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Woman wants her guy to put a ring on it

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

DEAR AMY: I am 30-year-old professional and I have been with my boyfriend for five years. We have lived together for three years. We recently got a dog and things are going well overall.

He knows that I want to get married and have kids. He says he wants that too, but I don't know what he is waiting for. I haven't nagged him -- although that's ...Read more

Family Prefers To Sidestep Questions About Girl's Feet

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My beautiful 6-year-old granddaughter has clubfeet. Although she had several surgeries, her ongoing treatment requires her to wear her shoes on the opposite feet.

Every time we go out somewhere, well-intentioned people seem compelled to let us know she has her shoes on wrong. My granddaughter told me it bothers her and she gets ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 9/5/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I have been friends with "Rhonda" for decades. She has always been a dear friend, but lately, she seems to have no sympathy for anyone. Either that, or she is so angry with me that she has become disrespectful. I don't know why, and it is having a very negative affect on our relationship.

Recently, I was ill. I did not inform Rhonda...Read more

Telling Kids They Ain't All That

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

How does one delicately tell one's adult child that they really don't know everything at 22? And perhaps mom still knows a little more than she does?

-- Va.

If you really do know more than she does, then you know (1) she might turn out to be right about this (whatever it is) after all; that (2) even if she's wrong, ...Read more

Widow engages family in sales job

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

DEAR AMY: My sister lost her wonderful husband two years ago in a tragic accident. A month before his passing she had quit her job to be a stay-at-home mom with their two young daughters.

Since then, she has taken on pyramid-type sales ventures to supplement her income. She currently sells clothing, beauty supplies and wellness supplements for ...Read more

Mom's Motives For Marriage Are Questioned By Older Man

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am a 63-year-old man living with a 28-year-old woman. She has three children -- ages 2, 6 and 7. They live with us every other weekend. I have fallen in love with them. We are planning on getting married soon, and I want to be sure the kids are secure when I'm gone.

I have an erectile dysfunction problem. She says she doesn't care ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 9/4/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I've been in a relationship for five years with a guy who has been very enjoyable company. However, in the past 18 months, rumors have surfaced about him being bisexual. He never told me about this part of his past. Finally, I confronted him, and he admitted this was just a whim at a time in his life when he was alone. He's been ...Read more

Verbally Abusive Boyfriend

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

Is there any way (other than videotaping their conversations) to explain to your 21-year-old daughter that you think her boyfriend is verbally abusive and manipulative? I don't see every instance, but I see enough to know that he manipulates her and punishes her, by pouting and going off with friends and drinking, when she ...Read more

Child's party is no fun when Granny gets drunk

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

DEAR AMY: I need your help with a very sensitive situation with my in-laws. My mother-in-law drinks too much at family functions. We recently celebrated my son's first birthday party (her first grandchild) and she (again) had too much to drink. She was slurring her words, wobbly on her feet and was having uncomfortable conversations with our ...Read more

Man Is Devastated To Learn Of Wife's Long-Ago Affair

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My wife and I are in our 60s and have been married more than 40 years. It hasn't always been great, but we've made it.

Recently, while going through some old boxes in the basement, I ran across her diary and discovered that she had an affair while we were engaged. This has left me depressed, hurt and feeling very down. Should I ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 9/3/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I work in an office with nine other people. For some reason, my boss likes to share every boring detail of her personal life with us. We smile, listen politely and laugh at her "hilarious" anecdotes. This might be bearable if she showed any interest in our lives, but she doesn't. Occasionally, with one foot out the door, she will ask...Read more

May/December Baby

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

I'm 35 and my husband is 51. Would it be stupid for us to have a baby?

-- Ontario

Depends. So I'll just repeat my standard advice to anyone wrestling with the decision to have children: Would you want you as parents?

Include potential best and worst cases in your reasoning. If the answer is anything but a non-delusional ...Read more

Man's best friend violates him -- and the friendship

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

DEAR AMY: I'm a 28-year-old straight male. My best friend from childhood and I rent an apartment together. He came out to me when he was 18. I care about him as a brother (I'm an only child). We respect each other's boundaries and I support him being gay.

A couple of months ago my girlfriend of four years ended our relationship and I was ...Read more

Scammers Are On Dating Sites Hoping To Lure Trusting Marks

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I was recently the target of a romance scam on a popular singles website. After being a divorcee for 15 years, I decided to try online dating. Minutes after I went online, someone asked to chat.

He said he was a widower with an adult daughter and a jeweler by trade, living near me but returning to Florida the next day with ultimate ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 9/2/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: After 14 years of marriage, my husband, "Ron," left me for another woman. Here's how it happened: For several years, friends had dinner with us once a week. One day, they brought along "Fran," a recently widowed woman they took under their wing. Ron initially told me he found her vulgar, overweight, unattractive and heavily tattooed....Read more

Daughter Dealing With Mom's Mom

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

How can I help my daughter, "Kara," better deal with my mom? When my mom gets irritated or angry, she shuts down and gives the silent treatment, even to Kara, who is 3.

For example, Kara will decide she doesn't want to talk to my mom, and then five minutes later she does, and my mom will say, "Oh, NOW you want to talk to me? ...Read more

Cancer diagnosis brings wrong kind of 'help'

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

DEAR AMY: There is a strong likelihood that I am going to be diagnosed with cancer soon, when test results come back. My husband and I are trying to consider what this will mean for our family.

If I do have cancer, my parents will want to come out to where we live and "help." I'm close with my parents, but I have never found them to be helpful ...Read more

Woman Becoming Nun Needs Friend's Interest, Not Concern

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I was best friends with Joanne after we met in middle school. She comes from a conservative Christian family and has three successful siblings. This has made her quirky, media-driven pursuits and city life a disappointment to her family. When we were teens and she learned that I was a straight ally for gay rights, she came out to me ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 9/1/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My family has lost their minds and is letting my 14-year-old nephew drive around on open roads, sometimes in busy areas. He drives with his mother and grandmother.

I think this is beyond crazy. He could hit, maim or kill someone, or drive off the road and hurt himself. The consequences are beyond unimaginable.

Is this a new trend ...Read more

Heart -to-Heart Over Marriage

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

My (much) younger sister's boyfriend is planning to propose on her 21st birthday. I am horrified. My sister still has a year left of college. Neither one has ever lived independently -- they both are living with their parents in our small hometown. The boyfriend, while he has a college degree, only recently took his first ...Read more