Dear Amy: My 94-year-old mother passed away in January.
She was very specific about her grave marker because she was sensitive about her age. She said she didn't want any dates listed, only her name, and just her name.
Since then my siblings have added her death date (because it doesn't give her age) as well as "beloved wife/mother/grandmother...Read more
Dear Amy: I work as an executive assistant. I manage other people's lives and multiple calendars every day.
I am good at my job.
I have also had to take on all the "event planning" duties for my family (myself, my husband, parents, and my brother), as my mother has a degenerative neurological disorder and can't do that anymore.
Amy, I am ...Read more
Dear Amy: At the age of 21, I was in love with "Steve." We planned a life together, but broke up for a bunch of dumb reasons.
We'd see each other every two or three years at gatherings with mutual friends. I did eventually get over him and we both partnered with other people.
I've been with "Brad" for almost 12 years. I've helped to raise his ...Read more
Dear Amy: I come from a family of four kids.
Mother was bipolar and kept the four of us at each other's throats through manipulation. It took me years to repair my relationships with my two brothers, and our sister passed, refusing any attempts at reconciliation with her siblings.
Mother died several years ago, and my two brothers and I had ...Read more
Dear Amy: My partner and I recently traveled abroad with her family.
We are all adults. We spent six days with her mother, father, brother and sister-in-law.
We both knew that there would be the usual frustrations associated with spending time in close quarters with her enmeshed family.
We stayed in vacation rental homes, where each couple ...Read more
Dear Amy: My husband and I separated a while back because he had an affair and left me for another woman. He hasn't seen or spoken to our sons in over a month.
What should I do? Must I contact him and beg him to speak to his kids?
I don't want to do that. It shouldn't have to be up to me to reach out.
I feel that if he cared he would contact ...Read more
Dear Amy: Each year, my extended family takes a big trip with four generations -- The Grandparents, The Parents, The Kids and The Grandkids.
There are 15 of us, including spouses, in The Kids group. The Parents and The Grandparents make all the arrangements. We're simply told where and when.
The Parents find a large house to rent. The ...Read more
Dear Amy: I have recently gotten engaged.
Growing up, my narcissistic mother physically and emotionally abused me. I was held to a much higher standard than my younger sister.
This led me to take out my frustrations on my sister -- verbally, and also through manipulation.
I didn't speak much to my family as a teenager, left the house for ...Read more
Dear Amy: My ex-boyfriend is getting married. We broke up only five months ago. We had stopped being intimate for a year before we broke up. That was a big problem for me. Plus, he smoked and drank and could not hold a job. He also has a terrible temper.
I am 62, and was married once before. He is 54, and has been married twice before. After we...Read more
Dear Amy: My husband of almost 40 years would like to (somehow) father a child.
During our first year of marriage, I had a hysterectomy, and so early on we realized I couldn't give birth to a child.
At various points throughout our marriage (mainly in our younger years), we talked about possible surrogacy, but he always dropped the matter.
Dear Amy: My wife (who is 64) recently discovered a new cousin, "Meg," (also in her 60s) through DNA testing.
Meg lives in a different part of the country and although they have not met in person, they communicate via social media and email, and have since become close friends.
My wife's uncle, at the time of his affair with Meg's mom, was ...Read more
Dear Amy: For almost 30 years, I've been married to an eloquent, thoughtful writer whose every written word is carefully chosen. He turns mundane subjects into interesting reads.
He's smart and funny; he's a great person, husband, and father.
Before Christmas, he asked what I wanted. I said that more than anything, I wanted him to write down ...Read more
Dear Amy: One of my dearest friends, "Susan," is married to a man many of the people in our group don't enjoy. I tolerate him, because I love her.
"Bernie" talks at us instead of to us, monologues, and interrupts a lot.
My friend has told me privately that he's verbally abusive to her, but she loves him, so she lets it slide. I've managed my ...Read more
Dear Amy: I was in a two-year relationship with "Tiffany" that ended over a year ago. I created a dishonest situation with her. I take full responsibility for my actions and continue to feel horrible about it.
After the breakup, we didn't talk for a month. When we did meet up to talk, she asked me to help her and her children from a previous ...Read more
Dear Amy: I have an extremely severe food allergy.
I carry an EpiPen; I've been hospitalized multiple times because of exposure to this allergen.
My husband explained this to his parents when we started dating.
Since then, most meals we have shared at their house have had very limited options for me. They manage to find a way to add the ...Read more
Dear Amy: I'm a 65-year-old, married woman with grandchildren. I live with my husband.
I love social media. I suppose it's because I'm lonely for attention.
I meet young guys on social media and develop strong feelings for them.
I don't think myself as a flirt, but I have compassion for these guys going through hard times.
Is my way of ...Read more
Dear Amy: I am a retired college professor who did years of research about American slavery and slaveholders.
I own a set of very racist 19th-century books that were part of my research.
It is now time for me to reduce the size of my library, but I am afraid to sell these books because, given the mood in our country today and the rise of white...Read more
Dear Amy: My mother conceived both my brother and me using a sperm donor. This information was never kept from us, and my mother has spoken openly about it throughout our lives.
My stepdad adopted us, making us his legal children.
Recently, I was discussing taking an ancestry test and my mother revealed to me that her sister, my aunt "Grace" (...Read more
Dear Amy: I am a man in my 60s, happily married for 31 years. We have two wonderful young-adult sons. I am also estranged from my elderly parents and my one younger sibling, a brother.
I grew up with an alcoholic, physically abusive father, and a cold, distant and critical mother.
My father whipped me with his belt. Something as simple as ...Read more
Dear Amy: All five of my now-adult children were adopted. The youngest two are bio-sisters and came to us when they were four and five.
These sisters have always struggled, and we were in and out of counseling as they grew up.
They have accused us of abuse (not true).
They both have substance abuse issues, and have exhausted their brothers ...Read more