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Pause A Moment To Remember Those Who Died For Our Country

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: Lest we forget -- these three simple, but very meaningful words are a reminder to always remember the sacrifices made for our freedom.

I recently read about a Vietnam veteran who will never forget Memorial Day in 1970. He was wounded in the jungles on that day, fighting for his life with his comrades. Almost his entire company...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 5/24/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I work in an office with 35 women, and it seems as though someone is always hating someone else. Right now, I am the target of two women.

One of these women used to be my friend, and I have no idea why she isn't any longer. I once asked her about it, but her reply surprised me. She said I took advantage of her by switching shifts so...Read more

Classic Jerk FiL in NYC

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

My father-in-law is a classic jerk; he neglected and abused my husband throughout his childhood and teen years. By abuse I mean clobbering him with closed fists in anger until my husband was old enough to hit back. As adults we have little to do with him, and I've taken a laissez-faire approach to his belittling comments and ...Read more

Girl's Constant Messaging Sends Nanny On A Guilt Trip

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I was a full-time summer nanny for several years for the same family, now a preteen boy and girl. I loved them, had a great time on the job and have communicated with them occasionally through the years on birthdays and holidays. Eventually, I moved away for college and was no longer able to sit for them.

Both kids now are on ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 5/23/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: Is there any end to it? I am 68 and have been married for 44 years. My husband and I both have some health issues, but he still needs sex, or he becomes depressed and can't seem to function. My husband is also addicted to pornography and has been his whole adult life. I've looked the other way on this vice because he is otherwise a ...Read more

Too Shy To Meet Friends

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

I have been in a relationship for over 18 months with my girlfriend. We were invited to my friend's wedding, and I am in the wedding party. She has met some but not all of my friends, including the bride and groom.

She isn't someone who likes interaction with new people, and the idea ...Read more

Mother's Alcoholism Poses Serious Threat To Her Baby

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I just realized I'm six weeks pregnant. I have always wanted to start a family and raise children with my fiance, but I have a big problem. I am an alcoholic and have been struggling with this issue for a few years. I don't know the effect this could have on my baby, but I know it isn't good. My fiance also drinks a lot, and our home ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 5/22/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I've been seeing (and sleeping with) "Jordan"' for eight months. We met at the gym, and I asked him out because I had an amazing feeling about him. Since then, I've become totally infatuated. He is one of the kindest men I've ever met. I thought I saw a future for us.

But the other day, Jordan casually mentioned that he needed to ...Read more

Impending Explosion

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Hi, Carolyn:

Two close friends of mine have recently decided they want to explore a relationship together. Great! The problem? One was in a relationship and had to exit it to pursue these newfound feelings.

As her relationship was never one that anyone felt was healthy, we're happy she broke up with her significant other. However I think it...Read more

Being A Good Listener Is The Best Way To Be Heard

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am responding to Tired of Talking to Myself (Feb. 13), whose husband's ears slam shut when she begins to speak. This is not a problem that's exclusive to men. Women do it as well. As a retired PA (physician's assistant), when talking with patients, I would refer to it as selective hearing loss.

Tired needs to look at her own ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 5/21/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I am 17 years old and still in high school. I recently became "Jake's" girlfriend. We've been dating for about a week.

I've known Jake as a friend for a year, and we hang out with the same group. I never had feelings for him until I learned that he liked me, and even then, my friends kind of pushed me into the relationship.

His ...Read more

Growing Apart

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

Honest question and not trying to start a war! I'm a single, childless woman in my 30s. A majority of my friends and family members are parents to some amazing kids who I love.

Whenever there is a group get-together, the conversation almost always turns to breastfeeding, pregnancy ...Read more

Mom Fears News Of Ex's Abuse Will Cause Split With Her Son

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My daughter, Meg, was sexually abused at the age of 3 by her father 25 years ago. Emile and I were divorced, but he had every other weekend visitation. After returning from one visit, she said, Daddy put his finger in there. It hurt. I cried. Her words forever changed my life.

After we made countless trips to the children's hospital ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 5/20/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I recently dated a woman who never offered to pay for a meal, a movie or so much as an ice cream cone. We went out several times.

We're both in our late 50s and earn good incomes. She says she won't pay for things until she is in a committed relationship. I have no problem paying for anything that I invite her to. But she would ...Read more

Being Too Judgy

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Hi, Carolyn:

I have a friend who, by most any measure, has a lot to be thankful for. She has two lovely children and a husband. She's able to work only part time (though she hasn't gone back since child No. 2). They own their home outright and just bought a second in a beach neighborhood where they'll move once they remodel it. They travel ...Read more

Vote of Confidence

Life Advice / Jenny McCarthy /

The author Byron Katie coined one of my favorite expressions: "It's not your job to like me. It's mine." Exactly.

The best piece of advice I can give is to be happy with who you are -- and I don't just mean with how you look on the outside. Be happy with what you do, with your views, your beliefs, everything. Don't spend valuable time wondering...Read more

Husband's Caring Ministry Doesn't Extend To His Wife

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been married to the same man for 20 years. He likes having people around all the time, and because he is a minister, we often can't avoid it. I have tried to accommodate his friends and hangers-on, but lately it's becoming unbearable. He will say yes to people who have been evicted, and I find myself sharing living ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 5/19/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I have been with "Joe" since his wife died nine years ago. The problem is, we have different styles of communication.

At first, it wasn't too bad. I have tried to analyze our fights to see what I could do differently or what we could do together to make it better. But I have settled on the fact that Joe can never be wrong, and it ...Read more

Mom's Moved On

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

I am having a hard time dealing with my mom and her new boyfriend. My dad passed away last year, and I am an (adult) only child. I know this loss affected her, but I don't think she's taken any time to see how the loss has affected ME.

I motored along for the first eight months or so ...Read more

Sister Getting Married Opts Out Of All-Inclusive Affair

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My only sister, Carolyn, is getting married in two months. I'm ecstatic for her. She and her girlfriend turned 50 this year, and this is the happiest I have ever seen her. They are perfect together. Carolyn asked me to be her maid of honor and I gladly accepted. I am also decorating for her small wedding and reception.

When I ...Read more