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Some Context for Therapy

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I have an old flame who has been happily married for many years and lives across the country. I would never cross the line, as I have been on that end, and I wish that pain on no one.

How do I get my heart to stop wanting him? I have tried, but out of the blue, I find myself wanting him in my life. How do I let the feelings for ...Read more

Ask Amy: Future family visit is rapid-tested

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My mom has invited me, my husband, and our two teenagers to her home for a special occasion dinner.

Our household, and my mom, have all been vaccinated and boosted for COVID.

My brother, who does not live with our mom and has no underlying conditions, is also vaccinated and boosted, but wants us to take a rapid test before arriving (...Read more

In-Laws Offer Sweet Deal For Home ... With A Catch

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am a newlywed. My husband and I are looking for a house to settle down in, but we're struggling to find one we like that we can afford. My in-laws, who are moving, offered to sell us their house for a very generous price. The house is in a great neighborhood, but it's old and outdated and has HVAC and plumbing problems.

I think the...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Getting Ready To Elope

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: Two years ago, my younger sister learned that her grown daughter had been molested as a child by our then-teenage brother. I believe her, but was totally unaware of the situation, as I moved away nearly 25 years ago.

Her daughter had a friend who was also molested. Both girls were under age 6 when this happened, and the molestation ...Read more

Friend's Flakiness Rubs Reader The Wrong Way

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: An old friend of mine reached out to try to reconnect with me. She apologized for our estrangement and told me how much she's missed our friendship. I was honestly excited to hear from her, as it's been years since we last spoke, and I've pretty much moved on from any negative feelings I once felt toward her. We were supposed to ...Read more

Responding To An Error-Riddled Invite

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am the youngest of three brothers. My oldest brother and I have never gotten along, and one of the many issues at the core of the disagreement was my coming out many years ago.

I have been with my partner for 32 years, and we married 12 years ago. We had a small, lovely wedding and, out of courtesy, my brother and his wife ...Read more

Years Later, Sister Is Still Upset

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: Several years ago, my sister's husband passed away. She was married for over 60 years. They had three children. She made plans to have a memorial service on the weekend. He was to be cremated. My family and I made plans to attend. She lives in another city.

She then changed the date of service, to a town an hour from her home. The...Read more

Ask Amy: Volatile relationship benefits from separation

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am a 35-year-old professional woman, recently separated from my husband of nine years.

Our marriage has been rife with volatility due to his uncontrollable anger and my tumultuous relationship with alcohol during our relationship.

That being said, we have worked through most of our issues. He’s my best friend.

I’m in therapy ...Read more

Widower Wonders If Age Creates Boundary For Intimacy

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My wife of 41 years passed away four years ago. I'm in my mid-60s. I have sought grief counseling to fully process her loss. The counselor has encouraged me to maintain and expand my peer relationships. The counselor has also encouraged dating, which I have tried, but no romances have resulted.

My wife was diagnosed with bipolar type...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Never Been Happier

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I am 57 and single. I truly regret leaving my husband of only three years, but he never wanted to spend time with me, did not communicate, drank beer all the time and spent every day in the garage working on ship models.

My life was easy with him. I didn't have to do anything but show him affection. I loved him and still do, but I ...Read more

Single File: Chairman of the Board

Life Advice / Single File /

Agreed, the month of May is the usual time for tributes to moms' indispensable role. But mine is a slightly early paean to those women who -- by some inscrutable twist of fate -- find themselves Chairman of the Board, responsible for every decision in their husbandless household. Why now, and why them? Because while motherhood is sacred in ...Read more


Erika Ettin: The best writer isn't always the best catch ... and the best catch isn't always the best writer

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

There’s nothing like a first impression — and in the online dating world, that means your photo and your bio. Admittedly, the photos are the first thing most people look at, but for the purposes of this article, let’s focus on the written part of a profile.

Talking about yourself isn’t just difficult, it’s also a delicate process ...Read more


Barton Goldsmith: The power of saying no

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

Last month I said no to an offer from a publisher, and I didn’t know if I’d ever get another one. That didn’t sit well, but I had other things to do, so I let it be and did my positive self-talk: You’ll be fine no matter what, the newspapers love you, you’ve got seven books already, and your blog is on fire. All true, and I let these ...Read more

Husband Vents Spleen In Front Of Friends

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: My family and I spent the weekend with old friends -- the first time we have ventured out to be with others since the pandemic started. It was a lovely visit in some ways, but one thing bothered me a lot. My husband and I have been fussing pretty intensely for as long as I can remember, but usually when we are in public, so to ...Read more

Friend Resents Always Being The Host

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I'm in a group of four close guy friends, one of whom lives out of town. We all have nice houses with guest rooms. Whenever we get a visit from the out-of-towner -- which usually comes in the form of him saying, "I want to visit; does next weekend work?" -- I am the only person who provides him with accommodations.

While I ...Read more

Condo Conundrum

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: Thank you for the wise advice that you give to your readers. I have often taken your advice and applied it to my situation in life. But this is a new issue for me.

A dear friend of mine died a couple of years ago (not of COVID-19). She faced death pragmatically and fearlessly. Having managed the at-home care of her parents when ...Read more

Ask Amy: Tragic accident creates trauma response

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: Recently, I was in a car accident involving a young man who tried to commit suicide by jumping into my car’s path.

My 2-year-old was in the car with me but (thankfully) doesn't seem to have noticed when I hit the man.

The man survived and I found out (through the police who arrived on the scene) that he had jumped into another car�...Read more

Mother-In-Law Brings Virus Into Pregnant Woman's Home

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I are expecting our second child. Our first pregnancy ended in miscarriage, so we were overjoyed to find out I was pregnant again, this time with a little girl. We've already given her the name "Mandy."

Everything was going well until a month ago. My mother-in-law came over for her birthday to have cake. I hadn't seen ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Illinois Neighbor

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My husband, "Ken," has been self-employed for 25 years. He owns two large trailers and has always parked them in our driveway. However, in the past two months, we've had visits from the police department nearly every night. A neighbor we have never met keeps reporting us. He complains that when my husband gets home from work, he ...Read more

Science Advice Goddess: A Brief History Of Tame

I'm a 45-year-old single guy seeking a long-term relationship. My problem is that when I'm interacting with a woman I'm attracted to, my ability to read whether she's interested in me goes out the window. I suspect I've missed out on some great women because I couldn't read their signals quickly enough. -- Disappointed

Where you go ...Read more