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Should couples split the check for birth control?

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am in a long-term relationship, and my partner and I are beginning to discuss birth control options (in particular, the pill). Should I ask my partner to help me pay for birth control?

I feel it should be our combined responsibility, as it benefits us both. But how do I handle the situation if he should refuse to split the cost with...Read more

Bed-Wetter Can Get Help But He Has To Make The Effort

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have a good friend who is a bed-wetter. It's obvious because he's constantly doing laundry and his home smells bad at times. We once shared a hotel room, and I was awakened in the middle of the night by a strong smell of urine.

He tries to hide his problem, but seems to be doing little if anything to find a solution for it. I want ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 5/2/2016

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I am a 38-year-old single man with a serious problem involving my 13-year-old nephew, "Hayden." Hayden's father died when he was 3, and I immediately stepped in as a surrogate parent. We share a close, affectionate relationship, and he has spent the night at my house on numerous occasions. There was never a problem until a month ago....Read more

Boyfriend Has Different Roles

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

I was sure I wanted to spend the rest of my life with my boyfriend of three years, until I asked him if he felt the same and he said no. He says he doesn't want to get married or move in together, but he might feel differently in the future. We discussed breaking up and he made it clear...Read more

Seriously ill mother also copes with tough teen

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I've been dealing with epilepsy and its unknown causes for more than 20 years. Several tests by my neurologist mark me as a good candidate for surgery. I'm currently planning surgery to possibly prevent future seizures. I know this is very difficult for my husband and teenage daughter to have to live with and accept. I try to be as ...Read more

Daughter Shuts Door On Mom In Retaliation For Remarriage

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am 54. My daughter is 25 and married with two kids. Her dad and I have been divorced for almost 10 years. Three years ago, I met a wonderful man. After dating for about a year, we were married. It's been heavenly; I love my life.

My problem is my daughter. She's angry that I remarried. She told me she should be first in my life. ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 5/1/2016

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: What do you think about a married couple whose only intimacy is makeup sex? My husband says he loves me and I believe he is faithful, but he never initiates anything in the bedroom, and we have sex only if I pitch a fit because I feel neglected. I don't do this often, so we've had sex only twice in the past 15 months.

We are both ...Read more

Too Young to Understand

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Hi, Carolyn:

I have a 2 1/2-year-old son. Sadly my mom died from cancer when he was 10 months old. He is now at an age where his language is developed quite well and he loves looking through photos with my wife and me. I sort of avoid showing him pictures of my mom because I don't know what to say.

I know he can't really comprehend death at...Read more

Man's partner has intimate relationship with another man

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: For the past two years I have been in love with a wonderful woman. When we met she explained that she was good friends with a man she met 16 months before. They had a sexual relationship, but she decided it would end. However, after making this decision, they fell back into sex while on a combined family vacation.

She has always ...Read more

Couple's Difference In Age Causes Girl's Family To Worry

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm 17 and dating this older guy. Everyone is afraid that one day I'll just disappear, but he isn't like that. I know him from when I was younger, and my dad and his dad were really close. People just don't trust me, even though I have told them nothing but the full truth from the start. I'm happy. What should I do? -- MISUNDERSTOOD ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 4/30/2016

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: Can anyone tell me why old men (over 60) don't or won't shower or put on clean clothes?

I have several older male friends who smell so bad that we don't want to be any closer than 12 feet. And they wear the same clothes for weeks until the clothes almost fall off their bodies. When they come to visit, the furniture where they sit ...Read more

The Plus-1

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

Next week my live-in boyfriend is a groomsman in his best friend's wedding in his hometown. I am also going, but am sort of dreading it. We are staying with his parents, which itself is fine, but because of his groomsman "obligations," he'll be gone most of the day, and has asked his ...Read more

Only child worries about caring for distant parents

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am an only child. My family and I live about five hours from my parents, who are retired.

My husband and I have two children, one in college and one in high school.

I am a teacher and my husband has worked in the management field for a company for more than 20 years.

My dilemma is that my mother has Alzheimer's, and I am really ...Read more

Admitted Hypochondriac Seeks A Cure For Her Fear Of Dying

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm a hypochondriac. I am currently waiting on the biopsy results for a mole I had removed. Right now I'm worried and miserable. I feel guilty for what I'm putting my husband through. I want to get therapy, but doing that feels like admitting I'm too weak to handle my problems myself. My husband thinks he's a bad husband because he ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 4/29/2016

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I married my high school sweetheart 39 years ago. She is the only woman I have ever slept with, although I am not her only man.

When our second daughter was born, her new employer paid the hospital bill. I never suspected anything then, but she started working late and going out for drinks while I stayed home and took care of the ...Read more

Concerned Sibling

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Hi, Carolyn:

My siblings and parents all live very close to one another back in my home state. They see each other frequently and are very involved in each other's lives.

My brother recently learned that his wife has been cheating on him, not for the first (or even second) time. When this happened before, he tried to stick with it and work ...Read more

Stepparent wants to give tenant the boot

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My wife's daughter (age 26) has lived with us for the past five years. She pays rent of $400, including everything.

Her boyfriend of three years now also lives with his parents, but he pays them no rent. They party every weekend and then she stays the weekend at her boyfriend's parents house.

I added tougher rules at ...Read more

Sister Struggles To Reconcile Love For Brother And Her Faith

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am very excited to be proposing soon to the man I want to spend my life with. My family is excited for me -- with one exception. My younger sister, whom I want to be my best woman, says she doesn't know if she will be able to participate in our wedding because she's having trouble reconciling that her faith tells her same-sex ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 4/28/2016

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: Tragedy has struck our family. A cousin killed himself on Easter Sunday. I never thought my cousin would do this. He worked with troubled teens and their families. He was outgoing and strong, and helped others through their own tough spots.

A few years ago, his son died by suicide. Since that time, my cousin struggled with ...Read more

Family Member's Boyfriend is a Jerk

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

A family member recently brought her "not" boyfriend to our family vacation for about two days last week. I can't even begin to describe the visceral reaction the house had to him, but I am trying to separate that from his dealings with my family member.

Because I am sure that there is...Read more