Life Advice






Erika Ettin: Face it. You need to stop covering your face in dating profile photos

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

As someone who views hundreds or maybe even thousands of dating profiles per week — yes, seriously — I know a thing or two about a good photo. I know even more about a bad pic... and how one seemingly deceptive photo can turn into a left swipe faster than you can say, “Why doesn’t this person have any photos without their sunglasses on?�...Read more


Barton Goldsmith: Therapists need therapy, too (especially in the Zoom era)

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

You’d think after doing Zoom and FaceTime sessions all week, I’d run from a group therapy session for therapists. In truth, it took me a little while to get on my first call. But it was great.

It’s taking your own medicine — and it tastes good. This is therapy for the therapist, and we all need it. Did you know that after getting your ...Read more

Boyfriend Constantly Interrupts Conversations

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: My boyfriend has a weird habit of interrupting other people when they are talking. I've seen him do it to my friends a few times now, and I know it upsets them. It upsets me, too. He told me he does not do it on purpose. How do I get him to stop? Also, could this be a sign of a personality disorder? -- Interrupting BF

DEAR ...Read more

Inconsiderate Houseguests Unlikely To Be Invited Back

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: When my very best friend of nearly 30 years visited my new home, she brought her daughter. To say the least, they were terrible houseguests.

I share a communal property, including a swimming pool. A few highlights from the two-day visit: The daughter helped herself to all 12 towels at the pool (leaving none for other guests);...Read more

Two Isn't Always Better Than One

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am a 70-year-old retired man with no children. My wife died in 2016, and we had a very happy relationship together for more than 28 years.

About three months after she died, I met a wonderful lady, "Sarah," who took my heart away. However, she had very strong religious convictions that I simply did not share. For a long time, ...Read more

Ask Amy: ‘Real-life’ relationship brings up real problems

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I've met a wonderful man. We've been dating for seven months — three online during COVID, and four months in real life.

We're older (I'm 45, he's 40) and have talked about moving in together and possibly having children. The problem is his ex-girlfriend. They dated for two years, then split up and stayed friends. Over the last 10 ...Read more

Young Woman Feels Pressure To Be 'Perfect'

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My name is Lucia, I am 15 and I live in Santa Catarina, Brazil. My high school classmates and I saw a letter from Needs a Direction, Atlanta online. That's why I'm asking for some advice from you.

Here in my country, there is a lot of awareness about female power and body positivity, however, we also have a standard of beauty that ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Disgusted in the Northeast

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My father turns 80 this year, and my three siblings and I were thinking of giving him a birthday party. We are doing this mostly out of obligation, as none of us enjoys my father's company and hair-trigger temper.

My father lives four hours from me and even farther from my siblings. He has been married to my stepmother for 20 years,...Read more

Science Advice Goddess: Shifty-Fifty

A close friend and I spend a lot of time discussing her issues with her boyfriend. I'm always there for her, even late at night when she's upset about something. However, when I bring up someone I'm interested in, she'll cut me off or say she just can't listen to me talk about the guy. Is it petty to feel hurt and to expect more from her?

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Harassment is the status quo on dating sites. This woman is trying to change that

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

When Tinder announced in March that they were going to start testing low-cost background checks later this year, "The Daily Show's" Trevor Noah joked: "Before a woman goes on a date with you, she and her friends have already scrolled through your Instagram, and the Instagrams of everyone tagged on your Instagram."

If you've ever used a dating ...Read more

Nephew Doesn't Say Thank You For Money

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: I send my nephew money whenever I can, and he never acknowledges it. I never get a thank you from him or his mother (my sister). I know that he needs the money, and I'm happy to send it, but I can't understand why he won't just say thank you. Should I stop? Should I ask my sister what's going on? -- Ungrateful


Couples Won't Let Me Seat Them Separately!

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: Is there a charming, polite turn of phrase that I can use when my dinner seating plans are attacked?

I very much look forward to having dinner parties again. I like seating couples apart, so that we might all visit with more people than we see daily, but this has gone over like a lead balloon. It seems like a foreign custom ...Read more

The Problem Is You

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My husband and I are trying to figure out how to emotionally support our adult daughter, who is 40 years old. She is going through a very emotional period in her life.

She has been married for about a year, has "major issues" with her spouse and is not certain she can "stay in the relationship." But from our conversations with her...Read more

Ask Amy: Stepchild would like for dad to leave stepmom at home

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My stepmother has been in my life since I was 15. There was a lot of trauma living with her. For years, I would have recurring nightmares of her berating me. I would wake up crying.

Her behavior puts a severe strain on my relationship with my father.

Recently, I discovered she has posted odd photos of the exterior of my home with ...Read more

Birth Mother Reconnects With Biological Son

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: When I was an unmarried 18-year-old, I had a child out of wedlock. Unsure that I could provide for him, I chose to place him for adoption so he would have a chance for a better life. This year, we connected through DNA. The reunion has been great, even though I choose to remain in the background because his mother is still living.

...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Confused and Concerned

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I have 19-year-old sister who I think is sexually active. A few weeks ago, I went over to "Carol's" apartment to help with some cleaning. When I went to throw some garbage away, I noticed her jewelry box was open. I looked inside and spotted an unopened condom at the bottom. I was shocked.

Carol has been seeing her boyfriend, "Vince...Read more

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Person to Person: Making good decisions takes nerve

Life Advice / Helping Yourself /

Do you know the difference between making a choice and making a decision? They sound almost identical in meaning, but there is a huge difference.

A decision takes an investment of time and energy, maybe a risk of some type, and real determination. A choice is much simpler.

You might, for example, decide to enter a new career field. You'll take...Read more

Friend Uses Fundraising Site To Take Trip

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: My friend is crowdfunding her trip to France when I know for a fact that she can afford it herself. She started a GoFundMe for her trip, claiming that she will be studying abroad. She has raised over $4,000 for her trip, although she told me she made $9,000 last month from brand sponsorships alone. I'm honestly losing some ...Read more

Who Counts As A 'Mistress'?

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I'm distressed about the proper usage of the words mistress and affair.

I was raised to believe that an affair is between a married person and an unmarried person. If the unmarried person is a woman, she is referred to as the man's mistress.

Lately, I've read newspaper articles describing a relationship between two ...Read more

Remember the Good Times

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I have had many odd symptoms over the years that got worse, and it has taken much research to finally get help. I have deficiencies in vitamins D and B12 that require more than a multivitamin. Doctors don't learn nutrition in medical school and are unaware of what deficiencies look like. Vitamins aren't part of routine bloodwork. ...Read more