Dear Amy: I cheated with someone who was also cheating on his partner. I left my partner; he stayed with his. I went to great lengths to change my life for him. He did not.
I got worn out by the wait (four years) and couldn't take the emotional pain. Six months ago, I ended the relationship.
I am in therapy, which has helped me. I'm trying to ...Read more
Dear Amy: I had a baby daughter four months ago. My in-laws called three days before Christmas to tell us that they all had colds, but insisted that we come over anyway because the entire family would be there.
My pediatrician said that the baby is fine to go out in public at her age, and we have been in many public places and attended large ...Read more
Dear Amy: I've been married for 26 years. My husband and I are in counseling for marital problems. I struggle with self-esteem and shame.
My husband and I clicked immediately when we met. I thought I had found a man who loved me and didn't judge me. We married a year later.
Three months after our wedding, everything changed. One night I tried ...Read more
Dear Amy: My husband is 56 and I am 31. During the five years we've been together, he has lost countless friends, family and acquaintances.
He's a union rep, so he knows many people, including retirees, and goes to several funerals a month. The hardest ones are obviously for his close friends or their children whom he watched grow up. Some have...Read more
Dear Amy: I have a problem with my brother's wife. She has always been rude to me, my siblings and our parents.
I have never tolerated her rudeness, so she usually just avoids me. The other day, she said something very nasty to me. I very calmly and firmly told her that I would not allow her to speak to me like that. She got angry, but seemed ...Read more
Dear Amy: Over the holidays my wife and two young children were with my wife's family (her mom, dad, sister, brother-in-law and their two children).
My sister-in-law insisted that we order take-out instead of having a home-cooked meal. We ordered in, and she paid for the meal.
Days later my father-in-law suggested that he and I should give her...Read more
Dear Amy: I am a 57-year-old man dating a 49-year-old woman. We've been together for over a year.
She is beautiful, smart, sexy, and tons of fun. However, she never puts her phone down.
No matter what we are doing or where we are, she is texting and answering texts from her teenage children. This goes on, no matter how serious or ...Read more
Dear Amy: I'm a gay male who's been in a relationship with the same man for the last 25 years.
Both of our families have been supportive of our relationship over the years.
During the Christmas holidays, we usually receive Christmas cards from my partner's side of the family with annual letters inside of them.
These letters usually tell ...Read more
Dear Amy: I have a co-worker who has terrible grammar.
Sure, we all make grammar mistakes from time to time, but his is really bad all the time and people are starting to laugh at him or make glances to other team members about it when he makes presentations.
I believe English is his first and only spoken language (we all have our spoken ...Read more
Dear Amy: My sister and I both have young children (I have three kids, age 7 and younger, she has two under age four).
My sister relies heavily on my Mom for child care throughout various times of the year. As such, my parents spend 90 percent more time with her kids than with ours.
My wife and I would like our kids to get more quality time ...Read more
Dear Amy: Over the last couple of months, a close single-mom friend of mine has very nonchalantly mentioned that she'll give her toddler a melatonin supplement before bedtime a few times a month so the toddler won't wake up in the night while my friend is out partying.
In my opinion, using any sort of substance, natural or otherwise, to get ...Read more
Dear Amy: I have a 3-year-old and a 5-year-old. My son (age 3) really acts out when I take him shopping. I find it very stressful and hard to control him. He screams, kicks and bites me when I try to keep him in the cart. If I let him down, he runs and hides from me.
Do you recommend any tactics on how to handle this? My husband works a lot so ...Read more
Dear Amy: My parents were raised dirt-poor. They popped out baby after baby even though they couldn't afford to feed or properly house us. My folks had numerous opportunities to improve our lot in life and passed them all over. Dad was (and is) a coward when it comes to any sort of change -- good or bad.
I remember spending many winter nights ...Read more
Dear Amy: I would like your opinion on something. My son and I always had and still have a normal, loving, good relationship. Fifteen years ago, when he was 25, my son was diagnosed with a brain tumor. At the time, he had been married for two years to his college sweetheart.
I was fortunate enough to get referrals for the best surgeons. The ...Read more
Dear Amy: I am getting married next summer, and have been dealing with a ton of wedding stress.
One of the major contributors to this stress is my mom.
I have tried very hard to be a Bridechilla (instead of a Bridezilla), but I am getting so frustrated I don't know what to do! I wanted to involve my mom in my wedding planning, so I brought her...Read more
Dear Amy: My girlfriend is very sweet and kind. She smokes and consumes way too much sugar by drinking soda. She doesn't like to smoke around me so she often cancels or truncates our time together, so I only get to see her for maybe an hour or two at a time. She does have a stressful job, but her lifestyle certainly doesn't help. She is often ...Read more
Dear Amy: I've been friends with a guy since high school. We're now in our early 30s. Within the span of a year, my friend met someone, they moved in together, got married and had a child. I thought they were moving too fast at every step of the way because they were panicking. Being in their 30s scared them.
I talked to my friend at each event...Read more
Dear Amy: I am one of the many who have found a half-sibling through DNA testing. The birth mother never told my father that she was pregnant, and the child was put up for adoption over 50 years ago.
I told my dad about this and he reacted by getting angry and stopping the conversation by telling me to not have contact with the new half-sibling...Read more
Dear Amy: I have eight roommates (five men and three women), all living together in a large house.
All of the roommates rent separately from a landlord; we are not friends sharing a house as friends (the rent is very cheap, and so is the landlord).
The things that have never been resolved over the years are primarily people taking out the ...Read more
Dear Amy: Several years ago, I loaned $4,000 to a woman. She and I were in a romantic relationship, which had just ended. Our relationship was a positive one, but I blame myself for not becoming more involved in the lives of her children.
The money was used to fund a lawsuit against her former husband. The suit was ultimately unsuccessful.