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Ask Anna: Is dating outdated?
Dear Anna,
Is there ever a point where dating doesn't feel futile? By dating, I'm referencing those initial few outings with someone new, not, like, as a stand-in for being in a committed relationship.
It seems like every couple I know of either dove headfirst into couplehood (monogamous or otherwise) practically from the moment they crossed ...Read more
Zoom intimacy and creative sexting: How COVID-19 has changed the way some people have sex
PHILADELPHIA -- When Juan's long-term relationship ended the same day Philadelphia announced its first COVID-19 case and started the citywide shutdown, he knew the isolation to come would be a challenge.
So Juan, 33, created profiles on a handful of dating apps, including Tinder, Bumble, Hinge and OkCupid.
"It was tough because it was the peak...Read more
The 'yours, mine and ours' school of budgeting
“You bought what? And it cost how much?”
Be honest: Have you ever been called out by your spouse for spending too much? Or maybe you’ve been the one to bristle at a fresh batch of shopping bags brought home by your better half?
Bankrate’s latest financial infidelity survey revealed that 30 percent of U.S. adults who are married or ...Read more
What happened to 'Menver'? Denver daters say finding love is getting harder
DENVER — Much to the chagrin of single Denverites, the city’s nationally-recognized nickname, “Menver” — an allusion to the number of available men, ready for relationships — hasn’t withstood the test of time.
One of the earliest mentions of the Menver phenomenon was a 2006 Westword column raving about the male surplus. That still...Read more
Why talking about money is crucial in a relationship
Money is one of the most common sources of conflict in a relationship. So it should come as no surprise that a recent Bankrate survey found that well over one-third (42 percent) of Americans in a relationship have kept a financial secret from their partner.
Keeping money-related secrets, or avoiding talking about money altogether, can lead to ...Read more
Millennial Life: The Rules of Engagement
The table had their agenda placed in front of the empty seats. I had been led back to the room and left alone. I picked a seat without an agenda as I wasn't part of their organization, but my name on the paper caught my eye. I was listed as the only item on the agenda, as a special guest speaker. Well, I wish I had known that before I came in to...Read more
Her pregnant wife filed for divorce. The lawsuit changed who gets to be a parent in Pa.
PHILADELPHIA -- Nicole Junior and Chanel Glover were ready to be mothers, so the same month as their wedding, they began pursuing IVF.
The two decided early on that Glover would be the one to become pregnant. Junior didn’t care about having a genetic connection — either way, she figured, the baby would be theirs. Still, she was unexpectedly...Read more
Ask Erika: Your dating questions answered
Question: Three dates and no kiss. How do I show I want to kiss without being cringy? He’s asked me on a fourth.
Answer: Say this: “I wonder what it would feel like if we kissed.” It will work like a charm. Happy smooching!
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Question: A guy I was going on a date with canceled twice. Once he forgot, once for work. Thoughts?
Answer: ...Read more
Single File: Male-Bashing
Some misguided women believe that putting down the males of our species makes them look better, stronger, more independent. Well, ladies, if it takes one of your own gender to blow the whistle on this gem of mindlessness, consider yours truly the ideal candidate. (Deep bow from the waist.) I've been dumped, stood up and lied to, yet I have known...Read more
6 ideas for saving money on Valentine's Day
Expressing undying love for your sweetheart on Valentine’s Day doesn’t cost any money, but nearly everything else does. Some 53% of Americans planned to celebrate Valentine’s Day in 2024, bringing the expected holiday spending total to $25.8 billion, according to the National Retail Federation’s 2024 Valentine’s Day Spending Survey.
...Read more
Millennial Life: Is This the Real Life? Is This Just Fantasy?
I gathered my thoughts in an adjacent room, filled with the light of the sun already mostly set on the horizon. The bodyguard stood as a barrier between me and the throngs of people schmoozing at the mansion. He had tilted his head my way as I sat down against the window to take an introvert breather.
This was the formal living room, with the ...Read more
Single File: Looking to the Future
In any successful business, key people anticipate the future and make their plans accordingly. As chairman of the board of your life (not a bad way to see things), you're faced with the same challenge/opportunity -- which means, of course, looking at the numbers dealing with your odds of marrying. Those numbers were so startling when first ...Read more
How do I politely decline?
I got this question recently from a client:
“I had my date on Thursday night at the brewery I mentioned. It was fine… no fireworks or anything but not terrible. Just OK. I don’t want to see him again. He did send me a text after the date to make sure I got home OK and one in the morning asking whether I’d like to go out again. Do I have...Read more
Millennial Life: The Room Where ... What Happens, Exactly?
If there has been a recurring theme that has kept popping up for me in the last few weeks, it's this: We should probably get some adults in this room to get this worked out. And then it dawns on me: Oh, that's me. I'm the person who is going to have a hand in making some of these decisions.
It's similar to the feeling you get when you finally ...Read more
Is this 2023 dating trend here to stay in 2024 -- and is it effective?
It’s the start of the new year, so you probably know some friends or family members who are participating in “Dry January,” or taking a break from alcohol for the month. It’s understandable why the trend is popular: to recover from the (often boozy) holiday season and start 2024 on a healthy note, not to mention saving some money at the ...Read more
Single File: Postponing Undependence
Here are some common flimsy excuses for postponing one's undependence:
--Men don't like independence in women.
--I couldn't afford to be on my own.
--I'm only happy when a man is in love with me.
--I don't feel feminine when I'm not on a man's arm.
--People have told me that I'm not a whole/real person until I'm someone's wife.
--I feel ...Read more
Survey: Younger generations more likely to keep financial secrets from partners
Would you consider it cheating if your romantic partner hid a debt, a credit card or other financial secret from you? While some may not consider financial cheating as harmful as a physical affair, about 1 in 4 Americans in relationships believe otherwise — and it seems keeping financial secrets can be corrosive to romantic partnerships.
A ...Read more
Millennial Life: My Hands Are Not Gray but My Soul Feels the Color
At the beginning of the pandemic, my mom and I had a phrase we kept using: "It's just two weeks." At first, it was earnest, with a tinge of hope. Then it became progressively more sardonic, saying we're up for the next installment of just two more weeks. I suggested that we get matching tattoos at some point. She turned me down.
There was ...Read more
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