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Mom worries, is her son growing up too fast?

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

DEAR AMY: I think that my 14-year-old son, "Tyler" is growing up faster than I am prepared for.

Recently, he left his email open on my computer, and I could not help but scroll through. Mostly it was benign, but a couple of exchanges raised my eyebrows and churned my stomach. One with a friend, discussing their crushes on girls, included ...Read more

Girlfriend Expects Fireworks When Her Parents Meet His

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been with Tom for two years, and I suspect that he will be proposing soon. He is 27 and I'm 24. Here's the problem: He wants our parents to meet before he asks.

Abby, I have put this off because I'm sure they will have nothing in common. My parents are small-business owners and conservative. His parents are pot-smoking ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 7/3/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I recently broke up with my boyfriend of two years. I had been having doubts for a few months and one night he took me out for a surprise picnic. On the way to the picnic, I thought he was going to propose and the only thought I had was: "How do I tell him no?"

We had a great relationship, but I'm not sure he's the one I want to ...Read more

Jealous

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

I have a problem I am not proud of. My daughter is pregnant, and so far everything in her pregnancy is routine. When I was pregnant with our three kids, my husband was typical for our generation in terms of the involvement he showed during my pregnancy and even my kids' infant years. But now that our daughter is pregnant, he ...Read more

Pregnant woman may be addicted to pain medication

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

DEAR AMY: My brother's wife is pregnant and I'm concerned for the health of the baby. She is addicted to Percocet. She has even gone as far as getting injections of more "pain" medication.

My fiance and I are worried about what can happen to the unborn child with all the drugs she is taking. My brother is very naive about the potency and side ...Read more

Readers Defend Parents Who Disapprove Of Cohabitation

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR READERS: On May 5, I printed a letter from a parent, Against the Tide in New Jersey. He said his independent, intelligent, loving daughters (both in their late 20s) have dated their boyfriends for five years and had recently moved in with them. The man also said he and his wife approve of the young men.

One daughter is planning to have an ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 7/2/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I am gay. Two years ago, my partner of 34 years told me that my brother-in-law had touched her breasts inappropriately. I didn't believe her and we had a huge fight over it. She never confronted him or told my sister, and she has continued to socialize with my family.

Last weekend, we attended my niece's graduation, and much to my ...Read more

Pants on Fire

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Hi, Carolyn:

I just found out that my long-distance boyfriend has been lying to me. He was supposed to be at a location for work for 15 weeks. Apparently that turned to six because his job wanted him to return to go to school. That meant an incredibly difficult time for him to manage school, work and...Read more

Bowlers roll gutter ball in choice to exclude

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

DEAR AMY: What is the "PC" way to exclude the developmentally disabled from an organized group?

I run a bowling league. Management at the bowling center where we play has informed us that our yearly contract will not be renewed unless we accept teams from local assisted-living facilities into our league.

If the league admits individuals with ...Read more

Boyfriend's Teen Escapade Should Be Regarded As Past

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been with my boyfriend for a little over two years. He recently mentioned that when he was younger (19), he had a threesome (two guys, one girl).

We are both over 35, so I realize this happened many years ago, but the fact that it was two guys is hard for me. I can't seem to get it out of my head. I keep seeing the images.

I ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 7/1/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My father passed away many years ago and my mother remarried and moved to a vacation home. However, she still owns the house we grew up in and two of my siblings now live there for free. My sister is 60, and my brother is 46. Neither has worked for years.

I talk to my mother about it all the time, telling her she is not doing them ...Read more

Shame and Infertility

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

My husband and I are both in our late 20s and have decided to start a family through adoption. A childhood illness left me unable to have biological children. My husband knew this before we ever started dating, and his parents have known for years as well. No one -- until now -- has led me to feel ashamed of my condition.

We'...Read more

Father fears stepson has been caught by a 'cougar'

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

DEAR AMY: I have a stepson who has been dating and living with a "cougar" since he was 23 years old. He is now 33. She is 14 years his senior. He wants to have kids but she has never had any and doesn't plan to have any after they get married.

She is a nice person but I don't know why he stays with her when he is a handsome guy and a lot of ...Read more

Woman's Belief Of Parentage Needs Facts To Back Her Claim

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I recently received a Facebook message from a 47-year-old mother of four who believes she is my daughter. While I do not remember her mother and have communicated this to the woman, the pictures she sent of her children somewhat resemble my family.

I'm happily married with two sons, and my wife is aware of this and will support any ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 6/30/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I have two sons, both married with children, living in two different states. For several years, my older son "John" has refused to talk to his brother, "Teddy." I don't know why, except that John's wife initiated it.

My husband and my sons and their families were at a wedding a few years ago. John's wife refused to acknowledge Teddy...Read more

Friend Not Excitied About Baby

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

A friend confided that she is pregnant and feeling decidedly unexcited about it. Her current life checks all of the boxes for "ready for baby" including a lovely, excited husband. She doesn't seem depressed, just reasonably apprehensive about how much her life is about to change and ...Read more

Stepdaughter's tantrums create family challenge

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

DEAR AMY: I have a lovely 16-year-old stepdaughter. I've been married to her daddy since she was 4. We have two other children together but she has always been treated fairly and as a full member of our household, despite only seeing her every other weekend. We've tried to be kind and friendly to her mom but our efforts have always been rejected...Read more

Greet Fussy Daughter-In-Law With Open Arms And Minds

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My son is being deployed for 10 months. His wife and baby are coming to live with me, and I am thrilled.

My concern is that his wife is a picky eater and she doesn't do much around the house. Would it be too much to ask her to help with the chores while my husband and I are at work? How do I handle the mealtime dilemma? (She doesn't ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 6/29/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: Not long ago, I discovered that my husband of 25 years was living a completely secret life. This life included pornography, voyeurism, physical affairs, emotional affairs and flirtations with hundreds of women he met through his sales job. Many of the women thought he was going to divorce me, even though he was manipulating them to ...Read more

How Much is Too Much

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Hi, Carolyn:

Volunteering at a local homeless shelter a few months ago, I "clicked" with a sweet, funny, smart 9-year-old girl who was staying there with her dad. I don't know the whole story, but her mom, for a variety of sad and scary reasons, hasn't been part of her life for the past several years...Read more