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Pot meets kettle when two women tussle for control

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am dating a guy who is close to 50. He has a son (age 11), and a daughter (13).

My kids are grown and on their own.

His ex-wife is very obnoxious and loud. She tries to be very organized, but is a bad communicator.

She still tries to run her ex-husband's life! She sends constant reminders about activities. She was coming into his ...Read more

Expectant parents worry about 'thirdhand' smoke

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My wife and I are expecting our first child. We could not be more excited. Thankfully, both sets of our parents are active in our lives and will be there for our child. However, my mother is a smoker and I am concerned for our child's health.

While she would never smoke around the baby, there is growing concern about the safety of "...Read more

Friend worries about her bestie's unhealthy marriage

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: One of my best and oldest friends is married and expecting her first child with a man I do not like. Typically, I'm only aware of their arguments via her messages, after the fact, so I keep the "two sides to every story" in mind. But the things she reports that he says to her, I just can't justify.

She is in her third trimester now, ...Read more

Gay couple wonders how to respond to neighbors' petty harassment

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I live in a condo building with my girlfriend (we are gay), in a large city. We've lived here for three years.

Our neighbors (a married couple in their 60s or 70s) have been rude and standoffish ever since we moved in. They ignore us when we greet them and typically just glare at us. We've always been considerate neighbors, so they ...Read more

Parents disagree about daughter's speeding offense

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: Our 16-year-old, recently licensed daughter was pulled over today for doing 32 in a 20-mph school zone. She has to enter a four-lane road with heavy traffic and obstructed visibility just below the crest of a hill. She accelerated too fast and was immediately stopped by a cop who had set up a speed trap for people speeding down the ...Read more

Husband gives a hand -- and a beer -- to homeless friend

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: Over the last year, my husband has been watching out for an older homeless man, "Bill," that he sees around his office building each day.

My husband brings him a bag lunch almost every day, and has also given him bags of toiletries, winter supplies and the occasional sweater.

I've been fully supportive, and have helped to pack ...Read more

Siblings want to send artist to life-school

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My brother has worked as a freelance artist (with side gigs, such as teaching) his whole life. He is capable of working hard, and is talented, but due to distractions (volunteer work) and poor choices (he doesn't believe in agents, and refuses overly "commercial" work) he has never supported himself.

My parents have subsidized him, ...Read more

Uncle wonders why family members are ghosting him

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I grew up with two siblings -- a brother and a sister. My brother, his wife and three children lived near our parents. My family and I (wife, two children) lived some distance away. We maintained contact through holiday cards and drop-by visits. Everything was cordial, if not particularly close. In hindsight, all direct interaction ...Read more

Hyper-competent professional bored in her job

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am 35 years old. For the last 10 years, I've been working at the same company, gradually working my way up to senior management. I have a large, high-performing team, and we typically hit all of our department goals. We have a great reputation, and are seen as the team that "gets it done" every single time.

Here's the thing -- my ...Read more

Entire family opts out of destination wedding

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am getting married soon. We chose a destination wedding.

I asked my family and friends in advance of inviting them, and the responses ranged from "Yes!" to "maybe," to "no." I understand not everyone can afford the time or money to get away for a week's vacation and destination wedding.

When it came time to put deposits on the ...Read more

Wife wonders if she should leave 'boring' marriage

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am a 41-year-old woman who has been married to my high school sweetheart for 20 years. We have three beautiful children, ages 18, 16 and 12.

I love my family, but tend to get bored with my husband.

As far as I know, he has been faithful to our marriage, but I, on the other hand, have not been faithful.

I don't know whether to stay...Read more

Dad might skip graduation because of feud with daughter

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I raised my daughter as a single father. She's graduating soon with a master's degree. Even though I'm very proud of her academic success, I'm very disappointed in her other life choices, such as who she lives with, as well as her bad financial decisions.

Two years ago, she got upset because I expressed my disappointment in her bad ...Read more

Mother is worried about children's safety with troubled teen

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am a mother of two young children: a daughter, age 4, and a 1-year-old boy. They currently go to my husband's cousin's house for child care every day. My oldest has been going there for over two years, along with our nephew and niece (who are the same age). Our family member (along with her helpers) provides wonderful care. I know ...Read more

Mother is perennially disappointed in adult son's choices

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am a single mom. My main focus and passion has always been my children.

Yesterday was my birthday and I spent the evening with my oldest son, 31, and his girlfriend. They are fundamentally good kids and I enjoy being with them (for the most part).

However, I am always waiting for the other shoe to drop when it comes to my son.

He ...Read more

Moocher neighbors need solid boundaries

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My much younger sister and her husband recently decided to purchase the home next door to my husband and me.

My husband was not happy about this. He thinks they are "cheap," and "moochers." (They do have that reputation in the family.)

He feels they should've asked us before making the offer on the house next to us.

My husband told ...Read more

Dog bite seems to hurt the whole family

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am the mother of three adult children and grandmother to six.

We usually celebrate holidays, birthdays, etc. together.

On Christmas Eve, my son's 4-year-old was bitten by my daughter's dog, while my son-in-law had the dog on a leash. The child was upset, but his parents handled the situation calmly. He now has a scar...Read more

Family wedding could revive family feud

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My 24-year-old nephew, "Harley," is marrying his longtime girlfriend in September. I don't have children, but if I could pick one for me, it would be him.

I have been estranged from both of his parents for many years. His mother is my sister, and she's divorced from his father. I haven't talked to my sister in over five years. I did ...Read more

Woman lets men down gently, but would like a response

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am a 24-year-old woman. Since leaving my previous relationship, I've been getting back out there and going on dates.

When I realize that I do not wish to pursue a relationship with someone after going on (one to five) dates with them, I usually send a text that says something along the lines of, "Hi, Mike. I enjoyed meeting you, but...Read more

It's time for these roommates to air their dirty laundry

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I'm a young guy. I went to college in the same town I grew up in, so I lived at home through college. After graduating, I got a job away in the city where my best friend from high school lives. He suggested that we get an apartment together, and now we're roommates.

Everything has been fine, except for this: On a few occasions, I have...Read more

Mom wonders how to react to daughter's estrangement

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I have two children in their 40s. I divorced their dad several years ago. My daughter does not want me in her life. I think she holds me entirely responsible for the divorce, but I don't really know. I have never had the opportunity to tell my side of the story, and part of me feels that dirty laundry just needs to be "kept in a corner...Read more

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