Dear Amy: My extended family has a history of division, of people not speaking to one another for years.
I am guilty of this, too. It’s a multi-generational pattern I’d like to end for the next generation.
We are joyfully planning our daughter’s upcoming wedding.
Unfortunately, there is one burr in the saddle.
One of my sisters has ...Read more
DEAR ABBY: I'm a 39-year-old woman in a toxic relationship with my boyfriend of almost seven years. We had a child together but lost custody due to drug use during my pregnancy. Even though we don't have our son, and he treats me badly, I feel I have to stay with him because we have gone through so much together.
A couple of years ago, I got ...Read more
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married 15 years, and we have two beautiful daughters, ages 7 and 10. "Luther" works hard as a fireman and is a good husband and father, except for one small problem -- he goes out with his buddies to a bar every single weekend, until all hours of the morning. I've asked him to compromise and go out only ...Read more
DEAR HARRIETTE: I love having my friend over, but every time she comes over, she overstays her welcome. She is an only child and a bit of a recluse. I think I may be her only true friend. I like her a lot, but sometimes it's too much. One time I even went out with my other friends while she was at my house because she wouldn't leave. I enjoy her...Read more
DEAR MISS MANNERS: Why is it bad manners to correct someone's grammar?
Being someone who dealt with the English language in their profession, we tried, and brought our children up, to at least say, if not spell, words and phrases correctly, and to use correct terms. Unfortunately, them being in school and being exposed to their peers' (and even...Read more
Dear Annie: After my mother died, my father married a woman he found online. She only visited us once in person before she moved in and they got married. She wasn't always the nicest, and honestly, I was scared of her. She'd even "jokingly" call me Cinderella when she wanted me to do tasks around the house for her. I was an adult in therapy ...Read more
Dear Amy: My wife passed away in a car
accident about seven years ago.
We were together for almost 25 years.
I had a few dates with women in the years since my wife’s death, but I didn’t meet anyone who really interested me. My last date was three years ago. I guess I just didn’t think I was ready.
I’ve been pretty content with my ...Read more
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I disagree about our arrangements after we pass away. I would like to be cremated and scattered at a location with wonderful memories, like where we honeymooned. He wants a full funeral and to be buried in our hometown, 2 1/2 hours away from where we have been living for almost 20 years.
I don't have a lot of love for ...Read more
Dear Annie: I have been married for 13 years, and during all that time, my husband, an outwardly friendly, kind person and successful businessman, has struggled with addictions to drugs and hard-core pornography. Naturally, my willingness to trust him also has diminished, mostly because of his deception. He claims that he loves me, but he ...Read more
DEAR HARRIETTE: I have a very unstable co-worker who makes me nervous. He has a bad temper and talks about his gun collection often. I think he fits the profile of someone who might become disgruntled and unleash their rage on the whole store. Should I say something to my boss? -- Better Safe Than Sorry
DEAR BETTER SAFE THAN SORRY: Trust your ...Read more
DEAR MISS MANNERS: Is it OK to send a sympathy card to someone at the office? How do you acknowledge the passing of a co-worker's loved one? Or do you at all?
I heard from a friend that a former co-worker's mom passed, and I sent a card to her at the office. It's a very small, family-like organization and I didn't think much about it.
Then, a ...Read more
Dear Annie: I am in my late 50s, the proud mother of two grown men who have families of their own. I've been successful in my career and always accomplished whatever I set my mind to. But I always had a secret. I have ADHD. I was diagnosed in my late 20s. I never told anyone aside from my husband because it's so embarrassing. But the condition...Read more
Dear Amy: I have been dating a man for over two years.
He is good with my kids and I appreciate that, given that they aren’t his children.
I am not divorced, and occasionally meet up (if you know what I mean) with my not-quite ex-husband, “Dan.”
It doesn't happen often, but 20 years of emotions between us emerge and I just don't know ...Read more
DEAR ABBY: I have been seeing a wonderful man for seven months and spend every weekend with him. We live 45 miles apart, but it works for us. He has a group of friends, five ladies, that he spends a lot of time with. He dated one of them for a year before he broke it off, but they remain friends. I have met the group and, while they act friendly...Read more
Dear Annie: At a family gathering two years ago, my in-laws' dog attempted to bite my then 2-year-old daughter. "Fido" is a large dog and could have done considerable damage had he actually gotten hold of her. This all took place during a very busy party where many people not only saw but heard the incident.
The next time we visited my in-laws,...Read more
DEAR SUSAN: Face it. Being singular is a trip. It's not necessarily exotic, it's not always fun. But when you take Susan's advice and strengthen your singleness with savvy people willing to supply you with the information or service you need -- when you need it -- single life gets much easier. And things go much more smoothly, the way they ...Read more
It’s no secret that men and women are different. I’ve been seeing that difference compounded in my clients when it comes to dating apps, like Tinder and Bumble. Men and women, regardless of orientation, use the apps in a very different manner from each other. Of course, this is a generalization, and there are exceptions to every rule. But I ...Read more
These qualities are the ones we all wish for in a true friendship. If you have found someone who brings them to your relationship, I wish you a lifetime of mutual support and great times, because you both deserve it.
Being a good friend is sometimes challenging, but so worth it, because everyone’s needs get met some way and somehow.
Dear Annie: I love reading your column. I found out three years ago that my husband of 33 years was having an affair with his bookkeeper. We have a business together, but I stepped out of the business part years ago to become a nurse.
Supposedly, the affair has ended, but he refuses to let her stop being his bookkeeper. It's been three long ...Read more
Dear Amy: I have been married for 45 years to a man who has a severe drinking problem.
It wasn't this way in the beginning, but over the years his drinking has progressed into alcoholism.
I have tried to help him in every way I know. He went to rehab last winter but didn't follow through with any of the support that was offered to him.
Now he...Read more
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