Dear Annie: My sister-in-law, "Ilene," works for the airlines and gets to fly for free. Consequently, she has been visiting us a lot. She stays with us (she doesn't ask), never rents a car (so we are burdened with entertaining and transporting her), and gives little notice (sometimes we learn about it the day before).
Ilene's father lives near ...Read more
DEAR HARRIETTE: The other day, I left my house in a rush and forgot the key to the main entrance of my apartment complex on the table. When I returned about an hour later, I spotted my neighbor, who I usually see outside while she's walking her dog. I politely asked her if she could open the gate for me since I left my keys inside. She looked at...Read more
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I've been married nearly eight years to a man I dated for 11 years before we married. He's my best friend and I love him dearly, but we argue terribly all the time over small things relating to behavior, manners and protocols.
Specifically, my husband is in the process of trying to find another job, and he has asked me to ...Read more
Dear Annie: My boyfriend and I have been together for six years now. Two years ago, I cheated on him, and he found out shortly after when he looked at my phone and saw that I was texting the other guy. At the time, I panicked and said that my best friend, "Deb," had been using my phone. I then reached out to Deb and begged her to cover for me ...Read more
Dear Amy: My friend “Jill” is getting married next week. This celebration had to be rescheduled multiple times, due to COVID.
I'm excited for her, but I got an update from her this morning that's made me very angry and hurt.
Jill sent me a picture from her final fitting (veil and all), where she was wearing a delicate string of pearls that...Read more
DEAR ABBY: I am a mother of four (soon to be five) young children. It is exhausting. My husband helps as much as he can, but sometimes we both need a break. My parents offer to watch the kids. The problem is, my parents and I have opposite political and world views. Sometimes they'll say things to my children like, You're such a ditzy girl, you ...Read more
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been working with a 16-year-old boy for two months. "Justin" has a bad home life, and we try and provide him with a safe, structured environment. He comes to our home after school and stays until his curfew at 6 p.m. He hates to go home, but he does what is asked.
Justin and his mother fight a lot. "Fran" is ...Read more
DEAR HARRIETTE: My dad offered to pay me to take a college course for my brother so he wouldn't fail. I've always had much better grades than my brother, and I used to help him with all of his schoolwork when we lived together. When I moved away, I hoped he would be less dependent on me and start to study on his own.
My dad called me to tell me...Read more
DEAR MISS MANNERS: Is it good manners that my employer showers us employees with recognition for going above and beyond the call to carry out the company's mission during this time of historic challenges, but never recognizes the toll that this yearlong crisis has taken on the home front -- for couples, for their children, for employees with ...Read more
Dear Annie: My wife has been on pain medication for almost a decade, and it has turned into a serious addiction. I have to monitor her pills weekly -- though, recently, it's been daily. She hasn't worked at all the last decade, ever since she started getting prescribed the painkillers. She lays in bed all day long, sleeping or watching TV. I'...Read more
Dear Amy: A decade back, as a Latino college student in my 30s, I became friends with an older Black student.
We have been friends ever since. I’ve been supportive and helpful.
Right before the pandemic, she shared with me that she was confronting childhood sexual trauma.
She moved nearby, and I have been visiting with her once a month.
DEAR ABBY: I have been friends with Carolyn since grammar school. We are in our early 40s now. She's married; I'm divorced. Two years after my divorce, she introduced me to a nice man I'll call Don. Don and I have grown closer. He recently told Carolyn how he feels about me and that he wants to marry me.
After he told her, Carolyn started ...Read more
Dear Annie: I'm writing about my elderly mother. It's gotten to the point where we (her daughters) don't want to spend time with her. Mom is an intelligent, active and independent 75-year-old. She also is critical, rude and insensitive, and always has been.
Mom makes unkind remarks in almost every conversation. After each encounter, we go away ...Read more
DEAR HARRIETTE: Lately, my friend has really been struggling with her mental health. She often confides in me about her panic attacks and depressive episodes. Although I am sympathetic to her cause and try my best to be present, it's starting to affect my mental health as well. I deeply care for her, but I am trying to deal with my own problems,...Read more
DEAR MISS MANNERS: Tell me, Miss Manners: What do you think of dinner guests who tell you they are on a special diet?
I have invited two people to dinner who have told me they are on a weight-loss keto diet. It's pretty restrictive. They are not diabetics and do not have other health concerns.
I will absolutely accommodate their wishes. But is...Read more
Dear Annie: I cannot believe I am asking for advice. Here goes! My mom, with whom I was very close, passed away 21 months ago. Annie, my life has never been the same.
I cared for Mom when she became unexpectedly ill. I witnessed her last breath. By all accounts, I should be happy that I was the loving daughter and did right by Mom and the ...Read more
Dear Amy: I am a 53-year-old woman. I have always been very close to my (now 80-something) parents, but our recent national political drama has forced us into different corners.
I try to think critically and independently. My husband and I have both had more conversations about politics recently than our entire 31 years of marriage.
Now both ...Read more
DEAR ABBY: Ten years ago, my friend Maureen suffered a breakup that emotionally and financially devastated her and moved in with her son and his young family. Since then, she has recovered in both areas.
Maureen inserts herself into every aspect of their lives -- vacations, entertaining, etc. When they go out to eat, she always joins them. Her ...Read more
Dear Annie: I have a boyfriend of one year, and we are considering marriage, but we are not officially engaged.
My problem is his sister, who lives in Paris. I've never seen or talked to "Amelie," but have been told a lot about her. She has been in Paris for three years, but no one knows what she is doing there, since she has no job experience....Read more
DEAR SUSAN: Your comment today to the 51-year-old cougar who married a 30-year-old was completely off-base. First, where did you get the idea that men mature by age 18 and women not until they are 30? That's total hogwash. Please cite one scientific reference to back that up. Thirty-year-old men are still playing video games and hanging in bars,...Read more
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