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Man's best friend violates him -- and the friendship

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

DEAR AMY: I'm a 28-year-old straight male. My best friend from childhood and I rent an apartment together. He came out to me when he was 18. I care about him as a brother (I'm an only child). We respect each other's boundaries and I support him being gay.

A couple of months ago my girlfriend of four years ended our relationship and I was ...Read more

Scammers Are On Dating Sites Hoping To Lure Trusting Marks

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I was recently the target of a romance scam on a popular singles website. After being a divorcee for 15 years, I decided to try online dating. Minutes after I went online, someone asked to chat.

He said he was a widower with an adult daughter and a jeweler by trade, living near me but returning to Florida the next day with ultimate ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 9/2/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: After 14 years of marriage, my husband, "Ron," left me for another woman. Here's how it happened: For several years, friends had dinner with us once a week. One day, they brought along "Fran," a recently widowed woman they took under their wing. Ron initially told me he found her vulgar, overweight, unattractive and heavily tattooed....Read more

Daughter Dealing With Mom's Mom

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

How can I help my daughter, "Kara," better deal with my mom? When my mom gets irritated or angry, she shuts down and gives the silent treatment, even to Kara, who is 3.

For example, Kara will decide she doesn't want to talk to my mom, and then five minutes later she does, and my mom will say, "Oh, NOW you want to talk to me? ...Read more

Cancer diagnosis brings wrong kind of 'help'

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

DEAR AMY: There is a strong likelihood that I am going to be diagnosed with cancer soon, when test results come back. My husband and I are trying to consider what this will mean for our family.

If I do have cancer, my parents will want to come out to where we live and "help." I'm close with my parents, but I have never found them to be helpful ...Read more

Woman Becoming Nun Needs Friend's Interest, Not Concern

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I was best friends with Joanne after we met in middle school. She comes from a conservative Christian family and has three successful siblings. This has made her quirky, media-driven pursuits and city life a disappointment to her family. When we were teens and she learned that I was a straight ally for gay rights, she came out to me ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 9/1/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My family has lost their minds and is letting my 14-year-old nephew drive around on open roads, sometimes in busy areas. He drives with his mother and grandmother.

I think this is beyond crazy. He could hit, maim or kill someone, or drive off the road and hurt himself. The consequences are beyond unimaginable.

Is this a new trend ...Read more

Heart -to-Heart Over Marriage

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

My (much) younger sister's boyfriend is planning to propose on her 21st birthday. I am horrified. My sister still has a year left of college. Neither one has ever lived independently -- they both are living with their parents in our small hometown. The boyfriend, while he has a college degree, only recently took his first ...Read more

Person to Person: Bringing out the best in others is real power

Life Advice / Helping Yourself /

Have you ever watched a war film, a cowboy movie or a science fiction episode where somebody was trying to conquer somebody else's world? The drama was quite engaging, wasn't it?

In these situations, somebody has to win, and somebody has to lose. It's over when the loser is really hurt or put out of commission totally.

But in real life, the ...Read more

Wife's secret chats lead husband to worry

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

DEAR AMY: My wife and I have been married for 20 years. We have one child. Recently she told me she is not happy with our marriage. She said she still cares deeply for me but that she is not attracted to me anymore.

I just went through my own minor midlife crisis and will admit that I should have been a better listener and more supportive to ...Read more

Daughter Deep In Debt Needs Counseling, Not More Money

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: Three years ago I gave my adult daughter, married with a child, more than $16,000 to help pay off her debts because she couldn't pay her bills. She and her husband maintain separate accounts, which I find odd. He pays certain expenses; she pays others. Now I find she's deep in debt again and needs more help.

I'm 69, married and ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 8/31/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I'm a clean-cut, middle-aged gay guy living in a midsized city in Florida. My partner of six years lives in Boston. We have a great long-distance relationship. He's a wonderful man, and we love each other. We'd like to marry and live together someday.

Here's the problem: He doesn't want to move to Florida, and I'm a bit hesitant ...Read more

The "Pushy" One

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

I have been dating my boyfriend for a year ("officially" together for six months). I am 30 and he is 33.

I am acutely aware of my desire to have kids by 35.

In past relationships I have tried to play the "cool girlfriend" -- you know, the one who doesn't pressure her man about getting married or having kids. Unfortunately, ...Read more

Family is family, except on Facebook

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

DEAR AMY: My husband's sister-in-law's posts on Facebook are extremely offensive, insulting and aggressive, often personally directed at those who do not agree with her. She is bigoted, mean and always angry.

After multiple gentle attempts to explain how her words made her sound, I eventually "unfriended" and blocked her. I am not alone in our ...Read more

Longing For The Past Casts A Shadow Over The Present

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: Have you any advice for handling nostalgia? While it can be pleasant, lately I have been getting very down when I think about my past. I'm sad that I can never relive those experiences, and I'm wondering what's wrong with my life now that makes me feel this way.

I'm 25 and have a lot of life ahead of me. Now that I think about it, I ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 8/30/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My son, who is 18, finally has a girlfriend. Even though she is a year older, they are only children. Both are attending college, working toward their associate's degrees. My son has a part-time construction job, and because it's seasonal, he sometimes has to work weekends. His girlfriend doesn't have a job but is supposedly looking....Read more

Alone With Pregnancy

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

My husband died unexpectedly at age 33, just weeks after conceiving our first baby. I'm now at 19 weeks and holding up relatively well, I think. No major meltdowns since those hellish early weeks. I try to remind myself daily that my job right now is to keep my baby healthy, which means sticking to my normal routine of working ...Read more

Daughter does not 'heart' anniversary gift

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

DEAR AMY: For my first wedding anniversary, my mom got us a crystal paperweight in the shape of a heart. When I opened the package, I was confused. I even said to my husband, "This is so not me, and I'd be shocked if my mom didn't know that." I knew the gift was expensive and discovered that it cost over $150.

My mom is a ...Read more

Girls Cry Foul When Dad's Fiancee Bad-Mouths Mom

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My fiancee of three years, Ellen, is wonderful to me and she loves my daughters dearly. However, when it comes to my ex-wife, Ellen can be downright nasty.

I divorced my ex-wife many years ago because she wasn't good to me, but my kids see her half the time and love her because she's their mom, and I encourage them to do that. Ellen ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 8/29/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My husband and I are snowbirds in our late 60s. Most of our snowbird friends are several years older. We have neighbors in the North and in the South and we normally trade off taking turns driving back and forth.

Our dilemma is, we have a set of neighbors in our North home and one in our South home who will not let us drive them. I ...Read more