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Prayer Can Turn To Panic During Restaurant Outings

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm comfortable with my faith and pray before a meal at home and at friends' houses. We have become friendly with individuals from our church, and on many occasions have gone out to eat together at restaurants. When the meal is brought out, it has become a custom to pray. I feel uncomfortable praying aloud in public, and have seen ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 5/3/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I am 63, and my husband, "Jake," is 67. Jake has been watching a lot of pornography. He lies over and over about how he is no longer doing it, and I slowly forgive him. But years have gone by, and I keep catching him through the history on his computer. He'll deny it until I show him the proof, and even then, he tries to squirm out ...Read more

Opposition From Husband

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

My married daughter, with two young daughters of her own, has decided to file for a separation. I felt from the beginning that things may not work out. They were both young, my daughter just 22, and it was the pregnancy that mostly pushed them to marry six years ago. I remained optimistic and embraced my new son-in-law and his ...Read more

Boss's Unwelcome Advances Make First Job Uncomfortable

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm 16 and just got my first job working in food services. I have been working here for about two months, and have grown close with my co-worker Samantha and my boss. Samantha quit suddenly a few days ago. Today she told me our boss had told her he had strong feelings for her. He's married with kids.

I am now very uncomfortable being...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 5/2/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I've been dating my girlfriend for four years, and she's almost perfect. She has only one flaw: She rarely drinks, but when she does, she becomes verbally abusive and physically destructive. The following morning, I always get blamed for her being so drunk and not stopping her, but every time I try to stop her, she just drinks more. ...Read more

Hating "Hate"

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

My 10-year-old son has started expressing that he "hates" certain people/kids. How do I go about getting him to stop using that word?

For what it's worth, he told me he hated some kids at camp, and I asked him why and what did he do about it. He said they cheat when playing games, and ...Read more

Speedy Diagnosis Is Essential For Treatment Of Lyme Disease

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: May is Lyme Disease Awareness Month. I'm a longtime Canadian reader who has suffered from it for many years. More than 300,000 people are infected by this tick-borne illness every year, yet people know little about it.

If someone doesn't recognize the symptoms and seek treatment immediately, Lyme disease becomes chronic and ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 5/1/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My youngest son is engaged to "Carol," a lovely young lady. My oldest son, "Mitch," lives out of state with his partner, "James." Both are in the wedding party.

Carol has known Mitch for years, is well aware that he's gay and has no problem with it. However, I'm relatively sure her parents don't know, and I'm of the opinion that ...Read more

Tapped-Out Aunt

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Hi, Carolyn:

My sister has four school-age children, and my nieces and nephews have, quite frankly, had to do without.

My oldest niece (who is on the dreaded "spectrum" and has struggled because of this) has started a running program, helping her get out some of her anger from her parents' divorce as well as sort out some of her other ...Read more

Life Of Contentment Doesn't Seem Normal By Comparison

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm 45, employed and earning plenty of money. I'm in a great relationship, my kids and grandkids are healthy and happy, and my parents are alive and well. I enjoy the small things in life, fishing, reading, the beach, mini vacations, bowling, etc. I raise funds to feed the homeless.

So what's my problem, you ask? Abby, I'm not really...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 4/30/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My son's marriage broke up after 10 years. Twice they attended counseling because his wife wanted to see other men. The third time, she was actually dating another guy. He and "Mandy" share custody of their three children.

Mandy had a troubled upbringing. Her mother neglected her, and she ended up in state care. At 18, she lived ...Read more

Losing an Old Friend

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

Karen and I were best friends, talked every day by phone, email or text. Both divorced with kids and dating online. Sharing stories, experiences, advice. She finally found the man of her dreams, blending their families together.

I understand she is busy -- I don't expect our ...Read more

Mom With Secret Addiction Is Playing Dangerous Game

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm a 17-year-old girl and I caught my mom sniffing nail polish remover. She obviously doesn't want me to know because she tries to hide it.

I don't know what to do. I don't know why she would want to do this. It's something people my age would do. I know better than to do that.

Should I talk to her about it? She'll probably ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 4/29/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My brother is 42 and getting married for the first time. His bride-to-be has been married before.

My mom and I would like to give her a bridal shower, but it seems they have most of what they need. However, they don't own their own home. How do we send out invites and ask guests to give money toward either the cost of the wedding or...Read more

Outing a Sibling's Affair

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

Last summer, my sister-in-law cheated on my brother. It was a months-long affair that continued even after my brother found out about it, and was followed by some other odd/out-of-character behavior that led my brother, and eventually her, to suspect mental-health issues.

Although it seemed like they were headed for a divorce,...Read more

Despondent Husband Wants To Break Cycle Of Cheating

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been married twice. My first marriage lasted 20 years, the second one about four years.

During my first marriage, I started cheating seven months after our wedding. My wife knew about some of the affairs and stuck with me anyway. I finally felt so guilty for hurting her emotionally, I called it quits and married the last woman...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 4/28/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I believe my sister's husband, "Roy," is having an affair. He and I have been flirting for several years, and we've had several occasions where we could have been together, but because of my sister, we never have.

My sister's marriage has been troubled for years. The two of them live together, but in separate rooms. They haven't ...Read more

Not Processing Grief

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

My only sibling and I lost our mom earlier this year to a surprise infection that set in following routine surgery. She wasn't sick, rather she was very healthy, so it was a total shock to us and very devastating to the whole family to see this vibrant, youthful woman deteriorate before...Read more

Person to Person: Cooling employee burnout helps the bottom line

Life Advice / Helping Yourself /

Do your employees or co-workers seem bogged down and unmotivated? Are they taking longer to finish routine projects, or do they make too many excuses about why they can't keep up with the workload?

If so, these individuals may be wrestling with burnout. In today's complex society, we all deal with dozens of issues in our personal lives before...Read more

Brother With Repeat Offenses Doesn't Merit Sister's Support

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My brother is older than I am and has been in and out of prison. He has stolen my things and pawned them.

I am married, and my husband and I are expecting our first child. We live in a time zone several hours behind the one my family is in. I am now receiving phone calls at 4 o'clock in the morning from collection agencies on the ...Read more