way I look.
I went through multiple eating ...Read more
Boyfriend Steps Up To Act As Caregiver
DEAR ABBY: I have been with my boyfriend for three months. We've had our ups and downs. He's more into me than I am into him. I was recently diagnosed with breast cancer, and he has offered to drive me to my surgery and help me at home in recovery. He's also willing to take me to my follow-ups and help with anything else I may need.
He's ...Read more
Woman Develops Mysterious Relationship With Neighbor
DEAR ABBY: My girlfriend, "Jana," and I have been together for 18 years. We live in a small community. About a year ago, a young single guy moved in next door. Jana and "Aiden" took an immediate liking to each other. She's 64, and he's 35.
Aiden is on permanent disability, has never had a job and is heavily into drugs. He does odd things like ...Read more
Reader Gives Meatloaf Recipe A Western Twist
DEAR ABBY: I have seen you mention in your column your cookbooklets of favorite recipes. I hope the meatloaf recipe is included. Years ago, I cut out your meatloaf recipe, and it's been a staple at my house ever since. I did make one significant change: I use ground bison instead of beef. It's healthier and tastes great. Thanks, Abby, for your ...Read more
Wife In Crumbling Marriage Takes Stock Of Life, Future
DEAR ABBY: I have been married for 16 years, but after the birth of my first child, our marriage went downhill. My husband withdrew and went out with friends often. When my brother was in the hospital, I traveled three hours with my newborn baby to visit him. My husband drove up separately, stayed a few hours, then left to go to a concert with a...Read more