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Annie's Mailbox: Faulted for Falling in Love

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Dear Annie: My mother has been struggling to get clean and sober for many years. Unfortunately, every few months she seems to slip up and go on a binge. She has been in and out of treatment facilities for so many years that I truly believe she doesn't want to stop.

My question regards the upcoming holidays. Every year I have a party at my home ...Read more


Christmas season is also catfishing season. Don't fall for a romance scam

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

The season of holiday cheer is also the peak time for scammers offering bogus romance. Thousands of Americans looking for a new love to help usher in the new year will instead be beguiled by online con artists who use fake identities and empty promises to talk the lovestruck out of their savings — or worse.

More Californians report being ...Read more

Mourning During the Holidays

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I recently lost my son, and Thanksgiving without him was very painful. I am writing to offer suggestions for how people might act, or what they should say, when interacting with one who is grieving the loss of a loved one.

Ordinarily, I would have texted "Sam" in advance to tell him where we would be celebrating Thanksgiving, and ...Read more

Ask Amy: This year, put ‘A Book on Every Bed’

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Dear Readers: Every year at Christmastime, I ask readers to put “A Book on Every Bed.” I do so in memory of my mother, Jane, whose weekly trips to our town’s library always yielded armloads of books. In our household, we went without some things that other families had, but we always had books in abundance.

The idea to put books on beds ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Unhappy Husband

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Dear Annie: You frequently print letters from husbands whose wives show no interest in sex, but I've never seen a problem like mine. My wife loves sex. However, she will never initiate it or act seductively. If I don't initiate sex, it doesn't happen. We can go for weeks without it. Yet when we are intimate, she adores it. She frequently says, "...Read more

Millennial Life: The Power of Many Little Cuts

Working with a budget, you renovate a house built in the early 1960s very slowly. Like everyone else who found themselves marveling at the condition of their house when they spent more time in it at the start of the pandemic, my husband and I also decided to do some renovations in the form of paint, lights and a new medicine cabinet in our ...Read more

Boyfriend's Past Has Me Questioning Him

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: After paying my dues with bad relationships, including a toxic marriage that took me way too long to leave, I have finally found real love with a man whom I've known since we were teenagers.

After my divorce, we got back in touch and started dating. I had always had a crush on him, and he tells me that he felt the same way when we...Read more

Ask Amy: Exhausted caregiver deserves some respite

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Dear Amy: I hesitate to admit this, but I'm tired of hanging out with my elderly parents.

I live an hour from them, while my two sisters live five states away.

Since the beginning of the pandemic, I've driven my parents to the family's two-week beach vacation (and stayed with them), flown with them to a wedding (and stayed with them), and ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Need a Bigger Piece of the Pie

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Dear Annie: I am a single mother of three, trying desperately to make ends meet. My paycheck is normally gone before I get back to work on Monday. I've been trying to find a part-time job to supplement my income, to no avail. Since my annual salary is right above the poverty line, I do not qualify for government assistance. What little money my ...Read more

Guest With a Gross Habit

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Dear Annie: My middle-aged confirmed bachelor brother-in-law is a frequent and welcome dinner guest at our house. Lately, when no one is here but his brother and me, he's begun cleaning his plate with his finger and then licking his finger. Sometimes he just licks his plate.

He is a dear. He's also sensitive and easily hurt. I'm reluctant to ...Read more

Ask Amy: Hairstylist wonders if she’s 'worth it'

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Dear Amy: I am a (female) hairstylist and own my small business.

I love my profession and am proud of what I have accomplished.

Inevitably when I am with others, my profession will come up in conversation.

Oftentimes the people around me will start talking about their hairstylist and begin complaining about how expensive the services are.

I ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Confused 18-Year-Old

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Dear Annie: I am 18 and had been seeing casually a 15-year-old girl who lives down the street. We were mostly friends, although she hinted that she wanted something more out of the relationship.

When I turned 18, my father had a serious talk with me about the responsibilities associated with becoming a legal adult. One area of discussion ...Read more

Is It Just a Game?

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Dear Annie: My wife is borderline addicted to "Words With Friends" (an app game similar to Scrabble), and it's causing me concern, in addition to creating some strife within our marriage. It would be one thing if she were only playing with other female players, but she also has an ongoing game with a former male classmate, which I consider to be...Read more

Ask Amy: Proud papa wants to stop crop top

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Dear Amy: I am the proud papa of a brilliant, beautiful, 18-year-old daughter. She is thriving as a freshman in college.

She came home recently for Thanksgiving wearing a “crop top,” exposing her stomach (we live in a very warm climate).

She is 20 pounds overweight. I know she doesn’t need to be reminded of this, as she is aware and ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Somewhere in America

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Dear Annie: During a self-exam in March, I noticed a painful lump above my left breast. I was told repeatedly that painful lumps are rarely breast cancer, and that it was probably a benign fibroid. I was unable to get a doctor to take it seriously.

During an appointment for another procedure, I insisted that the doctor examine my breast. The ...Read more


Sex apps for gay men join forces to fight online insults

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

Corey Baker, a gay man in Columbus, Ohio, has seen many dating app profiles that include phrases like “Blacks — don’t apply.” Sometimes when he declines invitations, he said, men lash out with insults like “you’re an ugly Black person anyway.” And some of his friends have been slammed with the N-word in similar situations.

Many of...Read more

Outdated Tradition?

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am a baby boomer and appreciate the 20th-century tradition of "rising to the occasion" and taking in meals if a family member is ill or if there has been a death in the family. It is a kind and thoughtful gesture. I am in a club, and one member's husband was diagnosed with cancer two years ago. At that time, our president assigned ...Read more

Ask Amy: Sister’s annual gift cards just don’t cut it

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Dear Amy: Every year, my husband receives a text message from his sister asking what our two children would like for Christmas.

She does not acknowledge our children's birthdays or any other special milestone that would warrant a call, a card, or a gift; but at Christmas she always sends gift cards.

My children and I appreciate the sentiment, ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Trying To Be Fair

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Dear Annie: I've written you before, but this time I hit the send button.

I have three grandchildren. One is biologically related, and the other two are my daughter's stepchildren from two previous relationships. The older child currently lives with his father, who has an enormous family. The middle child had no contact with his father until ...Read more

Single File: Rejection

Life Advice / Single File /

DEAR SUSAN: My BFF believes that women should ask men for a date, but then when she does -- gets turned down -- it's the end of the world. I try to talk her out of her black mood, but she won't hear me. Maybe you can help? -- From the 'Single File' Blog

DEAR BLOGGER: (Sigh) The thing is, romance has been stressed -- not killed, mind you -- but ...Read more