Stuck With Your Neighbor? A Mediator May Be the Answer

Richard Montgomery on May 12, 2026

Q: My next-door neighbor and I are in a dispute over an easement on my property and we are stuck. My neighbor suggested we use a mediator to help resolve it. I have never heard of mediation before, but I assume you have. Do you think it is a good idea and why?

A: Your neighbor may have just done you a favor with that suggestion. Mediation is one of the most practical, cost-effective tools available for resolving exactly this kind of dispute and it is far less intimidating than it sounds.

What a mediator actually does. A mediator is a neutral third party -- trained and certified -- whose job is not to decide who is right, but to help both sides find common ground. He or she sits in the room with you and your neighbor, listens to both perspectives and guides the conversation toward a resolution you can both live with. Both parties sign a contract before the session begins, committing to the process, which means any agreement you reach carries real weight. Think of it as a structured, professional conversation with a skilled guide whose only goal is getting you both unstuck.

Why it Makes Sense for an Easement Dispute: Easement disagreements between neighbors are almost perfectly suited for mediation. The facts are local and specific; the relationship is ongoing. You still have to live next door to each other and the goal is a workable agreement, not a legal victory. A courtroom battle over an easement can drag on for years and cost tens of thousands of dollars. Mediation can often resolve the same dispute in a matter of hours.

What it Costs: Mediators charge by the hour and the fee is customarily split equally between the two parties. Rates vary widely depending on the complexity of the case and the mediator's experience. Some handle highly complex commercial or legal matters and charge accordingly. But for a typical neighbor dispute like yours, the National Academy of Distinguished Neutrals directory lists many qualified mediators at around $500 per hour, meaning your share could be as little as $250 per hour. A straightforward easement disagreement might be resolved in two to three hours, making your total out-of-pocket cost very manageable compared to litigation.

How to Find One: The National Academy of Distinguished Neutrals maintains a directory of vetted, credentialed mediators in every state, with transparent profiles that often include hourly rates right on the page. You can search by state and find someone local or very close by, at nadn.org/directory. Multiple choices at various price points are available in most areas. Some also offer online meetings.

Final Thoughts: Your neighbor suggested this path, which suggests he is already signaling a willingness to resolve this rather than fight. That is actually the most important ingredient. A good mediator, two cooperative parties and a couple of hours in the same room can accomplish what months of legal back-and-forth often cannot. Mediation brings the parties face-to-face, while in a lawsuit, all the talking is done through attorneys, not by the parties themselves. Many mediators are attorneys and many judges today, facing crowded calendars, will require mediation before they will hear a case.

Take your neighbor up on it. You may be surprised how quickly a stuck situation becomes a solved one.

Richard Montgomery is a syndicated columnist, published author, retired real estate executive, serial entrepreneur and the founder of DearMonty.com and PropBox, Inc. He provides consumers with options to real estate issues. Follow him on Twitter (X) @montgomRM or DearMonty.com.

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