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Young mom longs for husband to be a helper

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

DEAR AMY: I am 23 and married with two wonderful children. I had my first child at 20 and the other at 22. Being a mom is super awesome and all that but I'm starting to get overly stressed.

My husband is 23 also. He doesn't feel like he has to share the responsibility of caring for the children.

He works every night and comes home around <...Read more

Family Pet-Sitter Helps Herself To Homeowner's Possessions

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: A trusted and beloved family member who takes care of my cats -- and therefore has a key to my house -- has been stealing things like cleaning supplies, knickknacks, family pictures, etc. Most of them have little monetary value. But imagine my surprise when I spotted some of my missing seashell collection in her fish tank!

Naturally,...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 7/30/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: Yesterday, I had an argument with my 85-year-old mother. She said I must be a lesbian because of my recent Facebook posts in support of all my gay friends and the Supreme Court decision upholding gay marriage. Specifically, I changed my photo so it was colored in beautiful rainbow shades.

My mother was appalled that I was supporting...Read more

Too Poor for a Social Life

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

My husband and I are very financially constrained, partly by choice (we want someone home with the kids). In order to make this work, we are SUPER frugal and have had at least one financial-adviser type look at us quizzically and ask how we live on so little money.

The problem is, we ...Read more

Man struggles to transition online relationship to real life

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

DEAR AMY: Fifteen years ago I met a woman in an online chat room. We hit it off immediately, found a strong connection and enjoyed a long and happy online relationship despite living in different countries. Eventually as the years went by, we lost touch.

*Three years ago I found her again via a chat app and we picked up right where we left off....Read more

Hidden Security Cameras Are Shocking Surprise For Daughter

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm a 19-year-old woman in college who still lives with my parents. I found out something several weeks ago that's bothering me, and I need advice badly.

Years ago, after a robbery, my parents installed security cameras outside our house. I knew about them because they were visible. But apparently some were installed that I knew ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 7/29/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My wife and I were married in a double wedding with her sister. Two years later, my new brother-in-law began boasting to me of his philandering. He rationalized it by claiming that as long as his wife knew nothing about it, he wasn't hurting her. I told this to my wife and asked whether we should tell her sister, but she said not to....Read more

Introvert in New Relationship

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Hey Carolyn:

How do I help my newish boyfriend come to terms with the fact that when I say I need regular alone time, I do not mean "except for you"? When it comes to my wanting time away from my close-knit family and large group of friends, he totally gets it -- he is also fairly introverted, and takes plenty of time to charge his batteries...Read more

Parents worry about visit by drug-addicted daughter

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

DEAR AMY: My stepdaughter is 24. She is the mother of a toddler.

She and her husband have struggled with meth addiction and she is currently clean and away from him (for the last two months). My husband and I have taken her in several times to try to get her clean but she always turns back to her husband and drugs.

Currently she and her son ...Read more

Woman Discovers Man's Eyes Aren't Wandering By Accident

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am a 58-year-old, twice divorced, hard-working, middle-class female. I spend most of my time working and involved with my three adult children. About a year ago I started dating someone. He is 63, very helpful and claims he's madly in love with me and appreciates this opportunity for a normal, wholesome life.

Occasionally I'll ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 7/28/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My daughter is getting married in two weeks. My 80-year-old mother-in-law is unable to attend, but she called us with a request. Her daughter, "Donna," the bride's aunt, will be flying across the country with her two young children to attend the wedding. She asked whether Donna's two children could have a role in the celebration ...Read more

At Odds With the Physical

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

My fiance likes to touch me in certain ways that I'm not a big fan of. Nothing super-intrusive; more like where the hands go when we spoon. He says it makes him feel bonded and close to me. And I get that.

Except I don't like the physical feeling, and at times I feel objectified. ...Read more

Woman confused by man's attempt to court her

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

DEAR AMY: I've been "seeing" this guy for three months. He's 36. I'm 21.

We had a first kiss several weeks after starting to go out.

He always takes me out to dinner (insists on paying every time), and we go on dates -- like bike riding and going to the park.

Last Friday he invited me to a bar/arcade and I met his friends.

We all hit it off ...Read more

Wedding May Be Wrong Time For Found Father To Reappear

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am 32 and getting married in a year. My biological father lives in Spain and has never been to the U.S. My mother met him when she was teaching English there. I was born in the states and never knew or spoke to my dad growing up. When I was 5, I was adopted by my mom's then-husband.

At 20, while studying in Spain, I located my ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 7/27/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: How do you cope with a friendship where the person stays connected just enough to continually remind you of how unimportant you are?

I have a friend with whom I was once quite close. We exercised and ran errands together, and when she was seriously ill, I spent countless hours visiting, reading to her and just being there. I donated...Read more

My Uterus Changed Its Mind, Sort of

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

Husband and I got married under the agreement that neither of us wanted kids. In the past six months or so, I've started to question my feelings. I'm going to talk to my husband this weekend. This is my working script:

"We both felt X, now I'm starting to feel Y, for Z reasons. I want ...Read more

Grieving woman deals with cowardly father-in-law

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

DEAR AMY: A few months ago my father passed away unexpectedly, and when it came time for the funeral, my father-in-law asked my husband if it was OK if he and his girlfriend skipped the service because they had plans to go away with friends.

He was "pouty" about having to attend my father's funeral and my husband reluctantly said he didn't have...Read more

Grandma's Pictures Don't Make The Cut In Mom's Memory Book

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: Throughout my three grandchildren's lives, I have picked them up from school, and attended school functions, games and activities in which they have participated. Their parents work, and I was helping out.

I have given them money for camps, clothes for all changes of season, and anything they especially needed or wanted. I baby-sat ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 7/26/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: Last year, my husband told me that he was having an affair. I was shocked. All I knew was that he had been drinking excessively and I was concerned.

He told me that the Other Woman "gets him" and that he is in love with her. She makes him feel young again. He was certain that I would let him go, but I refused to throw away 27 years ...Read more

Not Particularly Grateful

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Hi, Carolyn:

Do I have a right to be upset by my mother-in-law's monetary gifts?

Occasionally, my mother-in-law will send my husband a check, made out solely to him. I find out about it if I get the mail and specifically ask what my mother-in-law sent. I suspect there have been occasions where money has been sent and it was their little ...Read more