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Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Readers: I wish you all an enjoyable Easter and Passover. Here's to a spring season filled with new beginnings and lots of hope, happiness and joy. Thank you so much for the joy you bring me through my column each week.

Dear Annie: My 40-year-old son is an alcoholic. He recently went through a divorce and is currently living with my ...Read more

Ask Amy: New grandmother pushes family’s boundaries

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My husband and I recently welcomed our first child.

On my side of the extended family, our baby son (“Samuel”) is the fifth grandchild, but on my husband's side, he is the first.

I am trying to be sensitive to the excitement and extra attention a first grandchild receives.

My mother-in-law, “Joan," has been to our house for a ...Read more

Trainer Turns Woman's Head, And Husband Starts To Notice

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have grown really close to Pete, my trainer at the gym I joined two years ago. We are both married. I know it's wrong to feel this way. I love my husband, but I'm not sure I am in love with him anymore.

I think what I feel for Pete may be more than just a physical attraction and connection. Our lives are so parallel. We are both ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: The Family Mistake

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I am a 12-year-old boy, and I hate my life. I am the youngest of five, but there is a huge age difference. My siblings are aged 29 to 35. My parents are in their mid-50s.

My parents didn't plan me and I'm tired of being constantly told that I am the family "mistake." It's like a big joke to them. People always think I am my parent's...Read more

Sister Belittles In Person, Brags Behind Reader's Back

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: Whenever I talk to my sister, we have some kind of an argument. She is older than me, and she just can't help herself. She always finds a way to jab at me and make herself look better. I am so sick of it. But here's the thing -- while she can be rude and mean to me, I have discovered that she brags about me when she talks to ...Read more

Should Daughter Invite Distant Father To Wedding?

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: My daughter is getting married. Her biological dad and I divorced when she was about 2, and I've been with her stepfather since she was 4. Her biological father was in her life very (VERY) sporadically the first few years, and then he wasn't at all.

He tried to reconnect when she was in her early 20s, but it was awkward for ...Read more

Husband Needs Constant Reassurance

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for almost 12 years. We have been together for almost 20 years and have three beautiful children. The problem is that he has always needed more assurance of love than me -- e.g., he asks, "Do you love me," even though I constantly remind him that I love and appreciate him. It's lately been more ...Read more

Ask Amy: BFF friendship might have run its course

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I have had a close friend for 16 years. We worked together, and she and I both went through nasty divorces, which was a bonding experience. We have sons similar in age. We both got lucky and found love again.

However, over the last several years, things have shifted. She is a chronic last-minute canceler, always with a good excuse: ...Read more

Man Talks About His Will But Won't Put It In Writing

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been married to my husband for seven years. We are in our 60s. He refuses to make a will. He tells me what he would put in his will and asks me if I am OK with his wishes.

He has an adult child from his first marriage and would like to include her in the will. I'm fine with what he wants. This conversation has been going on ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Teary-Eyed and Frustrated

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My younger sister and I are young adults currently living with our grandparents to ease the commute to school and work. We spent most of our elementary and middle school years at our grandparents' house after school, over the summer or when we were sick. Our mother works near their house as well, and she stops by every couple of ...Read more

Reader Not Ready For Life To Go Back To Normal

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: Now that a lot of people are getting vaccinated, I see more people going outside, meeting up in groups and not wearing masks. This frightens me. We are not even close to being fully vaccinated yet. I get that people are tired of being cooped up at home, but I don't think this is smart. Several friends have been calling, trying to...Read more

Formal Lessons Preferable To 'helpful' Interruptions

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: How can I help my girlfriend learn to use the correct words during our conversations in English without constantly correcting her?

When I interrupt her to suggest the correct words, it appears to be more frustrating than helpful for her.

GENTLE READER: Much like with autocorrect, alternate suggestions while one is trying to ...Read more

Outgrown This Relationship

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I've been in a relationship with "Stuart" for almost three years now. In that time I've grown a lot, working to become healthier physically, mentally and financially. I eat healthily and work hard at my job. I no longer drink alcohol. I want to be the best version of myself.

However, Stuart is in a different mindset. He smokes a ...Read more

Ask Amy: Fiance’s incessant talking causes problems

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My fiancé, “Albert,” talks nonstop. He will talk about any and every subject, regardless of the situation or the audience.

He doesn't care if anyone is interested in what he is saying.

He will tell endless stories — it is just one story after another.

The subject doesn’t matter. It doesn't matter if he has told the same ...Read more

Moving Back Home Comes With Questions Of Privacy

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: At the age of 30, I recently had to move back with my parents. I am not the tidiest person in the world, but I thrive on the saying, Dust, not dirt.

I recently went on vacation. I knew my room was a little messier than I'd like, but I also knew I'd return from vacation ready to tackle the pile of laundry and sweep and mop the ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Also Too Little Too Late

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I read the letter from "Too Little, Too Late," whose Vietnam vet husband is robotic and unaffectionate. This sounds like my husband.

There was never an acknowledgement for the things I did, nor did I get a kiss, compliment or sign of affection. He believed because we had a home and enough money to live comfortably, it made him a ...Read more

Recent Grad's Family Urges Getting A Master's Degree

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: I can't get over the feeling that I wasted my time and money in college. I graduated three years ago, and I haven't worked in my field or gotten even remotely close to it. My family is urging me to go and get my master's, but I don't want to waste even more of my time in school. Do you think it would be worth it to get my master'...Read more

Run Your B&B Like The Business It Is

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I have owned a very lovely bed and breakfast in a boutique community for 15 years now. In the last year, I have noticed an upswing in guests being wantonly destructive.

For example, we had a woman dye her hair bright red in her bathroom sink and then wipe her hands on the vintage wallpaper, leaving unfixable stains. This ...Read more

Ditching the Cheating Boyfriend

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My boyfriend and I have been together for 10 years. Everything was good until three years ago when a woman contacted me to tell me that she'd been seeing him. She apologized to me for it. After we got off the phone, I found her on Facebook and realized that they'd been "liking" each other's posts for years. She even posted a photo ...Read more

Ask Amy: Sexting inspires unkind comparisons

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My wife's best friend recently went through a period where she was unhappy in her marriage.

She began sexting with willing male partners and then sharing some of the pictures she had received with my wife.

I know about this because my wife asked me to fix the Wi-Fi on her phone.

While I was working on her phone, her friend texted ...Read more