Dear Amy: I am a 35-year-old woman. I had my first child with my boyfriend eight months ago.
We were not planning on having a child together (we had only been casually dating for three months prior to the pregnancy), but he has done an amazing job in stepping up.
He does not want to get married or have any more kids.
I feel conflicted about ...Read more
Dear Amy: A friend recently returned from abroad. He is struggling to find a full-time job, so we let him stay at our place for a month and a half (rent-free) while we were away. We did this as a favor to him.
When we returned, we realized he had damaged a piece of furniture by using a homemade cleaning solution on it. He also turned a (very ...Read more
Dear Amy: My friend, “Cynthia,” and I have been close for 24 years. For most of that time, we have met for lunch once a week (when possible). We are both women over 60.
I have a 22-year-old granddaughter, who is gay.
Cynthia has decided that I am "too accepting" of gayness in general and has told me that she can no longer be my friend.
Dear Amy: I am a 47-year-old woman. My husband, “Bart,” (age 50) and I have been together for eight years. Bart is a firefighter in a large city.
Bart has several tattoos on this left arm (a “sleeve”).
His tattoos are tasteful and well thought out.
Whenever he considers a new tattoo, he takes his ideas and rough sketch to his tattoo ...Read more
Dear Amy: I am feeling anxious about a return to pre-pandemic normality and am hoping you can help me find effective ways of navigating.
My anxiety is not about health precautions like mask wearing, which I believe you have already addressed.
I am more concerned that we have all been apart for a year, with widely varying pandemic experiences, ...Read more
Dear Amy: My husband is taking a company “buyout” this summer, thus retiring from his job.
The concern I have is that he is nosy! He has done things in the past that have upset me and my children (he is their stepdad).
He seems to think he is entitled to go through their rooms and poke through their things, under the guise of cleaning.
Dear Amy: A few years ago my cousin was absolutely entrenched in doing my father’s side of the family's ancestral history (our fathers were brothers).
He even went to our paternal grandfather's native country in Europe to continue his search. While there, he located many distant relatives.
Then he did his own DNA test. He did not share the ...Read more
Dear Amy: My oldest daughter (age 26) is engaged to be “married.” After postponing the “wedding” due to COVID, they have picked a new date.
In a casual conversation with my other daughter (age 24), I learned that the prospective bride and groom do not actually plan on getting legally married. They have found someone who has agreed to ...Read more
Dear Amy: My wife’s brother recently died. A couple of weeks after the funeral, his daughter (our niece) received a letter from a half-brother that she was unaware of. The letter was addressed to her recently deceased father, from a man (his biological son), who was trying to find information about him after the death of his own adoptive ...Read more
Dear Amy: My husband and I recently had our DNA tested.
We knew people can uncover unexpected relationships, but I wish we had thought about how to cope with this before we took our tests.
Amy, both of us have discovered that we have half-siblings.
My father had two children with another woman while I was in junior high.
My husband's father ...Read more
Dear Amy: I'm a woman in my mid-30s. My husband and I are indecisive about having kids. I’m not much of a “kid person.” He is definitely better with kids than I am.
I got along with school-age and older children well until a few years ago, when relatives on both sides started pressuring us, declaring that we were selfish or missing out on...Read more
Dear Amy: My husband and I recently welcomed our first child.
On my side of the extended family, our baby son (“Samuel”) is the fifth grandchild, but on my husband's side, he is the first.
I am trying to be sensitive to the excitement and extra attention a first grandchild receives.
My mother-in-law, “Joan," has been to our house for a ...Read more
Dear Amy: I have had a close friend for 16 years. We worked together, and she and I both went through nasty divorces, which was a bonding experience. We have sons similar in age. We both got lucky and found love again.
However, over the last several years, things have shifted. She is a chronic last-minute canceler, always with a good excuse: ...Read more
Dear Amy: My fiancé, “Albert,” talks nonstop. He will talk about any and every subject, regardless of the situation or the audience.
He doesn't care if anyone is interested in what he is saying.
He will tell endless stories — it is just one story after another.
The subject doesn’t matter. It doesn't matter if he has told the same ...Read more
Dear Amy: My wife's best friend recently went through a period where she was unhappy in her marriage.
She began sexting with willing male partners and then sharing some of the pictures she had received with my wife.
I know about this because my wife asked me to fix the Wi-Fi on her phone.
While I was working on her phone, her friend texted ...Read more
Dear Amy: I am married to a wonderful, kind, and generous man.
We have a very good marriage. We've never had a real argument or nagged each other about anything.
I am worried about his weight, however.
He had lost a lot of weight, but now he's regaining it.
This is because he has a glass of wine just before bed.
I don't mind his daily glass...Read more
Dear Amy: My brother and I were very close growing up. We maintained a good relationship into our 20s. Lately our relationship has become strained.
For his last two birthdays, I have generously treated him to fun and thoughtful experiences. I do this because I love him, and I enjoy being generous.
For my last two birthdays, he did not even ...Read more
Dear Amy: My brother and sister live very close to one another in our hometown.
Until recently, I lived in another state — 2,000 miles away. As siblings, we’ve always been very close.
I recently lost my husband, and after his death I decided to move back home.
My sister tells me that my brother talks behind my back, and my brother tells ...Read more
Dear Amy: My wife doesn't discard anything!
As a result of her habits, our home is totally overfilled with stuff of all sorts.
All the closets are filled to overflowing, with clothing lying on top of everything else.
The pantry is so full that groceries now sit on the floor.
Our dining table has only about one-fourth the space left for us to...Read more
Dear Amy: My father passed away recently, and I was responsible for planning the funeral, during COVID.
In order to minimize everyone’s risk, we chose to hold a church service and a graveside service.
Due to a mix-up with the time for the graveside service, several people who did not feel comfortable going into the church — including our ...Read more