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Feeling Hurt by Family Betrayal
Dear Annie: My sister moved in with our parents in the family home. After my mother sadly passed away, my father and sister continued living there together. Over time, my sister seemed to take over the running of the household. She even had the telephone disconnected, and there were other decisions made that left me feeling increasingly shut ...Read more
Asking Eric: Caregiving friend struggles to hold boundary
Dear Eric: My brother and I are helping an elderly cousin who has cancer. Her chemo treatments have terrible side effects, and she is requiring more and more care because of this. Ideally, she would be getting home health care or would move to an assisted living facility. However, she does not have cash flow to pay for services.
She wishes her ...Read more
We've Done Everything, but It Wasn't Enough
Dear Annie: My husband and I took in five siblings after both of their parents died, even though we were already raising a large family of our own. Overnight, our lives changed. The children were 7, 9, 12, 13 and 15 when they came to us, and we did our best to give them safety, stability and love. We showed up for school events, sports, camps ...Read more
Millennial Life: The Bridge Generation is Feeling Its Age
Millennials are a cultural infrastructure, like an older overpass everyone depends on, but it's starting to carry more weight than it was originally designed to hold. We're trying to move things forward as we absorb tension from both directions. And increasingly, this generation is being asked to adapt to a world we did not build, as parts of it...Read more
Asking Eric: Veteran wants to find lost love
Dear Eric: In high school I went with Bev for a time and I deeply loved her. Bev was outstandingly beautiful; she had a wonderful personality and was liked by all. She was two years younger than me. As young love would have it: she was deeply in love with me also. She was my life.
I felt that she was way too good for me and I broke off contact ...Read more
The Many Meanings of Mother's Day
Dear Readers: Wishing all the mothers out there a Happy Mother's Day. Mother's Day can be beautiful, but it can also be complicated. For some, it means flowers on the table, handmade cards, little hands carrying breakfast to bed and adult children calling just to say, "Thank you." For others, it can stir up grief, disappointment, distance or ...Read more
Asking Eric: Adopted daughter’s birth grandmother has questions
Dear Eric: I really enjoy your column and could use some advice on tact and kindness. My spouse and I adopted our child when she was about one week old. Her birth mother arrived at the hospital on drugs and without any plan for the baby. She signed away her rights but took no part in selecting us to be our child's parents.
An adoption agency ...Read more
A Letter Left Without a Word
Dear Annie: I'm devastated. My oldest and dearest friend of 50 years visited me recently. We had a good day together, and everything seemed normal.
A few hours after she left, I found a letter she left in my bathroom. It said some very hurtful things -- that our friendship was toxic and she was walking away. She's blocked me from calling or ...Read more
Asking Eric: Husband’s downward spiral put him and others at risk
Dear Eric: I have been married for 20 years. My husband has been on a downward spiral for the last five years. He bought a motorcycle at that time, and since then goes out every weekend barhopping, and comes home totally drunk.
We haven't had sex in nine months, (I have begged him) and he refuses to go to marriage counseling or a therapist for ...Read more
To Go or Not To Go
Dear Annie: My dad is turning 73 next month, and my mom is throwing this big party for him. She is begging me to come, but my parents live across the country -- a six-hour plane ride. I work full time and have two kids under 5. My family only takes a trip like this once or twice a year, and if I'm really honest with myself, I don't want to ...Read more
Ask Anna: Situationship detox -- learning to date for real
Dear Anna,
I’m 28 and for the past few years, I’ve been fully committed to the casual hookup lifestyle. I’m bisexual and I’ve had a string of no-strings-attached situationships with people I met on apps — probably a dozen or so in the last two years alone. I was totally fine with it. I wasn’t looking for anything serious, and ...Read more
Asking Eric: Brother’s burial plans reject his faith tradition
Dear Eric: My older brother and I were born and raised in a Jewish household. My brother’s first wife was Jewish, his second is not. At a recent dinner with my brother and his wife, she informed us of his planned funeral arrangements, which involve cremation and a memorial sometime in the future. While she told us all of his “wants,” he ...Read more
Respect Starts Small
Dear Annie: I am the grandmother of two. My almost-3-year-old granddaughter told me she does not love her "Uncle Dave." I asked her why and she said because he tickles her. Her parents, my son and his wife, push their kids to "give hugs" upon visiting and leaving friends and relatives.
I mentioned this to my daughter-in-law, and she seemed to...Read more
Single File: Feelings Inventory (Part 1 of 2)
Read the following sentences closely, and mark whether you agree or disagree with each.
--Being single means being alone and lonely.
--Single women have a tougher time than single men.
--Men don't want the same things from a relationship as women do.
--Every woman should marry and have children.
--A woman is incomplete without a man.
--...Read more
Ask Dating Coach Erika: Should I wait for her to be ready for a relationship?
A male client of mine went on 12 dates with a woman over a few months. (For what it’s worth, if you’re still counting the number of dates at this point, I do have to wonder why.) Regardless, my client is looking for a long-term relationship and he wasn’t sure how this woman felt about that. I encouraged him to tell her what he’s looking ...Read more
Asking Eric: Grandfather doesn’t want to hold grandchildren
Dear Eric: I have a situation that’s bothered me for years. I’m a grandfather. I’m going to be 78 this year. I have five children and eight grandchildren.
I’m not a baby person. I don’t like holding them and doing all the things some people do with babies.
I don’t think it’s healthy for parents to pass their babies around the ...Read more
Later-in-Life Baby Only Needs Love
Dear Annie: My husband and I are raising a surprise baby at a stage in life when we thought our child-rearing years were mostly behind us. Our older children are already teenagers and young adults, and while we adore this little one, I would be lying if I said the large age gap has not brought some unexpected emotions with it.
On one hand, ...Read more
Asking Eric: Sister shares, then retracts, harsh opinion about brother’s life
Dear Eric: Three years ago, my older sister sent me a book that stated that gay people are satanic, Marxist pedophiles. I am gay and wrote her back asking if she believed this. She replied that she did. I was shocked and angry and stopped communicating with her.
Her husband died eight months ago, and I received an effusive apology from her ...Read more
My Child's Success in Sports Shouldn't Be a Threat
Dear Annie: I have a friend I have known for years, and our sons have grown up playing lacrosse together. On the surface, we are both supportive sports moms who cheer from the sidelines, pack the snacks and talk about practices, tournaments and college hopes. But underneath it all, I have started to feel something painful that I can no longer ...Read more
Asking Eric: Sister’s personality drastically changed after divorce
Dear Eric: My sister has become someone I don't know.
After her divorce, she became erratic, taking her anger out on everyone around her and making rash decisions we all were forced to resolve for her. Our mother, who always coddled her, insisted on family support for her and put aside any criticism of anything she did.
She'd fly off the ...Read more
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