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Grandparent Problems and Communication Challenges

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I've been reading more and more of your stories and enjoying them. But the one that really caught my eye is from "Heartbroken Nana," the woman who wants to have a better relationship with her grandchildren.

I am a grandmother of soon-to-be 15 grandchildren, and I am in daily contact with four of them. I take them to school and ...Read more

Ask Amy: Divorcing dad needs to put son first

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My wife and I are divorcing after 23 years of marriage. I am moving out soon.

We have a 21-year-old son.

I talked with him about it, and while he’s angry, he says he understands.

The problem, however, is that my marriage was bad for a very long time, and I fell in love with another woman.

My wife refers to me as an adulterer. ...Read more

Millionaire Son Who Never Pays Calls His Father Cheap

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: When we are out as a family, my 30-year-old, millionaire son never pays for anything. He eats more than any of us and never reaches for his wallet, not even to help with the tip. This has been going on for years, and my wife always defends him. I have given up trying to fix it.

I'm writing because my son never fails to criticize the ...Read more

Caught in a Complex Connection

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I'm sad to say that my mother has been lonely for far too long. Her relationship with my father was unsatisfying, and they separated years before his untimely death 18 years ago. Since then, she has neither dated nor maintained any close friendships. My brother lives nearby and sees her a few times a month with his toddler son.

I ...Read more

Ask Amy: A crowded house needs fewer residents

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I've been dating my boyfriend for the past year. I brought my pets and we moved in with him this past December. He's an amazing guy – the absolute best!

The issue arises with his house. He owns a three-bedroom house.

Last July his sister and her family moved in with him.

This took the total number of people from two adults, three ...Read more

Divorcee Wonders If Any 'Good' Men Are Out There

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am sad that I haven't found a long-lasting husband. I'm divorced, and my previous relationships and marriage look like intentional hits. I'm not sure what brought this on. I'm in my 40s and I still would like a man in my life. The men I've met all seem to enjoy having their homes to themselves. It's kind of frightening.

Some female...Read more

Woman With New Job Losing Touch With Friends

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: One of my closest friends recently landed a new job that pays significantly better than the positions held by the rest of our friend group. While I'm genuinely happy for her success, her behavior since starting this job has been a cause for concern. Ever since she got this job, she's developed an air of superiority. She ...Read more

Old Love Letters Lead To Bad Ideas

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: While cleaning out my mom's attic after she passed, I found love letters from my old girlfriends from 50 years ago -- well before I married my wife of 40 years. I read the letters and then tossed them, as I really didn't want my wife or kids to see them.

I've had a great life, but have always held these women in my heart, as ...Read more

Pet Disparity Puts Strain on Marriage

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I grew up never allowed to have pets. I've been married almost 30 years to a man who allowed me to have a small inside dog, and he doesn't mind her so much but hates the two we have outside. Both are rescues, one from his oldest son that had him tied to a tree, the other from a rescue group. Both weigh under 7 pounds. He hates them...Read more

Ask Amy: Divorced mom is debt-averse

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am a divorced mom in my early-30’s, with primary custody of my 8-year-old child.

I have been dating “Ben” for the past two years. He is a great guy and he is very good with my son.

We have been talking about getting married. He has never been married before (no kids) and I am gun-shy, to say the least.

I own my home, my son ...Read more

Felon's Impending Release Sparks Angst Among Family

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend, "Will," and I have been together for seven years. We get along great. I love his close-knit family and adore his parents. He's the youngest of five brothers, most of whom I get along with great. The only brother I don't know is the oldest. "Rick" has been incarcerated for the better part of 30 years for rape. I've always...Read more

Sister Chooses To Spend Time With New Boyfriend

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: I'm feeling a bit lost and hurt lately because my sister, who used to be my closest friend, seems to have disappeared since getting into a relationship with her new boyfriend. She's been spending all of her time with him, leaving little room for our sisterly bond. I am not the only one who feels this way; she has also pushed away...Read more

Host Won't Share Breakfast With Guest

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am 25 and am lucky to be studying overseas in France. It is a financial struggle, but worth the effort, I think.

I don't splurge on much of anything; I can't, really. But I do indulge my love of breakfast. I will go out in the morning and buy a single buttery croissant, a bit of jam, some rich cheese, a few pieces of fruit ...Read more

Daughter Seeks Support, Not Judgment, from Mother

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My mother, who is now 62, has always been a dominant personality, keen on having things go her way. I'm 34, an independent graphic designer, and I pride myself on being self-sufficient and creative. But every time I share aspects of my life with her -- be it career choices, romantic partners or even smaller decisions like adopting ...Read more

Ask Amy: Best friend should also be best man

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My very best and oldest friend, “Curt” is getting married to his long-time girlfriend.

I have spent a lot of time with them, and I can say definitively that Curt’s life is much worse since they have been together.

His fiancée is extremely controlling and has him on a very short tether. Recently he told me that she threw a shoe...Read more

Bitter Son Won't Allow Mom To Find Happiness

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My sister "Sandy" divorced her husband 15 years ago. Her oldest son, "Nick," has never gotten over it. He's 30 now and has treated her badly over the years. He not only vandalized her home but has also said horrible things to her. She maintained a relationship with him despite his behavior, supporting him emotionally and sometimes ...Read more

Sister Contemplates Maid Of Honor Tradition

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: My family has five women -- four sisters and me -- and it has become a silent tradition that for each sibling's wedding, the next in line serves as the maid of honor.

This year, it's my turn to get married, and, being the fourth sibling, I should be asking my youngest sister. I'm not super-close to my younger sister due to an ...Read more

Must I Give Guests My Own Bedroom?

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: What is the proper etiquette regarding bedroom assignments for guests?

A friend of mine told me that it is good manners to offer the main suite to guests, especially married and/or elderly couples. I was never advised of such a rule when I was growing up, and I wonder if I have been impolite over the years.

My adult daughter...Read more

Promotion Shifts Dynamics of Longtime Friendship

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My friend "Emily" and I go way back to our college days, when we used to share absolutely everything with each other -- the good, the bad and the ugly. She recently got a promotion at work (she works for a well-known accounting firm), something I know she's been dreaming of for a while. Of course, I'm super happy for her, but ...Read more

Ask Amy: Sister’s revelation lobs secret bombshell

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I grew up in the same town as “Carly,” the woman I later married. Her older sister “Susan” and I were in the same class in high school.

Susan and I were friendly in high school, but I wouldn’t say we were exactly friends. It was a small school.

After college I returned to my hometown when my father got sick and needed help ...Read more