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Unwanted Tunes

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I go to a small school, with only a handful of people in my graduating year. We've all known one another since kindergarten and first grade, and we all spend our time talking and interacting as a group.

Sometimes at the lunch table -- or when a conversation dies down and we're sitting in comfortable silence -- one of my friends, "...Read more

One-night stand brings on ethical dilemma

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am a 20-year-old woman who has been in a two-year relationship with a guy who has been my good friend for seven years.

Last summer, we were apart for three months when I moved across the country for an internship.

Things were rough, I was very lonely and I had a drunken one-night stand.

I didn't care about the person, I was just ...Read more

Angry Daughter-In-Law May Want More Free Baby Sitting

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My daughter-in-law is extremely jealous of the close relationship I have with my daughter. If I spend time with my daughter and grandson, she gets mad at me and keeps my grandchildren from me. I need advice on how to handle her. I get her children almost every weekend. I work a full-time job, but she feels like I should have them more...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 2/20/2017

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I have two grown children, both married with kids. My youngest, "Carrie," has a 14-year-old daughter who has been seeing a boy for a year.

The other day, we were visiting Carrie, and my granddaughter and her boyfriend got very cozy at the dining room table while we were eating dinner. They started kissing and making out in front ...Read more

Romantic Gifts Early On

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: In the past, Valentine's Day usually made me anxious because I didn't have a date. This year, I'm nervous for the exact opposite reason. I've just started dating a great guy, "Jeff," and he just asked me to officially be his girlfriend -- a few weeks before Valentine's Day. We were talking about how we wouldn't be able to spend the...Read more

Family group wonders how to split cabin cost

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My three siblings and I are planning a mountain getaway for our parents' 50th wedding anniversary celebration. My parents will be in the master suite room. We have all agreed to split their cost and expenses as a gift.

When renting a large cabin with separate bedrooms, do you think singles should pay the same rate as couples? Should ...Read more

Late To Bed And Late To Rise Makes Mom And Kids Tardy

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I will be spending a couple of months visiting my daughter, who is a single mom. She has asked me to help her wake her 8- and 11-year-old kids in the morning and have them ready for school.

Unfortunately, she works some distance away from her home. The kids attend private school and are involved in sports. The problem is, they eat ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 2/19/2017

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My roommate, "Michelle," is suffering from depression. Six months ago, she suddenly lost interest in going out with friends and would cry for no reason. She began calling in sick so many times that she was fired. She cashed out her 401(k) and now sits in her room all day watching TV and eating. In the past six months, she has gone ...Read more

The Favorite Child

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: It has been over a year since my sister and I had a falling-out. She used to live with me but moved in with my mother. I have tried to reconcile with her to keep harmony within the family. I have been unsuccessful.

It appears that our mother has taken my sister's side in our disagreement and has treated me disrespectfully on many ...Read more

Groom ponders bridal shower etiquette

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am a groom-to-be. My fiancee and I grew up eight hours away from each other. My mother and my fiancee are close. Several months ago, my mom planned a bridal shower in my hometown. My fiancee's family was annoyed, upset and somewhat hostile about this, thinking that my mother was trying to usurp their role.

My mother had assumed that...Read more

Parents Shouldn’T Act As Family Go-Betweens

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

My wife’s family will host get-togethers and her parents will extend invitations to them on others’ behalf.

We have a strained relationship with her extended family due to our not understanding or not following whatever social conventions they have that we haven’t lived up to. ...Read more

Bride Wants Wedding Guests To Check Politics At The Door

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My fiance and I are getting married in a year. We have some very close gay friends, and I have gay family members on my mom's side. The majority of our family is gay-friendly, but a few of them on my father's side are very open about their dislike of the LGBT community.

Our ceremony will be at a Unitarian Universalist church because ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 2/18/2017

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My 20-year-old nephew has been a troubled youth, despite all the attempts of his family to help him, including counseling and rehab. When he was 18, he became involved with a messed-up 14-year-old girl who used drugs, alcohol and sex to get her way.

A year ago, my nephew's family moved out of state, but last fall he reconnected ...Read more

An Exit Strategy

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I have been married to my husband for 34 years. He's been emotionally and verbally abusive for the whole 34.

He hit me a few times when we first got married (he was physically and verbally abused as a child), but he hasn't hit me since then. However, he's very bossy and controlling. I can't go visit anybody without his approval. ...Read more

Couple at odds over homeless mother

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My spouse, one of the most caring and genuine people I've ever met, has been inviting his elderly homeless mother into our house for meals, and on occasion, to bathe or do laundry. This happens a few times a month, typically during the day. He works from home. I work elsewhere.

We live a comfortable life in a large city, and she's ...Read more

Standing Up To Bullying In-Laws

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

I have been married for over 30 years and throughout the marriage, my in-laws have made fun of my interests and certain traits of my personality under the guise of teasing. I have never spoken up and defended myself against these comments and neither has my husband.

Only recently, I have been able to better articulate to my ...Read more

Grandpa Foils Kids' Vegetarian Diet With Fast Food Chicken

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been a vegetarian for 12 years. My husband has been one on and off for five years. I thought our children, 7 and 3, had never had meat in their lives.

I recently found out that my father-in-law has been feeding them chicken nuggets from fast food. I was, and still am, very upset about it. It has been six months and I haven't ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 2/17/2017

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I have two daughters, ages 5 and 2. My in-laws favor the older girl. They buy her more presents, give her more money and pay way more attention to her than to her sister. They almost seem obsessed with her. As soon as she walks in the door, they grab her and make her sit next to them on the sofa for the entire visit.

If they give ...Read more

Declining Relationship With Daughter

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My ex-husband was emotionally, verbally and physically abusive, and he was a womanizer from the very beginning. So I divorced him in the 1980s; I then kept custody of our daughter.

All was good between my daughter and me for 10 years -- before my ex managed to work his way back into my life with his usual charm. I really thought ...Read more

Daughter juggles relationship with two mothers

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am a 37-year-old woman who was adopted at the age of 6. My adoptive mother, "Jane," encouraged me to find my biological mom, "Kate," after Jane had recently connected with her biological family (she was also adopted). I reconnected with Kate four years ago.

Mom quickly became very upset about the developing relationship between Kate...Read more