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Boyfriend's texts reveal unflattering truths

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

DEAR AMY: I have recently found myself in a sticky situation with my boyfriend. We met six months ago through a mutual (female) friend. This person is my roommate -- and my boyfriend's best friend.

From the beginning I was proactive about not putting her in the middle of our relationship because I didn't want to harm any of our friendships.

I ...Read more

Questioning Boyfriend Is Not Likely To Change

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend, Blake, recently broke up with me -- again. He told me in the beginning that he was bi-curious, and that he wasn't sure he was completely heterosexual. When he broke up with me the first time, we stayed friends. Everyone seemed confused that I still wanted to hang out with him.

We started communicating long-distance ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 7/7/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: How do I tell my neighbors that it's annoying and frustrating to listen to their teenaged daughters shrieking and screaming as they're having fun outside?

Often, I want to go out and play with my dog, but I can't because these girls are behaving like 5-year-olds, screaming their heads off. There are things I need to do outside, but ...Read more

Saying No in Stronger Language

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

While I'm away, readers give the advice.

On saying no in stronger and stronger language:

I'm a big fan of the "broken record" technique. You say the same thing in the same language and you do not add justifications, excuses, or anything that changes the original message in any way. It feels weird the first few times you use it, ...Read more

Person to Person: Do you recognize your breaking point?

Life Advice / Helping Yourself /

Are you pushing to help your family and friends, keep up at work, and pay your bills on time? If so, you're living like most people. You're driving yourself hard, but you're hanging in there.

But what if the treadmill you're on keeps moving faster? Would you recognize the signs if you were near the breaking point?

Trying to do too much will ...Read more

Mom of three wants to put a ring on it

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

DEAR AMY: My boyfriend (going on four years) and I have three children together. He's the only man I've ever been with. Our relationship is great. We get along well and we're always out with the kids.

We are a family but I want to be married; he talks about marriage like it's a bad thing.

I understand that almost everyone in his and my family ...Read more

Aftermath Of Son's Affair Puts Grandmother In Awkward Spot

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My son had an affair that resulted in the birth of a child outside his marriage. The baby is extremely ill. My daughter-in-law has forgiven my son for his infidelity, and along with my two grandchildren, the little family is trying to rebuild and also do right by the baby.

The baby's mother stays in contact with us, although she is ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 7/6/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My father has always been especially unkind to my sister, "Portia." She always has had behavioral problems, not to mention she is a bit paranoid and has a ferocious temper. Portia also drinks too much and continues to contact her abusive ex-boyfriend.

My older sister and I try to show Portia lots of love, but Dad usually deals with ...Read more

Yes We Can Share

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

While I'm away, readers give the advice.

On stepping on parental toes by calling a grandchild "my baby":

When I was 4, my little sister was diagnosed as autistic. As you might imagine, my parents were distressed with the news. Or, as my mom tells it, "I wouldn't have freaked out so bad if the world HAD been ending."

But my ...Read more

Dysfunctional relationship should not progress to marriage

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

DEAR AMY: I have a serious problem with my future wife. She has not been faithful to me.

I recently overheard her talking to her friend about how she was unfaithful to me. When I confronted her, all that she said was that she couldn't talk right now. I feel like I have to record everything in my own house just to learn the truth.

To make ...Read more

Marriage To Slovenly Wife Brings Man Close To Tears

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been married 40 years, and it's just the two of us. I work full time and make a good living. We have a large house in a great neighborhood.

My problem is my wife. She hasn't worked throughout almost all of our marriage and has to be the laziest person I know. We haven't slept in the same bed for 20 years. She weighs 300 pounds...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 7/5/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: After living and working for 35 years in a large city, my husband and I were able to return to our hometown to help care for our elderly parents. I reconnected with a high school friend who asked me to work part-time in her large, nationally known family business.

One of my duties is to assist my friend with media relations, ...Read more

Trying to Take My Own Advice

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

While I'm away, readers give the advice.

On parents who feel that "all we do is rush around":

A lot of us feel that. Be sure the kids are doing the extracurriculars they truly enjoy, not just because everyone else is doing it.

Then, focus on truly being present wherever you are. If you trust the child-care/school situation of ...Read more

'Mean girl' at the office wants to shed title

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

DEAR AMY: Years ago when I was in my early 30s, I landed a great job with an excellent company. I've been very happy here all this time, except in the past 15 months or so.

My good friend retired and a young woman in her mid-20s was hired to take her place. When she's in the office, she has all of our co-workers rallying around her, trying to ...Read more

Husband's Long Hours Make Married Life Lonely For Wife

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm 19 and I got married six months ago to the love of my life! We have a great relationship despite how young we are. There's one problem though: my husband's job.

His shift is 11 a.m. to 7:30 p.m., six days a week, and when he is not working, he's sleeping, so he has no time for me at all and it's killing our marriage. We spend ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 7/4/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Readers: Happy Fourth of July! Here's one of our favorite pieces, originally written in 1955 as a public relations advertisement for the Norfolk and Western Railway company magazine (now the Norfolk Southern Corporation) and updated in 1976. Although some of the statistics have changed over the years, the sentiment remains the same:

"I Am ...Read more

Golden Boy

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dead Carolyn:

My brother was the Golden Boy. He got my father's attention, affection, love and money. My sisters and I got significantly less growing up. My father had high hopes for my brother.

Unfortunately, none of my father's hopes and dreams ever came true. My brother did about average in life,...Read more

Mom worries, is her son growing up too fast?

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

DEAR AMY: I think that my 14-year-old son, "Tyler" is growing up faster than I am prepared for.

Recently, he left his email open on my computer, and I could not help but scroll through. Mostly it was benign, but a couple of exchanges raised my eyebrows and churned my stomach. One with a friend, discussing their crushes on girls, included ...Read more

Girlfriend Expects Fireworks When Her Parents Meet His

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been with Tom for two years, and I suspect that he will be proposing soon. He is 27 and I'm 24. Here's the problem: He wants our parents to meet before he asks.

Abby, I have put this off because I'm sure they will have nothing in common. My parents are small-business owners and conservative. His parents are pot-smoking ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 7/3/2015

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I recently broke up with my boyfriend of two years. I had been having doubts for a few months and one night he took me out for a surprise picnic. On the way to the picnic, I thought he was going to propose and the only thought I had was: "How do I tell him no?"

We had a great relationship, but I'm not sure he's the one I want to ...Read more