Dear Amy: During a recent dinner at a neighborhood restaurant/pub, four people at one table near us were having a very lively conversation. They were loud enough that nearby diners heard their conversation, whether we cared to or not.
One person did much of the talking, with his companions chiming in from time to time. The primary speaker was ...Read more
Dear Amy: I just received a GoFundMe request from the mother of a young man who wants to travel with his football team to play an out-of-state game.
His coach helped him put together the request. There was no mention of what this young man is doing to earn money for the trip -- just the begging. ...Read more
Dear Amy: My friend said something homophobic. I told her that my son is gay and she said, "Oh, I hope I did not offend you?"
My co-worker said something anti-Semitic. After he saw the expression on my face he said, "Oh, I hope I did not offend you?" (My grandparents are Jewish).
I am not comfortable talking with them further about this.
My ...Read more
Dear Amy: Why do we stay with our abusers? I don't know what the statistics are for men that are abused by women, but I am one of them.
My wife was on the receiving end of abuse from her family while growing up. As far as I know it was verbal/emotional, and not physical.
I asked her once if she knew how she could deal with her anger, and she ...Read more
Dear Amy: My great-niece is 11 years old. I'm very concerned about her.
She's lived with her grandparents (my younger brother's family), since she was very young.
She doesn't really have much contact with her own mother or father (who split up years ago).
She recently found out that her mother is pregnant by a new boyfriend and is going to ...Read more
Dear Amy: I am in my 60s and have known "Sue" for more than 40 years.
Over the years, Sue has made several negative comments about some of my Facebook posts. For instance, one time I posted that I was sick. She called me to ask why I would put such a thing on FB. Another involved a joke that she didn't think was funny.
Eventually I changed ...Read more
Dear Amy: A dear friend of mine of many years got angry with me and treated me very poorly. She apologized, I accepted and we moved on.
I don't want to lose the friendship, however I am on edge around her because I am afraid of doing something else that might set her off.
I don't know how to handle this.
I am even fearful of trying to discuss...Read more
Dear Amy: I am a woman in my late 20s. Lately it seems I have been hearing people say obnoxious, racist, and/or just "wrong" things more often. I've always been a very quiet person. I'm terrible at speaking to strangers. However, whenever I hear something and don't say something, I feel awful.
For example, I heard a physician (this is someone I...Read more
Dear Amy: In the past year, "Steve," my boyfriend of several years, has disappeared into the seedy underbellies of Twitter and 4chan.
Steve used to listen to an assortment of news sources. Now he gets most of his news off of the Trollish "alt-right" sections of those sites. (I'm NOT writing to you about Steve's political stance -- I have ...Read more
Dear Amy: My dad and stepmom of 10 years recently announced they are getting a divorce.
I heard about the divorce from my father a few weeks ago and have not seen my stepmother since he told me.
My husband and I are being supportive to my father, but I feel unsure about what to do in regards to my stepmom.
I'm torn between sending an email ...Read more
Dear Amy: Three months ago, I met a girl through a dating app.
The first night we met, she said she was moving to LA in a month and wanted a guy she could sleep with in the meantime. I obliged.
After a few weeks of being together, she starting telling me that she loved me.
I was surprised at first because it was extremely soon and she was ...Read more
Dear Amy: I'm a 37-year-old man. My sister is nine years younger than I am.
I had always assumed that our parents treated both of us equally -- financially and otherwise.
My sister was recently looking to buy a home. She asked for my opinion. I told her the home she chose was probably too expensive. She then told me that our parents had ...Read more
Dear Amy: My 10-year-old daughter has a school sponsored Daddy/Daughter Dance coming up.
The dance is "girl's choice" of escorts, and she has told me it is her year to take her stepfather.
Ever since her mother and I got divorced seven years ago, her mother has done everything possible to convince our children that I am replaceable, including ...Read more
Dear Amy: My wife and I have a son in his mid-20s.
He lives with his girlfriend, and they are both in graduate school.
My wife and I took on debt of our own so he wouldn't have to for college. We also gave him his first car. His grad school is paid for by the school/taxpayers in exchange for him being a teaching assistant.
We continue to ...Read more
Dear Amy: I am in my late 40s. I have a wonderful husband and great kids.
I'm very happy with my family life. My kids are older, and now I feel like I can detach a bit and focus on work and other personal aspects of my life. I have been burying some insecurity issues that recently erupted.
My life is pretty unconventional -- I'm not career-...Read more
Dear Amy: I have been casually dating a friend off and on for over two years. He is 16 years older than I am. I never considered the relationship serious. Every time we went out, he initiated it.
We never explicitly discussed relationship statuses, but he always gave the impression that he was a forever-bachelor.
Well, it turns out he has been...Read more
Dear Amy: I am a 24-year-old female, and I have never had sex. I am demisexual. This means that I am unable to feel sexually attracted to someone without first having an emotional bond. (I do want sex, and could have a normal and healthy sex life with someone I knew well). I have always wanted, more than anything, to be in a loving relationship....Read more
Dear Amy: My wife and I have been married for 15 years. About four years ago I was suspicious of her relationship with a former co-worker and "friend," whom she had grown very close to.
I began reading her texts (bad, I know) and found some incriminating stuff.
While she was very angry at me for looking at her phone, she also confessed that ...Read more
Dear Amy: I'm a young professional, working as a banker at a local branch. I have been going to the same therapist for nearly three years and I absolutely adore her. She has helped me beyond words. I treasure our wonderful connection and relationship.
Here lies the issue: I am technically stalking her.
My therapist banks where I work. I have ...Read more
Dear Amy: I am part of a group of friends who all share a house together.
We've all been close friends for five years now.
One of our friends started a new relationship about five weeks ago. Since then, they have not spent a single day or night apart from each other.
Sometimes they're at our house; sometimes they're at his partner's house.