Life Advice





Finding Support

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Readers: Many of you were touched by the husband "Anonymous," who wrote a letter about the loss of his wife to the disease of alcoholism. She is still alive, but the woman he married was a different person than the one who is an alcoholic. Most recommended Al-Anon, a spin-off from Alcoholics Anonymous that focuses on helping people who ...Read more

Ask Amy: Colleague worries about co-worker's return

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I work at a small law firm where we are treated more as family than employees. One of our hardest working, most dedicated, and passionate employees tried to kill himself a few days ago.

We are all saddened by the news, relieved that he wasn't successful, and shocked because we had no idea he was suffering.

His job here is secure, and...Read more

Daughter Wishes Stepfather Would Visit Mom More Often

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My mother is in a locked ward of a nursing home because she has Alzheimer's and is a flight risk. My stepfather has begun dating her best friend. He doesn't consider it dating because, at 85, he's no longer capable of having a physical relationship. However, taking someone to dinner, the theater, church or to a movie constitutes a ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Been There

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My sister's son, "Jared," lives close to us but far from his mother. We always invite them to family get-togethers, but are never sure whether they will show up. Sometimes they don't respond, sometimes they show up without responding, and sometimes they call at the last minute to say they are sick and can't come.

Jared was raised by...Read more

Working Within

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I want to thank you for your response to the man who wrote to you concerning getting closure with the father who had abused him. It was quite helpful to me, as my situation is similar. I struggle daily with guilt at not being able to have a relationship with my parents. My mother was quite abusive to me, and my father did nothing ...Read more

Ask Amy: Pregnant job seeker ponders disclosure

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I like my workplace, but I'm easily working 60 to 70 hours a week with no overtime compensation. The pace is unsustainable, especially now that I'm three months pregnant. There is no slowing down at my workplace -- my profession is very time sensitive and demands me to be on-call all the time, including nights and weekends.

A dream ...Read more

Mom-To-Be In Third Trimester Needs Husband's Help At Home

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been married for eight years. He has always been independent. He works full time and goes to bars with (single) co-workers four or five nights a week and stays until I'm in bed. He also likes his weekends to be his me time to decompress from all the socializing he does during the week.

I have become independent ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Need Help Down South

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My wife has a good personality and makes friends easily. The problem is, she does not keep them. If someone rubs her wrong, she flares up in anger. If someone disagrees with her, she verbally abuses them. She also gets involved in everyone else's personal affairs.

When these negative things happen, the friends start backing off. ...Read more

Children Bullying Their Parents Isn't Acceptable

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: Recently, during a visit from my 50-year-old son, I was bullied, threatened, taunted and treated cruelly by him. I don't know why. I responded indignantly while my husband said nothing. His behavior was unlike anything I had ever experienced, although I have seen him bully others many times.

I have heard no words of regret from ...Read more

Ask Amy: Tired senior needs a little self-care

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My husband and I (both retired seniors) belong to a service club. He joined well before I did.

After a few years of membership, I realized I would have been happier to just stay on the sidelines, but I hung in there because it was important to my husband for us to do things together.

I served in various capacities in our club and ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Lost and Confused

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /


Dear Annie: I have three siblings. The youngest sister, "Jess," has always had problems. At 13, she started taking drugs and running away from home. She spent five years in prison, and when she got out, ...Read more

Mom Wonders Why Daughter Keeps Her At Arm's Length

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I retired five years ago and moved to a small town where my two daughters and two grown grandchildren live. We moved here from another state to be near them and other relatives who live closer, but not in this city.

I am sad and hurt by the way one of my daughters treats me. She almost never invites us to her home -- ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 1/25/2020

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /


Dear Annie: I am a female resident physician. In medical school, I fell in love with "Jay," a classmate. We have been together for four years. Jay is currently a resident physician in another state.

Two...Read more

Struggling to Make Lasting Connections Online

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I'm 29 and single. I'm proud to have worked my butt off since college and am now seeing the fruits of my labor. I've got the dream job that I'm passionate about, am making good money and have the most amazing group of loved ones and mentors. The cherry on top of it all would be a man I can enjoy all of this with. Since I have a ...Read more

Ask Amy: Political differences puzzle and muzzle friend

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: This summer, I chose to invite lifelong friends for a week at a mountain cabin.

Knowing that they are ultra-conservative and evangelical, I decided to keep my mouth shut and listen.

Listening became difficult when I was sitting at a table in the main room and the other two, not far away in the sitting area, engaged in a critical ...Read more

New Hire Is Disappointed To Be Working As A Gofer

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I recently landed a new job and was excited about doing work that would be directly in line with my education and background. I left a job of more than a decade to pursue this field. My problem is, I'm being asked to carry luggage, make coffee, run errands, etc. This was not in my job description, nor was it what I was hired for.

...Read more

Tales From the Front: She Tried to Sell Him the Brooklyn Bride One Time Too Many

Dear Cheryl: My wife is extremely outgoing with both men and women. She's always making new friends, and she works at keeping relationships with high school and college friends alive. But three things have been bothering me.

Issue No. 1: Several years ago, I found a man's cellphone number in my wife's cellphone. They had dated once many years ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 1/24/2020

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My mother is 90 years old. She recently loaned one of my nephews a large sum of money to purchase a house. "Todd" and his wife borrowed enough for the house, a new washer and dryer, and then more for homeowners insurance and property taxes. They moved in last August and have not paid anything toward the principal or interest.

My ...Read more

Wedding Gifts Under Warranty?

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My very good friend "Pamela" has a son who recently got married. The wedding took place in the middle of September. The bride decided at the beginning of December that she didn't want to be married. My question is this: Who gets the gifts? The bride and groom were living with her parents until they bought a home, so they didn't use...Read more

Ask Amy: Boyfriend wants influence over Instagram

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My boyfriend "Brad" and I have been dating for almost a year. Brad and I have very different views about social media. For me, Instagram is my "scrapbook" of memories -- it's my way of documenting my life. By the six-month mark, Brad had become the most important thing in my life, and I wanted to share that with everyone!

However, ...Read more