Life Advice



Illness Takes Patient's Hair, Leaves Nosy Questions

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: After surgery for a cancerous tumor and six months of chemotherapy, I lost all the hair on my entire body. I am grateful that I am alive, but I am struggling with comments regarding my hair.

My hair was one of my best features. It was a beautiful color and texture, and I received compliments often. Now, I don't know what to ...Read more

Redirecting A Gift Earmarked For Different Relative

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: Many years ago, I established a college fund for my nephew. As it turns out, the nephew never attended any post-high school education or training.

I would like to give this money to his mother, my sister. She, frankly, is not doing well; she lives alone and the money would provide some help as she nears retirement.

What ...Read more

Mismatched Entree Timing

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: This has happened to me a few times at various restaurants, and I never know what to do. It's about entrees arriving at different times.

For example, I was dining with three friends. Two of us ordered regular entrees, while the others ordered entree salads. The salads arrived first, but it took another 15 minutes for the ...Read more

Shopping Cart Etiquette

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: Where should I park my shopping cart while choosing items and/or reading labels for contents?

I leave my cart in the middle of the aisle, thereby allowing other shoppers to look at the same items, and I step out of the way to allow passersby through.

I believe other shoppers feel hurried when I wait for them to finish ...Read more

Conversations Should Be Give-And-Take

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: I was told to to take a course in communication in reference to the way I have conversations. An acquaintance loudly informed me that when they initiate a conversation about their day, it is my job to only listen and agree.

But what if I do not agree? Am I just to sit there and pretend? I'm not quite sure how to handle this. ...Read more

Celebrating A New Author Needn't Be Complicated

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: I have never been invited to a book party like the ones covered in the newspapers for famous authors, given by their equally famous friends.

Nevertheless, an acquaintance has just had her first novel published, and I rather rashly offered to throw her a book party. This partly has to do with the fact that I recently moved ...Read more

Trust Your Gut And Lose This Creepy Customer

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am a one-woman band with a small plant nursery business. A professional relationship has quickly turned icky, but turning away business isn't a great option for me.

I had been working with this man for about a month when he showed up one day just to talk and get to know me. He probed for personal information. I let him know...Read more

Friend's 'how Are You?' Comes With Conditions

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: An old friend of mine has recently developed what I consider to be a disrespectful habit. Each time we speak, he prefaces the conversation with, How's everything going? Except for work, that is, suggesting that I spend too much time on the subject, which I don't. I hardly ever mention my job, but even if I had, so what?

I ...Read more

First Rule Of Bunco: Do Not Ask About Vaccines

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: Pre-COVID, I was asked to join a long-standing bunco group. Now the group wants to start playing again -- without any safety protocols. We met to discuss options, and I asked who had been vaccinated. If we were all are vaccinated, I stated, then we didn't really need an in-depth conversation.

I was very vehemently informed ...Read more

Managing Multiple Conversations Requires Finesse

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: This often happens when I am in a social gathering of, say, seven or eight people: While someone is saying something to the group that I am interested in and may want to respond to, another person turns to me and starts talking about something else.

I understand that with this many people, the conversation will often shift ...Read more

Don't Make A Scene When Leaving Early

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: At a party with many friends and acquaintances, if you need to leave some two hours early (and have mentioned it to a few people), must you go up to everyone and say goodbye? Or only to the hosts, after thanking them?

GENTLE READER: Conspicuous leave-taking tends to break up a party, and should therefore be reserved for an ...Read more

Part-Time Professor's Students Show Insufficient Deference

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: As a part-time university professor, I have of late been receiving emails from students who use the closing salutations Best and Best regards. A bit of research reveals that many websites do recommend use of these terms by students.

Personally, I find these closings to be far too personal. They actually rankle me.

One way to...Read more

The Etiquette Of Eating Eggs

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: My wife insists that cutting up over-easy eggs on my plate before eating them is borderline Neanderthal behavior. Is it? (Many people I know do it.)

GENTLE READER: The pre-cutting of food should be generally reserved for those doing it on behalf of someone who might otherwise struggle or choke -- the young, the infirm, and ...Read more

Are You Sure You're Actually Dating This Guy?

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: I have been dating a widower from my church for more than four years. But when he comes to church, he acts like he does not know me.

Our church has a lunch program every Sunday, and he hasn't sat with me and eaten with me. When he goes on vacation, it's usually with his three kids, their spouses and his five grandkids. They ...Read more

Setting Boundaries With Neighbors -- Literally

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: My neighbors bought a third vehicle for their family. Because their driveway is narrow, they have begun parking two of their vehicles to the side of the drive, on the lawn toward the side of my front yard.

When a family in this part of the world has too many cars for the driveway, the usual procedure is to construct a rock or...Read more

Repeatedly Mispronouncing A Name Is Disrespectful

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: My name is unusual, and admittedly not pronounced the way it looks on paper to English speakers. Because of that, I usually answer to all sorts of permutations of my name when speaking with people with whom I do not have either a friendly or business relationship.

However, with people I expect to work with or see more ...Read more

Let Me 'celebrate' You By Ignoring Your Stated Preferences

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: I adore my longtime boyfriend and the happy life we have built together. There is, however, a recurring issue over which we cyclically disagree: his birthday.

While never truly enjoying getting older, I have always enjoyed celebrating my own birthday -- what a wonderful excuse to see loved ones and share a good time over food...Read more

Dinnertime Phone Calls Are Easy To Manage

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: Does no one observe the dinner hour anymore?

My dear grandmother, the etiquette expert in my family, instructed me at an early age that it was impolite to call anyone between the hours of 5 p.m. and 7 p.m. unless the matter was urgent, because it was assumed that most families ate dinner during that time.

I understand that ...Read more

Bridesmaids Go Awol From Bachelorette Party

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: At my bachelorette party, two of my bridesmaids left after about an hour to go to a different party. My best friend and maid of honor had planned a fantastic party with EVERYTHING you can imagine that would be at a bachelorette party, and they missed 99% of it.

I chose to ignore it because I wanted to have fun, but my future ...Read more

Roommate Woes Won't Go Away On Their Own

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: I have been living with two other people in a three-bedroom, two-and-a-half-bath home for over a year now. Carrie has the main room and its bathroom. Zach has the half bath, but has to share the shower in my bathroom. We are all single and never have guests over.

One of the problems is that someone is using my toilet when I'm...Read more



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