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Dear Eric: My sister passed away without a will or trust. Our sister-in-law told me that my sister told her that she wanted all her things sold and divided up and given to the niece and nephews. My sister never told me anything.

There is a good amount of money now to divide up. I am the personal representative and would like to know what is ...Read more

Dear Eric: I’m 70 and very happily married (together 38 years). We both love music and lately after seeing a performance, there’s a meet-and-greet with the musicians. A particular musician and I have chatted several times. The last time, I got an autograph and a hug. I am on cloud 9!

I love my spouse (I would never cheat) and I have assured...Read more

Another day, another set of dating questions.

Question: What dating app seems to have the best luck in finding a partner?

Answer: You may not love my answer, but it's not about luck or "finding" someone. It's about being proactive and using the apps efficiently. You can be successful, or unsuccessful, on any app depending on how thoughtfully ...Read more

Dear Anna,

I’ve been happily married for 12 years, and my husband and I have been poly for eight of them. Overall, it’s been a really positive part of our relationship. We’ve had our trials, of course, but we communicate much better than we once did, we both date other people occasionally, and I genuinely experience compersion much of the...Read more

Dear Eric: I live with autism spectrum disorder and have been in regular, independent housing since I was 19. I'm 55 and I've managed to work full time for almost 10 years in spite of previous employment where I was harassed due to discrimination because of my neurodiversity. I'm settled into a new career in an accommodating environment that's ...Read more

Dear Eric: Like many women in perimenopause, when my hormones started getting out of whack, I gained about 25 pounds due to a sudden and uncontrollable hunger (estrogen helps moderate ghrelin, the hunger hormone). When I finally started hormone replacement therapy, I got the constant hunger and other issues back under control and worked hard to ...Read more

Dear Eric: My niece, age 31, is getting married in the fall and has told me that I can't bring my boyfriend ("S") of five years because there isn't "room." I offered to pay for his meals, extra seating, et cetera, but she will not budge.

I found out that the real reason is that she hasn't met him and they only want people they know at the ...Read more

Dear Eric: I have had a friend “Tillie,” for 35 years, and I love her dearly. We have been through a lot together and helped each other through many tough times. But Tillie has changed over the past few years. Essentially, she has become what I would call a “taker.”

For example, she looks to others to treat her to lunches but never ...Read more

Dear Eric: In the spring I attended an event and sat next to a woman around my age who was absolutely delightful. We discovered we had a lot in common and had a great old time.

At that luncheon I was willing to share personal things right away and I know I gave off messages that would suggest that I am indeed open to a closer relationship. I ...Read more

Dear Eric: I recently discovered that my younger brother (age 72) has been taking advantage of my elderly uncle (age 92), who has dementia. My cousin, who thankfully has power of attorney, uncovered checks made out to the brother. The brother initially denied the checks, but when confronted with the evidence, he rationalized them by claiming the...Read more

Dear Anna,

I’m 28 and have been with my girlfriend for about a year and a half. Things are really good between us overall, but we keep hitting a wall over one specific issue: I occasionally text with an ex from about four years ago. And I do mean occasionally. We’re talking maybe once or twice a month, maybe less than that. And the gist is:...Read more