Dear Annie: Do you have any suggestions for dealing with a con artist sibling who swoops into town only to beg, borrow and steal from our dying, incapacitated father?
My brother makes more than anyone else in the family, yet feels entitled to squeeze all he can out of Dad. He constantly asks for business loans, cars and college tuitions for his...Read more
DEAR HARRIETTE: I'm a recent college graduate. I was one of the few who were lucky enough to find work immediately after college -- and in the middle of the pandemic. I moved back in with my mother after graduating, and because I made a good amount of money, I started to help her with the bills. I pay half of the rent and half of the utilities. ...Read more
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I did a DNA test and found out that I am not biologically related to one of my parents, who passed on some years ago. This was subsequently confirmed by my other parent, to whom I am biologically related.
I will confess that this did cause my internal gyroscope to precess a bit, but I am pretty much reconciled to the ...Read more
Dear Annie: When I was in my early 50s, I became very ill and eventually found out I had severe rheumatoid arthritis. During that time I was in and out of hospitals. The last time I was hospitalized, my husband was too busy to come visit me. On arriving home, I discovered he had changed the locks and moved his girlfriend in. Needless to say, ...Read more
Dear Amy: I need some help countering favoritism in my in-law family.
My mother-in-law has been handing nice antiques to my husband’s younger brother, while at the same time giving my husband broken trinket items.
(I have written thank you notes for every item.)
I have tried to take the approach in private that we should expect nothing.
DEAR ABBY: I used to be a successful working woman until I lost my husband of 30 years. After I became homeless, I met Tom. We've been good friends for the last five years, hanging out in the woods, sometimes getting hotel rooms. It's a platonic relationship, but we rely on each other.
I receive Social Security survivor benefits now, and I want...Read more
Dear Annie: I am in my early 50s, a widow, with five great kids, all now grown, out of college and thriving on their own. We get together at the family home for weekends and holidays.
A problem arises when my middle son (age 25) arrives with his fiancee, "Carol," who smokes pot. I have asked him repeatedly to tell Carol not to do this in or ...Read more
DEAR HARRIETTE: My best friend and I have been inseparable for the past 10 years. We've seen each other through relationships, breakups and many ups and downs. I'm currently single, but my best friend has been dating a guy for a few months, and she's already head over heels in love with him. Whenever he's around me, he becomes incredibly ...Read more
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I have been the executive assistant of a prominent person for the past 10 years. I take care of matters both within the executive's company and in his personal/family life, as is common at this level of my profession.
My question involves an error made by the executive's wife. She had personal stationery printed for the use ...Read more
Dear Annie: I have a friend, "Raphie," with a wife, "Diana," who has abused him physically and verbally over the years and is very controlling. Many times, I've witnessed dismissive and demeaning ways that Diana treats him.
I know he is not happy and never will be as long as he is married to her. Even if she were to consent to attend marriage...Read more
Dear Amy: The four of us — “Paul, George, Ringo and John” — have been friends since 1980, our freshman year in college. I’ve known George since second grade.
Through the years we’ve aged, married, three of us have had kids, but we all stuck together as couples, primarily through our love for our alma mater’s football team. That is...Read more
DEAR ABBY: I am a faithful male reader of your column. I lost my beautiful wife of 40 years last year.
During our marriage, I had prostate cancer and decided to have the surgery to remove it. I was told by my doctor that there was a chance I would never again be intimate with my wife, and she was OK with it. Now that she's gone, I have grown ...Read more
Dear Annie: I belong to a large group of friends across several states who get together often to camp and ride motorcycles. Recently, one couple in our group had a terrible accident. The husband was killed and the wife suffered brain damage. "Jane" does not remember the accident and only recalls her husband because she has been told about him. ...Read more
If you can read this, you are doing better than millions of others in America: You are alive and well. Even if you have lost your job or business and are struggling to pay the bills, remember that you survived the past year of this invisible war. This means that you can continue to survive, even though you’re not sure how, and you can dream of...Read more
People sometimes wonder what differentiates a great relationship from a good one, or a good one from one that’s not working. While I am not a therapist, I have seen enough relationships through my job as a dating coach (and in my own personal life) that I am confident in saying that communication is the key to maintaining a healthy ...Read more
DEAR SUSAN: My friend is so jealous; she tries to outdo me in every way. But we like each other and would be BFF (we've known each other since ninth grade) if it weren't for her envy. What to do?
DEAR BLOGGER: (Sigh.) Our gender is forever being brainwashed in a zillion ways to believe that looking better and being more clever than the next ...Read more
DEAR HARRIETTE: I am in desperate need of a new hobby. During quarantine I have done my fair share of puzzles, I have crocheted ad nauseum and I am so sick of reading. What can I do to stop myself from going stir crazy? My friends only seem to want to sit around and watch Netflix. I would like something that all of us could do together. We are ...Read more
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I have often been asked to attend parties that are actually commercial events to sell products -- say, plastic storage-ware, wine or other home goods. I consider these events a cheap way to exploit friends and acquaintances.
Now I am being texted directly to buy things from friends. These products do not interest me and are ...Read more
Dear Annie: I was raised, along with my two sisters, in a very strict religion that frowns upon cultivating personal relationships outside of the church. In my teens, I realized I wasn't a religious person, so I stopped participating after I moved out of my parents' house. My decision to leave the religion caused my sisters to sever ...Read more
Dear Amy: I am a 27-year-old guy.
For the better part of 10 years, I have smoked weed several times a day — every day. I don't get goofy when I smoke, I actually become focused and am calm and mellow.
I can brush off little things, and for the larger issues I would smoke to remain calm and reassess.
I recently stopped smoking to pursue ...Read more