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Mom Seeks Detour To Safety Around In-Laws' Driving Habits

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My in-laws are fabulous. They love me and think the world of our 2-year-old daughter, Hayley. They do anything to support us.

Recently, they asked to take Hayley overnight and drive a number of places with her. My concern is the driving part. My father-in-law doesn't believe in car seats.

On a few occasions he has asked me to just ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 5/28/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My father was in prison for my entire childhood. I am now 23 and have managed to build a good relationship with him since he was released two years ago.

Recently, Dad became very ill and stopped breathing. He was on life support for a week. Because I am his closest relative, I am in charge of his health care. I was told the damage ...Read more

Snoring Is Killing My Marriage

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

I got married earlier this year to a wonderful man. During the day, things are great. But at night, he snores loudly and keeps me awake. I've done everything I can to deal with it: I wear industrial earplugs, use a white noise machine, take sleep aids, and have been sleeping on the ...Read more

Couple's Tagalong Friend Is Too Close For Son's Comfort

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm in my 40s, happily married to my wife, and we have teenage daughters. My parents divorced when I was young and both have been remarried for years.

Over the past 10 years, Dad and his wife have developed a very close friendship with a woman I'll call Bonnie. They bought homes next door to each other, travel together, and expect ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 5/27/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My father recently passed away. Dad was helping to support my 43-year-old brother, "Ben," who suffers from depression and is on disability. Ben doesn't work and spends a great deal of time in bed or buying liquor and lottery tickets. He's always just a little bit out of it, and I think his antidepressants, along with his alcohol and ...Read more

Uncomfortable With Arrangements

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

I've been dating a woman steadily for four months. Late last year, she dated another man for about six weeks, and they were quickly intimate. Then he broke it off with her because he supposedly was still hung up over his ex. Then he contacted her with a phony apology and they again were intimate until he broke it off with her ...Read more

Wife Wants Out Of Marriage To Join The Woman She Loves

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm a 48-year-old woman. I have known I was gay since I was 14. No one knows because I never acted on it until I met Bob, my current common-law husband of 25 years. I fell in love with his sister, Janelle, back then. We kissed a few times and fell deeply in love, but because we didn't want to hurt Bob, we ended what we had.

Bob and I...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 5/26/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My husband and I meet up with a group of family and close friends every week for lunch.

One couple in this group (a close family member and her spouse) constantly blow their noses during our get-togethers. They use cloth handkerchiefs, which are then reused multiple times, and her husband picks his nose, as well. It is nauseating to...Read more

I Would Trust You More If I Didn't Find Your Methods So Questionable

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

My wife and I live by two different schools of thought. I believe that if something is worth doing, it's worth doing right, and I put lots of time, energy and resources into things I plan. My wife believes the perfect is the enemy of the good, and will accomplish tasks in a way I feel ...Read more

Person to Person: Is a world without race or gender bias possible?

Life Advice / Helping Yourself /

Are you one of those idealists who would like to see more harmony in the world? You know how this goes. You hear strange comments about other people, and you know these comments aren't fair.

We live in a world where gender, nationality and race may always be an issue.

For example, one of our friends adopted a daughter from Russia in 1998. ...Read more

Young Son Longs For A Father, But Mom Doesn't Want A Man

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My son's dad cheated on me for years, which resulted in a child with another woman. When I finally got the nerve to date and trust again, the new guy gave me herpes.

Now I find myself repulsed at the thought of sex, and I have no intention of putting myself in the position of having to disclose this information to a new partner. I am...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 5/25/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Readers: Memorial Day has become a three-day holiday of picnics and cookouts. But there is a reason for this commemoration, so please remember the servicemen and women who died serving their country. Consider visiting a veterans hospital or military cemetery and paying your respects. At 3 p.m. local time, the National Moment of Remembrance ...Read more

Being There

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

About two months ago, one of my best friends told me she and her husband are officially getting a divorce (among other problems, he cheated). I told her I am of course there for her when she needs it. I can take a day off work and drive to her anytime; we live an hour apart and have ...Read more

Pause A Moment To Remember Those Who Died For Our Country

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: Lest we forget -- these three simple, but very meaningful words are a reminder to always remember the sacrifices made for our freedom.

I recently read about a Vietnam veteran who will never forget Memorial Day in 1970. He was wounded in the jungles on that day, fighting for his life with his comrades. Almost his entire company...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 5/24/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I work in an office with 35 women, and it seems as though someone is always hating someone else. Right now, I am the target of two women.

One of these women used to be my friend, and I have no idea why she isn't any longer. I once asked her about it, but her reply surprised me. She said I took advantage of her by switching shifts so...Read more

Classic Jerk FiL in NYC

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

My father-in-law is a classic jerk; he neglected and abused my husband throughout his childhood and teen years. By abuse I mean clobbering him with closed fists in anger until my husband was old enough to hit back. As adults we have little to do with him, and I've taken a laissez-faire approach to his belittling comments and ...Read more

Girl's Constant Messaging Sends Nanny On A Guilt Trip

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I was a full-time summer nanny for several years for the same family, now a preteen boy and girl. I loved them, had a great time on the job and have communicated with them occasionally through the years on birthdays and holidays. Eventually, I moved away for college and was no longer able to sit for them.

Both kids now are on ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 5/23/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: Is there any end to it? I am 68 and have been married for 44 years. My husband and I both have some health issues, but he still needs sex, or he becomes depressed and can't seem to function. My husband is also addicted to pornography and has been his whole adult life. I've looked the other way on this vice because he is otherwise a ...Read more

Too Shy To Meet Friends

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

I have been in a relationship for over 18 months with my girlfriend. We were invited to my friend's wedding, and I am in the wedding party. She has met some but not all of my friends, including the bride and groom.

She isn't someone who likes interaction with new people, and the idea ...Read more

Mother's Alcoholism Poses Serious Threat To Her Baby

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I just realized I'm six weeks pregnant. I have always wanted to start a family and raise children with my fiance, but I have a big problem. I am an alcoholic and have been struggling with this issue for a few years. I don't know the effect this could have on my baby, but I know it isn't good. My fiance also drinks a lot, and our home ...Read more