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Millennials are a cultural infrastructure, like an older overpass everyone depends on, but it's starting to carry more weight than it was originally designed to hold. We're trying to move things forward as we absorb tension from both directions. And increasingly, this generation is being asked to adapt to a world we did not build, as parts of it...Read more

Dear Readers: Wishing all the mothers out there a Happy Mother's Day. Mother's Day can be beautiful, but it can also be complicated. For some, it means flowers on the table, handmade cards, little hands carrying breakfast to bed and adult children calling just to say, "Thank you." For others, it can stir up grief, disappointment, distance or ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: While I love visiting my son, daughter-in-law and grandchildren, I'm uncomfortable because their home is so untidy. I have offered many times to help with the laundry, dishes, picking up toys and even cleaning. They always say no. They say it's their home and I'm not there to do chores.

They know I enjoy cleaning and organizing and ...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: My daughter has been having trouble getting pregnant. She and her husband have been trying for two years now. They have been to many doctors with no luck. I feel so bad that she is struggling, especially because both of her sisters have been able to have children. I can see how much she wants to be a mother, and it hurts me that ...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: Every morning, I pick up my son's neighborhood friend and drive them both to school on my way to work. My son's friend is an exemplary young man -- polite and respectful in all ways except one.

He eats his breakfast in my backseat each morning -- unfortunately, in a way that allows us to hear his chewing and smacking of lips,...Read more

Dear Annie: I'm devastated. My oldest and dearest friend of 50 years visited me recently. We had a good day together, and everything seemed normal.

A few hours after she left, I found a letter she left in my bathroom. It said some very hurtful things -- that our friendship was toxic and she was walking away. She's blocked me from calling or ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: I have been medically retired for three years. My husband, who has always been a stay-at-home dad, is now on Social Security and is home with me. He has a variety of interests and is healthy and able to get around more than I am.

Earlier in our marriage, I had a cat, "Miss Kitty," who was my companion and whom I adored. She would ...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: Last weekend, I went to a gathering at my friendÕs house. While there, one of the people present asked how IÕve been, since she'd heard I was going through a rough time. I must have looked confused, because she proceeded to share intimate details about a rough patch I experienced with my ex. This is a woman IÕve met maybe ...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I heard this anecdote in college and a couple of times in the years since then: An applicant goes to a job interview. There is a piece of crumpled paper on the floor of the interviewer's office, not far from a trash can. This a test: Anyone who doesn't stop to pick up the trash and dispose of it will not be hired because they ...Read more

Dear Annie: My dad is turning 73 next month, and my mom is throwing this big party for him. She is begging me to come, but my parents live across the country -- a six-hour plane ride. I work full time and have two kids under 5. My family only takes a trip like this once or twice a year, and if I'm really honest with myself, I don't want to ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: My brothers and I loved our father. He was an alcoholic until he was 37. After he stopped drinking, we became the best of friends. He was both mother and father to me, and I was so proud of him.

Dad remarried 33 years later to a woman I can only describe as diabolical. At first, "Selma" was full of compliments and smiles toward us. ...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: I stole my neighborÕs dog. HeÕs asking for the dog back, but I told him no. To add context to the situation, my neighbor has been mistreating this dog since he first got him over a year ago. The dog is too thin, his fur is unkempt and to top it all off, his owner leaves him outside all year round. We live in Michigan, and the ...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: During the weekends, my partner and I will be out in the yard, toiling away at various landscaping and home improvement projects, and sometimes our neighbors are out doing the same.

I have no issues with any of our neighbors, but here's where my partner and I disagree: He will go over to the fence and have a lengthy chat with...Read more

Dear Annie: I am the grandmother of two. My almost-3-year-old granddaughter told me she does not love her "Uncle Dave." I asked her why and she said because he tickles her. Her parents, my son and his wife, push their kids to "give hugs" upon visiting and leaving friends and relatives.

I mentioned this to my daughter-in-law, and she seemed to...Read more

DEAR ABBY: I'm a 60-year-old man. I have a close female friend who is 20 years younger. We see each other just about every day and call each other to talk about our day. We have supper together just about every night. The only thing we don't have is a romance. I have strong feelings for her and want to tell her how I feel, but I'm worried that ...Read more