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Sister loses sleep over unethical relationship

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I recently learned that my younger sister is dating a married man. They've been dating for many months.

Of course, he claims that he was never in love with his wife, etc. They have children. She portrays him as the victim, trapped in an unhappy marriage.

They seem to be dating openly. Her friends have met him and their co-workers ...Read more

Sisters ponder forcing elderly mother to move

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My sister and I are having difficulties dealing with our aging mother. Our parents are divorced, and because my sister lives several states away, most of the responsibility falls to me.

My mother lives about an hour from me. She is 79 and lives on her own. We have determined that it would be best that my mother move to an independent ...Read more

Facebook message creates marital mess

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My husband and I have been together for more than 25 years.

Two years ago my husband got a message on his phone while he was driving. He asked me to look at it. I got on his phone and it was a Facebook message from our son. But I also saw another message exchange between my husband and an ex-girlfriend of his from college.

When I ...Read more

It's hard to get rid of guests in Hawaii

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I recently hosted my sibling and their spouse at my home for three days. It had been several years since we'd seen each other. Because I live in Hawaii, we get a lot of, "Hey, I'm coming out there on vacation" from family and friends, with the unspoken hope of staying with us.

My sibling and spouse had come as part of a package tour, ...Read more

Family pleads for less this holiday season

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My husband and I have three beautiful children, ages 10, 3, and 1.

We are blessed with a large family on both sides. They are all incredibly generous, especially at Christmas. They love to give gifts, and we are grateful for their generosity. However, like many families with similarly aged children, we have come to find lately that we...Read more

Can former flames become fast friends?

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I had an intimate relationship with a wonderful man for more than three years.

We met when I hired his company to do a project for me. We developed not only a great personal relationship, but a wonderful working relationship, as well. We have worked successfully together on multiple projects.

He was formally separated from his wife ...Read more

Mother's boyfriend grooms daughter for relationship

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My girlfriend "Wendy" and I have been living together for seven years. She has a daughter, "Ariel," 18, who recently graduated from high school. Ariel and I always got along great, but I liked her more than I liked her mother, and I feel terrible about it.

A few years into our relationship, Wendy started neglecting her health and ...Read more

Father's family values result in estrangement

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am a 50-year-old father of two teen boys. Their mother and I divorced almost 10 years ago. My ex-wife and I are very different -- our most marked difference is in our parenting styles.

I grew up in a large family where I started doing chores by age 8, respected my parents, and was taught to respect not only my elders -- but everyone...Read more

Wife disappoints family with transcontinental birthday

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My son and daughter-in-law seem to have a lovely relationship. They are on the same page in regard to child-rearing, values, etc. However, I feel that my son shoulders more than his share of the relationship. I always thought this was a mutually accepted situation.

Recently my daughter-in-law turned 40. She chose to spend this special...Read more

Fast-food meal isn't so happy for co-workers

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I get along with a male co-worker fairly well, and we go out to lunch at least twice a week.

I have never thought anything of it past a mutual work relationship. He's 12 years older than I am. I am married, and he has been with his significant other for almost nine years.

There is a fast-food spot we go to often that we both love. ...Read more

Interracial dating upsets parents

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am in my early 20s, and have recently started seeing someone from a different race. He and I went to high school together.

He is honestly the best guy I've ever dated. He is honest, funny, sweet, and caring. He treats me wonderfully.

I have always been very private when it comes to my relationships, and have never introduced my ...Read more

Woman wonders if she is being stalked

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I'm 62, and have been single for the past 27 years, with occasional relationships. I'm quite independent and if the relationship was no longer working (for whatever reason), either he or I ended it with not much fanfare involved.

This spring, I met a man who lives only a few blocks away from me.

At first it was working quite well. ...Read more

New stepmother feels attention deficit

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am 44 years old. My common-law husband is 40. I have a 22-year-old son who lives with us, and my husband has an 11-year-old daughter whose custody he shares 50/50 with her mother.

Our relationship is excellent, and we're all adjusting to our new family situation, but I'm having some trouble with how my husband treats me when his ...Read more

New hire struggles with workplace racism

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I recently changed careers. I am a new hire at my place of employment. Most of my co-workers are old enough to be my parents or grandparents, and have been working there for more than 10 years.

I have noticed a clash in personality with most of my co-workers. I am quite reserved and professional, while during breaks and downtime, they...Read more

Mother-in-law refuses day care idea

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My mother-in-law has no tact and no respect.

That being said, she is well-intentioned and kind in her own way. She loves her kids and her grandkids.

Her attitude is that she raised three boys and she knows best. She doesn't care that you're supposed to put babies to sleep on their backs or that you're not supposed to use blankets in ...Read more

Family legacy of abuse visits next generation

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I grew up in a large family that was often abusive and violent (physically and verbally). Most (but not all) of us have tried in adulthood to overcome the behaviors we learned as children. In my therapy, I have determined that the best way for me to keep from getting triggered by upsetting and disruptive people is to stay away from ...Read more

Cousin takes sides in family divorce

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My husband and I were put in the middle of a situation I don't want to be in.

My cousin and I grew up like sisters -- we are very close. In fact, we lived in the same household as teenagers.

My cousin and her husband (who is friends with my husband) are on the verge of divorce. My cousin told me her version of her situation, and her ...Read more

Should mom tell about teen's risky business?

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My 18-year-old daughter and I had dinner with another mother and her daughter recently. We've known one another since the girls were in kindergarten.

The daughters went to different high schools and aren't terribly close, but we still see them on occasion and consider them friends. The mother and I are closer than the girls are.

Both...Read more

Married couple might put a stamp on arguments

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My husband and I have been married for 10 years. We have two wonderful small children and a very busy life. Our problem comes from the way we argue (or the lack of argument, really). He says that I bottle up all of the everyday slights and problems and then explode with complaints that are weeks old and no longer actionable. I admit ...Read more

Parents test drug-taking son

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My husband and I recently found out that our 28-year-old son has been using OxyContin.

He is a college grad, lives on his own and has a home and a good job. We suspected something when, in January, he was in a lot of debt, but although he told us he was doing "something recreationally," he convinced us that he was stopping. We bailed ...Read more

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