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Mother wonders why son's girlfriend stays away

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My son has dated the same girl for four years. She is white, while we are black.

I am not prejudiced at all. I have invited her to our home many times. She has only come to our house once.

My house is not dirty or messy. She just never comes to our home -- he always goes to her house.

I am single, and raised my son and his brother ...Read more

Overindulged daughters suffer from affluenza

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am in a relationship with a man who has two daughters, ages 9 and 10. At the end of his marriage, he and his wife filed for bankruptcy, partly due to her shopping addiction.

Her spending doesn't appear to have changed, and I'm worried about how it's affecting her children, now and in the future.

She immediately buys them everything...Read more

Husband loses wife to Snapchatting soulmate

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My wife and I have been together for 15 years. We have three children.

I would describe our marriage as normal; we've gotten into arguments, but things always tend to bounce back to normal after a few days. There has not been any abuse of any kind. Our house is a healthy one.

We agree on all the major topics, such as politics, ...Read more

Red flags of infidelity fly over this household

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My boyfriend and I have lived together for four years. He is in his 20s and I am in my early 30s.

We are working and struggling to get by. I never had any problem trusting him until recently.

He suddenly started hiding his phone and going out more without me. He used to always just leave his phone lying around. I never even looked ...Read more

Family worries about a father's criminal past

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I recently learned that my teenage child has befriended another teen whose father is a convicted criminal. The father is listed on the sex offender database for child pornography and offenses against minors. He also served time for burglary.

I discovered this background when my child received a package in the mail with an out-of-state...Read more

Baby's uncertain parentage affects relationships

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My brother's girlfriend is four months pregnant. She told him that it might be his or one other man's baby. There's no way to tell who the father is, until after the baby is born.

What do I tell my 9-year-old daughter? I don't want my daughter to get excited about a new cousin, and then have to let her down.

If it's my brother's baby...Read more

Baby's uncertain parentage affects relationships

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My brother's girlfriend is F months pregnant. She told him that it might be his or one other man's baby. There's no way to tell who the father is, until after the baby is born.

What do I tell my 9-year-old daughter? I don't want my daughter to get excited about a new cousin, and then have to let her down.

If it's my brother's baby, I...Read more

Reader wonders how to help a depressed friend

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I have a very close friend who is extremely depressed. She is negative about every aspect of her life: marriage, career and self-image. She posts negative memes on Facebook about how ugly she is, how depressed she is and how bad life is.

She is on medication and is seeing a licensed therapist. She is also extremely overweight. None of...Read more

Parents worry about contact with unvaccinated child

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I'm about to have my first child. My partner and I are very excited!

My brother and his partner have a young child. They have chosen not to vaccinate.

While I am not looking to get into a vaccine debate with them, I have some concerns about letting their young child come into close proximity with my newborn.

We plan to vaccinate our...Read more

Mr. Wonderful sends live-in love to the guest room

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am a retired woman in my 70s. I met a wonderful guy online. He said his wife of 20 years had recently left him -- she moved out and he kept the house.

He was sad and angry about the break-up.

After corresponding for several weeks and my visiting him, I made the decision to move in with him, even though I live 1,300 miles away. This...Read more

Baby shower leads to pilfered leftovers

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I recently helped my sister give a baby shower for her daughter-in-law, "Linda." Linda's mother and sister were on the invitation as co-hosts.

The shower was at my sister's house, and she provided the food (about 10 platters), decorations, flowers, etc. Linda's mother brought one food item for about 12 people, but she knew we were ...Read more

Spouse is disappointed in family's reaction to cancer

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: Recently, my wife was diagnosed with cancer. We began daily radiation and weekly chemotherapy treatments. We are both self-employed, and so we have some flexibility in our scheduling, but it has been a lot to handle.

My wife's mother and her family have been enormously supportive. We have lots of friends who are there for us, too.

My...Read more

Stepfather prevents mother-daughter communication

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My mom and stepdad recently invited themselves to visit my husband and me. Since they live several states away, most of our communication is done by email or talking on the phone.

Each call is answered by Mom, who immediately puts the phone on speaker, so he can listen in.

They share a cellphone and email account. He often deletes or...Read more

Mom's plans to be a landlord end in tears

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My husband and I (and our two children) are relocating. We have spent the past 18 months researching a really beautiful mountain community.

We were approved for a rental property there, but it fell through just as we were packing the moving truck.

Luckily, my (relatively well-off) mother heard about it, and out of the blue, she ...Read more

Widower wants ex-wife to be his caregiver

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am an 85-year-old widower. My wife died three months ago.

I live with a "live-in" assistant who provides meals and general assistance to me. This person also has a job in real estate.

I have two grown children from a previous marriage, and three adult stepchildren from my deceased wife.

Now, I want to ask my ex-wife to move in ...Read more

Secrets and lies are tearing this marriage apart

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I recently found out that my husband has been secretly smoking during our entire 16-year marriage.

I felt such a betrayal of trust. He is now taking medication to help him quit.

I decided to try and forgive him in order to make our marriage work.

Soon after, I found out that he had made flirting comments to a friend on Facebook.

I ...Read more

Inherited family ring causes big stink

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: Almost 30 years ago, less than a month before his death, my father gave me a ring that has been in our family for generations.

Dad was terminally ill and had asked me to take the ring for an appraisal, perhaps to sell.

When I went to his room to get the ring, it wasn't there. He went looking for it (I was with him at the time) and ...Read more

Parents' sideline coaching is way out of bounds

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My 15-year-old son plays in a local baseball league.

Recently his team has been short some players so they've asked a younger player, "Benjamin," to "play up." Ben is 11, and a very good player.

I've been sitting with this child's parents during the game.

Every time Ben does something good, he comes over to his parents and they make...Read more

Adult seeks to heal from childhood trauma

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I was a victim of sexual abuse, starting when I was 4 years old. I was first raped when I was 7. As a result, I (to my frustration and shame) became very promiscuous as a young teen and into adulthood. I have allowed myself to be abused physically, emotionally and sexually my entire life.

I have battled drug addiction and shame for, ...Read more

Single mom is in a New York state of mind

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am a single mom to a 14-month-old child. I'm also a college student, currently residing in an apartment attached to my dad's house. I am thankful to be living rent-free, but I'm miserable.

I recently came back from a vacation to New York City and, as always, I loved it! But I get depressed every time I come home. I have dreams of ...Read more

 

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