Life Advice



Dramatic Changes In Appearance: Best Not To Pry

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: I'm a 63-year-old man who previously weighed considerably more than I do now. I currently appear to be very healthy, and look the best I have in at least 30 years.

When people approach me to say how fantastic I look after not having seen me in a while, the quizzing begins almost immediately: Did you diet, exercise, have ...Read more

Wife Will Never Hear The End Of Tuxedo Complaints

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: I received an invitation to the wedding of a colleague's child. Every piece of correspondence noted, "This is a black-tie affair. Please dress accordingly."

My husband finally borrowed a tuxedo from a friend, but not without multitudinous complaints about how pretentious it was and how uncomfortable he was in the tuxedo that ...Read more

Guests Keep Dropping Hair On My Carpet

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: Some of my (grown-up) family members will pluck loose hairs off their shoulders and clothes, then drop them onto my carpet, without even trying to hide it!

I don't say anything, but I wonder if I may ask them to put these loose hairs in the garbage can or compost container. I'm pretty grossed out by their behavior. Your ...Read more

Gratitude For Parents Will Be Expressed On Child's Schedule

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: I was wondering if my daughter should have sent thank-you cards to my wife and myself when she graduated from college.

My wife said she should have, but I don't feel the same way. Could you please let me know?

GENTLE READER: In the normal course of events, children take it for granted that their parents feed, clothe and ...Read more

Let's Play 'was This A Present?'

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: I was raised right and know my forks and honorifics, but it seems some rules may have changed. I find myself frequently unsure whether something is a gift, in which case I'd simply say "thank you," or if I should offer reimbursement.

To wit: 1. A close friend's daughter was traveling to a European city in which I'd lived ...Read more

'daaaad, Stop Hitting On The Waitress!'

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: I'm a 23-year-old lady with a 54-year-old father. At restaurants, he often makes comments to the waitresses, asking them if they're married or have a significant other. It terribly embarrasses me, because these questions are more creepy than he thinks.

Is there any advice you could give me to politely tell him that he's being...Read more

Inconsiderate Shopper Escalates To Rudeness

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: My husband was at the grocery store yesterday and a woman was blocking the aisle, bending over to look at an item on the shelf. A male shopper in front of my husband asked her to please move so he could pass by, which the woman did.

My husband, a man with a noticeable paunch, approached her next, asking her to let him by. She...Read more

It's Come To This: Gift Registries For 7-Year-Olds

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: Gifts used to be something one put thought into. Unlike some of your readers, I don't mind wedding registries. I treat them as guides, not demands, and don't feel constrained to purchasing from the list. I find them especially useful for members of my husband's family whom I don't know well. (He'd forget to buy a gift, and I ...Read more

Once Again: Whoever Asks, Pays

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: My son was invited to a high school dance by a young lady from another school. When he arrived to take group pictures, he was told he had to pony up for the limo and for his share of dinner. He ended up spending nearly $80 to go to a dance with a girl he barely knew.

I've always told him that his obligation upon being asked ...Read more

Husband Should Teach Kids To Celebrate Their Mom

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: Yet another Mother's Day and birthday have come and gone with no gift from my husband. What's worse, to me, is that he has done nothing to show our two little boys how to acknowledge Mommy on any special occasion.

On many occasions over the years, I have told my hubby point-blank that I don't care if he just takes the boys to...Read more

Gag Gift Falls Flat

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: While my best friend and her partner do not believe in traditional marriage, they went to city hall following the birth of their child to ensure the family enjoyed the associated legal protections and privileges. There was no celebration, no announcements, and she told me directly that they did not want any gifts, although she...Read more

Longtime Friends Lose Minds Over Canceled Dinner Plans

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: We were scheduled to have dinner with two friends at the tail end of a fun week -- several days of entertainments, parties, drinking and late nights. When the day of our dinner date came up, my wife and I were so miserable that we had to cancel our dinner plans. Eating another bite of food was the last thing we wanted to -- or...Read more

Let 'mistaken' Be Office-Speak For 'lying Liar Who Lies'

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: I have a co-worker who consistently spreads misinformation in order to get out of doing her job. She often makes up policies that don't exist to try to trick other departments into doing her work (even when that means the work gets done incorrectly by people not trained for it).

In the past, I've tried printing out policies ...Read more

Host Doesn't Want To ... Well, Host

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: I enjoy cooking and setting a nice table, and my spouse and I often invite several couples over for dinner. After the meal, I have come upon a problem: I don't feel right clearing the table for able-bodied adults of equal status to me.

In the past, I joined in clearing family members' dishes as a sign of respect for my in-...Read more

Keep Feedback Vague If Asked About Relative's Book

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: A family member has self-published a memoir of their life as an e-book. Although we are not close and live in different cities, we do enjoy chatting and catching up by phone from time to time.

I decided to purchase a copy, as I was curious about their perspective on various family events over the years, but found the book to ...Read more

Courteous Airline Passengers? What Next?

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am privileged to receive free air travel benefits from my husband's job as an airline pilot. My family flies on standby status, so we are usually among the last passengers to board the plane. Because of this, I am often separated from my 10-year-old. This is fine with us, as my son is an experienced traveler and is a quiet, ...Read more

Judge Not Others' Typos, Lest Ye Be Judged

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am a journalist. The other day, I noticed a typo in an online headline from another outlet, so I called around to see if I could notify them. I was unsuccessful.

Eventually, I posted on social media that they should fix it. I only meant for the post to be up an hour or so, but I got busy and forgot to take it down.

My ...Read more

Dinner And A Show

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: My friend and I had tickets for a show, and we thought we had allowed enough time beforehand -- nearly two hours -- to eat dinner at one of the casual restaurants near the theater. However, although it was a weeknight, every eatery nearby was packed. We waited at one establishment for 20 minutes until there was a table ...Read more

College Dorm Odd Couple

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am a college student, and my roommate and I have majorly conflicting sleeping habits.

I have declared music as my major and have seven classes that I need to keep on top of, in addition to several rehearsals a week. My days begin at 9 a.m. and sometimes don't end until 9 p.m. I am up and about all day long, whether it is to...Read more

Woman Dares Wear Skirt On Golf Course

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: We live in a 55+ community on a golf course. One woman, who is very heavy, always wears a knee-high or above-the-knee skirt when golfing. She is actually the only woman here who does.

When it comes time for her to pick up or put down her ball, all the men look away and the other women say nothing. It's hard to watch. I myself...Read more



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