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Single life is a series of challenges. But the one that leaves me breathless even as I write this is the supersize twin dare to be undependent (aka whole) during unpartnered phases and to keep that sense of self while coupled. And no, that's not an impossible dream. Radical, yes, but eminently doable. What it takes is conscious -- and constant...Read more

Single File: Be Good to Yourself

Life Advice / Single File /

I just happened to be reading my book ("Single File," for you in Readerland who haven't yet done the same) and found myself lingering on the "Be Good to Yourself" pages. This is an issue dear to my heart because, to this day, the stereotype lingers of the unmarried as utterly selfish and navel-watching. To be sure, there's much unraveling of old...Read more

Single File: Male-Bashing

Life Advice / Single File /

Some misguided women believe that putting down the males of our species makes them look better, stronger, more independent. Well, ladies, if it takes one of your own gender to blow the whistle on this gem of mindlessness, consider yours truly the ideal candidate. (Deep bow from the waist.) I've been dumped, stood up and lied to, yet I have known...Read more

Single File: Looking to the Future

Life Advice / Single File /

In any successful business, key people anticipate the future and make their plans accordingly. As chairman of the board of your life (not a bad way to see things), you're faced with the same challenge/opportunity -- which means, of course, looking at the numbers dealing with your odds of marrying. Those numbers were so startling when first ...Read more

Single File: Postponing Undependence

Life Advice / Single File /

Here are some common flimsy excuses for postponing one's undependence:

--Men don't like independence in women.

--I couldn't afford to be on my own.

--I'm only happy when a man is in love with me.

--I don't feel feminine when I'm not on a man's arm.

--People have told me that I'm not a whole/real person until I'm someone's wife.

--I feel ...Read more

Single File: What, Me Marry?

Life Advice / Single File /

Yes. You! It just might happen that you meet someone you can't get out of your mind, a wonderful one whose chemistry seems to mesh perfectly with yours. The mere thought of this person makes you grin with a happy secret between you and -- well, you. In other words, for the first time in a long time, you're floored. And private time spent with ...Read more

Single File: Singleness as Adventure

Life Advice / Single File /

It's true that being single isn't all fun and dream dates; on-your-own-ness can feel downright lonely. (And my reminder that marrieds also have their down times doesn't always break the mood.) Single life may have become the majority lifestyle here in America, but that fact doesn't help when you're trudging to the corner coffee shop for Saturday...Read more

Single File: Unboggling

Life Advice / Single File /

DEAR SUSAN: This isn't a "tsunami of singleness" we're seeing, it's a wave of coupledom. The push to recognize domestic partnerships isn't a push to recognize singles, it's a push to recognize that being married isn't the only way to be coupled. Unmarried couples who form a lasting long-term commitment to one another should be recognized not as ...Read more

Single File: The Savior Complex

Life Advice / Single File /

Love is not social work. Yes, I've said it before, but given more space and newsprint, let's really dig into the concept. All of us have at some point met someone who shakes our universe but comes with a lot of baggage. To be kind, let's call them issues. We brush aside friends' warnings -- and our own viscera -- to help this deserving person ...Read more

Single File: The Joy of Flow

Life Advice / Single File /

When we're happy, everything seems to fall into place. We're in sync with the universe. Irritants shrink to manageable sizes. The fog of self-absorption gives way to the inner joy we're meant to know all the time. But somehow, it never seems to last very long; pretty soon, the old ways return and dim our vision with the familiar, the routine, ...Read more

Single File: Looking to the Future

Life Advice / Single File /

In any successful business, key people anticipate the future and make their plans accordingly. As chairman of the board of your life (not a bad way to see things), you're faced with the same challenge/opportunity -- which means, of course, looking at the numbers dealing with your odds of marrying. Those numbers were so startling when first ...Read more

Single File: Postponing Undependence

Life Advice / Single File /

Here are some common flimsy excuses for postponing one's undependence:

--Men don't like independence in women.

--I couldn't afford to be on my own.

--I'm only happy when a man is in love with me.

--I don't feel feminine when I'm not on a man's arm.

--People have told me that I'm not a whole/real person until I'm someone's wife.

--I feel ...Read more

Single File: Think in Many Tenses

Life Advice / Single File /

It's complicated, this single life. On your own, shunning both dependency and isolation, after a while, you adjust and learn to live in the present moment. Sleepless nights have taught you not to voyage into the future (what will be) too often and not to dwell in the past (what might have been). The fancy footwork needed to balance that triangle...Read more

 

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