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Asking Eric: Letter writer regrets making new friend

Life Advice / Asking Eric /

Dear Eric: In the spring I attended an event and sat next to a woman around my age who was absolutely delightful. We discovered we had a lot in common and had a great old time.

At that luncheon I was willing to share personal things right away and I know I gave off messages that would suggest that I am indeed open to a closer relationship. I ...Read more

Mother in the Middle

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I'm writing for advice about a dear friend, "Meg," who we've known for more than 40 years. She has a son, "Rodney," who went to high school with our son and who has always been on the edge of being an outlaw.

Over the years, we've seen Rodney continuously depend on his parents to finance his escapades. We saw him wreck his car and...Read more

Asking Eric: Brother’s theft leaves family confused

Life Advice / Asking Eric /

Dear Eric: I recently discovered that my younger brother (age 72) has been taking advantage of my elderly uncle (age 92), who has dementia. My cousin, who thankfully has power of attorney, uncovered checks made out to the brother. The brother initially denied the checks, but when confronted with the evidence, he rationalized them by claiming the...Read more

The Perpetual Plus-One

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I'm 29, living in New York City, with a job I love and a great group of friends -- none of whom are single. Half are married or engaged, the other half coupled up in serious relationships. I'm generally OK being single, but going out as the perpetual third wheel is wearing on me. I've thought about making new friends; I've even ...Read more

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Ask Anna: Is my partner protecting me -- or controlling me?

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

Dear Anna,

I’m 28 and have been with my girlfriend for about a year and a half. Things are really good between us overall, but we keep hitting a wall over one specific issue: I occasionally text with an ex from about four years ago. And I do mean occasionally. We’re talking maybe once or twice a month, maybe less than that. And the gist is:...Read more

Asking Eric: Grandfather’s gift to estranged grandchild may come with strings

Life Advice / Asking Eric /

Dear Eric: A few years ago, my 24-year-old child came out as nonbinary and chose a new name, “Avery.” While the adjustment hasn’t always been easy, most of our immediate family now use Avery’s new name and pronouns. The exception is my husband’s parents, especially my father-in-law, who does not accept Avery’s identity and has ...Read more

Hoping To Heal a Hurting Family

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I've been married for 35 years and have four children and seven grandchildren. We are a blended family. All the children lived with, and were raised by, my husband and me.

One of my daughters was always kind of a black sheep, always doing things outside the box. As a young child, teen and adult, she always did it differently. So ...Read more

Single File: Up, Up and Away

Life Advice / Single File /

This could be you: making more money than ever and moving away from the pack, only to discover that in pulling yourself up, you're pushing men away. In the small hours of the morning, you catch yourself wondering whether the old days of money-blindness were better than the isolation solvency is bringing. In your heart of hearts, you know there's...Read more

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Ask Dating Coach Erika: He's only been separated for 6 months. Is this a deal-breaker?

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

We have questions today about someone’s potential readiness to be in a relationship, one-word answers in the dating apps, making a good first impression and how to know when it’s time to get back out there after a breakup.

Question: I met a guy. It’s been six months since his separation after more than 20 years of marriage. Is this a deal...Read more

Asking Eric: Daughter’s job frustrations trigger mother

Life Advice / Asking Eric /

Dear Eric: A year and a half ago, I moved in with my mother. It was her idea, as I was having financial and health difficulties. I resisted at first, but eventually it became my only option.

My life situation improved for a while, but I recently resigned from a stressful job at her urging. I am close to retirement age and have had difficulty ...Read more

When Social Media Likes Define Self-Worth

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My 14-year-old daughter spends far too much time on social media, and I am beginning to see it affect her mood, confidence and sleep.

She checks her phone the moment she wakes up and often stays online long after she is supposed to be asleep. If a friend posts a picture without her, she becomes upset. If one of her own posts does ...Read more

Asking Eric: Know-it-all friend always has answers even when she’s wrong

Life Advice / Asking Eric /

Dear Eric: I had a casual friend, Casey, in high school but didn't reconnect until a few years ago. She is driving me crazy with her relentless, impossible to answer questions, as well as her predicting and assuming what my family members will do or say in any given circumstance, despite never meeting them.

At one point, when I had surgery, she...Read more

My Friend's Joy Highlights My Own Pain

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am embarrassed to admit this, but I am jealous of my best friend.

"Claire" and I have been close for more than 20 years. We met in college, stood in each other's weddings and raised our children alongside one another. She has always been the person I could tell anything to.

Over the past year, though, everything in her life ...Read more

Asking Eric: Brother doesn’t want gay father’s ex at memorial service

Life Advice / Asking Eric /

Dear Eric: My 93-year-old Dad passed away recently, and my brother and I are planning a memorial service. Our mother died several years ago. Mom and Dad stayed married despite the fact that Dad came out as gay around 2000. He had a very close relationship with a man, “Douglas,” for many years, although they were just friends when Dad died.

...Read more

Being Needed Isn't the Same as Being Valued

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am the person everyone in my family calls when they need something. I babysit, drive relatives to appointments, host holidays and lend money when someone is in a bind. I rarely complain because I love my family and want to be helpful.

A few weeks ago, my sister called me in a panic because her babysitter canceled before an ...Read more

Asking Eric: Mid-40s worker wants to drastically change life

Life Advice / Asking Eric /

Dear Eric: After two decades working in the same organization and several years in my actual position, I've been wanting a change. I actually like my job but now in my mid-40s feel like I need to change things up for the second half of my career.

Between my wife's income and some savings, we could get by financially for a while.

I've resigned ...Read more

Grandson's New Relationship Creates Distance

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My husband and I raised our grandson from the time he was a baby. He is now 19, and until recently, we were very close.

When he first introduced us to his girlfriend, I thought she seemed nice enough. But now she is constantly by his side. Whenever I try to talk to him privately, offer advice or help him with something, she ...Read more

Celebrating Freedom, Family and Love This Fourth of July

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Readers: On this Fourth of July, I hope you give yourself permission to slow down.

Let the day be simple.

Enjoy the sound of laughter from the next yard. Notice the flags moving in the breeze. Sit outside with a cold drink. Watch the children run through the grass. Stay up for the fireworks, even if you are tired.

There is something ...Read more

When Is 'Soon'?

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am a 31-year-old woman, and I've been with my boyfriend for five years. We've been talking about marriage for the past two -- talking about it and talking about it. Every time it comes up, it's positive. He tells me he can't wait to marry me. But Annie, the proposal still has not come. I even asked him directly when he would be ...Read more

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Ask Anna: Is this love bombing? And should I play matchmaker?

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

Dear Anna,

I’ve been messaging someone I met on a dating app for about three weeks, and we finally have our first date this weekend. We’ve had some really fun conversations, and I’m genuinely excited to meet her. The other night she mentioned that she’d been reading a book she loved, but her library hold expired before she could finish ...Read more