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Annie's Mailbox: To Wed or Not to Wed

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I have been dating "Brad" for three years. We currently date long-distance, but the relationship is fine. He is loving and kind toward me and everyone in our lives. When he proposed, I said yes immediately. But what is supposed to be an exciting time in my life is now marred by his ex-girlfriend, "Marsha."

I knew Marsha when she and...Read more

Business Owner Doesn't Want Unsolicited Advice

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: I'm getting sick of my friends and colleagues giving me unwanted advice. I started my own business a little while ago, and I didn't ask anyone for help because I didn't want any help. Since the early phases of starting my business, I've received a lot of advice that I didn't ask for. Most of the time, the people who offer their ...Read more

Sibling Doesn't Get Corresponding 'unbirthday' Gift

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: We mailed a birthday gift to our granddaughter, and our daughter arranged a video call to let us see her open the present.

To our surprise, our daughter admonished us for not sending a gift to our grandson so he would not feel left out. She stated it was proper gift-giving etiquette to send a gift to our grandson, even though...Read more

Seeking Financial Support for Son

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My son, "Tim," is engaged to "Jennifer," a woman whom he's been seeing for many years. They have two small children together. My problem is that Jennifer will not get a job. Tim supports all of them. She used to work, before their first child, but has not since.

We have all hinted to her about getting a job and even found jobs for...Read more

Ask Amy: Stories of secret-keeping from the vault

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Dear Readers: I hope you enjoy these “Best Of” Q&A from 10 years ago. Today’s topic is: “Keeping Secrets.”

I also invite readers to subscribe to my weekly “Asking Amy” newsletter, at

I’ll be back with fresh Q&A next week.

Dear Amy: My husband has a sister who was born when he was in junior high ...Read more

Roommate With Benefits Is Attracted To Man's Friend

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have this dilemma. I'm a woman in my 40s with a good job, and I'm told I am a good catch. About six months ago, I moved in with a man I will call Peter. It started as a roommate situation, but then became friends with benefits. We have both agreed we are not a couple.

The problem is Peter has a friend, Reggie. I like Reggie, and he...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Understanding Widow

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: Many years ago, I was separated from my husband for several years. At the tail end of our separation, I discovered he had been cheating on me.

About a week after I learned this, I was approached by the husband of a woman I knew who was quite ill. He said she had given permission for the two of us to sleep together. Because my ...Read more

In-Laws Make Agnostic Reader Uncomfortable

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: I try hard to stay away from the topic of religion when I'm with my in-laws, but I'm starting to realize how unavoidable this topic is. My husband comes from a very religious background, and I simply wasn't raised to subscribe to any particular religion myself. I feel that my in-laws impose their views on me every time we see ...Read more

My New Neighbors Are Filling My Condo With Pot Smoke!

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: My husband and I live in a large condo community. In beautiful weather, we often keep our windows and the sliding glass door to our balcony open.

Some new people moved into the apartment below us, and several times each day, we noticed an extremely pungent cloud of marijuana smoke enter our apartment. I cannot overstate the ...Read more

Trust Your Gut

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My whole life, I've been a worrywart, and my worries always seem to make their way into my stomach. While I've always experienced stressed-out "digestive issues" like that from time to time, over the past few months, it's gotten out of control. I find myself running to the bathroom way too many times a day. It's hard for me to get ...Read more

Ask Amy: Nightmare bosses bust through boundaries

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Readers: Every year during this time I step away from my column to work on other creative projects. I hope you enjoy these “Best Of” Q&A from 10 years ago, which I’ve retrieved from my advice-vault.

Today’s topic is: “Whoa – That’s Inappropriate!”

I also invite readers to subscribe to my weekly “Asking Amy” newsletter,...Read more

Cruelties Of The Past Linger In Relationship With Stepmom

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: For more than four decades, my stepmother, Vera, and I never got along. We tolerated each other for the sake of my father, who has now passed away. I'm a 60-year-old male reader and unsure how to respond to some recent statements she has been making.

For the record, I and many others always found Vera to be extremely self-absorbed ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Morose Mom

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I am a divorced mother of two married children. I am now retired, but in the past, I have helped both my children with financial problems. The kids and their spouses make more money than I do. My son always yammers on about some get-rich-quick scheme and recently borrowed money from me to invest in his own business. He has promised ...Read more

Boyfriend Won't Commit

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I have been with my "boyfriend" on and off for three years. I put "boyfriend" in quotes because he says he doesn't like labels. I'm at his place 90%of the time, yet I still pay rent on my own apartment because he would never agree to move in together. I have met his family and he also has met mine. When I ask for commitment, he ...Read more

Ask Amy: Virtual dating creates actual problems

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Readers: Every year I step away from my column to work on other creative projects. I hope you enjoy these “Best Of” Q&A from 10 years ago. Today’s topic is: Digital Dating.

I also invite readers to subscribe to my new weekly “Asking Amy” newsletter, at, where I post advice, as well as my own brand of ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Indiana Sex Object

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My husband, "Derek," and I have been married for 18 years and we have four children. Lately, I feel like a piece of meat. Derek wants sex every day and grabs my breasts constantly. If I refuse, he pouts.

Derek recently lost his job and we were evicted, so we moved in with my mom. The longest Derek has ever held a job is four years. ...Read more

Single File: Sweet Payback

Life Advice / Single File /

DEAR SUSAN: It may sound strange, but I've found my own version of prayer to be a huge comfort in my low moments. It isn't always the same prayer; I change the words to fit my mood. But praying to a higher power gives me peace. Do other readers tell you something similar?

DEAR BLOGGER: Yes, readers have shared their personal prayers over the ...Read more


Barton Goldsmith: Filling the void of a narcissistic parent

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

I have had very positive female support in my life, but the real truth is that my mother was a narcissist and was incapable of loving me. In fact, she really disliked me from the moment I was born, because I was a Taurus and so was the guy who left her at the altar (not my dad). I got all that negative projection from the day they brought me ...Read more


Erika Ettin: Taking yourself out of circulation

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

I was searching for a client on recently, looking for men in her age range whom she might like to send a message to, and I came across this profile below (written verbatim):

“I’m tired of being rejected on this site by conceited, snobbish women who proclaim they are looking for an honest, humorous man, when in reality all they are...Read more

Happy St. Patrick's Day

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Readers: March 17 is a day to celebrate the patron saint of Ireland, St. Patrick. Born in the 4th century, in Roman Britain, Patrick was taken captive by Irish pirates at the age of 16. He turned to God and Christianity and escaped. He returned to Ireland in 432 as a missionary. When he dies on March 17, 461, he had established churches, ...Read more