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Life Advice / Ask Amy /

DEAR READERS: I have stepped away from my daily column for two weeks to finish writing my next book, which is due to be published next fall. I hope you'll enjoy these topical "best of" questions and answers while I'm away. Today's letters deal with the prickly, eternal question of how to handle young love.

DEAR AMY: I am the mother of two ...Read more

Stepson With Addicted Mom Must Learn That She Is Sick

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My stepson just turned 7. My husband was granted custody because the mother was declared unfit due to her drug abuse. She was granted supervised visits until she can pass two consecutive drug tests.

Over the last year and a half, her visits have become few and far between. My husband and I think it would be a good idea for Tony to ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 2/9/2016

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I am the youngest sister of 10 siblings. Over the years, five siblings have died. You'd think we would try to be closer after such awful losses. So when does the bullying stop?

I have tried to be an upstanding sister and aunt, but no matter how much I contribute my money, time and empathy, they think it's OK to belittle me and ...Read more

Not Preferred

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

Lately my toddler son has shown a very strong preference for my husband. This affects everything from our morning routine (he wants Dada to get him dressed), to meals (he wants to play with my husband, not me, so I am always stuck cooking lest we endure an hour-long temper tantrum), to ...Read more

Discovering your son is a homosexual

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

DEAR READERS: I have stepped away from my daily column for two weeks to finish writing my next book, which is due to be published next fall. I hope you'll enjoy these topical "best of" questions and answers while I'm away. Today's questions both come from people who are struggling to tolerate others' sexuality.

DEAR AMY: I recently discovered ...Read more

Parents Supporting Adult Son Are Doing Him No Favors

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: Nine years ago I married a man who has a son from a previous marriage. Eli is now 26 and lives on his own. While he may live under a different roof than his parents, they support him financially. My husband and I pay Eli's car insurance, cellphone bill, toll tag, life insurance policy and whatever other things come up (passport, gym ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 2/8/2016

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: Shortly after I had knee surgery, I went to the library wearing my (prescribed) compression wrap to prevent blood clots. This compression wrap makes an intermittent humming sound. A few minutes after entering, the librarian walked over and asked what the humming noise was. I showed her the compression wrap and said that the medical ...Read more

How Soon is Too Soon

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Hi Carolyn!

We've been friends for over a year, dating for almost six months, I'm late 20s to his early 30s. Financially, moving into his house (that he owns) makes a lot of sense, but some friends and family are against it because "it might not work out" and we aren't married.

We both feel like ...Read more

Is this family obligated to celebrate milestone birthday?

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

DEAR AMY: My in-laws are hosting a birthday party for my husband's grandfather. He is turning 90. The party is 200 miles away. My husband and I both work full time and have two young children, one with multiple life-threatening food allergies. We were told to "pack food for her." No plans were offered to accommodate her.

We often do not attend ...Read more

Grown-Up Child Still Wonders What Halted Parents' Divorce

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: During my childhood, my parents fought loudly and often. When I was 12, they spoke to my sister and me about getting a divorce. I was heartbroken and fought back.

Like any kid in that situation, I was upset and scared. I told them they were being selfish and irresponsible for breaking up our family when they were the ones who chose ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 2/7/2016

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: Twenty five years ago, my youngest son, then 18, quit the job he had had for four years. They had promised him an assistant manager job and when he turned 18, but did not follow through. After that, he would not look for a job or even help around the house. His dad told him to leave, but I let him return. Still, my son continued to ...Read more

Stunned and Offended

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

I bought a house a few years ago in a development in a non-metropolitan part of Virginia. There was a homeowners association with a president. However, the association was not active until about two years ago when I started a Facebook group for it. Now there are approximately 30 neighbors in the Facebook group. It was a nice ...Read more

Reader wonders why parents with visitation fade away

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

DEAR AMY: Please help me to understand why it seems so common that after a divorce, the parent with visitation will allow themselves to fade out of their children's lives.

In early 2009 I left my husband after repeated attempts to help him through his drug addiction. Our daughters were 11 and 13 at the time. For the first two years, he kept up ...Read more

Clutter Of Holiday Decorations Crushes Man's Christmas Spirit

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: Every December my wife virtually buries our home in Christmas decorations. It's not just the tree and stockings in the living room; she's not happy until there are Christmas towels and Christmas soap in the bathroom and another tree and knicky-knacky stuff downstairs. Not even a doorknob is safe from decoration.

It drives me nuts; I ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 2/6/2016

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: All of my life, I've heard about the "golden years." Why are mine only black and gray?

I have been married to my husband for 40 years. He has not been sexually capable for half that time. I understand that, but he also does not want to kiss me, hold me, talk to me, go to bed with me or get up in the morning with me. He puts his arm ...Read more

Making a Future Without My Mom

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Hi, Carolyn:

I lost my amazing mom suddenly to a heart attack six months ago. She was 58 and in perfect health and we are all still dealing with the shock of it.

I've gotten to a point where I can mostly function on a day-to-day basis but I'm struggling with how to face my future milestones without ...Read more

What are the maid and gardener doing in the family cabin?

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

DEAR AMY: I have an interesting ethical -- or perhaps a moral -- dilemma.

We spend significant time at a cabin we own and our longtime gardener and maid have keys to our home. The gardener also has keys to our cars.

When my wife and I returned to the cabin recently, I found two containers of a sexual lubricant on the kitchen counter. My ...Read more

Small Displays Tell Larger Tale Of Late Husband's Life

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My husband passed away recently and I have some items of his I'm unsure how to tastefully display to honor his memory. They are his Bible, a U.S. flag in a triangular display box (he was a veteran), a set of deer antlers, works he authored, his guitar and family photos. I don't want to build a shrine, but I don't want to stick these ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 2/5/2016

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My mother-in-law has a decor that was personalized for her by my husband's long-term ex-girlfriend. Every time I go to her house, it's the first thing I see and it really bothers me. The problem is, I don't feel I can say anything to her because after all, it's her house and the decorating was a gift. It's not like I can tell her, "...Read more

How to Approach

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

Friend recently got married and seems TOTALLY uninterested in spending time with friends, what's going on in our lives, etc. (We are a mid-30s mix of married/single/otherwise coupled, kids/no kids.) Friend will give reasons she is busy before we've even suggested something, or, when we finally do something, comment how it's "...Read more