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Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My wife and I were married for 61 years. We had three sons. "Mary" passed away this year from complications of Parkinson's and dementia.

Mary and her friend "John" had a relationship most of our married life. She had gone to school with John and renewed their "friendship" soon after we were married in the 1950s. I only discovered ...Read more

Dad is horror-filled by son's horror films

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am a divorced man who shares custody of a 13-year-old boy with my ex-wife.

Last weekend I became aware that my son's mother had given permission for him to watch "The Exorcist."

If you are not familiar with this horror film, some of the worst scenes are available online. They are very disturbing and I cannot imagine anyone allowing...Read more

Family Never Learns To Let Up On Criticism Of Career Choice

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I grew up the third of four children. Both my older brothers chose to go into engineering (the field my father is in). I rocked the boat and opted to go into education. All during college and after, my parents continued to tell me I had chosen the wrong career and would never have any money.

Ten years later, I'm still getting ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 10/21/2016

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My daughter and her husband are about to have their first baby. Unfortunately, my daughter is having problems with her mother-in-law, "Myrna," and comes crying to me. I think my adult kids need to handle their own problems, but I want to be able to give advice when asked.

I offered to talk to Myrna, but my daughter says it will ...Read more

Grown-up or Sad Child

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

My mom spent a decade telling me that if various family members found out I'm gay, it would make them depressed/have heart attacks/die. Finally, I said enough, I'm telling my dad. Classic mom reaction: She gasped, put her hands over her eyes, winced, and then insisted she wasn't trying to tell me what to do.

One result of so ...Read more

Keep It Down Down There!

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I live in a large city with high real estate prices. This has prevented me from buying my own home, so I reside in an apartment. I have done so for the majority of my adult life. All of my previous experiences have been pleasant. However, the most recent apartment complex I moved to has very thin walls, and as a result, I can hear ...Read more

Parents with troubled son worry about disclosure

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: We had a very difficult summer. We had to send our 14-year-old son out of state to a wilderness program because of his substance abuse, defiance and high-risk behavior. We were totally caught off guard by the substance abuse issue. We are first-generation immigrants and were not exposed to drugs growing up in our birth country.

Our ...Read more

Woman's Disappearing Act Ends Four-Year Relationship

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I was ghosted by a woman I had been in a long-distance relationship with. It lasted four years until one day she just never responded again.

We are both parents, both 30, so it's hard for me to understand how someone could do this to a person you've had a history with and claim to love. It seems like a child's reaction. I'm finding ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 10/20/2016

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My girlfriend and I are both 34 and have been dating for three years. "Sheri" does not work and rarely gets up before one in the afternoon. She lives in a house that her family owns and receives child support from her ex-husband. She also has me to pay her bills. I am totally devoted to Sheri and love her son as my own.

The ...Read more

$$ Identity

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Hi Carolyn:

I've fallen suddenly into pretty massive debt (a whirlwind of medical problems coupled with sudden deaths in the family requiring unpaid leave and expensive flights). I have to completely change how I spend money because I want to get rid of all this debt within the next two years -- I'll...Read more

A Deeply Resentful Brother

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My brother and I are close in age, and from the time I was born, he has bullied, teased and ignored me. After years of therapy, he finally confessed that he had been jealous of me because our mother was overwhelmed and he felt abandoned.

A few years ago, I was diagnosed with a rare form of cancer with a low survival rate, but ...Read more

When memes turn mean, FB friend is hurt

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: What do you think about friends and family who are nice to your face, and yet post derogatory, indirect comments (usually via memes) making fun of vegetarians (which I am), stating how stupid liberals are (I am liberal), and more or less making statements they would never make to my face?

I usually ignore these comments, but it makes ...Read more

Woman Wants Photographer Boyfriend To Focus On Her

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend and I are mature adults who enjoy photography. He brings his camera when we go to the beach or sporting events -- even to the store. He's learning all the time about how to use light correctly and his zoom lens.

When we get back and I download the pics from his camera, the majority of shots are of women's chests, behinds...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 10/19/2016

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: Please help. I may have made a huge mistake, and now I don't know what to do about it.

I am a 40-year-old female, married for one year to "Yancy." I have no children of my own, but my husband has a 14-year-old son from his first marriage. Yancy and I had a whirlwind romance. He totally swept me off my feet. I love him very much. ...Read more

Mean Kids

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

What should a parent say when the other parent knows they have a mean kid? My 7-year-old son has recently decided to take a break from a friend he's known for five years because the former friend is mean -- calls him an idiot, degrades him, etc. The other parent is asking to set up a play date, and I don't know if I should ...Read more

Trying to Make Amends With Estranged Daughter

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My daughter and I have not spoken in over 12 years. I am now getting up in age (I am 82) and don't know what to do to even say hello to her. She has told me over and over again that she does not love me or want anything to do with me. She is still my daughter, and I do still love her.

My grandson got married last year, and I was ...Read more

Elderly alcoholic disrupts family dynamic

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My mother-in-law is a fun, smart, interesting 87-year-old alcoholic.

Her children have approached her about her excessive drinking, but she perceives it as one of the final joys in her life.

In addition to the health concerns, when she drinks she becomes belligerent toward her children, their spouses/friends and her grandchildren.

...Read more

Woman's Move To New State Doesn't Bring New Friends

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I moved to a new state two years ago, mostly because I had a friend who lived here part-time. I have distanced myself from many of the people she has introduced me to because they all talk about each other behind their backs. They also don't work many hours and start drinking very early in the day.

The other night I had my friend and...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 10/18/2016

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I'm in a lot of the same classes with "Marta," but we're not really close. One day, she asked if she could put one of her binders in my locker. I said fine, but then she started putting more things in there, and last week, she threw her jacket in. Marta smokes, and the smell lingers in my locker. It's disgusting.

That's only one ...Read more


Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

Years ago I made a horrible, stupid decision and told my mom on Mother's Day which college I had decided to go to. This was a terrible mistake because she was furious that I didn't pick her favorite college and yelled at me until I cried, then told me to leave her house.

I knew she ...Read more