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Understanding Narcissism

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am writing in response to the letter from "Concerned Care-Daughter," who said she was approaching caregiver burnout. It sounds to me like she is very empathic, and her older sister may have some narcissist traits. Narcissistic traits include being dismissive of other people's points of view and being very controlling.

My mother ...Read more

Family fallout affects legacy

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My mother and younger sister have had a strained relationship since we were kids. They both fall into some pretty toxic behaviors, and refuse to acknowledge or apologize for their intentionally hurtful behavior, instead preferring to view themselves solely as the innocent victim in all of their fallouts.

Recently, they had another big...Read more

New Girlfriend Nixes Time Spent With Kids And Ex-Wife

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm recently divorced. We have two wonderful children ages 6 and 11. I try to spend as much time with them as possible because it's important to me, even if it means spending time with my ex-wife.

The woman I am dating is also divorced. She has a bad relationship with her ex and doesn't think I should spend any time with my ex, even ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Fed Up in a Lonely Home, Blow It Out Your Ear

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I've been on antidepressant and bipolar medication for 12 years. The problem is, I feel I am being overmedicated. I want to sleep all day. I am also legally deaf. I live with my parents because I am unable to drive. My depression and resulting destructive spiral caused my grades to go south in college, which has interfered with my ...Read more

Wandering Eye Worrying Wife

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I would love to hear your comments on my situation. My husband, "Craig," is an attentive, considerate and truly loving partner. The one quality that causes me to lose sleep is this: He is in his late 70s, yet he enjoys the attention of young women, ranging in age from their 20s to their 60s. When he and I spend time alone, we get ...Read more

Café waiter is stung by online reviews

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I work in a small cafe. We serve a lot of visitors from out of town, have a good reputation and good reviews online, and are often very busy.

Lately, I have been feeling anxious about going to work because we have received some very negative reviews on TripAdvisor over what are minor issues. We have also had customers openly yell at ...Read more

Turn About Is Fair Play For Friend Using Friend

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have a friend who lived in my home most of the time for about six years. During that period, she rented out rooms in her house. She paid her bills, and I paid mine, but I covered her living off me. At the time, it didn't bother me much because I could afford it, although I would have preferred to save that money.

I have since sold ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Moving On Without Him

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I am 74, slim and in perfect health. For the past six years, I have been living part time with "Fabio," my 81-year-old Italian boyfriend. I have supported him through lung cancer and other medical problems. Now he has decided he needs someone 60 or younger to entertain him.

A year ago, Fabio secretly joined a singles group. He ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Miss Her, Not Him

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I was in a long-distance relationship with "Jerry" for six years. He frequently spoke about commitment, but when he still wasn't ready to do anything after all that time, I broke things off. That was a month ago.

Although our breakup wasn't particularly acrimonious, it has been difficult emotionally. I used to spend summers with ...Read more

What to Say (Or Not Say) to Someone Who Is Grieving

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: A close friend's father died suddenly two months ago, and she's been distant ever since. We're relatively young, and this is my first experience having a close friend lose a parent. I'm not sure what to say to her. I hate seeing her in pain. I've tried to tell her that she's strong, but she shrugs it off. What do you say to offer ...Read more

Elder is in a jam after surrendering her car

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: One of my best friends just moved to a senior housing community after her husband died. She is 78 and in pretty good health.

Her daughter decided that she should give up her car since where she is living, she could just take Uber or a cab.

The place where she lives also has a van that takes people shopping, etc.

I think the daughter...Read more

Retail Worker Still Smarts After Customer's Criticism

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I work retail and have bipolar disorder. (I have been stable for nine years.) A few Christmases ago, a customer called me hateful because I wished her a Merry Christmas. (She doesn't come into the store anymore.) My manager and co-workers explained that she was in a bad mood that day, and it wasn't my fault.

Due to my illness, I am ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Doesn't know why her not liking sex is a problem

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I have been married for two years to a man I love, and we have a new baby daughter. I should be happy, but I am not.

Annie, I do not like sex. I didn't like it on my wedding night, and I don't like it now. I was raised in the Catholic Church, and sex before marriage is a sin. My husband respected my wishes. So how is it that just ...Read more

Sick of Living in Hoarder House

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My wife does not work outside the home. We have hired help to take care of the house cleaning and yard work. She cooks sometimes but more often she buys prepared food. She does not do my laundry. She does not pay our bills. There are not many demands on her time.

My wife is a hoarder. With a great deal of effort, I've been able to...Read more

House-sitting job reveals messy problem

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My partner and I are currently house and dog sitting for my parents.

We asked our friend to watch our own house while we are gone.

We just moved into this house recently. We managed to clean the house up and make it presentable, except for the kitchen. We ran out of time and left clean dishes in the dishwasher and some dirty dishes ...Read more

Moving In Together Becomes A Roadblock In Relationship

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been dating a great guy for two years. We each have two kids from a previous marriage. I am still legally married (separated almost three years) and am in the process of divorcing. My ex is stubborn and vindictive. He's dragging this whole thing out for no good reason other than to spite me.

I brought up the issue of moving in...Read more

Do-it-Yourselfer Running out of Energy

You know how some women love a project? A closet to do over, a friend to make over, a bathroom to remodel. Well, Olivia was one of those nonstop do-it-yourselfers. But it her case, the project wasn't a room or a house. It was men.

"I have straightened up, molded, educated, reformed, enlightened and motivated my last nine serious boyfriends," ...Read more

Grateful and Gracious

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: Our best friend's son just got married in July. We gave them a generous check as a gift at the beginning of June when we saw the son and his fiancee at dinner. We were not going to be attending the wedding later in the month due to a prior engagement.

The thing is, we have never received a thank-you note, text or email. Should we ...Read more

Young adult must keep debt, and dad, at bay

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I'm 23 years old and currently in a lot of debt. I've been doing my best to pay it off.

For the last year, I've held a well-paying job. However, my dad is constantly curious about how much money I have.

I loaned him $1,200 nine months ago. He said that he just needed a little help with some bills.

How my parents handle their bills ...Read more

Dinner Out Is Unwelcome Gift For Couple On Restricted Diets

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My companion of many years and I are retired and live a few hours away from some of his family. When one of them plans a visit, she always insists on taking us out for a meal. She doesn't ask if we would like to eat out but rather commands it. Then she insists on paying for the meal.

I enjoy cooking and visiting with family during ...Read more