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The Hopeful Promise of Easter
Dear Annie: Easter arrives with beauty all its own. It comes dressed in spring light, blooming branches, pastel colors and the quiet comfort of knowing that life can begin again. For many, it is a deeply meaningful holy day. For others, it is a moment to gather with family, share a meal and welcome the fresh start that spring seems to offer us...Read more
Asking Eric: Caregiving husband struggling after wife’s accident
Dear Eric: I love my wife of 29 years so deeply.
Recently, she took a tumble down the stairs when going down to use the bathroom. She broke her pelvis, is in excruciating pain, and has lost all mobility.
While I feel awful for what she is going through, this is an awful lot on me as well. She is very petite and slim, and I am still a tall, ...Read more
Feeling Lost in the Pew
Dear Annie: My question is: Can I still keep going to my church or is it time to cut ties? This is complicated because my husband was a pastor and I appreciated him greatly as a preacher. He took early retirement, but we stayed in the same town because I had a good job and we needed my income and insurance until I could retire.
Unfortunately,...Read more
Asking Eric: Friends side with person exhibiting abusive tendencies
Dear Eric: For years I was in a toxic, abusive relationship. Fortunately, I ended it and my family and friends supported me along the way. Now I'm in a new relationship with a healthy person but the tables have turned. Through couples and individual therapy, I have realized that, due to an undiagnosed neurodivergence and childhood trauma, I ...Read more
The Bare-Minimum Brunch Guest
Dear Annie: My husband and I host Easter brunch every year for both sides of the family -- about 16 people total. I cook a big frittata, a glazed ham, homemade rolls and a salad or two.
My problem is my sister-in-law, "Brenda." For the past four years, she has signed up to bring dessert. And every year, she arrives with the exact same thing: ...Read more
Asking Eric: Brother’s book reveals traumatic family secret without permission
Dear Eric: My brother just released a book and as I was reading his acknowledgments in the online sample, I was blown away that he disclosed a very personal incident that happened when we were children.
I have been going to therapy sessions for years discussing things that happened to me as a child. It was very shocking to read this and caused ...Read more
Biting My Tongue Over Husband's Bad Habit
Dear Annie: My otherwise extremely well-mannered husband, "Ted," has developed an unspeakably disgusting habit, and I need help addressing it.
The backstory: About a year ago, there was an accident involving Ted, his brother and a couple of our nephews, which resulted in Ted losing five visible teeth. Our dentist removed the broken teeth and ...Read more
Ask Anna: My boyfriend says seeing me once a week is too much -- what do I do?
Dear Anna,
My partner and I met on a dating app five months ago. It started out as a very casual thing but quickly became exclusive and serious. He lives about 40 minutes away, and it’s a long drive to see him. We’re both in college, so generally we only see each other on weekends, but sometimes, we’d see each other multiple times a week....Read more
Single File: Life Support Systems
A singleness equated with isolation is as doomed to failure as a marriage expected to bring unending bliss; either way, a life can be no more (or less) than the sum of your choices. That said, I'm going to interest you in forming a support group of specialists. The services they can put into your life will be one of the prime ways you give ...Read more
Ask Dating Coach Erika: How should I greet my date?
Every online dater knows the emotional roller coaster of the process. After spending tons of time crafting your bio and choosing photos, you finally feel all the stress and effort is worthwhile when you start coming across promising profiles and starting meaningful conversations. Things reach a new level of excitement when you finally agree to ...Read more
Asking Eric: Estranged sister would be furious to find other family is still in contact
Dear Eric: I have two sisters. “Betty” and I had a serious falling out a few years ago. She won’t speak to me. She has cast herself as the victim in a situation where my other sister’s husband became abusive to me. My heart is broken. Betty and I were very close all our lives before that happened.
Betty has two sons. She is estranged ...Read more
Kids' Privilege Has Distorted Their Perspectives
Dear Annie: My spouse and I chose to raise our kids in a neighborhood with excellent schools and a strong sense of community. The downside is that it's also a very affluent area, and many of the families around us are far wealthier than we are. We work hard and live comfortably enough, but we can't provide the kinds of luxuries that some of ...Read more
Asking Eric: Boss is an alcoholic, but no one at office will face reality
Dear Eric: My boss is what could be called a “functioning alcoholic,” which in this case means that, in spite of having a severe drinking problem, he manages to hold down a job, even while actively drunk.
Over the years, I have been phasing out the act of “looking the other way.” My refusal to accept his drinking has led him to cast his...Read more
Drawing Boundaries Without Hurting Family Ties
Dear Annie: I've been married to my husband for six years, and for the most part we have a happy, peaceful life together. The one area where things feel complicated is with my in-laws.
My husband is very close to his parents, which is something I truly admire about him. They raised a kind, thoughtful son, and I know family means a lot to them...Read more
Asking Eric: Friend never picks up when called
Dear Eric: I have a lady I consider a friend, but I notice that she only calls me when it's convenient for her. I call her to talk, and she makes everything about her. I am really considering stopping talking to her.
She says she doesn't have any friends. She is in her 70s and I'm in my 50s and I have said something to her about the problem....Read more
A Coffee Shop Connection Worth Exploring?
Dear Annie: I'm writing with a small story that left me with a surprisingly big question.
Every morning before work, I stop by the same little coffee shop down the street. I started going there because it was convenient, but over time it's become something more than that. The barista remembers my order, the regulars nod hello, and there's an ...Read more
Asking Eric: Grieving relative doesn’t acknowledge sympathy gift
Dear Eric: I sent an out-of-town relative a Sympathy Box from Amazon when her husband died and never received a thank you. I know she got it because I saw the picture on her porch.
She’s the kind of person that knows the rules of etiquette. Should I email/text her to ask if she received it, or let it go? If I ask, how do I do it politely?
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Palm Sunday and the Strength in Small Gestures
Dear Readers: This week, many Christians around the world observe Palm Sunday, the day that begins Holy Week. In the biblical story, crowds gathered along the road to welcome Jesus Christ as he entered Jerusalem. They waved palm branches and laid them on the path before him, celebrating with hope and joy.
Palm branches were symbols of peace ...Read more
Asking Eric: Friends only want to socialize outside, not at home
Dear Eric: I have two friends with whom I frequently engage in trekking; we always have great chats and fun. But I noticed when offering an invitation to come stay in our holiday home, approximately two hours’ drive away, the replies were quite muted or passive but polite. Responding with their absence of enthusiasm left the moment “hanging....Read more
Seeds of Suspicion
Dear Annie: This situation has been bothering me for four years and is much more complicated, but I'll try to be brief. I'm a horticulturist and plant collector and have lived in my home for 38 years. I've put my extra time and money into my perennial flower beds, and some of the plants in my collection are worth as much as $200.
Whenever my ...Read more
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