DEAR SUSAN: My shrink told me I'm in a sick relationship and that I won't be healthy unless I leave it. But my girl and I have been a couple forever. She'd wither and die if I ever left, she said. But she's so possessive she won't let anyone else near us, so we have no friends. And frankly, it's a bit boring -- just her and me, two against the ...Read more
DEAR SUSAN: I'm writing to you because I can't understand something about me and my girlfriend, and it's getting to me. I think I love her. But my friends keep reminding me that when I'm with her, she makes me feel small, like a poor excuse for a man. She's always saying things like that, and I guess I'm used to it. Whenever I tell my friends ...Read more
DEAR SUSAN: I'm a flop at love. I've always been unlucky with the opposite sex. Even in a relationship that seems to be going OK, suddenly, I become the enemy and she's out of there. All I have to remember her by is a sour stomach and an empty date book. Am I cursed -- or a flop?
DEAR BLOGGER: Truth to tell, you're neither. The bad-boy labels ...Read more
No longer financial runners-up, women have earned the delight of replacing financial clout as a top must-have before investing serious interest in a man. Yes, I realize we're still a long way from financial wholeness, still stuck under the glass ceiling in many corporations and still earning substantially less for equal work, but our ambitions ...Read more
DEAR SUSAN: I've been thinking too much lately, so I have very few laughs in my life. It's work, work and more of the same, with a few nanoseconds of senseless joy sprinkled on top -- to keep me from going mad with my sorrow. I bet Doctor Deitz has a remedy for the blahs. Do you?
DEAR BLOGGER: In my medicine bag, thinking is the best path to a ...Read more
DEAR SUSAN: I'm the single daddy of amazing twin girls. I have them on the weekends, an arrangement that works fine for their mother but not so well for yours truly. Come Friday night, I want some lovin' and am itching to arrange a sleepover with my favorite femme. You say no to the itch. Why?
DEAR BLOGGER: Bringing in a sleepover sex kitten is...Read more
DEAR SUSAN: Last weekend, I had sex with a girl who's just a friend. (She and I laughed and said it was friendship with benefits.) But now she's calling me regularly, asking when I'm coming to see her again. I feel so guilty. It was purely platonic on my part. She's a nice girl, but honestly, it meant nothing. What should I do?
DEAR BLOGGER: It...Read more
More than 100 million strong -- and soon to gain majority status in America -- the unmarried community affirms its undependence with this Declaration of Undependence.
I RESOLVE to think for myself in all situations rather than allow anyone (even "experts") to make important decisions regarding the course of my life. While I will remain open to ...Read more
The unmarried are in the middle of a global revolution, largely unheralded by our media, that has, with unerring grace and dignity, moved most of the world's developed countries to adopt laws giving them broad protection and rights. It is sad irony that America, heralded for its pioneering spirit and respect for human rights, is still woefully ...Read more
DEAR SUSAN: You seem to have strong opinions about abstinence. It's important, but does it deserve so much attention?
DEAR BLOGGER: In a word, yes. Abstinence is in the same league as virginity (which can be renewable, but that's for another column). Both issues are intimate, exquisitely sensitive. Recognizing its importance in the single life,...Read more
DEAR SUSAN: You write about the rough spots of single life. For me, it's loneliness. Even when I'm out with my girlfriends, I feel something is missing. Is it a man? Or something I'm not doing?
DEAR BLOGGER: One of the great ironies of this thing called loneliness is that much of it has to do more with how you feel about yourself than with ...Read more
DEAR SUSAN: I can't stand it. My best girlfriends are turning out to be man-haters, and when we get together for some fun, the talk turns to men and what beasts men are. I don't agree, but I don't want to drop these friends. Help.
DEAR BLOGGER: This is a good day -- a day that will be talked about in tales you tell your grandchildren, the day ...Read more
DEAR SUSAN: I've had it with men. At least my girlfriends tell me the truth and are straightforward with their actions. I swear I don't know how to relate to the opposite sex. (Sigh.)
DEAR BLOGGER: Wow, do I have an experiment for you! It's a real shift in attitude, and once tried, I think you'll never go back to the old way of thinking as if ...Read more