DEAR AMY: For my first wedding anniversary, my mom got us a crystal paperweight in the shape of a heart. When I opened the package, I was confused. I even said to my husband, "This is so not me, and I'd be shocked if my mom didn't know that." I knew the gift was expensive and discovered that it cost over $150.
My mom is a ...Read more
DEAR ABBY: My fiancee of three years, Ellen, is wonderful to me and she loves my daughters dearly. However, when it comes to my ex-wife, Ellen can be downright nasty.
I divorced my ex-wife many years ago because she wasn't good to me, but my kids see her half the time and love her because she's their mom, and I encourage them to do that. Ellen ...Read more
Dear Annie: My husband and I are snowbirds in our late 60s. Most of our snowbird friends are several years older. We have neighbors in the North and in the South and we normally trade off taking turns driving back and forth.
Our dilemma is, we have a set of neighbors in our North home and one in our South home who will not let us drive them. I ...Read more
My boyfriend is quite a flirt and an all-around fun guy. When I feel good and comfortable in the company we're keeping, this personality trait does not bother me.
But other times, I might feel left out or ignored (or that his behavior is too attentive to someone else), and this makes me seriously question whether I want to be ...Read more
DEAR AMY: I have been dating a great lady for about five months now. We are a lot alike. We were invited to go to a beer festival with another couple. They are regulars at the bar where she works. We had a great time at the festival, and were not drunk.
As we were leaving, my girlfriend said she wanted to tell me something but wanted to wait ...Read more
DEAR ABBY: My sister-in-law quit her job and moved into my in-laws' basement six years ago. I think there may have been an emotional breakdown having to do with her work. I also think it upsets my mother-in-law to have her adult daughter living this life. Mom isn't willing to ask her to move out or even discuss the situation.
This was fine ...Read more
Dear Annie: My parents own a good amount of land in their native country. When I was growing up, they paid for my tuition but were not very supportive emotionally. I sponsored them to come to the U.S., and because they didn't speak English (and still don't), I helped them find jobs.
The problem is, my parents are giving everything they own and ...Read more
This year I will be spending all of my vacation time (and money) on traveling for or with my boyfriend's family. I understand that I do this voluntarily, but in a very real sense it is also somewhat compulsory because that's what couples do, and because his mother says, "You will be joining us for Christmas, right?" So my ...Read more
DEAR AMY: I have been divorced since 2010, separated since 2006. I am remarried and have four adult children. My issue is with my family.
My ex and I barely tolerate each other. We do not speak except about the children and only via text or email. Even though we are uncomfortable being in each other's company, my sisters and mother continue to ...Read more
DEAR ABBY: My wife and I have been married 22 years, and we had a good marriage until recently. Over the last three years she has become more and more consumed with her phone and tablet. She goes nowhere and does nothing without them.
Every night and weekend she sits engrossed in both devices until well after I have gone to bed. If I ask what ...Read more
Dear Annie: I am a 27-year-old woman and have been verbally invited to a few weddings this year. For one, we were told to "save the date" a year in advance. I never received an actual invitation and their wedding was last weekend. The pictures are popping up on Facebook.
The second wedding, the bride and I were close, then had a falling out, ...Read more
What's the best way to involve my husband in my pregnancy so he doesn't feel left out? He's a very hands-on type who loses interest in anything he can't sink his teeth into, and I'm afraid he won't believe we're really having a baby till he or she is actually born.
-- Des Moines
Is there anything wrong with that? You say ...Read more
DEAR AMY: I have a wonderful boyfriend who is kind, understanding and shares my values.
We work at a nonprofit medical center. Many of our dear friends and colleagues are LGBT.
The problem is that we've not even (officially) begun planning our wedding and I'm already begging to elope. You see, I have an uncle who borders on being a zealot.
DEAR ABBY: The wedding night I had dreamed about forever was supposed to be the most romantic and amazing of my life with the one person I can't live without. Instead, it was the most humiliating experience I have ever had. I dressed in a beautiful negligee, and my husband didn't even take a second look at me. I was so embarrassed, I rolled over...Read more
Dear Annie: My husband, "Ben," and I each lost a spouse and then found each other. We live in the same house with one of his daughters and a granddaughter. Ben is quite attached to this house. The two daughters are the owners now, but their father bought it originally and has always maintained it.
The daughter who lives here has a neurological ...Read more
I have been happily married for three years. Because we live 30 minutes from my in-laws, we see them pretty much every week.
The problem is my mother-in-law. In addition to her frequently imposing her will on us (e.g., enlisting someone to build steps off our deck when we had no interest in doing so), she shares intimate, and ...Read more
DEAR AMY: This summer my 21-year-old daughter has been working as a hotel maid. While working one morning she overheard a father say to his teenage son, "You had better stay in school or you will end up like her" -- indicating my daughter. My daughter was hurt. She assumed the father did not intend for her to hear the remark and felt the hotel ...Read more
DEAR ABBY: I have been married for 36 years to a woman who is a pediatric physical therapist. A number of her youngsters are disabled or abused, and their lives can be a struggle. This results in emotional, intense workdays for my wife. She brings these stories home and shares them with me.
Over the years on three or four occasions, I have ...Read more
Dear Annie: My heart is breaking for my sister. She has been married to the same man for more than 30 years and he has never been kind or respectful toward her. They have two married sons and a grandchild with health problems. My sister loves that grandchild more than life itself, but she rarely gets to see him. Worse, her sons treat her ...Read more
I just found out my boyfriend and his ex-girlfriend have been emailing every so often, prompted by my boyfriend.
I told him it made me uncomfortable, and he's stopping. So why do I feel slimy?
Because the emailing was either innocent, and you seized control for no other reason than your own insecurity -- or...Read more