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Bailing On Gatherings During Pandemic Made Me The Bad Guy

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: My partner of 25+ years has a huge local extended family. They regularly and frequently gather for holidays, birthdays and minor celebrations. The celebration population varies from 25-50 people, from infants to septuagenarians.

These celebrations have continued well into the COVID-19 pandemic. No behavior has been modified. ...Read more

Host's Composure Finally Snaps

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: How much rude and boorish behavior should a host tolerate from a guest before saying something?

We invited some family members over for dinner whom we had not socialized with in some time. They first asked if they could come at 5 p.m., their normal dinnertime; ours is more like 6:30. I offered what I considered a reasonable ...Read more

My Genius Dog Stole Her Classmate's Thunder

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: I have had my unusually intelligent dog, Regina, enrolled in a class to learn advanced tricks. Each dog learned one major trick to demonstrate in a showcase at the end.

A different owner taught her dog to close a cupboard upon command, bringing in a detached cupboard and happily demonstrating that her dog would now nose the ...Read more

Couple's Response To Simple Question Leaves Kid Baffled

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am a 13-year-old girl in a small ethnic community, and am part of the community's children's choir. Our choir instructor, who is in her mid-20s, is getting married in a few months.

I bumped into her and her fiance at a religious event, and after saying hello and asking how they were, I also asked them, How is wedding ...Read more

Running Joke Is Getting Old

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: I'm in my late 20s, and an alumna of an out-of-state university. On Sundays, I sing and play an instrument at my church's Mass (which is now being streamed online for remote attendees).

One of the other church volunteers, a gentleman of around 60 years of age, noticed my alma mater's emblem on the back of my car. He is ...Read more

Keeping Uninvited Guests Away

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am not happy at all about COVID-19, but I confess that I am happy that no one has invited themselves over to my house lately.

In the past, I have had many guests who just announce that they are visiting, and no amount of hints get through to them. I do like day guests very much, but not overnight guests, as I hate to cook. ...Read more

I Didn't Get A Stimulus Check, But Don't Want To Say Why

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: I'm often in groups where the subject of stimulus checks comes up. People will interject that they have, or have not, received what they'd expected.

Due to my high income, I'm not eligible to receive anything. Since I really don't want to admit how much money I make, I try to just remain silent. However, when asked directly, ...Read more

Acknowledging Departed Loved Ones On Special Occasions

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: On a grandchild's birthday, would it be inappropriate for a grandparent to post a message that talks of their late spouse and how they wanted you to know they are watching over you?

I personally feel that a child's birthday celebration is not the time to grieve the loss of your husband. Your thoughts?

GENTLE READER: That you...Read more

Cash Gift Comes With Instructions On Its Use

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: My sister-in-law sent my husband $1,200 and told him to spend it on clothes and stuff for himself.

It takes me one month to earn that kind of money working 40 hours a week. For the past three months, I have been working 80 hours a week to support us. I am stressed and tired to the max, but I do it so we can be comfortable. My...Read more

Friend Is Always Yammering On About People I Don't Know

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: I have a male friend who is always bringing up people I don't know: people he works with and people from his past. The content is almost always of a problem at work or a death. I have no interest in listening to such empty chatter.

He expects me to sit and joyfully listen to news about people I don't know. Recently he got ...Read more

Wedding Will Be Smaller, More Personal -- Not A Bad Thing

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: What is the proper way to invite people to a formal event that has been converted to a virtual one in light of the pandemic?

I find myself stuck with two simultaneous feelings: the first being that a digital invite is not appropriate for some events (such as a wedding), and the other being that sending a gilded cardstock ...Read more

Foreign Friends Weighing In On Election

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: I've made many friends throughout the world on social media, and as we approach the upcoming national election, they have overloaded me with information criticizing the political administration of this country -- strenuously advising me on how to vote to change it.

They send me articles detailing one political situation after...Read more

Opting Out Of Political Messages

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: I hold different political beliefs than many of my friends and family, although I don't generally advertise them. This election cycle is causing me a considerable amount of anxiety. I stopped following social media once I realized it no longer brought me joy.

Now family members have started sending me political messages ...Read more

Earbuds Should Be Removed, Not Merely Turned Off

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am a middle school teacher, and although we are not beginning classes in person yet this year, I cannot stop thinking about something that always bugs me at the beginning of the school year.

Many of my students walk around campus with some type of earbuds in. It is an expectation of mine that when talking or listening, ...Read more

Licking The Salt From A Margarita

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: My husband and I often enjoy margaritas on the rocks with salt on the glass rim. He has a habit of first licking the salt on the rim and then taking a swig.

I think this habit is rude, but he thinks it is no problem. I simply take a drink normally, enjoying the salt while drinking (not licking!). Is his habit socially ...Read more

Correcting Falsehoods And Copying The Entire Email Chain

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: It often happens these days that I am sent an email from a friend or family member containing a claim or allegation, usually political in nature -- e.g. Candidate So-and-so is actually a lizard alien. (They are usually not quite so obvious, of course.)

Upon checking credible sources, I find that the claim is false -- aka not ...Read more

Reacting If The Preferred Gender Isn't Revealed

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: I've been invited to a gender reveal party, being held virtually due to COVID-19, and I'm not sure which facial expressions to bring to the event.

The expectant parents have implied that, after two daughters, they'd like a boy. So how should I react if the balloons are released and they're expecting another girl? Do I frown ...Read more

Correcting Behavior Without Wasting Your Time

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: When a person is facing someone behaving badly, your advice is invariably to politely/quietly distance yourself from that person. This is certainly excellent for avoiding a confrontation, but also does very little to actually improve the situation in the future.

As a society, we enforce good manners socially (and very rarely ...Read more

Wife Mistaken For Mother

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: I married my beautiful wife two years ago. We are both professionals in our early 30s in the business world. She is two years older than me. About a year ago, she had an accident and now has to use a cane -- something she will probably have to do for the rest of her life. My wife also dresses very modestly, which is an ...Read more

'i Won't Come Over, But Will Let You Cook For Me'

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: When a woman asks a man over to dinner, is it good manners for the man to say, I am too busy to come eat, but I will take your leftovers?

I think it is really poor manners, but another lady I know says it depends on how good of friends you are. I say it is just wrong.

GENTLE READER: Unless this woman works at a drive-through...Read more

 

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