Dear Annie: My husband and I adopted two children out of the foster care system. Our daughter, "Tabitha," is almost 11 and lies to anyone any time it will benefit her. For example, she hates doing homework and will spend an hour lying to us about it rather than the 15 minutes it would take to complete the assignment. She also will lie to her ...Read more
I'm a guy, and a female friend asked me to objectively rate her looks on a scale of 1 to 10. She has a very high opinion of her looks, but she insisted she wanted the truth, so I told her I'd put her at a 5.5 or 6. Afterward, she sent me a text about boundaries and said she's cutting me out of her life -- for being honest like she asked me to...Read more
Dear Annie: I've known this guy "Henry" for about six years now. We never got the timing right, and we've cheated on our significant others with each other. When I was single, he wasn't, and vice versa. Now I'm in a healthy and happy relationship. Henry and I still talk, and it's hard to let him go. He's had trouble letting me go, too.
I used...Read more
Dear Amy: My big old house is pretty much a mess.
We bought it "as is" with the plan to completely renovate, but never did.
My husband died decades ago, the kids moved on, and now I'm a widow living alone in this huge three-story house that never got fixed up.
My hubby and kids left a lot of stuff behind, and I don't feel like fighting about ...Read more
Dear Annie: My son and his wife are in the process of getting a divorce. The problem is that the children, both toddlers, are being neglected. This was going on even before the divorce. The mother would leave as soon as my son got home from work. He'd come in the door and have to take care of the children, fix dinner, give baths, etc. She went ...Read more
Dear Annie: I have been married for 11 years and have a wonderful 10-year-old son; however, my marriage is on very shaky ground. I work more than 70 hours a week to maintain a wonderful home in a great community for the sake of my son. My husband, on the other hand, can barely see fit to get himself to work and is incredibly selfish on a ...Read more
Dear Amy: My life with my (not yet divorced) live-in boyfriend of four years has deteriorated. We are both in our 60s.
He is experiencing ongoing stress and guilt from having an affair with me while he was with his wife. Work stress, physical problems, and the ongoing pandemic have all contributed to his heavy drinking.
When he is drunk, he ...Read more
Dear Annie: I married a generous, kind and funny man three years ago. "Brent" has no children, but I have two sons from my abusive previous marriage who are now 18 and 15. Their father has little to do with us, and I've had my share of problems raising the boys. We have attended counseling many times.
The problem is that Brent cannot see ...Read more
Being sick is sometimes the best opportunity to catch up on shows that I normally can't sneak into my schedule. Felled last week by a stomach bug, I draped myself like a limp noodle on my bed and binge-watched the Netflix series "Modern Love."
Because it came out in 2019, I'm already behind any of the buzz that it may have pulled along during ...Read more
Dear Annie: A few years ago, my son's wife decided to divorce him because she didn't love him anymore. We accepted that and showed our support for her despite her decision. Shortly thereafter, she was arrested for a heinous crime that I won't elaborate. It impacted her children.
My son does not keep her parents from attending events that the ...Read more
Dear Amy: My husband I bought a house a year ago. We had, at the time, a 24-foot boat, which we kept in a gravel spot next to the driveway. (The spot was designed for this kind of thing.)
By the way, if you don't know boats, this thing was big and looked even bigger out of the water.
We've met most of our neighbors and all seem very kind, ...Read more
Dear Annie: I have an 85-year-old acquaintance who has dementia. "Rosa" lives alone, but she can no longer cook, operate the microwave, stove or even the toaster, so a year ago, I called Meals on Wheels.
Yesterday, I picked Rosa up at home, and when she opened the door, the heat almost knocked me over. It was in the 90s, and instead of turning ...Read more
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for five years. We have a beautiful daughter, and we've got a son on the way. But I keep finding my husband using dating websites and chatrooms for singles. When I ask him about it, he gets angry and says, "That's from months ago!" But whenever I check the browser history, there are always more ...Read more
Dear Amy: Next week my sister will be visiting, along with her adult son, his wife, and three children. They will be staying with us for almost a week.
As I plan the menu, I have asked if anyone has any allergies or dislikes, as well as a coffee preference.
My sister is coming two days before her son’s arrival (as they live in different ...Read more
Dear Annie: Every time my girlfriend comes over to my house, my dad always tells me to keep the door to my room open. I know it is because he doesn't trust us, but I have never done anything to lose his trust. My girlfriend and I are almost 16, and we are smart enough to know that nothing is going to happen when my parents are home.
One time, I...Read more
Dear Annie: I have a neighbor who is 90 years old. Her only caregiver was her adult son, who just died last week after a long struggle with opioid addiction. Since then, I and another neighbor have been checking on her several times a day, as she needs a lot of care. We've been grocery shopping for her, picking up prescriptions and running ...Read more
Dear Amy: I am a woman in my 70s. I do not understand why women in their 30s think they can treat their elders with disrespect.
I had two unkind mothers-in-law but I wouldn’t have dreamed of being rude to them or “telling them off” because they were my elders — the mothers of my husbands, and the grandmothers of my children and ...Read more
Dear Annie: I am a female in my late 30s and somewhat intelligent, but I can't figure out if I'm being duped or not.
I have been dating "Stan" for five months. He is 10 years my senior, but I don't see the age difference. What I do see, however, are a lot of blank spots. I meet Stan once a week, usually for an overnight tryst. He calls me twice...Read more
Dear Annie: I am a 29-year-old woman, and I've been having an ongoing debate with my boyfriend of 10 years.
I wear makeup because I am insecure about my skin and my face in general. I have tried any and all products recommended to me to help clear up my skin.
I have suffered from eating disorders in the past and have constant fixation and ...Read more
Dear Amy: Several years ago, I was physically attacked — and seriously injured — by a man I had dated, on and off, for several years. I had him arrested.
He was charged and received one year's probation. I was granted a restraining order.
My issue is with his family. After the attack, his sisters informed me that: He was a pathological ...Read more
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