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Mother's Alcoholism Poses Serious Threat To Her Baby

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I just realized I'm six weeks pregnant. I have always wanted to start a family and raise children with my fiance, but I have a big problem. I am an alcoholic and have been struggling with this issue for a few years. I don't know the effect this could have on my baby, but I know it isn't good. My fiance also drinks a lot, and our home ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 5/22/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I've been seeing (and sleeping with) "Jordan"' for eight months. We met at the gym, and I asked him out because I had an amazing feeling about him. Since then, I've become totally infatuated. He is one of the kindest men I've ever met. I thought I saw a future for us.

But the other day, Jordan casually mentioned that he needed to ...Read more

Impending Explosion

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Hi, Carolyn:

Two close friends of mine have recently decided they want to explore a relationship together. Great! The problem? One was in a relationship and had to exit it to pursue these newfound feelings.

As her relationship was never one that anyone felt was healthy, we're happy she broke up with her significant other. However I think it...Read more

Being A Good Listener Is The Best Way To Be Heard

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am responding to Tired of Talking to Myself (Feb. 13), whose husband's ears slam shut when she begins to speak. This is not a problem that's exclusive to men. Women do it as well. As a retired PA (physician's assistant), when talking with patients, I would refer to it as selective hearing loss.

Tired needs to look at her own ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 5/21/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I am 17 years old and still in high school. I recently became "Jake's" girlfriend. We've been dating for about a week.

I've known Jake as a friend for a year, and we hang out with the same group. I never had feelings for him until I learned that he liked me, and even then, my friends kind of pushed me into the relationship.

His ...Read more

Growing Apart

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

Honest question and not trying to start a war! I'm a single, childless woman in my 30s. A majority of my friends and family members are parents to some amazing kids who I love.

Whenever there is a group get-together, the conversation almost always turns to breastfeeding, pregnancy ...Read more

Mom Fears News Of Ex's Abuse Will Cause Split With Her Son

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My daughter, Meg, was sexually abused at the age of 3 by her father 25 years ago. Emile and I were divorced, but he had every other weekend visitation. After returning from one visit, she said, Daddy put his finger in there. It hurt. I cried. Her words forever changed my life.

After we made countless trips to the children's hospital ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 5/20/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I recently dated a woman who never offered to pay for a meal, a movie or so much as an ice cream cone. We went out several times.

We're both in our late 50s and earn good incomes. She says she won't pay for things until she is in a committed relationship. I have no problem paying for anything that I invite her to. But she would ...Read more

Being Too Judgy

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Hi, Carolyn:

I have a friend who, by most any measure, has a lot to be thankful for. She has two lovely children and a husband. She's able to work only part time (though she hasn't gone back since child No. 2). They own their home outright and just bought a second in a beach neighborhood where they'll move once they remodel it. They travel ...Read more

Vote of Confidence

Life Advice / Jenny McCarthy /

The author Byron Katie coined one of my favorite expressions: "It's not your job to like me. It's mine." Exactly.

The best piece of advice I can give is to be happy with who you are -- and I don't just mean with how you look on the outside. Be happy with what you do, with your views, your beliefs, everything. Don't spend valuable time wondering...Read more

Husband's Caring Ministry Doesn't Extend To His Wife

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been married to the same man for 20 years. He likes having people around all the time, and because he is a minister, we often can't avoid it. I have tried to accommodate his friends and hangers-on, but lately it's becoming unbearable. He will say yes to people who have been evicted, and I find myself sharing living ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 5/19/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I have been with "Joe" since his wife died nine years ago. The problem is, we have different styles of communication.

At first, it wasn't too bad. I have tried to analyze our fights to see what I could do differently or what we could do together to make it better. But I have settled on the fact that Joe can never be wrong, and it ...Read more

Mom's Moved On

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

I am having a hard time dealing with my mom and her new boyfriend. My dad passed away last year, and I am an (adult) only child. I know this loss affected her, but I don't think she's taken any time to see how the loss has affected ME.

I motored along for the first eight months or so ...Read more

Sister Getting Married Opts Out Of All-Inclusive Affair

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My only sister, Carolyn, is getting married in two months. I'm ecstatic for her. She and her girlfriend turned 50 this year, and this is the happiest I have ever seen her. They are perfect together. Carolyn asked me to be her maid of honor and I gladly accepted. I am also decorating for her small wedding and reception.

When I ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 5/18/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My daughter recently married for the first time. Her attendants were her three best friends. Their friendship goes back 20 years, and they still regularly get together for a girls' night out.

My daughter attended all of their weddings. For each, she hosted a bridal luncheon. At her rehearsal dinner, my daughter presented them with ...Read more

Pre-Wedding Blues

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Hi, Carolyn:

My wedding is in about six weeks, and I am feeling the crush of family, emotions, to-do lists, and keeping up my regular life. Lately, I've caught myself feeling weepy for no good reason. Not just wedding things, but today, while listening through a couple of music samples, I became so ...Read more

Boy's Questions About Faith Call For A Careful Response

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have a question about how to handle a situation with one of my grandsons. Rory came to me recently to talk about religion. His mother is Christian; I am not. He asked what I thought about his mother forcing him to go to church. He has many doubts about Christianity.

I tried to understand Christianity for more than 50 years, and ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 5/17/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I'd like to start a small business, but I'm afraid to mingle my finances with my husband's.

We have a house, which is paid off and in both of our names. I have money in my retirement account and about $10,000 in savings. When I spoke to a banker about using home equity for a down payment on a small business, the banker said my ...Read more

Lonely and Worried

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

I have been in a relationship for six years. From the outset it was a long-distance situation, as she was often off on extended work-related projects, but we had a very strong connection when together. We have been making plans that would mean my following her to her long-term posting. She has also been my best friend for all ...Read more

Adopted Teen Can't Shake Anger Felt For Birth Mother

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am almost 13 and I'm struggling with a lot of different things. I was adopted when I was a baby, so I never lived with my birth mother. That's probably a good thing, but I am having angry feelings toward her that I wish I wouldn't have. Those feelings are also being directed at friends and family members.

I'll think I have forgiven...Read more