Life Advice





Single File: Mourning Time Frame

Life Advice / Single File /

DEAR SUSAN: I have a dilemma. My wife died a little over two years ago, ending our wonderful marriage of 26 years and making me a widower at 49. My wife was popular and well-liked by many in our area. Now I feel ready to explore the possibility of dating again by using online dating apps. The problem, though, is that some of my wife's single ...Read more

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Erika Ettin: What you're doing wrong in dating... and how to fix it

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

As we enter the summer and all of the fun date ideas that present themselves (picnics, ferry rides, outdoor breweries—oh my!), many people reflect on the fact that they are single and don't necessarily want to be. While we obviously can't control chemistry (or the longevity of relationships), we can certainly control our approach to finding ...Read more


Ask Anna: Caught my boyfriend on a dating app -- confront him or ghost?

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

Dear Anna,

Six months ago, I ended my relationship with my boyfriend due to repeated boundary violations, including emotional abuse and dishonesty. Recently, he apologized and promised to change, so I hesitantly gave him another chance. Spoiler! This was a big mistake. Despite his sweet words, I felt something was off. Four days after we ...Read more

Parents Ready For Adult Son To Move Out

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: How do I politely kick my son out of the house? My 24-year-old son lives with me and my husband in Phoenix. He recently graduated college and doesn't want to leave our house, even though he has a job and makes enough money to be able to afford an apartment. He would just have to live a more humble life.

Right after he finished ...Read more

Guests Won't Just Sit Back And Relax

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: My husband and I have a vacation house, and we enjoy inviting friends and family to stay there throughout the summer and early fall. Our guests, unfailingly polite, often want to "help" after I prepare a meal, which we do often because I love to cook and the farmers markets are such a delight of abundance.

Here's the rub: ...Read more

Go With True Love

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I've been seeing this guy for almost a year now. We practically live together, in fact. At first, to be honest, we just "hooked up" for, as he put it, "pleasure." But over the course of about three months of these hookups, our relationship got a little more serious, and now, almost a year later, we have deep feelings for each other. ...Read more

Ask Amy: Correspondence offers affecting ‘update’

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Readers: Over my 21 years writing this column, I’ve stayed in touch with many readers whose questions have particularly affected me.

One such reader, whose question first ran in 2021, provided an “update,” published in 2023.

He and I have continued to correspond, and I’m happy to share an update to his update, as a reminder – ...Read more

Wife Prepares To Run Off With Husband's Best Man

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been married to "George" for 35 years. I was pregnant when I married. We had dated only five months. We came from families that believed you had to "do the right thing" and get married. I love my husband, but never as deeply as I thought I should.

I had feelings for someone else ("Dennis") before I got married, but we were ...Read more

Woman Wants To Explore Romantic Relationship With Friend

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: I am a 25-year-old woman, and I want to pursue a relationship with my childhood friend. He and I have been friends since we were 5 years old. We went to the same schools from elementary through college, and now we both live in Boston.

Over the years, our friendship has been a constant source of joy and support in my life. We've ...Read more

Someone Missed The Lesson Of The 'prodigal Son' Story

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I have a niece, Maya, who has been estranged from the family since her teens. After five years, she's now returned, wanting to be near family. We are trying to get to know her again, as she is not the same child we knew -- pretty much a stranger.

She was a beautiful, smart young lady when she left, but now states she will ...Read more

Love Versus Infatuation

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My "Laura" is the light of my life. It's been more than a year since we found each other, but my whole body still shakes with anticipation every time I see her. Recently, though, I can't help but feel a growing tension between us. This is my first real romantic relationship, and I know that I have a lot to learn, but Laura can be so ...Read more

Ask Amy: Parents are unhappy with current housemates

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My husband and I bought a house seven years ago. It has a finished basement. The basement has a bathroom, a bedroom, and a den in it.

Our daughter and son-in-law live with us in the downstairs den and bedroom (they use that bathroom). They are employed.

Our daughter is a college graduate and has been married to our son-in-law for 12...Read more

Brother Puts Abusive Wife Ahead Of Remaining Family

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My older brother has had a tumultuous marriage to a manipulative, alcoholic, just-plain-mean woman. It has been bad over their entire 40-year marriage, including her physically assaulting him.

He called the police the last time and had them take her away. She eventually kicked him out, and he went to stay at our younger brother's ...Read more

New Husband Unable To Keep Up With Job

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: My husband, who is 31, and I, at 29, tied the knot just two months ago. In this short time, he has resigned from two jobs and is now onto his third position. Despite the recent job change, he is already expressing complaints about the workload and seems to prefer procrastinating rather than tackling tasks head-on.

I'm unsure of ...Read more

Nosy Questions About Rings Now Go Beyond Gem Size

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I'm engaged and have a larger-than-average diamond. There have been several awkward encounters where people want to know the specs of my stone: In particular, they ask, "Is it a lab stone?"

I just don't feel comfortable answering this. So many people judge you negatively for whatever answer you give. If you say yes, you've ...Read more

Let Her Go

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am a man in my late 50s. Until recently, I was in a long-distance relationship with a woman -- let's call her "Maria" -- who lives about a thousand miles away from me. Last month, out of the blue, she accused me of cheating on her with her cousin, who lives about 45 minutes away from me. This is 100% not true. I met the cousin only...Read more

Ask Amy: ‘Friendship with benefits’ offers neither

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: Just before the pandemic, I started dating a charming, smart, handsome, funny professional guy (we’re both men). Our dates were delightful, except that whenever I suggested getting physically affectionate, he always had an excuse not to.

The relationship faded out. After a few months, I drunkenly texted him and he responded by ...Read more

Wife Has No Plans To Join Husband's Family Business

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My husband's family won't stop asking me when I'm going to quit my job and work for my husband. My mother-in-law worked for my father-in-law at their small business for pretty much her whole career. My husband recently bought his dad's business, which is going really well.

I have been ambitious in my own career, and I'm climbing the ...Read more

Millennial Life: The Shadows Turned Away From the Sun

At 5:30 a.m., it was still dark when we -- five cops, two city council members, and one city manager -- took off from City Hall on bikes. Within a few minutes, the sun started creeping over the mountains, showing us the muted colors of the old adobes in the nearby neighborhood.

We pulled up next to three people sitting outside a house. The ...Read more

Distant Daughters-in-Law

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: For years, I have tried to have a relationship with my two daughters-in-law, and at some point, I finally gave up. Now, when we get together, the family gatherings are not horrible. But at best, they are superficial.

It is very difficult to have conversations when they text nearly the entire time -- which I never address -- or ...Read more