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Hoarding disorder creates messy situation

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My son and my oldest daughter, "Kelsie," share an apartment.

I live in another state.

I'm worried about Kelsie. She has always been extremely messy. I have learned that issues with hoarding/OCD may be inherited, and I always assumed that Kelsie's issues were passed down through her father.

Kelsie's problem has gotten worse over the ...Read more

Grief and confusion upset homesick student

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I'm writing to ask for your insight and advice on some feelings I have encountered off and on for the past few years.

I'm currently on a language exchange in Lyon, France, and the other day a bomb went off in a very busy neighborhood. Thankfully no one was critically hurt.

When I learned about what happened, I messaged my loved ones ...Read more

Anxious bridesmaid feels she ruined a wedding

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My best friend and I have been drifting apart, due to conflicting schedules, but we still always tried to make time for each other.

Last year she asked me to be maid of honor for her wedding. I was flattered and very nervous, as I have severe social anxiety.

Eventually, she "demoted" me to bridesmaid and had another person step in. ...Read more

One-sided attraction affects a friendship

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I've been friends with "Sandra" for about a year now.

Recently, she revealed to me that she is gay. I am totally supportive of her. However, she also told me that she has grown to be very attracted to me.

I'm a straight woman, and I'm not attracted to her. I told her this.

Over the past couple of weeks, she has been acting ...Read more

Dad is horrified to learn there's a gun in the house

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: This week I discovered that my intelligent, hard-working, responsible 24-year-old daughter (who lives with me) is a gun owner! And it's not a normal gun either -- it is a 40 caliber semi-automatic, and she has hollow point bullets to go with it.

Amy, this is the kind of weapon a criminal would possess! She says it is for emergencies. ...Read more

Dad is horrified to learn there's a gun in the house

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: This week I discovered that my intelligent, hard-working, responsible 24-year-old daughter (who lives with me) is a gun owner! And it's not a normal gun either -- it is a 40 caliber semi-automatic, and she has hollow point bullets to go with it.

Amy, this is the kind of weapon a criminal would possess! She says it is for emergencies. ...Read more

Friend ponders marriage intervention

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: "Curt" and I have been friends for about 15 years. I admire him as a great volunteer for a group we both belong to. He has a bit of a challenging personality (he can be self-centered, and too talkative), but he is a nice guy and a good friend.

I recently met his wife for the first time. My problem is that, once the wife figured out ...Read more

Fertility struggles lead to pregnant pauses

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My husband and I have been together for 10 years (married for three years), and we are each soon to turn 30 years old. My husband has made some personal choices that more than likely have prevented us from becoming pregnant.

I have a professional career, where I speak to people casually and frequently. At work and in my personal life,...Read more

Late arrivers don't get to sulk in the kitchen

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My wife, children and I were invited to my sister's home for a holiday family dinner with about 20 other relatives.

The dinner hour was made known to us in advance and, as we live several states away and had an unavoidable activity for our son that morning, we let my sister know that we would arrive as close to the dinner hour as ...Read more

Grown-ups worry about unequal playdates

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Dear Amy: My husband and I have two children, ages six and one. We are part of a group of three other couples who also have kids. Our friends all have one child each.

I have noticed in the last year or so that two of the couples are always doing things together with their children. Their kids are 2-1/2 and 3 and they are always going over each ...Read more

Friday night dinners are marred by bad habits

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My wife and I host a family dinner every Friday night. There's only one problem: my sister's ill-mannered eating habits.

She is a wonderful aunt to my kids and does many extraordinarily thoughtful things, however, her eating has taken a toll on me. I simply can't enjoy my dinner when she is at the table. She attacks her food like a ...Read more

After meeting on IG, they want to make it IRL

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: Am I crazy to actually go through with this?

A longtime Instagram follower of mine sent me a PM the other day complimenting me on my photography skills.

We got to talking and he then admitted that he also likes me.

Since then, we text, video chat and share our respective lives through the powers of social media.

He lives in Brazil,...Read more

Couple saw something, but won't say something

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: A year ago my husband and I went to visit his relatives for a week. At the time I was pregnant with my first baby.

Toward the end of our visit, while conversing in the kitchen, my brother-in-law showed us some pictures of us that he had uploaded onto his iPad.

He handed my husband his iPad to have a closer look.

In that moment, ...Read more

Survivor's family forces contact with her abuser

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I have an older brother who sexually abused me as a child on multiple occasions over a period of many years.

My family has always sought to downplay this, and they constantly try to force him into my life. They try to force me to reconcile and/or pretend the whole thing never happened. He (fortunately) lives in another state and I ...Read more

Adult kids' fights always involve the folks

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: Help! I have three adult children, including two who are doctors.

The last two gatherings turned ugly when my son got into an argument with my daughter. He can't let small things go and he tends to overanalyze anyone's behavior (he is a psychologist). He always believes the other person is wrong and he is right.

We cannot diffuse ...Read more

Book club member wants to turn the page

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: Perhaps you can help me negotiate a sensitive breakup -- with my book club.

Ten of us have been meeting monthly for seven years, since our founding by a dear friend (who passed away recently). We have had a pleasantly eclectic sequence of fiction and nonfiction books and, invariably, terrific meals.

But lately we've had a run of ...Read more

Cousin wants to cut ties with relative on death bed

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am the youngest first cousin in a very large family. I grew up in a different state, but visited the family frequently until my father's death in 1986.

I intentionally strayed away from my relatives because our views drastically differ. Many of them are high school dropouts with multiple children from many different relationships. ...Read more

Do disadvantaged parents deserve warm winters?

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My mother raised six children during her lifetime. She chose to be a stay-at-home mom, although my father barely made enough to keep us afloat.

As soon as we turned 13, we were told to find a money source because we would be responsible for our tuition at private school.

This did not kill us. In fact, it made us responsible people.

...Read more

Sister has skipped out on executor duties

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: Our widowed father died three years ago. He left a moderate estate to his seven children. Our sister "Tracy" was named executor. She sold his condo and accessed various accounts and divided them equally among us. The next step is accessing a brokerage account.

Now Tracy has lost interest in being executor. She refuses offers of help ...Read more

Hallmark romance is pretty heavy

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I have found the man of my dreams. He is my true love.

I know you are thinking that lots of people fall in love, but Amy, our love is one in a billion -- the kind of love little girls dream of and that Hallmark card writers write about.

We are deeply connected and compatible in every imaginable way. We have been together long enough ...Read more

 

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