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Ask Amy: Trauma survivor faces more challenges

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am a 26-year-old woman. Despite having a deeply traumatic childhood, I have a successful and fulfilling life.

I am estranged from my parents due to the severe abuse they inflicted during childhood. The abuse was physical, mental and sexual. My siblings and I were placed into foster care. We were again abused by a foster father. He ...Read more

Ask Amy: Drunken assault severs longtime friendship

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: Recently, after dinner and a fair amount of drinking, my close friend's husband came up behind me and grabbed my crotch.

I was shocked, but decided to blow it off.

We were staying at their vacation condo at the time.

I thought that he would apologize, so we could get past this incident, but the next morning, nothing was said.

We ...Read more

Ask Amy: Newlywed won't 'meet the parents' in footie PJs

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Dear Amy: I am a newlywed. The holiday season is upon us, and I'm trying to coordinate between families, and also get myself into the spirit.

However, there is one tradition my husband's family has that I don't understand. I'm not sure how I can fit into this tradition.

Ever since they were children, on Christmas morning, "the kids" (my ...Read more

Ask Amy: Abandoned child says no to father's friendship

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My biological father recently sent me a friend request on Facebook, and it is freaking me out.

He abandoned my mother while she was pregnant with me.

I am a 31-year-old woman with a husband and a 10-year-old child, and I can't seem to forget my own father's abandonment.

Six years ago, I decided I was going to find my dad. I wanted ...Read more

Friends who avoid violent pal feel rejected

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: A few years ago, my partner and I, both artists, moved from Europe to the USA's West Coast.

We already had close connections and friends in the States -- a very nice circle of open-minded spirits. Other friends moved here from other big cities, and we quickly helped bring all the circles together through gatherings and art shows.

A ...Read more

Man in love is dejected when rejected

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am a 36-year-old man in love with an amazing woman.

"Carly" and I have known each other since high school. We have held each other up through the roughest times -- my divorce and depression, and her ill father and abusive ex-boyfriend. She's beautiful, smart, and great with my kids. I could imagine her as the perfect stepmom to them...Read more

Hoarding disorder spreads beyond household

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My in-laws are self-professed hoarders. They love showering us with thrift store, garage sale, and dumpster finds every month or two when they visit.

Whenever they give us something, they make sure to remind us that we're not allowed to get rid of the items except to return it back to them.

We did try giving some items back to them ...Read more

Midlife dater ignores red flag waving

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I casually dated two different men at the same time: One man is my age (early-50s), and another man is 20 years older.

I did not commit to either man, nor did I lead them to believe that we were exclusive.

When my mom got sick and my workload increased, I told each man that I needed to focus on other things, and asked for some space....Read more

Shopper is bothered by pushy offers of help

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: No matter how much I try to work through this, I am stuck.

I'm in my 60s. From an illness (polio) when I was an infant, I walk with a very noticeable limp, and I often use a cane or crutches. I have a career, lovely children and grandchildren, and good friends. I travel and live independently by myself.

However, I often receive ...Read more

Concerned sib sees assault perpetrator in public

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Dear Amy: Over 20 years ago, my middle school-aged younger sibling was violently sexually assaulted by the adult son of my parents' best friends.

When my sibling told me about it, I convinced my sibling to tell our mother, assuming she would do the right thing. But alas! Not only did my mother refuse to take any action, she forbade either one ...Read more

Woman in treatment refuses to be 'the sick girl'

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Dear Amy: My wife is quite something, if I do say so, myself.

Unfortunately, she has cancer, and is currently undergoing chemotherapy. She has a professional practice with a large number of clients, and desperately does not want it to get out that she is sick. She has told only a select number of very close friends, her business partner, and ...Read more

Widower deals with 'don't marry' demand

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Dear Amy: After many decades of marriage to a wonderful woman, I find myself in my third year as a widower. Despite having many friends, an active church life, and a very loving family, I am lonely.

To alleviate my loneliness, I have asked several women to accompany me to various activities, like concerts, plays etc.

I shared my feelings with ...Read more

Friendship breakup continues to wound

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I have been struggling to comprehend the breakup of a friendship. A friend of over 20 years wiped me out of her life. I think the reason why is because -- years after her husband left her, she didn't seem to be moving on. I offered my unsolicited advice, which was to stop being the victim and to look outside of herself.

My guess is ...Read more

Wedding showers become 'save me' memes

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I've attended several wedding showers recently where the groom stands around looking bored, posts to social media things like, "Save me," and the attendees offer "condolences" that he has to spend his day with only women.

I realize these things are meant in jest, but after witnessing this over and over again, it gets irritating.

We ...Read more

Not-quite-love doesn't quite work

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Dear Amy: I have been dating a man for two years. We are both in our early 40s, and between us we have four kids. His are teens, mine are younger.

Our kids have met and like each other, and we've been included in each other's extended family events. We spend a lot of quality time together. We want a future together. He is an amazing partner. He...Read more

When the DNA matches, but the values don't

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Dear Amy: Last year I took a DNA test, hoping to get some answers regarding my paternity and lineage. I discovered that I have a half-sister (turns out that I have five of them, but that's a whole other story. Let's just say our father got around).

I've spent a year navigating this new relationship. I'm thrilled to be an aunt to two nieces and ...Read more

Parents are at an impasse on family size

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My husband and I have two children -- a girl and boy. They are 3 and 4 years old.

I would like to have a third child, but my husband does not want to. He has a demanding job and so has limited time for hobbies, spending time with our children, and seeing his friends. The two of us don't get enough time together, kids are expensive, ...Read more

Man worries about coming out to his girlfriend

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I'm a 26-year-old male with a gorgeous, amazing girlfriend, a loving family, a successful career, and a house to call my own.

Through college I had lots of girlfriends. From the outside it seems like the perfect picture.

For the better part of my life, I've been hiding thoughts and feelings about men, constantly brushing them off as ...Read more

Friend with benefits doesn't show interest

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I'm involved in a "friends with benefits" situation with "Steve." We are both in our late-30s.

We tried dating, but he told me that he didn't see long-term potential in me.

We stayed friends with benefits, basically acting like we are dating. I've always had ups and downs with him, mainly involving me reacting in an upset manner.

I ...Read more

Cohabiting is fast leading toward breakup

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Dear Amy: I have been with my fiance for five years -- dating for three, engaged for two. For the first few years it was fine. I was in love until we moved in with each other.

Once we were living together, he would snap at me often and repeatedly. He disparaged and was not supportive of me when I was sick, and I found out he was addicted to ...Read more


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