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Should girlfriend make a big move for her guy?

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

DEAR AMY: The day after he was laid off from his IT job, my boyfriend received the offer of a lifetime for a new job, 1,000 miles away. This involves a huge bump in pay and a promotion to a management position. He's a 24-year-old college dropout, so this is huge.

We have only been together for three months, but we are very much in love. He said...Read more

Woman's Hidden Hiv Status Must Be Brought To Light

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm writing regarding the letter from She's Killing Them in Indiana (July 8) and your response to the writer, whose friend is HIV-positive and doesn't tell her partners her diagnosis. I am a disease intervention specialist (DIS) in Indiana and work specifically with STDs like HIV.

In Indiana there is a duty to warn law that requires ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 10/13/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My wife and I are in our early 70s and have two daughters. The younger one lives nearby, is married and has a 2-year-old. The older one, "Deirdre," is divorced from a verbally and emotionally abusive husband.

We had warned Deirdre against marrying this man because they seemed incompatible, but we were supportive when she insisted ...Read more

Neighbor's Son Watches Inappropriate Movies

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

How do I talk to my neighbor about the inappropriate movies her son is watching and their effect on my son?

He tells my son about watching "cool movies" like "Stripes," "Ferris Bueller's Day Off" and "Groundhog Day." I think these movies are extremely inappropriate for a 10-year-old ...Read more

Person to Person: Strategies for improving any marriage

Life Advice / Helping Yourself /

Does your marriage feel like it's standing on shaky ground? Do you worry it may not last?

Stress of any kind can put a lot of pressure on a love relationship. Everything from in-law problems to money issues to health concerns can weigh heavily on your marriage.

Maybe you've tried reading books on marriage, or you've been to counseling. But ...Read more

Decade-long marriage is damaged by bomb

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

DEAR AMY: My wife of 10 years dropped a bomb on me last night. She told me that she's interested in having sexual relations with a female friend of hers. She is seeking my approval.

She feels that doing this with someone of the same sex doesn't constitute being unfaithful. I don't know if I'm being overly conservative here but I strongly ...Read more

Semester Abroad Offers Couple A Chance To Grow

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am a college sophomore and have been dating my boyfriend, Evan, for nearly a year. I am planning to take a semester abroad at the beginning of my junior year.

Recently, Evan confessed that if I leave, our relationship would have to end. He asserts that being away from me for more than three months would be too painful and scary, ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 10/12/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I have been married to "Pam" for 16 years. During the last nine, she has gradually become a totally different person. She has gained a lot of weight, but that's not the real issue. It's everything that goes with it. Pam has successfully lost weight through healthier eating and exercise -- multiple times. She gains energy, is more ...Read more

Only Child

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Hi, Carolyn!

I am an only child. A lot of my friends and family are having kids, and sometimes people will ask if they plan to have more than one. Their response is often, "We don't want an only child."

It is difficult to know what, if anything, I can say. I think it comes across insensitive. My ...Read more

Wife struggles to recover from infidelity

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

DEAR AMY: After 44 years of marriage, I recently discovered my husband had several one-night stands during the first 15 years of our marriage. I always thought I was intuitive and aware, but I truly had no idea. I have pressed him for "why," but he offers very little, saying he was "angry" with me at the time (but does not remember why). He ...Read more

Quick-Thinking 'cowgirl' Heads Off Embarrassment

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My dear friend Iris is having her annual Halloween party. Each year I wear a costume I pull together without spending extra money. This year I'll be dressing as a cowgirl, and I have arranged to borrow a few items for the costume.

As a rule, I keep my costume a surprise and don't ask others what they're going to wear. By chance, Iris...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 10/11/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I read the letter from "Scared Aunt," whose 14-year-old nephew is allowed to drive. I have a similar issue.

I have a relative who owns a jewelry store and pawn shop in another state. They have been the victims of a few robberies, so now his 12-year-old son carries a pistol in the store. Under the laws of their state, the kid is ...Read more

Stuck in Dysfunction

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

My brother (mid-60s) and his wife separated nearly three years ago and made the decision not to tell our then-89-year-old mom, reasoning it was to protect her. Mom is strong, realistic, very intuitive, resourceful, and -- although she sees that side of the family weekly -- lives independently and isn't close to them or attached...Read more

Health care aide is in danger while at work

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

DEAR AMY: I am working as a health care aide. Where I am working now I love my job, but the lady's husband is touching me inappropriately.

I don't like that but I don't know how to tell him to stop.

I can't quit my job because I really need the work. I am someone who is really shy about saying anything to anybody.

Please tell me what to do. I...Read more

Clothing-Optional Lifestyle Causes Nudist's Wife Grief

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My husband enjoys sitting around (among other activities) naked. We live in a subdivision with 700 homes. I have asked him repeatedly to stop, join a nudist group or go home to his mother -- whatever! He says he's sorry, blah blah blah. But it doesn't stop happening.

The deputies have already visited to tell him to stop playing his ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 10/10/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I am in my 50s, and have been dating a 65-year-old friend for three months. "Joseph" is financially well-off and a perfect gentleman. We have a lot of fun doing things and going places each weekend. We text each other or call several times a day, and I see this relationship continuing for the long term.

The problem is, Joseph is a ...Read more

I Bore My Wife

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

I work in a pretty specialized government job that, to an outside observer, looks like a lot of charts and gobbledygook. I want to be able to talk about my day with my wife, but whenever I do, I see her eyes glaze over. She swears that she's interested in my work, but she says that when...Read more

How should a client respond to therapist's impairment?

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

DEAR AMY: I have a therapist I have sessions with several times a month. I've been going to him for three years now, and he has helped me through many rough patches in my life.

He is a sophisticated, trustworthy, perceptive and wise psychologist in his mid-60s. My problem is this: On two appointments within four months, he seems to have been ...Read more

Party Guest Feels Singled Out By Subtle, 'special' Treatment

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I was invited to a small gathering of women. I arrived punctually, was greeted by the hostess and asked if I wanted some water to drink. I accepted. As I looked around the room, everyone else had a glass of wine. When one other woman arrived a little while later and joined our group, the hostess asked her if she wanted wine or water ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 10/9/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My husband of five years has just learned that his daughter is engaged, and I am already stressing about the wedding.

My husband was married when we met. I didn't intentionally date a married man, but he pursued me, and I told him that if he wanted to date me, he must leave his wife. It only took three months, so he was obviously ...Read more