A client sent me a text recently asking, “Can I ask you? Why am I still single? In your opinion? Maybe I’m not putting enough effort in? I want love to find me! Arghhh!”
I actually get questions like this more often than one might think.
I replied, “This sounds like a question that can’t be answered over text! You’ve obviously had...Read more
We all want to feel inspired in our lives, and it’s good to get into the habit of seeking inspiration rather than expecting it to find you.
As a writer, I am always looking for new things to write about. The ideas that come seemingly out of nowhere are always the best, of course. I love writing from that place where my heart and head are one ...Read more
You can show your love in a million or so ways. Here are a few more to help you deepen and sweeten your relationship. You may already be doing some of these. If not, pick one or two and see how it goes.
1. Share what you both love best. I play guitar and sing a bit, and when my wife joins in, suddenly it’s a scene from "Duets." Sometimes ...Read more
As Thanksgiving is upon us, it’s time to put aside our pride and simply be thankful for the blessings we have in life: our health, our family… and dating apps?
In this day and age, we can do just about anything with technology: Read a book without flipping a single page, have groceries delivered with the click of a button, see our friends ...Read more
It’s Thanksgiving, and another pandemic holiday season, even though many thought we would be done with all of this. Thankfully, vaccines are available this year, which reduces the issues families will face.
But many will still face a slew of challenges, from what to cook (supply chain problems) to pivoting conversations in a positive ...Read more
We are all human, and none of us is flawless. Even Albert Einstein and Steven Hawking made mistakes, so you’re in good company. I also think we all have done things to mitigate or even get away with our mistakes, which isn’t the best answer. Here are some tips to help you deal with the fallout and make the appropriate corrections when you’...Read more
Every year, without fail, the holiday season sneaks up on me by surprise. One minute I’m sitting on the beach, and seemingly the next I’m handing out candy to trick-or-treaters. In a blink, it will be Thanksgiving, ushering in over a month of nonstop activities: holiday parties, shopping for gifts, get-togethers with family and friends, ...Read more
CHICAGO — Excel sheets with proof of vaccination alongside RSVPs. Questions about whether a bar for an after-party checks vaccine cards. Disagreements about whether people want to test, or be around people who won’t test, for COVID-19.
These are all some of the new layers of planning a wedding and surrounding events like bachelor parties or...Read more
A male client of mine went on 12 dates with a woman over a few months. (For what it’s worth, if you’re still counting the number of dates at this point, I have to wonder why.) My client is looking for a long-term relationship and wasn’t sure how this woman felt about that. (They had only merely kissed, by the way, and had not progressed to...Read more
There are a million ways to show the one you love just how much you care. These actions can make the difference between a mutually supportive and emotionally engaging relationship and a languishing one. The more energy you put into loving, the more love you will get in return. It’s that simple. Here are five ways to keep the heart fires ...Read more
Working in a garden, sitting quietly with a drawing pad or writing tablet, sewing or doing needlepoint: All are examples of simple, relaxing activities. They are often spoken of as mindful activities, as they fully involve your attention in the moment and improve different parts of your inner being. But you might be surprised at how even simpler...Read more
Starting the online dating process is scary but exciting. You take some nice photos, whip up a witty profile and start scrolling through all the possibilities, which seem endless. But if you’re like most people, the thrilling high is followed closely by lows.
High: You find someone who has an intriguing profile, from common interests to an ...Read more
In this era of COVID-19, etiquette has often taken a back seat to bad manners. Many of us have witnessed an epidemic of disrespect and rudeness related to the precautions we are taking to protect ourselves.
We asked two etiquette experts for advice on handling the uncomfortable situations we have all had to confront: Yvonne Salas, owner of ...Read more
We all need a boost sometimes, especially when something goes wrong in our world. When this happens to you, look around you, remember that you started with nothing, and know that everything you see, you created. Here are a few ways to believe in yourself more.
1. Take in the good vibes
Disregard what others tell you unless it’s positive. ...Read more
The new season of "The Bachelorette" started back up this week, and, let’s just say, I’m addicted. (I could claim that I watch it for “work purposes,” but I’d be lying.) Now, why am I telling you my taste in reality TV?
It’s so I can relate the various Bachelorettes over time to “The 5 Love Languages,” created by Gary Chapman.
SACRAMENTO, Calif. — Gov. Gavin Newsom and First Partner Jennifer Siebel Newsom inducted the late lesbian rights activists and married couple Phyllis Lyon and Del Martin into the California Hall of Fame during a virtual Tuesday ceremony honoring six Golden State icons.
The couple shared a significant moment in their lives with Newsom when he ...Read more
We’ve all been there: You’re introduced to someone at a party (isn’t it fun that gatherings are slowly re-entering our lives?), and by the time you can finally excuse yourself from the conversation, you know everything from the details of this person’s recent breakup to presidential election choice. Heck, there’s one occasion that ...Read more
Getting your start in life as an adult has become harder and more complicated than it was in the past. The pandemic has made things even more challenging. Here are four tips to help you reach your dreams. All of these I have done or seen others do.
I hope you can use some of these common-sense plans and ideas to help make your dreams a reality...Read more
A few years ago, when talking about the topic of online stalking or “researching” or whatever you want to call it, I would have said doing it before the date is not only not the norm, it’s also on the creepy side.
Fast forward to 2021, and, while I’m not saying I like it, most people’s norm is to do their “due diligence” before a ...Read more
We all have days when we have no energy, and if you use some creativity, you can make these days work for you (even if you have to drag yourself out of bed). It’s OK to move a little slower, as long as you keep moving. Here are 10 things to do on days when you have no energy.
1. Keep smiling. As long as you have a smile on your face, other ...Read more