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Mom is conflicted about pursuing financial support

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

DEAR AMY: I have a 12-year-old daughter. Her biological father passed away when she was 2 years old. I got married when she was 5. He and I separated when she was 10. We're now divorced. He loves my daughter very much and has considered her his own child.

He never formally adopted her, but he has seen her regularly, due to my cooperation. I ...Read more

Family's Pantry Has Become Neighbor Kids' Favorite Buffet

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: We recently moved to a new neighborhood. Soon thereafter, some kids who were at our house playing with our kids began rooting through my pantry for snacks. A few days later, kids from another family did the same thing. (I would die of embarrassment if I found out mine ever behaved that way.)

I began stocking the pantry with snacks ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 8/2/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My sister, "Helen," and her first husband never had children. He died eight years ago. Helen has since remarried a wonderful man, a widower with two sons, a daughter and several grandchildren. He wants my sister to be a real grandmother to them.

Helen is an extremely buttoned-up person. The daughter recently phoned to say she was ...Read more

Insecure Over Wife's Interest

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

My wife and I are newlyweds in our 60s. This is my second marriage. My first wife died after 20-plus years together. I had dated a few other women while in school and before meeting my new wife.

On the other hand, this is my wife's third marriage in addition to a few relationships during the 15 years she was single.

I fear ...Read more

Folks' largesse is unequal. Is it because I'm gay?

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

DEAR AMY: All our lives my parents have made sure my sister and I were treated equally when it came to gifts and money. That continued into our post-college early adulthood -- sometimes Mom would give me money because she went shopping with my sister and bought her clothes or things for the house.

I find myself feeling hurt because my parents ...Read more

Jail Is Just Punishment For Dui Even Though No One Got Hurt

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am normally a law-abiding citizen. I was pulled over a half-block away from picking up my son and charged with DUI.

I don't dispute the facts, but I didn't injure anyone. I had taken prescription meds (the meds did have warnings) in addition to having drunk three beers two hours earlier. I hurt myself and my son, because he needed ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 8/1/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My father has been a bully for as long as I can remember. He has unending excuses for his behavior, but the bottom line is, he thinks nothing of browbeating people to get what he wants, sometimes to the point of being cruel. He never sees it as wrong. It is always someone else's fault.

It doesn't matter whether it's as simple as ...Read more

Delivery Story

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

I know this will go away in a little while -- but my sister-in-law had a baby this week (yay!), and three of the people she had asked to assist with the delivery were unavailable. I ended up being drafted into the delivery room at the end of a VERY long labor. It was amazing, I was ...Read more

Woman might be using breakup to make up

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

DEAR AMY: I'm a 27-year-old female. I broke up with my boyfriend of seven years in March because he was caught texting a girl (she'd already been brought up in conversation as an issue for me) in a very non-platonic way, if you know what I mean.

I admit to being very jealous so I tried to give him space to have whatever friends he wanted, but I...Read more

Boyfriend Reveals That His Soul Mate Died Years Ago

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been close to my best friend for three years. A year ago we decided to date. We have a wonderful relationship on almost every level. The only issue I have is that he's reluctant to open up about his past. He is a very private person, and I know it's because of his upbringing. This has sparked many debates between us that have ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 7/31/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: Our daughter recently became engaged and we couldn't be happier. She is our only child and is marrying a great guy. While we are excited about all of the planning for the big event, it appears that the groom's mother, "Dolores," is trying to take control.

For nearly every detail that my daughter and I agree upon, Dolores steps in ...Read more

Abusive Older Sister

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Hi, Carolyn:

I have an older sister who was incredibly abusive toward me as a child. She was controlling, manipulative, the works.

She and her husband (who she's pretty mean to already) are trying for a baby. When I heard the news, I got so upset I nearly threw up. I'm so afraid that child will grow up the way I did, and even more afraid it...Read more

Young mom longs for husband to be a helper

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

DEAR AMY: I am 23 and married with two wonderful children. I had my first child at 20 and the other at 22. Being a mom is super awesome and all that but I'm starting to get overly stressed.

My husband is 23 also. He doesn't feel like he has to share the responsibility of caring for the children.

He works every night and comes home around <...Read more

Family Pet-Sitter Helps Herself To Homeowner's Possessions

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: A trusted and beloved family member who takes care of my cats -- and therefore has a key to my house -- has been stealing things like cleaning supplies, knickknacks, family pictures, etc. Most of them have little monetary value. But imagine my surprise when I spotted some of my missing seashell collection in her fish tank!

Naturally,...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 7/30/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: Yesterday, I had an argument with my 85-year-old mother. She said I must be a lesbian because of my recent Facebook posts in support of all my gay friends and the Supreme Court decision upholding gay marriage. Specifically, I changed my photo so it was colored in beautiful rainbow shades.

My mother was appalled that I was supporting...Read more

Too Poor for a Social Life

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

My husband and I are very financially constrained, partly by choice (we want someone home with the kids). In order to make this work, we are SUPER frugal and have had at least one financial-adviser type look at us quizzically and ask how we live on so little money.

The problem is, we ...Read more

Man struggles to transition online relationship to real life

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

DEAR AMY: Fifteen years ago I met a woman in an online chat room. We hit it off immediately, found a strong connection and enjoyed a long and happy online relationship despite living in different countries. Eventually as the years went by, we lost touch.

*Three years ago I found her again via a chat app and we picked up right where we left off....Read more

Hidden Security Cameras Are Shocking Surprise For Daughter

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm a 19-year-old woman in college who still lives with my parents. I found out something several weeks ago that's bothering me, and I need advice badly.

Years ago, after a robbery, my parents installed security cameras outside our house. I knew about them because they were visible. But apparently some were installed that I knew ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 7/29/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My wife and I were married in a double wedding with her sister. Two years later, my new brother-in-law began boasting to me of his philandering. He rationalized it by claiming that as long as his wife knew nothing about it, he wasn't hurting her. I told this to my wife and asked whether we should tell her sister, but she said not to....Read more

Introvert in New Relationship

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Hey Carolyn:

How do I help my newish boyfriend come to terms with the fact that when I say I need regular alone time, I do not mean "except for you"? When it comes to my wanting time away from my close-knit family and large group of friends, he totally gets it -- he is also fairly introverted, and takes plenty of time to charge his batteries...Read more