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Longtime Friendship Entails Frequent Visits From Couple
DEAR ABBY: My husband is an outdoor enthusiast and has a group of guys he goes hunting with every year. One of them has started coming out west to vacation at our house twice a year and now has followed us to our warm-weather winter home.
When he stays at our place, we fix all the meals and he uses our washer, dryer and detergent for several ...Read more
Ask Anna: Understanding work crushes, keeping clothes on during sex and FWB gift etiquette
Dear Anna,
I (35-year-old man) struck up a friendly rapport with a lady (unsure of her age, but probably late 20s or early 30s) who works in my building. We find time to converse during breaks and even hung out at a few group events (trivia night, anyone?). On a whim, I invited her to grab coffee with me yesterday afternoon. She agreed, ...Read more
Single File: The Toss of a Coin
Yes, singleness gives the power of being in charge of your life, but what about the sadness that we often feel? How do you explain it?
Being in total control of your life is the positive side of single life, but the flip side is there, too -- a sad, gnawing realization that you're on your own. Onlyness, I call it. But -- you suspected this was ...Read more
Navigating exclusivity in dating
As a dating coach, I'm frequently asked questions about exclusivity in relationships — how to approach it, when to discuss it, and what to expect. I want to address two questions I got just today and offer some insights on how to handle these situations effectively.
Question 1: I’ve been seeing someone for two and a half months and found ...Read more
Family Unimpressed With Unemployed Boyfriend
DEAR HARRIETTE: I've been dating my boyfriend for eight months, and I think he might be the one I want to marry. I am 32 years old, and it feels well past due. My family, however, doesn't approve of him at all. They believe he is unsuitable for me and have expressed their concerns about our relationship. He is unemployed currently, and I pay our...Read more
Telemarketers Don't Really Care How You're Doing
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I receive a lot of unwanted telephone calls from telemarketers and real estate buyers who are seeking to buy my house. Many of these callers start out by asking for me by name and then inquiring how I am doing.
Every once in a while, one of these callers turns out to be a recruiter instead of a telemarketer, so I wish to ...Read more
Giving Grandkids the Gift of Quality Time
Dear Annie: When my nephew was a toddler and his family visited, my mom (his grandmother) got big furniture boxes discarded from stores and made forts and tunnels in our large family room. She got down on the floor and played whatever character he chose her to be in this turf maze. She didn't care if she played a dinosaur or the Lone Ranger.
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Ask Amy: Young son worries about growing up
Dear Amy: My husband and I have a very sweet 8-year-old son. His dad and I adore him. We’re having a great time going through life together.
Recently he has been emotional and sensitive. He has said several times that he doesn’t want to grow up. When I ask him why, he says he’ll miss all of the things we do together, like reading together...Read more
Son's New Playmate Resides In A Home With Sex Offender
DEAR ABBY: We recently moved to a new neighborhood. My 8-year-old son, "Joey," has become best friends with a classmate, "Paul," who lives on our street. We know from research we did when we bought our house that Paul's stepfather, with whom he lives, is a sex offender who committed crimes against children and served time in prison.
Paul has ...Read more
Cool Girl Takes Advantage Of Nerdy Guy
DEAR HARRIETTE: There is a concerning situation involving a boy I know who is intelligent but not considered cool by his peers -- he' a nerd. The girl he likes has been using him for her personal gain, manipulating him into doing her assignments and projects. Despite my attempts to warn him about her intentions, he does not seem to heed my ...Read more
Should I Attend A Ceremony That I Can't Fully Hear?
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I have nine beautiful grandchildren, and beginning this year, I will attend high school graduations for the next several consecutive years. My issue is that I am so hard of hearing that I cannot understand the speakers at these ceremonies.
For me, it is as though the speeches are in a foreign language. I applaud when others ...Read more
Saying 'Thank You' at the Grocery Store
Dear Readers: We recently ran a letter from someone who complained that cashiers at grocery stores rarely thank them, the customers. I heard from many of you who have worked as cashiers at supermarkets, and I am grateful for your letters as they provide a firsthand account of the other perspective.
Below are two of those letters. The second ...Read more
Ask Amy: Childfree man doesn’t love the ball pit
Dear Amy: I have a recurring issue when going out with my girlfriend's brother.
Every time we plan to go out with him and his wife, the outings revolve around their children.
As a happily childfree man in his 40s, I have no desire to spend my Saturday watching kids play in a crowded play space.
I have suggested activities that are child-...Read more
Parent Has Chosen To Keep Relatives At Arm's Length
DEAR ABBY: I grew up in a big lower-class family in which there has always been drama, fights, gossip, etc. I made a vow to myself that when I had my own family, I would raise them better. I keep myself and my children distanced from all of that. Am I wrong for keeping them away from my family? I don't like drama or problems. Sometimes I miss my...Read more
Woman Devastated By Boyfriend's Terminal Diagnosis
DEAR HARRIETTE: I am a 29-year-old woman from Phoenix. My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for five years. I thought that he was "the one" for a long time -- until this year when he fell terminally ill. I've had to watch him slowly fade away for three months now, and the doctors say he will continue to do so until the end of the year....Read more
No, Total Stranger, The Flowers Aren't For You
DEAR MISS MANNERS: About once a month or so, when I attend a social function, I bring a gift or floral bouquet to the host. Often this involves carrying the gift or flowers on foot through a public area on the way to the gathering -- for example, along the sidewalk, if I park a block or two away from the host's home, or through the lobby of a ...Read more
Regret and Renewal
Dear Annie: I could have written the letter from "Regretful," who was sad that she and her husband had left the city and moved into a rural area where she is missing out on so much that had made her life fun. For me, it's been 12 years of misery. I used to see my daughters and grandkid almost every day, and now I'm lucky if it's once a year.
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Ask Amy: Son’s apology demand creates distance
Dear Amy: Several years ago, my father and his wife visited me for a week.
I spared no expense trying to ensure that they enjoyed themselves, particularly his wife. (She married him after I was grown. My own mother died when I was five.)
The week was full of shopping, casino time, outdoor activities, and sightseeing.
I thought it went great. ...Read more
Intense Emotions Accompany Arrival Of Early Menopause
DEAR ABBY: I am 34 and recently found out I have started menopause. I knew it might come early for me because most of the women in my family began in their 30s and were done by 50. I have no biological children and now probably never will. I guess I waited too long for the right time, the right person, etc. I was always careful to use birth ...Read more
Millennial Life: When Information Isn't the News
The alert on my phone tells me that my package is seven stops away. Clicking into the app, there's a little outline of a truck, but what pulled up was a white sedan, someone's personal car with a few years and more than a few miles on it.
I'm of two minds. Sure, if you're in a neighborhood where you might question whether your package will ...Read more
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