Life Advice





Ask Amy: Wedding livestock might bring guests together

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My extended family has a history of division, of people not speaking to one another for years.

I am guilty of this, too. It’s a multi-generational pattern I’d like to end for the next generation.

We are joyfully planning our daughter’s upcoming wedding.

Unfortunately, there is one burr in the saddle.

One of my sisters has ...Read more

Former Drug User Looks For A Way Out Of Toxic Relationship

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm a 39-year-old woman in a toxic relationship with my boyfriend of almost seven years. We had a child together but lost custody due to drug use during my pregnancy. Even though we don't have our son, and he treats me badly, I feel I have to stay with him because we have gone through so much together.

A couple of years ago, I got ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Brokenhearted, Lonesome Wife

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married 15 years, and we have two beautiful daughters, ages 7 and 10. "Luther" works hard as a fireman and is a good husband and father, except for one small problem -- he goes out with his buddies to a bar every single weekend, until all hours of the morning. I've asked him to compromise and go out only ...Read more

Lonely Friend Won't Respect Boundaries

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: I love having my friend over, but every time she comes over, she overstays her welcome. She is an only child and a bit of a recluse. I think I may be her only true friend. I like her a lot, but sometimes it's too much. One time I even went out with my other friends while she was at my house because she wouldn't leave. I enjoy her...Read more

I'm Educating These Idiots, But They Just Think I'm Rude!

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: Why is it bad manners to correct someone's grammar?

Being someone who dealt with the English language in their profession, we tried, and brought our children up, to at least say, if not spell, words and phrases correctly, and to use correct terms. Unfortunately, them being in school and being exposed to their peers' (and even...Read more

Is It Reasonable to Expect an Apology?

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: After my mother died, my father married a woman he found online. She only visited us once in person before she moved in and they got married. She wasn't always the nicest, and honestly, I was scared of her. She'd even "jokingly" call me Cinderella when she wanted me to do tasks around the house for her. I was an adult in therapy ...Read more

Ask Amy: Widower ponders the heartache of dating

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My wife passed away in a car

accident about seven years ago.

We were together for almost 25 years.

I had a few dates with women in the years since my wife’s death, but I didn’t meet anyone who really interested me. My last date was three years ago. I guess I just didn’t think I was ready.

I’ve been pretty content with my ...Read more

Couple Needn't Agree On After-Death Wishes

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I disagree about our arrangements after we pass away. I would like to be cremated and scattered at a location with wonderful memories, like where we honeymooned. He wants a full funeral and to be buried in our hometown, 2 1/2 hours away from where we have been living for almost 20 years.

I don't have a lot of love for ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Burned Too Many Times

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I have been married for 13 years, and during all that time, my husband, an outwardly friendly, kind person and successful businessman, has struggled with addictions to drugs and hard-core pornography. Naturally, my willingness to trust him also has diminished, mostly because of his deception. He claims that he loves me, but he ...Read more

Employee Questions Co-Worker's Stability

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: I have a very unstable co-worker who makes me nervous. He has a bad temper and talks about his gun collection often. I think he fits the profile of someone who might become disgruntled and unleash their rage on the whole store. Should I say something to my boss? -- Better Safe Than Sorry

DEAR BETTER SAFE THAN SORRY: Trust your ...Read more

Expressing Sympathy For A Colleague's Loss

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: Is it OK to send a sympathy card to someone at the office? How do you acknowledge the passing of a co-worker's loved one? Or do you at all?

I heard from a friend that a former co-worker's mom passed, and I sent a card to her at the office. It's a very small, family-like organization and I didn't think much about it.

Then, a ...Read more

ADHD Is Controlling my Life

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am in my late 50s, the proud mother of two grown men who have families of their own. I've been successful in my career and always accomplished whatever I set my mind to. But I always had a secret. I have ADHD. I was diagnosed in my late 20s. I never told anyone aside from my husband because it's so embarrassing. But the condition...Read more

Ask Amy: Not-quite-divorced couple enjoys ‘meeting up’

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I have been dating a man for over two years.

He is good with my kids and I appreciate that, given that they aren’t his children.

I am not divorced, and occasionally meet up (if you know what I mean) with my not-quite ex-husband, “Dan.”

It doesn't happen often, but 20 years of emotions between us emerge and I just don't know ...Read more

Beau's Female Friends Send A 'Hands-Off' Signal To His Paramour

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been seeing a wonderful man for seven months and spend every weekend with him. We live 45 miles apart, but it works for us. He has a group of friends, five ladies, that he spends a lot of time with. He dated one of them for a year before he broke it off, but they remain friends. I have met the group and, while they act friendly...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Once Bitten, Twice Shy in New York

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: At a family gathering two years ago, my in-laws' dog attempted to bite my then 2-year-old daughter. "Fido" is a large dog and could have done considerable damage had he actually gotten hold of her. This all took place during a very busy party where many people not only saw but heard the incident.

The next time we visited my in-laws,...Read more

Single File: Support System

Life Advice / Single File /

DEAR SUSAN: Face it. Being singular is a trip. It's not necessarily exotic, it's not always fun. But when you take Susan's advice and strengthen your singleness with savvy people willing to supply you with the information or service you need -- when you need it -- single life gets much easier. And things go much more smoothly, the way they ...Read more


Erika Ettin: How to improve the world of dating apps

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

It’s no secret that men and women are different. I’ve been seeing that difference compounded in my clients when it comes to dating apps, like Tinder and Bumble. Men and women, regardless of orientation, use the apps in a very different manner from each other. Of course, this is a generalization, and there are exceptions to every rule. But I ...Read more

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Barton Goldsmith: Seven reasons to have friends

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

These qualities are the ones we all wish for in a true friendship. If you have found someone who brings them to your relationship, I wish you a lifetime of mutual support and great times, because you both deserve it.

Being a good friend is sometimes challenging, but so worth it, because everyone’s needs get met some way and somehow.

...Read more

Regaining Trust Takes Time

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I love reading your column. I found out three years ago that my husband of 33 years was having an affair with his bookkeeper. We have a business together, but I stepped out of the business part years ago to become a nurse.

Supposedly, the affair has ended, but he refuses to let her stop being his bookkeeper. It's been three long ...Read more

Ask Amy: Spouse worries about husband’s drinking

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I have been married for 45 years to a man who has a severe drinking problem.

It wasn't this way in the beginning, but over the years his drinking has progressed into alcoholism.

I have tried to help him in every way I know. He went to rehab last winter but didn't follow through with any of the support that was offered to him.

Now he...Read more