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Worker tries to cope with bullying boss

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I have been in my current job for just over two years.

I like the work and most of the people that I work with, but, my boss is a bully to me and everyone else. He has yelled at me at least 10 times.

I don't mind being corrected, but he swears, calls you names, and really degrades you.

He does this to everyone in the office -- even ...Read more

Mother worries excessively and wonders how to let go

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My daughter has been seriously dating a young man for about the last six years. They are both 25. He is an immigrant/refugee from a war-torn country and has struggled with serious psychological issues relating to his childhood experiences. He recently totaled his car and got a DUI, confirming that he is an alcoholic. He is on probation...Read more

Unhealthy nutrition early in life might mean problems later

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am grandmother to two boys, ages one and three.

My daughter, who is slightly overweight, feeds them foods high in sugar, i.e. donuts, pancakes with syrup, muffins, etc., for breakfast. She provides dessert after every meal.

I have noticed that the boys are now requesting desserts, candy, etc., often during the day and while eating ...Read more

Family stuff is aired on Facebook, not in person

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: Our daughter-in-law occasionally vents her feelings about a family problem on Facebook. My wife and I do not use Facebook, and so we hear about this from friends.

I would like to sit down with her and our son, and explain that family matters should be kept in the family and not vented on Facebook.

I do not want to see a wedge being ...Read more

How can you cure your own laziness?

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: How do you help a lazy person to become more healthily active, when the lazy person is yourself?

I've dealt with depression all my life and think I've made a lot of headway, (with the help of therapy) over the years.

I've reached the point where there are things I can imagine doing and enjoying that will require some self-discipline ...Read more

Wife of elected official feels the burn

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My husband of 40-plus years, "Paul," is an elected official in our city. Paul is also involved in politics on the state and national level.

He is clearly respected. People often engage me when he is not around and ask how he feels about a certain issue or candidate.

If I answer, I often find myself embroiled in an uncomfortable ...Read more

Extramarital relationship leads to Hail Mary pass

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: Two years ago, I was casually seeing a man, "Brian," for about a month's time. He was married, but intending to leave his wife. Things progressed quickly and we both acknowledged at the time that we were falling in love with each other. He ended up breaking things off with me to work things out with his wife (they have children ...Read more

Woman's weight suddenly bothers sick friend

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am a woman, worried about a close personal (male) friend that I have known for more than 10 years.

We have been colleagues and also socialize outside of work. I consider him a mentor. He is married and is quite a bit older than I. We have an almost familial relationship.

He has had some health issues. Now I feel like he is becoming...Read more

Daily pot use has wife issuing third strike

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My husband and I have been married for more than two years. When we first started dating, I knew he smoked marijuana daily.

I slowly grew frustrated being with someone who is out of it and unresponsive. I decided to break it off.

He then decided (without my suggestion) that he would stop smoking.

There were many times where I was ...Read more

Early abuse strains adult relationships

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I was molested (many times) when I was a child by my mother's father. He told me not to tell anyone because it would "kill grandma," and so I never did. I was so ashamed.

I am now 32, and in the past year I finally got the guts to come out as a survivor. I also have PTSD, and it's been hell to deal with.

Since coming out, I've shared...Read more

Aunt and uncle ponder daughter's exclusion

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My husband and I have a wonderful daughter and a (also wonderful) niece who grew up very close to one another.

Now our niece has cut off all contact with our daughter, citing "religious beliefs," because she (our daughter) is gay.

Our daughter has repeatedly tried to communicate with her, to no avail.

Our niece would still like to ...Read more

Spouse struggles to forgive husband's friend

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My husband recently confessed to me that he was unfaithful four years ago.

We had a great life, or so I thought. I was completely devastated and contemplated leaving him, but I was pregnant with our fifth child. Now I see him making changes to live an honest life.

I am trying to forgive him every day.

The problem is that he told his...Read more

Parents bemoan daughter's Bridezilla transformation

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: Our 25-year-old daughter was a strong, compassionate, emphatic, loving person until her upcoming wedding turned her into a self-centered brat.

We gladly gave her some money to offset wedding expenses, and then things went haywire.

She has told everyone the cost of her wedding is $350/plate, and expects either cash, or a gift equal in...Read more

Betrayed wife walks the road toward recovery

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: A few months ago, my husband of 30 years told me he was in love with a friend of ours and that he planned to spend the rest of his life with her.

He moved in with her shortly after he shared this news and we have begun moving toward divorce.

My husband somehow thought that we'd all remain friends ... and was surprised that I was not ...Read more

Long-ago sexual assault haunts friendship

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My husband and I have been friends with another couple for 40 years. We get together socially, vacation together, visit each other's homes in different states, etc.

My problem is that now it is very difficult for me to be with the female friend because of something that happened in the early '90s. I thought that I had been able to put...Read more

Stepmother worries about student debt burden

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I have a 33-year-old stepdaughter. She's single, well-educated, has a very well-paying job and rents an apartment. She has goals to marry, buy a house, have children and have other life experiences.

But she has $60,000 in outstanding student loans.

I am very concerned that she is not more focused on rapidly paying down those loans, ...Read more

Older couple faces commuter marriage

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I never thought I would be writing to you.

My wife and I are in our 80s, married for more than 30 years, with grown children from previous marriages.

My wife came to join me when we were married, leaving her job and some family.

She had lived in my area previously and we had mutual friends.

Now she says it's her turn: She wants to ...Read more

Parents wonder about young man's 'intentions'

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: Our 23-year-old daughter is with her first boyfriend. They have been together for nearly a year, and they have been basically living together.

We feel that she is only seeing and hearing what she wants to see and hear, and that this otherwise nice young man doesn't really know what to do with her.

Amy, we don't think that he (or his ...Read more

Does shared custody require honest sharing?

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I have a 4-year-old daughter. Her father and I separated when she was a baby. We share custody.

He has a long history of being hostile to me, including threats and insulting emails/texts, yelling for hours over actions I never did, not helping with chores or bills, etc.

Things between us have only moderately improved in the last four...Read more

Man doesn't like woman, but wants to cohabit

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I have been with my girlfriend for two years and we plan on moving in together in the next few months. We are both in our late 20s.

She has made it clear to me that she wants to get married and have children. However, I cannot imagine raising children with her, due to a variety of factors, namely her inability to control her anger.

...Read more

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