Life Advice






Erika Ettin: Going on a date isn't a waste of time

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

I browse hundreds of dating profiles every week (no, that’s not an exaggeration), and I tend to see some things over and over again:

“I like to travel and spend time outdoors.” Great, but who doesn’t?

“My friends say I’m charming, intelligent, and fun.” Maybe that’s why you’re friends?

“My mom says I’m handsome.” I ...Read more

The Benefits of a Phone Break

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I made the decision to put down my phone for a while, and the results have been wonderful.

Today was my "allowed" day to pick up my phone again. I had given myself a three-day restriction, and today was the fourth day. During those three days, I only answered for my dad calling. He's 86, and I don't want to miss one minute of his ...Read more

Ask Amy: Friend struggles to respond to #metoo accusation

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I have been good friends with “James” and “Dennis” for over 30 years, since we were all in grad school. We shared many laughs.

James and Dennis remain best friends today; we don’t see each other very often, but we do stay in touch.

Dennis has been happily married for about 10 years. James has been in a committed ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Just Can't Win

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I know you've covered this before, but please bear with me. I am a man in my late 30s who is too nice and has no luck. I never dated in high school or college, and my adult dating experience amounts to what I can count on two hands. Married women think I'm great because I am no threat to their marriages, while single women avoid me ...Read more

Science Advice Goddess: Brawl Straps

I'm a woman in my early 20s. The guy I'm dating brought me to meet his friends. His male friends were warm and friendly. The women were awful. One deliberately kept saying my name wrong (it's not exactly exotic), and two others glared at my miniskirt. Another said something about how low-cut my top was. She made it sound like a compliment, ...Read more


Ghosting -- the silent, unexplained method to ending relationships -- has negative impact on both parties and can stunt emotional growth, study finds

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

Dating, always fun at first, often starts with a flurry of romantic text messages, frequent pinging of sweet sentiments, followed by in-person meetings. But more and more, it ends in silence — when one person disappears.

The modern phenomenon known as “ghosting” continues to grow, yet research on this breakup trend and how will it ...Read more

Giving Up on Dating

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I want to know why people think it's OK to harass and abuse other people. My ex brought his girlfriend home, and they spent the night in the garage. That was when we were still married.

Then he took my 5-year-old daughter out on dates with the girlfriend, and he abused and harassed me for a year to try to get me to abandon the ...Read more

Ask Amy: Long-married couple copes with negativity

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My wife and I have been together for 44 years.

My wonderful wife used to be generally happy and positive.

Then came four years of politics, which seems to have scarred her permanently; she now worries about everything, is (at times) hypercritical, and has a decidedly pessimistic outlook. Negativity abounds.

During the Trump ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Battle Major in Iraq

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I have been dating "Kelsey" for four months. Everything about her is great. She is very attractive, she is a professional, she has an amazing sense of humor, and she really has her life together. She is everything I am looking for in a girlfriend. If we are not physically together, we are emailing, text messaging or on the phone. ...Read more


Person to Person: Finding common ground strengthens relationships

Life Advice / Helping Yourself /

Are you fighting with friends who support a different political party than you? Are you angry with your sister because she just got some flamboyant tattoos?

Differences can tear any two people apart. However, finding common ground can bond you in ways you never expected.

It takes good communication and careful thought, but we all need to build...Read more

The Grandma Who Isn't Good Enough

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My heart and prayers go out to the "Grieving Grandmother" who is tired of the apathy shown by her daughters-in-law. Those girls are incredibly rude and selfish when they ignore her at family gatherings, but I am impressed that Grandma gets holiday and family birthday meals at all.

My two daughters-in-law have each said that their ...Read more

Ask Amy: Client’s crush on therapist creates dilemma

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I’m a heterosexual woman.

Over the course of my life, there have been a couple of instances where women were attracted to me, but when they realized what was happening, I think they got scared and backed off. I didn’t stop them.

I’ve been seeing a therapist for quite some time, and I realize I’m attracted to her.

I know you ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Been There in Ohio

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I am a 15-year-old male, and I have a dilemma about a dating situation. The trouble is that my parents do not want me to date until I am 16. There is a girl I'm interested in, and we could be dating if my parents would let me. Right now, we are just keeping things as friends, but we really want to spend time together.

I am going ...Read more

Millennial Life: Stripping Identity From Work

It was an advertisement for a flower farm this time. There were openings for studio and field assistants and delivery drivers, both full-time and part-time positions. There's always a mental flash when I see a job posting that sounds interesting but is completely out of my wheelhouse: "Wouldn't that be a nice change of pace?" I don't ask, "Is ...Read more

Put Yourself First

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I have a friend who spent many years in an emotionally abusive relationship that seems similar to what "Sad Grandma" described. What I have seen with my friend's children is that they have learned to treat their mom the same way their father did.

They watched for years as she put his needs and demands first in all of their lives. ...Read more

Ask Amy: Beach house vacay could take a toll

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: Our son “Tom” received a heart transplant 10 years ago.

He's done great. He is very diligent about keeping in shape, taking his meds, and eating a healthy diet.

Tom’s wife “Tracy” works in a nursing home. Throughout COVID, they've both been extremely careful. Everyone in our family, including Tom and Tracy were vaccinated ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: England Friend

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My 22-year-old boyfriend recently told me that he was raped by a man when he was between 9 and 10 years old. He will not tell me the molester's name. This was a shock, and I feel very sorry for him. He tried to tell his mum, but she dismissed it and told him she didn't believe him, so he did not tell anyone else.

As a rape victim ...Read more

Alzheimer's Looming

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My grandfather had severe Alzheimer's disease. Unfortunately, it lasted for a while.

He was fine before he hit 75. Occasionally, he would forget things, but it was not a big deal. As he aged, his memory got worse and his ability to forget things increased. By 80, he was bad. He didn't know who some of his kids were, and talking to ...Read more

Ask Amy: Board members are afraid of confrontation

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I sit on a community board. All board members are volunteers. Most have professional careers and are adept at having healthy and respectful discussions.

One person on the board has become aggressive and uncooperative. He puts down other members' opinions, sends hostile emails, and presents his own opinion as the only way to proceed.

...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Relatives for a Giveaway

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: We recently attended a family wedding. The invitation said the wedding was at 2 p.m., with a reception and dancing at 7:30. After the ceremony, we sat in the hotel bar with a dozen other family members, all of whom had driven over three hours to attend.

We soon learned that there were two invitations -- one of which was for a dinner...Read more