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Behavior Changes Causing Neighborhood Conflict

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am a single senior woman. I am very close to a neighbor family. I love them, and they tell me they love me as if I were their family. The older stepfather lives with them. He and I are close in age. We have been great friends. Neither one of us is interested in a romantic relationship with each other or anyone else.

But over the...Read more

Sister dynamic could be about birth order

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My family tries to be close, but when it comes to me (the youngest) and my oldest sister (eight years older) -- we just don't click.

Despite being born to the same people and raised in the same household, we have very different views, opinions and beliefs about nearly everything.

I don't recall having a good relationship as children;...Read more

Daughter-In-Law Is Barred From Family After Robbery

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: Our son is married to a beautiful girl, Debra. Several years ago, while we were away on vacation, she entered our home without our consent. (Our son has a key to our house.) She took several expensive, very personal and sentimental items, and we have no idea what she did with them because she denies doing it.

Abby, we have absolute ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 9/19/2019

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I am a proud father of two young children, who both mind and respect me. I know that kids get in trouble. We were all kids once. The problem is, I am the disciplinarian at home, and I wish my wife and her mother did a little more. They can't seem to handle any of it.

My mother-in-law babysits a lot, and I get calls at work for ...Read more

Is this a wedding or an homage to groom's alma mater?

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Hi, Carolyn:

I got engaged last month (yay!), and my fiance and I are starting to plan our wedding. He cares more about most of the details and so is taking the lead. I'm OK with that, but it's starting to look like he is planning a wedding that reflect the things that are important to him, ...Read more

True and (Sometimes) False

Life Advice / Single File /

DEAR SUSAN: Your "true or false" quiz really has me thinking!

You ask us to respond to the statement "Men and women cannot be friends; they're too dissimilar." I find that to be both true and false. Men I've already had a relationship with can continue our friendship but at arm's length. The emotional closeness I feel with female friends simply...Read more

The Best Has Yet to Come

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am a very lucky 67-year-old. I have a job I enjoy every day, a happy marriage, wonderful children and grandchildren, and my health is excellent. I also know that, life being what it is, I am likely to be dead or at least confined to an assisted living center in a decade. I've had a great life and am ready for death, if that is ...Read more

Dad's drinking leads to daughter's escape

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: When my daughter was three, I divorced her father -- in part due to his violent temper.

Now at 13 years old, she, too, is afraid of her father's temper, particularly when he is drinking alcohol.

She just revealed to me that on several occasions during her visitation with him she has asked a friend's parents to pick her up and sleep ...Read more

Moving To A New Community Brings Out Social Insecurities

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I are moving to a retirement community where we won't know a soul. I hate leaving our friends and the relationships we have formed here. I have never been especially outgoing or good at making small talk, but I know I will have to to fit in.

I believe you have written something for people who have this challenge. Can I...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 9/18/2019

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I am a 55-year-old woman, the youngest of three. When I married 30 years ago, we moved away for my husband's job. Over the years, we have returned for summer visits, especially since our daughters are close in age to their cousins.

We always have made it a priority to attend all important family events, often at great expense. Last ...Read more

It's high time to stand up to friend's temper

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

My friend "Kathy" is like a sister to me and would do anything for me. Her only problem is that she is really impulsive and has a bad temper.

Last weekend, my boyfriend of seven months, "Dan," went to dinner with a friend from law school who just so happens to be a woman. I didn't go because I knew they'd have more fun just ...Read more

I Second That Emoticon

I know some men refuse to use emojis because they think they're silly or cheesy. But I have to say, when men use emojis, they make me feel good. Is it crazy that a heart or a rose emoji makes me feel like a man's more interested? -- Wondering

It's easy to misinterpret tone in texts. However, emojis are basically the cartoon cousins of ...Read more

Angry Fred Ruins Friendly Gatherings

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: There is a family in our congregation, "Fred" and "Wilma," who have two kids who are the same age as ours. My wife is friends with Wilma, and the kids all get along well. The problem is Fred. He's a fat jerk. We've known them for six years, and I work at the same company as him. However, I got promoted faster thanks to my working ...Read more

Sexting situation unsettles spouse

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I just found out that my husband was sexting with my sister, "A."

From what I was told, nothing else happened, other than that they sent each other inappropriate pictures.

My entire family knew about this. No one told me until recently that I was having problems with my husband. I didn't even know.

It is hard for me to keep a secret...Read more

Mom Wants To End Daughter's Sleepovers With Her Boyfriend

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My 40-year-old daughter, Marta, and I are widows. I'm retired, and my daughter has a small home-based business. She and her three children live with me. Because the cost of living is high in our city, living together has allowed us to pool our resources and co-parent my grandkids.

Marta has had a boyfriend for a year and a half. I ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 9/17/2019

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married more than 40 years. He rarely calls me by my name and never uses terms of endearment. He just talks at me. I've put up with his emotional neglect and his forcing me to have sex when I didn't want to. He's had so many affairs, I have lost count. He has refused to do any repairs to our home except for...Read more

After the wedding, husband's interest wanes

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

I got married a few years ago and ever since, my husband seems to have a waning interest in me. He has some other issues going on -- trying to change careers, worried about health, general anxiety -- but I and our relationship always get a back burner.

He doesn't want to spend ...Read more

Can No Longer Hear the Call

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: Having been a registered nurse for the past 40 years, I have seen many changes in health care. I believe that nursing is a calling and not just a career. In my initial, youthful bliss, I took great joy in helping people in their hour of need. Patients and families were grateful and appreciative for every little thing that was done ...Read more

Family man seeks same

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I'm a 36-year-old gay man. I have always had an interest in starting a family.

I have a good career, which could be part of why I've been single for roughly 10 years now.

The issue that I run into is that I struggle to find a "peer" to date.

In the past (and recently) I've dated professionals five to 20 years older than I, but I ...Read more

New Wife's Wardrobe Doesn't Measure Up To Cousins' Taste

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My cousin recently married a lovely girl, someone he'd been dating for a couple of years. Our whole family loves her, and she's always been very sweet to us.

She's very intelligent and kind, but the issue is her wardrobe. She's pretty but refuses to wear nice clothes. Instead she wears baggy, boring clothes. Our family is fashion-...Read more