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Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am considering breaking up with my boyfriend of two years. I love him dearly. He is my best friend. But I am wondering whether he will ever change his destructive behavior.

He comes from a culture that is very reserved and old-fashioned. Growing up, he learned that being a man means dealing with his problems in private -- in ...Read more

Mom makes son's life extra-lunchable

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am 55 and my significant other is 56. We are both divorced and have children from our previous marriages. I have a son and a daughter; she has a son and two daughters. They are all young adults.

We've lived together for about three years. Her 23-year-old son lives with us. He is a great kid with a few anxiety issues (according to ...Read more

Woman Who Wants To Be Left Alone Keeps Retirement A Secret

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I recently retired, but I haven't told anyone. I receive widow's benefits, so I'm comfortable financially. I like my privacy, and I'm afraid things will change if I tell people about my retirement. My father is dying of cancer.

My best friend says if I were her sister, she'd be mad at me. My sister lives a mile away and I don't want ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 7/30/2016

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My best friend and I are widows in our 70s. "Agatha" has suddenly gone gaga over a widower who wants her to move into his place, pay rent, and split the grocery and utility bills. He will take care of the garage, yard and car, and she will take care of the house. This man also wants her to rent her house for income for the two of ...Read more

Angsty Over Wedding Plans

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Hi, Carolyn:

I'm newly engaged and having a hard time with others' expectations for what my wedding should be. I think marriage will be pretty cool, but actually getting married isn't important to me -- no poofy-white-dress dreams. This is my fiance's second marriage and he doesn't want anything ...Read more

An Acquaintance With No Boundaries

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: Morgan and I are from the same hometown, and a few weeks ago, she moved to the city where I live now. Though I'd never met her, we have a ton of mutual friends back home (or so I thought). She asked whether I'd show her around. I remembered what it was like to be new in town, so I was happy to help.

Morgan and I got along well and...Read more

This RV is only big enough for one set of grandkids

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I have two sons, and my sister-in-law has three children: two girls and a boy.

Neither of my boys is interested in sports, but one niece and my nephew are involved in several sports. As a result, their grandparents go to many games and spend a great deal of time with that side of the family.

Recently, the grandparents bought a new RV...Read more

Mom Fights Feelings Of Guilt Over Son Being An Only Child

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am the mother of a 13-year-old son, my only child. For the past 10 years I have been living with mounting guilt over the fact that he doesn't have a sibling. It's not because my husband and I haven't tried, we have. But fertility issues took us down an empty road, and adoption discussions were just that -- discussions.

I can't tell...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 7/29/2016

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: Our son, "Cody," is 11 years old and a good boy. This was his first year competing on the school track team, and he did well, mostly third-place finishes and one second. We could not attend his last track meet, and when I picked him up, he excitedly told me that he'd placed first in the mile run. My husband and I were very proud of...Read more

Left-Behind Daughter

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Hi, Carolyn:

After many years of being single, my dad is getting married soon to a woman he loves very much. She has two daughters, younger than my brother and me, and my dad has gotten very close with them, which is overall good for him and for them.

While this has been happening, I have seen him less, mostly because my mom was sick and I ...Read more

Reckoning With Music

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I can't stand R.E.M. (the band, not the sleep cycle). I just never understood their appeal. I was born in the early '80s and went to college in the late '90s and early 2000s, so a lot of people around me loved the band. One insufferably "alternative" guy I went to school with had a giant R.E.M. tattoo on his back.

This hasn't ...Read more

Introvert wonders how to explain herself

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am an only child who was raised by parents who were approaching 50 when I was born. There were no other children on the street where we lived. I attended a tiny religious school that was several miles away from where we lived. I grew up very alone, and I learned to like being alone.

And that is my problem: I like being alone, yet ...Read more

Sweet Man Sours Marriage By Calling His Wife Fat

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am a large, overweight woman. I have been in the process of losing weight for more than five years. I got married three years ago to an amazing guy. He's the sweetest man I have ever met.

Something he said recently really bothers me. He said he thinks I'm fat. While I know I'm fat -- and admit it out loud -- I never thought it was ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 7/28/2016

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I'm a young-looking, middle-aged woman and recently married a man several years younger than I am. My figure is petite, and I'm small-chested. Though he told me early in our relationship that breast size doesn't matter to him, he has made several remarks about breast implants and most recently said, "Everyone likes to look at a ...Read more

Reminded of Her Ex

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

My ex-wife and I divorced shortly after the birth of our son. I got really screwed in the divorce, something I do not hide. My son just introduced me to his serious girlfriend and, wow, does she remind me of my ex -- similar mannerisms, ideals, and general outlook on life.

I advised my...Read more

A Closed-Off Husband

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am a Care Bear, and my husband is a cyborg. What I mean is that I get emotional from almost anything. I once cried during a commercial for laundry detergent. I know it sounds cliched, but I love happy endings, puppies, babies, the color pink and -- of course -- talking about my feelings.

My husband, on the other hand, is pretty ...Read more

Man wants to fix unstable girlfriend

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My girlfriend and I are both 28 years old. We have been living together for two years now, and I love her very much, but we are far from perfect.

My girlfriend is the most emotional woman I have ever met. She cries almost every day -- several times a day over the smallest things. For example, she cries when she's out of cigarettes and...Read more

Single Mom Craves Family's Embrace Of Her Daughters

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am a single mother of two biracial daughters ages 2 and 4. They fill my life with joy and I am thankful to be their mother. My problem is, I haven't been able to face my family members since the birth of my second child.

My family has strong Christian roots, and I know they were disappointed when they heard about another unplanned ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 7/27/2016

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I am married with three children. Recently, my husband, without much research, discussion or preparation, decided that he was going to join the Army National Guard. (He had served in the Army before I knew him.) I know this is something he really wants to do, but I am worried about the impact his choice will have on me and our ...Read more

Setting Boundaries

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

Today my parents informed me (not asking) that they're coming to town for a month when my second baby is born, renting a place nearby as we have no room in our city apartment. I said, "Honestly, that's a little long, two or three weeks would be better," and they, mostly my mom, got totally huffy and said a bunch of stuff like "...Read more