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Man believes ‘affair baby’ will ruin his life

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

I’m ashamed to admit I made the classic mistake of having a brief, midlife-crisis affair. I love my wife and family and quickly realized I couldn’t risk it all for a fling. Before I could end it, though, the woman I was seeing got pregnant and the result has been nothing but pain.

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An Old Flame

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: In December, I went to a holiday house party, and most of the people in the crowd were my old friends from college (class of 1979). I hadn't seen some of these people in 25 years or more. The hostess pulled out her giant photo album, and there they were, several pictures of my favorite ex-girlfriend and me having the time of our ...Read more

Child's flying phobia has family staying home

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My husband and I have two boys, ages 7 and 4.

The 7-year-old is a great traveler, but the last time we flew on a plane, when he was 5, our older son completely freaked out. I think the sound of the engine and the motion of the takeoff and landing scared him.

He was fine once we were in the air, but to this day he says that he never ...Read more

Freeloading Nephew Needs To Get Help And Get Going

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My husband's nephew, Jacob, is 25 and always hanging around our house. He has had a hard time over the last four years. First, his mom committed suicide. Two years later his dad died in his sleep.

My husband and I told Jacob we would be there when he needed advice about things. Well, he recently broke up with his longtime girlfriend,...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 2/23/2017

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: Last April, I moved into an apartment with one of my best friends. We get along great except for one thing: her cats.

"Renee" was born with no sense of smell. She's normally very organized except when it comes to the animals. She forgets to clean the litterbox because she can't smell it, so I have to remind her constantly. The ...Read more

British woman suspects she married an ‘arse’

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Hello, Carolyn:

I’m from the U.K. I’m married to a man who is a self-professed arrogant liar. He’s proud of it. I am not.

We have been together for 20 years.

He has joined a professional networking site and sometimes he deletes his computer history but now and again I guess he forgets. I’ve always had my suspicions. He has checked ...Read more

Worried About a Soldier

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am 13 years old, and I have a problem that I am too embarrassed to talk about with anyone at home or school.

My stepbrother is 19 years old, and he enlisted in the Army after he graduated from high school. I don't know why I feel this way, but I am scared to death that something bad is going to happen to him. Sometimes it keeps ...Read more

Toxic family member manipulates matriarch

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: Without going into lengthy detail, we have been dealing with a bad relative for at least five years. We have constantly dealt with their inappropriate behavior. It has gotten to the point now that we don't even want to deal with this person anymore, but if we cut ties, they twist stories around and make us look bad.

This person cries ...Read more

Daughter's Identity As Asexual Is Not Welcomed By Her Mom

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have recently started disclosing to close friends and family that I am asexual (someone who experiences no sexual attraction to any person). For the most part they have been supportive, but my mother and one of my friends are having trouble accepting it. I have told them I do not want children and that I am repulsed by the thought ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 2/22/2017

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My husband and I were both widowed before meeting. We are now 70 and have been happily married for six years. We both have grown children.

Everything is good in our blended family except for my son's wife. "Stacy" has been a thorn in my side from the day they married 20 years ago. My former husband and I always managed to keep her...Read more

Deciding whether or not to separate

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

My husband wants to separate/divorce because of many issues that we have. He feels they are mostly my fault.

I’m not perfect but usually I only react badly if he gets angry at something I didn’t even register, or if he insists he knows what I mean or how I feel, etc., when I’m ...Read more

Respect for Time

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I have a sister-in-law who always has spur-of-the-moment birthday parties for her children -- usually just giving us all one day's notice. They are active in school activities and sports. All of these activities have schedules planned weeks in advance, but my sister-in-law's excuse is that the parties have to be "squeezed in" when ...Read more

Victimized granddaughter seeks compensation

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am a 23-year-old female. Recently, my grandfather (my mother's father) died. He and I were estranged due to his ongoing molestation of me and my cousin, culminating in him raping me when I was 11. He was never punished, but I had no further contact with him.

I have been promised an inheritance after his death, which I am really ...Read more

Wife Whose Husband Fights Dirty May Need A Clean Break

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: Because I had a promiscuous past prior to getting married, it was understandable that my husband and I have gone through some rough patches. It's been three years since our wedding, and he still can't let it go sometimes. A recent argument just escalated into his calling me a whore and stupid. We have a beautiful little girl together,...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 2/21/2017

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married for 30 years. She has a son from her first marriage who lives in another state. We haven't been to "Keith's" house in four years because my wife has some health problems that keep her from traveling. Her relationship with Keith has always been turbulent.

Keith and his wife are in the process of ...Read more

Sister-in-law is the queen of unsolicited advice

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

I love my sister-in-law, but she is the queen of unsolicited advice. Any conversation about my work, our house, conflicts with friends, or dealing with our kids, if it includes anything relating to a problem or disappointment -- even if I have expressed no hint of being in doubt about ...Read more

Unwanted Tunes

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I go to a small school, with only a handful of people in my graduating year. We've all known one another since kindergarten and first grade, and we all spend our time talking and interacting as a group.

Sometimes at the lunch table -- or when a conversation dies down and we're sitting in comfortable silence -- one of my friends, "...Read more

One-night stand brings on ethical dilemma

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am a 20-year-old woman who has been in a two-year relationship with a guy who has been my good friend for seven years.

Last summer, we were apart for three months when I moved across the country for an internship.

Things were rough, I was very lonely and I had a drunken one-night stand.

I didn't care about the person, I was just ...Read more

Angry Daughter-In-Law May Want More Free Baby Sitting

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My daughter-in-law is extremely jealous of the close relationship I have with my daughter. If I spend time with my daughter and grandson, she gets mad at me and keeps my grandchildren from me. I need advice on how to handle her. I get her children almost every weekend. I work a full-time job, but she feels like I should have them more...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 2/20/2017

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I have two grown children, both married with kids. My youngest, "Carrie," has a 14-year-old daughter who has been seeing a boy for a year.

The other day, we were visiting Carrie, and my granddaughter and her boyfriend got very cozy at the dining room table while we were eating dinner. They started kissing and making out in front ...Read more