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Addicted to swiping right? Lawsuit claims Tinder and Hinge are designed to get users hooked

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If you’re swiping on dating apps for hours, you’re not alone — and a new lawsuit claims it’s by design.

Dating apps such as Tinder and Hinge are intentionally addictive, a class-action lawsuit filed in federal court in California on Valentine’s Day claims.

Hidden algorithms push users to stay on the apps and “gamify dating” — ...Read more

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Ask Anna: Navigating straight curiosity while in a queer relationship

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Dear Anna,

I'm seeking advice about my sexuality and relationship. I'm in a sapphic relationship and while I love my girlfriend deeply and envision a future with her, I can't shake this lingering curiosity about being with men — despite not actually wanting to act on it due to my commitment to my current relationship. As I've only been with ...Read more

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Defining the relationship: More of a conversation than a specific milestone

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You’ve swiped right, had the first dates and are now “together” with a person. Great! Or is it?

A client recently reached out to me and said, “I’ve been seeing this guy for about a month from Hinge. I’ve met his family already, mine know about him. We’ve met each other’s friends. When is it OK to define the relationship? Do I ...Read more

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Erika Ettin: Dating red flags: Signs to watch out for in potential partners

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I’ll admit that the term “red flag” is overused today. People are classifying anything from someone’s taste in music (Broadway for me) to their obsession with their dog as a dreaded red flag. While those things might not align with what you’re looking for in a potential partner, are they truly red flags?

As a dating coach, I've seen ...Read more

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Ask Anna: Is dating outdated?

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Dear Anna,

Is there ever a point where dating doesn't feel futile? By dating, I'm referencing those initial few outings with someone new, not, like, as a stand-in for being in a committed relationship.

It seems like every couple I know of either dove headfirst into couplehood (monogamous or otherwise) practically from the moment they crossed ...Read more

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Zoom intimacy and creative sexting: How COVID-19 has changed the way some people have sex

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PHILADELPHIA -- When Juan's long-term relationship ended the same day Philadelphia announced its first COVID-19 case and started the citywide shutdown, he knew the isolation to come would be a challenge.

So Juan, 33, created profiles on a handful of dating apps, including Tinder, Bumble, Hinge and OkCupid.

"It was tough because it was the peak...Read more

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The 'yours, mine and ours' school of budgeting

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“You bought what? And it cost how much?”

Be honest: Have you ever been called out by your spouse for spending too much? Or maybe you’ve been the one to bristle at a fresh batch of shopping bags brought home by your better half?

Bankrate’s latest financial infidelity survey revealed that 30 percent of U.S. adults who are married or ...Read more

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What happened to 'Menver'? Denver daters say finding love is getting harder

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DENVER — Much to the chagrin of single Denverites, the city’s nationally-recognized nickname, “Menver” — an allusion to the number of available men, ready for relationships — hasn’t withstood the test of time.

One of the earliest mentions of the Menver phenomenon was a 2006 Westword column raving about the male surplus. That still...Read more

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Why talking about money is crucial in a relationship

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Money is one of the most common sources of conflict in a relationship. So it should come as no surprise that a recent Bankrate survey found that well over one-third (42 percent) of Americans in a relationship have kept a financial secret from their partner.

Keeping money-related secrets, or avoiding talking about money altogether, can lead to ...Read more

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Her pregnant wife filed for divorce. The lawsuit changed who gets to be a parent in Pa.

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PHILADELPHIA -- Nicole Junior and Chanel Glover were ready to be mothers, so the same month as their wedding, they began pursuing IVF.

The two decided early on that Glover would be the one to become pregnant. Junior didn’t care about having a genetic connection — either way, she figured, the baby would be theirs. Still, she was unexpectedly...Read more

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Ask Erika: Your dating questions answered

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Question: Three dates and no kiss. How do I show I want to kiss without being cringy? He’s asked me on a fourth.

Answer: Say this: “I wonder what it would feel like if we kissed.” It will work like a charm. Happy smooching!

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Question: A guy I was going on a date with canceled twice. Once he forgot, once for work. Thoughts?

Answer: ...Read more

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6 ideas for saving money on Valentine's Day

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Expressing undying love for your sweetheart on Valentine’s Day doesn’t cost any money, but nearly everything else does. Some 53% of Americans planned to celebrate Valentine’s Day in 2024, bringing the expected holiday spending total to $25.8 billion, according to the National Retail Federation’s 2024 Valentine’s Day Spending Survey.

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How do I politely decline?

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I got this question recently from a client:

“I had my date on Thursday night at the brewery I mentioned. It was fine… no fireworks or anything but not terrible. Just OK. I don’t want to see him again. He did send me a text after the date to make sure I got home OK and one in the morning asking whether I’d like to go out again. Do I have...Read more

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Is this 2023 dating trend here to stay in 2024 -- and is it effective?

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It’s the start of the new year, so you probably know some friends or family members who are participating in “Dry January,” or taking a break from alcohol for the month. It’s understandable why the trend is popular: to recover from the (often boozy) holiday season and start 2024 on a healthy note, not to mention saving some money at the ...Read more

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Survey: Younger generations more likely to keep financial secrets from partners

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Would you consider it cheating if your romantic partner hid a debt, a credit card or other financial secret from you? While some may not consider financial cheating as harmful as a physical affair, about 1 in 4 Americans in relationships believe otherwise — and it seems keeping financial secrets can be corrosive to romantic partnerships.

A ...Read more

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My brain hurts from deciphering these texts!

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I recently got a text from a female client following a first date on a Friday night. According to her, the date went well: They got along, and it even ended with a kiss. The following day, around noon, she sent him a text thanking him for a wonderful evening. He replied by saying: “Hey, any time! I enjoyed it too. Looking forward to seeing ...Read more

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At Pitch-A-Friend, people use PowerPoint to hype up friends to a live audience of eager singles

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PHILADELPHIA -- On a Friday night in Philadelphia's Fishtown neighborhood, a crowd of people crammed into Meyers Brewing to hear Alyssa Klauder pitch her friend Rich D’Antonio to a room full of eager singles looking for dates off the apps.

“Are you looking for someone with an executive family Costco membership?” Klauder asked the ...Read more

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Chicago man sues over 'Are We Dating the Same Guy' posts about him

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A Chicago man is suing more than 50 people and companies over posts about him in an Are We Dating the Same Guy Facebook group.

It’s the latest legal battle for the online groups that were created under the guise of protecting women but have faced criticism for potential toxicity and cyberbullying.

In a complaint filed Monday in the District ...Read more

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The right (no ambiguity, no pressure) way to ask someone out on a second date

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You’ve done the hard part. You’ve started a conversation with someone on an online dating app or website, you planned a meet-up, and you’ve had a successful first date. What’s next? Another hard part (in case you haven’t caught on … dating can be difficult sometimes): asking someone out on a second date.

I recently shared a great ...Read more

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Tired of dating apps, Gen Z and millennials pay to gaze into strangers' eyes

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PHILADELPHIA — The notion that Americans are lonely — very, very lonely, and anxious, and depressed, and therefore more at risk of heart disease, dementia, and stroke — has gained traction in recent years. It’s been called an “epidemic” and a “quiet catastrophe,” a particular problem for men and young people and adults and the ...Read more