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Questions From Nosy Salespeople

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I run an online company and buy additional merchandise locally, one to three times a year. The money spent is at stores where there is an option to negotiate price.

I am having trouble because the salespeople, and even other customers, are always asking me why I'm buying so much and who it's for. If I tell them it's for my ...Read more

Elongated Engagement

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am engaged. I have been for six years (I know, I know), but we actually plan to get married in a few months. I am in love with her, but I just don't know if letting my feelings fall to the wayside is how I want to live the rest of my life. I always feel like she puts the feelings of others before me, like it doesn't matter how I ...Read more

Ask Amy: Dad wants eviction, not connection

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My girlfriend and I have been together for over 10 years and have three kids together, ages 7, 4, and 2 years old. Once our first was born, I gave up going out and drinking — no complaints.

I feel like the kids are well taken care of. However, her moodiness and spending habits have gotten worse. I generally don't complain about it,...Read more

Mom Wonders How To Reveal Youngest Son's Parentage

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have a wonderful 12-year-old son, "Oliver," who was conceived during a date rape at a work party. I don't remember much about that night. When I found out I was pregnant, I hoped my husband at the time was the father. When the baby came, it was obvious he wasn't, because Oliver is a different race. (I am Caucasian, and I'm thinking ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: We All Need To Be Informed

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: Would you please give your readers some information on herpes, both types? Can you address the fact that the lip type doesn't always stay above the waist, or the genital type below? Also, this virus can be in your body for years before it ever manifests itself. (That's when your spouse claims to have been faithful and it might be ...Read more

Single File: Love Partnership

Life Advice / Single File /

The days are gone when women made financial clout the top requisite for serious interest in a man. No longer economically second-class (if not financially whole, or at least with more earning potential -- and hope -- than before), women are asking something different from men. They are beginning to insist that their love object actively nurture ...Read more

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Erika Ettin: When it's time for a break from the apps

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

Whether it’s at work, in our personal lives, or even something as specific as going to the gym, we all experience burnout from time to time. Why would the world of online dating be an exception to the rule?

Finding a romantic relationship may feel like the top priority at times, but that is going to be a lot harder if you’re not in the ...Read more

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Barton Goldsmith: Releasing the panic button

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

When you wake up with a chest full of anxiety, it does not bode well for what the rest of the day will bring. But there are a multitude of ways to help relieve your anxiety and maybe even put it away for good.

Many of these techniques were developed at the UCLA Pain Control Center and published by its founder David Bresler, Ph.D., whom I was ...Read more

Now-Engaged Former Beau Reaches Out

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: A few years back, I went on a number of dates with a man, but it didn't turn into anything. We remained friends on social media, but we stopped communicating directly. I found out he was engaged about a year ago and congratulated him. Since that interaction, he has reached out to me a number of times to ask if we can speak on the...Read more

Ending A Text Conversation

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I use text messages to ask and answer specific questions or to relay information. For conversations, I use telephone calls.

A former graduate student recently contacted me via text message, and I was really enjoying catching up. If we had been conversing via phone, I would have known the cues that indicated whether and when ...Read more

Out-of-Control Office Chitchat

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I've been an admin for many years at many different offices, and the admin's office/desk is usually equivalent to a home's kitchen -- the gathering spot.

The problem is, I have a LOT of work to do. My focus is broken a million times a day because people just come up to my desk to hang out and talk. How do I get people to stop ...Read more

Ask Amy: True friends are worth freezing for

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: “Allie” and I became friends when our children were young. We celebrated holidays, vacationed together, and shared in our joys and troubles.

Allie is ambitious, friendly, and very extroverted, while I am quiet and introverted. It's natural that she has a larger circle of friends, most of whom I have also known for years. She's ...Read more

Husband Keeps Explicit Media From Previous Relationships

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: A year ago, when I discovered my husband's porn videos and naked pictures of his ex-girlfriends, he assured me he would delete them. It has been a year, and he still hasn't done it. When I mention it, he claims he doesn't look at them and doesn't have time to delete them. I ask him to be honest with me about if he intends to keep them...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Dutiful Daughter

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My mother is in her late 80s and is becoming increasingly difficult. She's always been rather critical, but now she is downright rude and insulting. It's as though being old gives her the right to say anything that pops into her head without consideration for anyone else's feelings.

My husband tells me to ignore her comments. I know...Read more

Science Advice Goddess: Girl-On-Girl Inaction

I hate to be trite, but my wife and I are experiencing "lesbian bed death." We've been happily married for three years. I'm not sure why we're not having sex. Sure, we're both busy, but it's more a question of just not ever feeling the urge. I know sex is important for a relationship, and I'm worried. Is there a way to reboot our sex life? -...Read more

Boss Uses Employee As Scapegoat

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: My boss dropped the ball and is blaming it on me. She was supposed to send out an internal email with an important deadline, but she never told anyone about it. She was sitting on the information for a while and didn't let anyone know. Today, my colleagues and I got an urgent message from her stating that we have to work to meet ...Read more

My Daughter Wants Me To Give Her A Mother's Day Card

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I always sent a Mother's Day card to my dear mother, who has since passed away. I also acknowledged any close motherly relatives.

My three children are grown with children of their own. However, my one daughter seems to think that I should give her a card, whereas I think her own children should have that filial duty when ...Read more

Always Be Prepared

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: There's a lot that you and your family can do to alleviate anxiety during these stressful times, especially as we face the potential for an expanding war beyond Ukraine. There are new weapons in play now: cyberattacks, the use of economic sanctions and the expansion of warfare into space.

Using my past experience as emergency ...Read more

Ask Amy: Young nephew’s behavior causes concern

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I’m a clueless aunt looking for some advice.

My little nephew (age 4 1/2) is very smart, but seems dysregulated quite often.

He often runs around in small circles for about 10 minutes screaming, and can only focus for very short amounts of times, avoids eye contact, and often does not respond when spoken to directly.

We recently ...Read more

Man's True Colors Shock His Longtime Girlfriend

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am a 58-year-old, never-married woman with a 22-year blue-collar career. I own a home and will retire with benefits many people dream of.

I've recently ended a relationship with a man I've known since childhood. I truly love him. The problem is that he had been stealing from me. I confronted him several times, but finally had to ...Read more