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Breaking the Silence That Has Broken My Marriage
Dear Annie: I am not someone who talks easily. Most of the time, I respond when spoken to, but otherwise I keep to myself.
I grew up in a home where silence was a weapon. When my mother was angry with my father, she would stop speaking to him. Sometimes it lasted for days. Sometimes, believe it or not, it lasted for years. Somehow, they are ...Read more
Asking Eric: Agnostic uncomfortable when asked for prayers
Dear Eric: I have many friends who are religious, mostly devout Catholics and born-again Christians. I do not personally hold religious beliefs. Decades ago, I was deeply Christian, but my thinking has shifted to believe there is likely no God watching over us.
I do respect other people’s beliefs and would never try and push my point of view ...Read more
When Peace Feels Out of Reach
Dear Annie: Although many years have passed since my husband died, I don't feel any peace. There was no justice whatsoever.
A young girl talking on her cellphone (cellphone records proved this!) lost control of her vehicle on a busy early morning on the highway. Four witnesses testified to her weaving erratically all over the narrow highway ...Read more
Asking Eric: Sister’s financial chaos causes strain
Dear Eric: My older sister, with whom I’ve never been close, is in her 80s and highly dysfunctional with money and life. She can’t make ends meet despite being a real estate agent and a substitute teacher.
I have “loan papers” she signed years back promising to pay me/us back, which never happened. Finally, I put a boundary on us to ...Read more
Running Out of Reassurance
Dear Annie: I am an adult now with grown siblings, but it seems my mother's anxiety is growing right along with us.
My mother is an incredibly anxious person. I try to be empathetic, but she hasn't seen a therapist in years, and she completely dismisses any logical or positive reassurances meant to comfort her. At this point, I am at a loss ...Read more
Asking Eric: Helpful in-laws shut out of family plans
Dear Eric: Our married son and wife share all their plans, ideas, life experiences with her family and we hear nothing. We watch our grandkids, help them at a drop of a dime, we even spiff up the house when watching the kids and let their dogs out.
When we hear what they're doing or planning from her side of the family, we’ve had to stop ...Read more
The Marriage Ledger
Dear Annie: I am middle-aged and lost my job during the pandemic when the company I had been with for years eliminated my position. Despite my experience and education, I have not been able to find anything permanent or full-time since.
I feel like I am too old to be hired and too young to retire. My husband and I live in an economically ...Read more
Ask Anna: How do I honor my queerness when no one can see it?
Dear Anna,
I’m a bi/pan woman who’s been married to my husband for 11 years. I’ve always known I wasn’t straight but never explored it much. I had one relationship with a woman early on, and that was it. I’m not looking to open my marriage or date other people. I just want to find ways to honor this part of myself that’s always been...Read more
Single File: Money Smarts (Part 1)
Let's assume you're well-organized and dripping with money smarts but the money under your control is still not exactly "significant." Angry? Discouraged? Great! You're ripe for upward movement. There are a zillion ways to bring in more money. These are only a few imagination stirrers:
--Finish your schooling. A college degree will get you two-...Read more
Ask Dating Coach Erika: Why aren't the apps working for me?
Like it or not, dating apps are the most ubiquitous way to meet new people these days. In my 15 years of being a dating coach, I’ve seen thousands of happy relationships start this way. But I’ve also heard all the shortcomings: “It takes up too much time.” “I’m not getting the matches I’m looking for.” “There’s no one good.�...Read more
Asking Eric: Road trip leads to resentment
Dear Eric: There is someone I have been friends with for more than 37 years. My husband and I moved to another state 12 years ago, but my friendship with this person has endured.
She calls every weekday and we mostly talk about her family and her kids, et cetera. About six months ago, she was diagnosed with early-onset Alzheimer’s.
For ...Read more
Daughter-in-Law Has Distanced Herself After Baby
Dear Annie: I am heartbroken over my daughter-in-law's sudden and painful change in behavior since the birth of our grandson a year ago.
Before the baby was born, we had a warm relationship. For four years, she was sweet, kind and very much a part of our large extended family. She joined family trips, holidays and even our "happy birthday" ...Read more
Asking Eric: Married friend might be flirting
Dear Eric: I am a long-retired senior citizen. I manage my days by finding things to do. In the evenings, I generally go out to a handful of local establishments. Being single I sit at the bar to dine and have a cocktail. I am friendly and chat with just about anyone
At one establishment, I run into a lady from time to time. She is married but ...Read more
Cornered by My Sister's Constant Invitations
Dear Annie: I moved to northern Florida over a year ago to help care for my parents. My sister has lived in southern Florida for many years, and for as long as I can remember, nearly every conversation with her includes the same question: "When are you coming down?"
Before I moved here, she asked it constantly. Once, she and her husband ...Read more
Asking Eric: News podcasts cause marital discord
Dear Eric: My wife and I, both seniors, have similar views, but get our news from different sources. I read online and listen to podcasts while doing mindless tasks, at the gym and on walks when she does not join me.
She is totally devoted to cable TV and prefers me to not interrupt; I can do better and am trying.
She feels my podcast ...Read more
Grandma's Jewelry May Be Lost, But Her Love Isn't
Dear Annie: My 15-year-old daughter was given a piece of sentimental jewelry on the day of her grandmother's funeral. It had belonged to her grandmother, and the gesture was meant to be a beautiful way for my daughter to carry a piece of her with her.
At the time, my daughter seemed touched. She wore it a few times, and I remember feeling ...Read more
Millennial Life: The High Holiday of The Beautiful Game
I had forgotten about the time change and the hour that I thought we'd have before the game vaporized. We checked in and raced to the Mexican restaurant, where the likelihood of the game playing would be high.
My husband dropped me off to verify if TVs were playing the game. There were and there were others with green jerseys like what all of ...Read more
Asking Eric: Daughter accepted to college, but she may not be ready
Dear Eric: My daughter recently committed to a university across the country, and she is supposed to start in the coming fall. She is only 17 and we think that she should be older before starting this new chapter of her life.
This among other reasons is why my husband and I have been increasingly hesitant to send her off to college this year ...Read more
Neighbor Is Taking Attendance at Church
Dear Annie: My wife and I are members of a local church, though I will admit we are not exactly front-pew regulars. We go about once a month, sometimes more during holidays or when life is calmer. Our faith matters to us, but we practice it quietly and privately.
One of our neighbors and her husband also belong to the same church. They are ...Read more
Asking Eric: Sister posts paternity secret on Facebook
Dear Eric: Last year my sister posted on Facebook that I was the result of an affair my mother had many years ago. It was with her first husband which ended in an annulment in 1941.The affair was in 1957.
Throughout my life I did feel that way. My father, mother and three siblings had blond hair. I had brown hair, now gray. My paternal ...Read more
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