Dear Amy: A few months ago, I started casually dating "Robert." We first met online.
Robert told me from the beginning that he had a very strict diet, didn't drink alcohol and paid close attention to ingredients in products that he used. I thought he was just an extremely healthy guy.
Robert recently told me that he has a degenerative disease,...Read more
Dear Amy: When I was 16, our family had a foreign student come live with us on a summer exchange program. He was also 16.
He wanted to stay beyond his visa, so my parents arranged to take legal guardianship of him.
It was very stressful having him move into our family. My mom and I constantly fought about his presence in our home.
Six months ...Read more
Dear Amy: Responding to questions regarding whether women should confront long-ago unwanted sexual experiences, when I was a teenager (I'm female), I experienced my share of illicit kisses, inappropriate gestures from men and sexual innuendos. Today's climate of reportage makes women think they should consider bringing these old activities once ...Read more
Dear Amy: Our grandson vapes. And he has a new baby at home.
I spoke with him before the baby was born and tried to encourage him to stop this terrible habit for the baby's sake.
He goes outside to vape and then comes inside and cuddles with the baby.
I feel that chemicals and nicotine are in his hair and skin and on his clothes and that this...Read more
Dear Readers: I recently ran a question from "Prompt In-Law," who reported that her beloved daughter-in-law was chronically late. In my answer, I reflected on this common annoyance. I suggested that the MIL should speak with her frankly about it, continue with their on-time plans and take separate transportation to avoid frustration.
I've ...Read more
Dear Amy: My husband is from a European country. We are in our 60s.
I work part time, and he hasn't worked in a decade due to health problems.
We are being pressured by his family to attend his sister's wedding next year in Europe.
The costs would be astronomical for both of us to attend. We would have to stay with his mother, and one of us ...Read more
Dear Amy: I'm not sure how to handle Thanksgiving and Christmas meals at my in-law's house.
Last year, right before the meal, I watched my mother-in-law's cat eating on the dining room table. It was hard not to vomit. I noticed the salad dressing had expired years ago.
In addition to all this, she leaves the dog and cat bowls on...Read more
Dear Amy: My daughter is 19. Her boyfriend is 18.
Over the summer, they were busted for smoking marijuana in her car.
The officer gave them the option of letting just one of them take the fall.
My daughter volunteered; I considered this a very bad decision. If this gets on her record she will lose her financial aid and college will be, if not...Read more
Dear Amy: My parents divorced when my brother and I were very young.
We never had any contact with our biological father, or with his side of the family. Our mom remarried, and our wonderful stepfather legally adopted my brother and me. Mom and "Dad" have been married for over 30 years now.
Having our "Dad" and his family in our life has been ...Read more
Dear Amy: I grew up in a very progressive city. Gender equality always seemed like an historical issue that had been resolved. I never felt any concern that being a female would negatively impact my life.
Now, graduated from college and out in the real world, I finally get it. My supervisor and his manager had discussed promoting me, but in a ...Read more
Dear Amy: I am a father with three kids, living in a very "gossipy" town.
My family life seemed to be ideal, but then I learned that my wife was having an affair for the last two years of our 16-year marriage. I was completely blindsided.
A few years have passed. I am now in a great place. The truth freed me, and I am grateful.
A year ago, I ...Read more
Dear Amy: My in-laws currently live six hours away. I like it that way.
They keep talking about moving to our town, but this would be at the cost of our relationship.
They're lovely people in small doses, but we lived near them for a year when I had my first child, and Amy -- it was awful. They often don't respect boundaries, and make ...Read more
'Dear Amy: My brother was married to my sister-in-law for 29 years. Out of the blue, he announced to my husband and me that he had left his wife and was now living with "Kelly," a girlfriend that he had met online.
I told him that I will still maintain a friendship with my sister-in-law. He said he was fine with that.
Soon after his ...Read more
Dear Amy: My wife and recently learned that our cat "Pumpkin" has taken to entering a neighbor's house through their cat door and picking fights with the neighbor's cat -- inside their house!
This resulted in the neighbor's cat having to be taken to the vet.
Pumpkin has been an outdoor cat for 10 years. The neighbors are new to the area.
We ...Read more
Dear Amy: My 13-year-old daughter's best friend, "Heather," is an only child whose parents' lives revolve totally around her. She is spoiled with new clothes, makeup, extravagant trips, spending money and Starbucks at whim.
My daughter loves this girl, but struggles with jealousy that I am not able to provide the same for her.
Even if I won ...Read more
Dear Amy: Decades ago, starting when I was 16, I worked at a healthcare facility as an assistant.
The doctor, who I revered at the time, would do things to me like discreetly squeeze my inner legs during patient visits, and hold me in a long embrace after patients left. He eventually invited me to his lake house to babysit his children (while ...Read more
Dear Amy: My siblings recently disclosed that our mother subjected them to sexual, mental and physical abuse.
As a child, I was subjected to physical and mental abuse at her hand, but I had always assumed that I was the sole focus of my mother's ire.
I moved out of the house the day after high school graduation.
I no longer have any contact ...Read more
Dear Amy: I am a 36-year-old mother. My daughter, "Stacy," is 18. Her boyfriend, "Brad," is 30.
Stacy and Brad have been together for a year. He moved in with us as soon as they started dating.
So many factors are frustrating for me. Why did I allow this in the first place?
Brad drinks too much, can't hold a job and doesn't contribute ...Read more
Dear Amy: My sister is receiving treatment for a chronic illness. Eventually her treatment will cease to be effective without a kidney transplant.
When she was originally diagnosed, five years ago (and from time to time since then), my family and I have expressed our wishes to her to be tested to see if we were transplant matches.
She has ...Read more
Dear Amy: I married a wonderful woman about two years ago. Six months later her widower son moved into our house, with his five children. The children ranged in age from a newborn baby to eight years old.
This "man" couldn't raise one child, much less five.
The children have had no formal (or any) education, nor medical or dental care. The ...Read more