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Dear Eric: I am a happily married gay man. My husband and I are retired, and we both love to spend our time shopping at thrift stores and antique shops. We each believe the other has a hoarding problem. I believe that we both do, but to varying degrees.

Our home has become so full that we only have paths to go from one room to another. Stacks ...Read more

Dear Eric: I am a 60-something man who struggled for decades, working multiple jobs at a time. Many of those jobs were physically brutal, but thanks to a generous family inheritance late last year I'm finally able to rest my beaten and broken body and retire with my arthritis meds and pending joint replacements.

My wife of eight months, who is ...Read more

Dear Eric: Several months ago, a friend's boyfriend broke up with her. She is devastated over this as she loves him very much. Even though he treated her very poorly by saying she is stupid and is an embarrassment, she still loves him.

She continues to speak to him, even helping him out. She calls me to tell of the latest hurtful situation he ...Read more

Dear Eric: I took a job in DC at the behest of my close friend, who also invited me to live with her. She said she was retiring and moving back to her Midwest hometown. She offered to rent her townhouse to me for a really reduced rate while she's in transition.

Well, not only is she not making any attempts to move, but she also comments on my ...Read more

Dear Eric: I've always had a close relationship with my mom and, for much of my adult life, I didn't really have a life of my own away from her. In the last few years, I entered into my first serious relationship. We moved in together and had an on-again-off-again thing for a while and are now living separately.

We are now considering moving ...Read more

Dear Eric: I took a DNA test with an ex. The child is five. My ex gave me issues about it for years but finally caved in. We remained friends. Now that it's verified that I'm not the child's father, what do I do?

The mother didn't even show up in court for the results. Do I reach out?

She has four other kids I've built a great bond with over ...Read more

As a dating coach, I sometimes have mixed feelings about what I learn in my job: On the one hand, I’m glad people feel comfortable enough with me to ask the questions they may not want to share broadly or ask their friends/family. And, on the other hand, well, sometimes I wish I didn’t know what goes on in the darkest depths of someone’s ...Read more

Dear Anna,

I recently started dating someone who's polyamorous. I've always been monogamous but I find myself intrigued by the possibility of exploring this with her. However, I'm worried about jealousy and whether I'm considering this for the right reasons. How do I know if I'm genuinely open to polyamory or just afraid of losing her? — Mono...Read more

Dear Eric: "Jim" and I had a daughter, "Helena," who was 12 years old when her father died of cancer. Jim and Helena were very close, and she knew that she would receive a letter from her father on every birthday until she turned 18.

When she graduated college, I surprised her with another letter. In it, Jim talked about his own college ...Read more

Dear Eric: For the past 10 years we have always "been there" for our grandchildren (now 18 and 16) and my son and daughter-in-law.

In the past two years, things have changed. We have sent the grandkids cards, asked them to various events, and sent weekly texts. Most go unanswered, as if they are entitled. So, I recently sent them a text and ...Read more