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Ask Amy: COVID concerns dominate relationships

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I recently had a conversation with a friend that I am still ruminating about.

She shared how she used a loophole to get a COVID vaccination that she really wasn't entitled to receive.

It was as if I should be impressed with how creative and smart she was to game the system.

She then went on to describe how she will now be ...Read more

Husband Talking to My Best Friend

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I own a bar with my best friend. We work great together. I've been married for five years, and yesterday, my business partner showed me messages from my husband. He gave her his phone number and said if she ever wants to talk, she should call. He is in no way associated with our bar. They are friends through me. I am very upset he ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: A Woman Blessed With a Retired Lover

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My husband passed away last month. His six children (who are my age) were never fans of our marriage, even though their father was happy for the 10 years we were together. They never considered me a part of their family. Only one of his children attended the funeral. I have not received a condolence card from any of them, although ...Read more

Ask Amy: Neighbors overhear verbal elder abuse

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: Our house is about 20 feet, wall-to-wall, from the next house.

Pre-pandemic, we only knew our next-door neighbors by name and exchanged occasional greetings.

The neighbors are an elderly gentleman, being cared for by his elderly daughter. She had mentioned that her father suffers from dementia. Her father is physically impaired and ...Read more

Husband Hygiene

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married one year. Before we got married, he kept himself clean. Gradually, he's changed, and his hygiene has gotten worse and worse. Now he only changes underwear and showers once a week. He has let his hair grow long and messy and refuses to get a haircut. He shaves maybe once a week, at most. He used to...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Self-Sufficient Suzie

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: Yesterday, I tried to help my son do his third-grade homework. One question was: "If Sue runs around the track twice, and John runs around the track four times more than Sue, how many times does John run around the track?" My son submitted his answer as 8, but the teacher said the answer was 6.

Do I speak up? Should I simply assume ...Read more

Single File: Love Addiction

Life Advice / Single File /

DEAR SUSAN: My shrink told me I'm in a sick relationship and that I won't be healthy unless I leave it. But my girl and I have been a couple forever. She'd wither and die if I ever left, she said. But she's so possessive she won't let anyone else near us, so we have no friends. And frankly, it's a bit boring -- just her and me, two against the ...Read more

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Erika Ettin: The quick and dirty on the dating apps

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

Many people think that writing an online dating profile is a one-time job, and they rarely change it based on its success (or lack thereof). They also try to write it as quickly as possible.

This is actually one thing that you should really spend your time on … even on the dating apps like Tinder and Bumble, where a “profile” is usually ...Read more

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Barton Goldsmith: A life without pleasure, the pain of anhedonia

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

Located somewhere between sadness (when your life isn’t going the way you want it to) and depression (when you can’t get out of bed) is the pit of anhedonia. Simply described, it is the inability to feel pleasure, but that hardly covers just one aspect of this seldom-discussed disorder.

Anhedonia can refer to reduced desire and reduced ...Read more

Ask Amy: Marriage has porous borders

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Dear Amy: My husband of 13 years is having boundary issues with a colleague. They became close when he had a depressive episode last year and confided in her instead of me. He said a lot of things to her that made me uncomfortable, including comments about our relationship and our finances.

I read his messages and have proof.

I confessed to ...Read more

Tone Down the Tambourine

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I attend a small church where the congregation does not exceed 12 members. So on any given Sunday, there are at least nine of us in attendance, including the pastor and first lady. We follow the government recommended COVID-19 social distance guidelines.

I am hearing impaired and wear a digital hearing aid. There is an older ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: A Loving, Crushed Mother

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I am a very loving mother of two adult daughters. "Jane" has a child with her ex and another with her current husband. "Cindy" is married with one child and one on the way.

At first, things with Jane were great. We helped them furnish their house with all new appliances, and also helped financially when they asked. Three years ago, ...Read more

Science Advice Goddess: Old Is The New Black

What are your thoughts on women who are involved with much younger men? A friend who's my age, 58, is dating a 23-year-old guy. She started seeing him when he was 18 and refers to him as her "husband." I went on a day trip with the two of them, and it honestly felt like we had a child in tow. He whines and pouts to get his way, feels a need ...Read more

Ask Amy: Mom steals stories, and then shares

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My mom frequently “shares” things via social media that she has no right to share.

She’ll take a picture that we have posted on Facebook or Instagram and post it herself; (almost as if she was the one who took it), often relaying the story of the picture as if it’s her own – basically “stealing” it and reposting it ...Read more

Hygiene Problems Points to Deeper Issues

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: Our son is an educated, well-read, successful married man. We taught him how to keep a home, how to clean, how to groom himself. This has never been an issue.

Since he married five years ago, all things clean have disappeared. His home is filthy. We help out at his house, doing painting, flooring, etc. We are glad to be a part of ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Clean Shoes in Wisconsin

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: One of my wife's siblings insists that everyone remove their shoes upon entering her home. This makes me feel like I am welcome only so long as I don't get their precious house dirty.

My wife and I were recently invited to her sister's house for a family party. When I didn't take off my perfectly clean shoes, she looked me in the ...Read more

Ask Amy: Handsy hubby should revise technique

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My husband and I have been married for almost eight years.

I'm 44 and he is 38. We have three kids, ages 5, 3, and one.

We've always had an amazing sex life and a great relationship in every way.

We also have the usual stress that comes along with raising kids (paying bills, running a household, etc.).

We've always taken comfort in...Read more

Worth the Time

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I have been dating my boyfriend for two years. We are both in our mid-40s. But I feel as if we are walking in opposite directions on the road of life.

He works two full-time jobs and has several younger children. He has so many responsibilities financially that he is stretched thin. I have never been invited inside his home. I ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Perplexed Grandmother

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I have eight grandchildren and I love them all. I make sure to spend equal amounts of time and care with each one of them.

The problem is my son's 3-year-old child. My son and his wife live with his mother-in-law in another state. I have been unable to see this grandson, because the wife and her mother are so afraid of colds that ...Read more

Ask Amy: An offer of prayer doesn’t sit well

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My husband had knee replacement surgery at a Catholic hospital last week.

The first few weeks of his physical therapy are done at our home.

The first session was today.

Everything went well and when it was time for her to leave, the therapist asked if my husband wanted to pray with her. She said this was totally up to him.

He said ...Read more