Right now we all have more than our fair share of problems, not just the pandemic, inequality, and the economy but also interpersonal issues, which can loom much larger with all of this. Here are some tips for staying emotionally balanced and getting those annoying problems solved.

1. Step away from a problem that is vexing you at the moment, ...Read more

I find myself giving this advice on an almost daily basis: "If you don't know, then ask."

I once got an email from a male client who had met a woman at a party the previous weekend (you know, when we were allowed to go to parties). She promptly found him on Facebook and suggested meeting for a drink. (Good for her for taking the initiative!) He...Read more

Q: Erika,

I'm diving into the COVID era of online dating and wanted to get your professional take on "ghosters"/"breadcrumbers" during COVID. Is it okay to give men I'd normally cut off when they fail to follow up/make plans an extra pass given everything that's going on right now? Long story short, went on a great (masked) first date two weeks...Read more

For the past couple of decades, we have been hyperfocused on "happiness." What it is, how to find it, who has it, how they got it, and where can I get mine? Is it meditation, visualization, diet, exercise, therapy, journaling, creating -- and yes, all of these help, but right now, I don't think there's any way to manufacture happiness when there...Read more

I went to my high school reunion last year (remember when there were in-person events?). At the reunion, I ran into a friend whom I hadn't seen, well, since high school. Out of the blue, he started telling me about a woman he was seeing -- and whom he had brought as his date. (Because of my job as a dating coach, people tend to open up to me ...Read more

We've all seen the cop movies. The situation is tense, the fate of the free world hangs in the balance, and instead of waiting for backup (as called for by the commanding officer), the hero plunges in headfirst to save the day.

In my case, it wasn't so dramatic. I had to carry a 50-pound bag of kitty litter upstairs, and I just wanted to get it...Read more

I got this question recently from a client:

"I wanted to share the details about my date on Saturday. It was OK – nothing to write home about – just OK. He's not someone I would like to get to know further, but he sent me a text a couple hours after I got home asking if I'd like to do it again. Do I have to answer it, or can I just let it ...Read more

Nothing lasts forever, a fact that the coronavirus has driven home very hard. But what happens to each of us when something creates global change? The obvious external changes can be easily seen, but what about the internal ones?

You may become depressed, anxious, traumatized, sleepless, or even just stop caring. If you recognize that this is ...Read more

You're swiping through Bumble. You see a handsome and well-spoken gentleman. You swipe right. You match!! You message him (on Bumble, the woman has to write first)... only to get no response. The 24-hour period where responses are allowed is up, and -- poof -- your match goes away just as quickly as he got there.

The question is this: If ...Read more

We all know the possible pitfalls of doing business with friends. Unfortunately, we mostly hear the sad stories of how friendships, some of them lifelong, got lost because a business deal went sour or someone broke up the band. But what if you don't want to do business with anyone who isn't a friend? It's ugly out there, and I won't work with ...Read more

People use the TV-inspired phrase "the new normal" like we will all just naturally adapt to whatever changes are coming, like changing the channel. I don't like being the negative one (ever), but I don't think people shift that easily. Here are some things that could hold some of us back from reengaging in the world. And I'm totally willing to ...Read more

I have an app that tells me the keywords people use to get to my website. When I checked the list of keywords recently, the top results (excluding the name of the business and my name) were:

- Text before first date

- Text after date

- How much texting is too much

- Texting before the first date

- Texting before meeting in person

- When to...Read more

It turns out that your beloved kitty does not make the purr-fect dating profile picture.

There have been countless studies on what makes people more attractive in their online dating profiles, but new research from Colorado State University suggests that men should leave their pet cats out of their photos if they want to increase their "date-...Read more

Q: With stay-at-home orders lifting in some areas, how can you have safe sex with someone outside of your home during the COVID-19 pandemic?

A: If you are thinking of having sex with someone you know or someone you have been in a relationship with, and you trust that this person has practiced social distancing and hand-washing, then great, go ...Read more

If nothing else, 2020 has shown us that we can all do better. We can be better citizens, more understanding of those who seek equality and of those who are feeling the pain of the past and the present. We must learn how to disagree without being disagreeable. Here are some ideas to help make that happen.

1. Be more tolerant. To mask or not to ...Read more

As a dating coach, I get daily questions from clients surrounding the entire dating process. This week, I have chosen three recent questions, all very different, and my responses, which express honesty and a bit of tough love.

Question: Could we brainstorm some more about what I can do differently to meet Mr. Wonderful? I know we may have ...Read more

I just received an advertisement for a new app that allows you to make anonymous harassment reports in just three minutes over the internet, and that seems like a reactive abuser's dream. Reactive abusers are people who abuse other people by accusing them of abuse, and in our current culture, it has become all too common. It is also a way that ...Read more

Dating can be hard. There's no disputing that. But, it doesn't have to be as hard as you make it. Let's look at these 25 dating tips to make the world a better place. Some are intuitive, and some may make you scratch your head. Regardless, even if you pick up a few new pointers, it'll be worth it:

1. Focus on today, not tomorrow.

So many ...Read more

Having to put your personal dreams on hold is hard, even emotionally painful, but not as difficult or painful as the lack of equality people of color, the elderly, the homeless, and others endure every day. What we are doing by peacefully supporting the cause of equality is creating more opportunity for everyone.

My personal goals are going to ...Read more

There's an important period in a relationship that's often overlooked in online dating: the point between finding an interesting profile and actually meeting in person. While there is an art to crafting an interesting opening message -- although anything more exciting than "Hey" or "How's it going?" will often suffice -- keeping the conversation...Read more