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Of Foot Binding and Modern Childhood
We no longer live in an era of foot binding, writes my Let Grow cofounder Peter Gray, a psychologist who studies the importance of mixed-age, unsupervised play. But for about a thousand years, as he notes in a recent Substack post, girls in China would have their feet broken and bound to stop them from growing. This was considered not only ...Read more
When Parents Track Kids at College
A recent front-page article in The Wall Street Journal - "Surveillance Parents Face the Ultimate Firewall: Freshman Year" -- described the difficulty -- even agony -- some parents are feeling when their kids go off to college and are harder to monitor and help from afar.
I don't blame parents for the fear and loss they feel at any stage of the ...Read more
Why Aren't You Singing?
The shower is where America does it -- in private, with no one judging, just because it feels good.
I'm talking about singing, of course, that once-universal pastime that uplifts the soul, reboots the body and doesn't demand a monthly fee. So why aren't we singing all the time?
I just spent a chunk of the day in synagogue -- it is the Jewish...Read more
A Parenting Reality Check
Once again, readers, I. MUST. RANT. Why? I ... just heard from a mom trying to get two other families to let their kids play with her kids in her yard for an hour a week. Unsupervised.
AN HOUR A WEEK. She lives on a quiet street in quiet suburb in a quiet state. Classic single-family homes. Zero traffic. Other parent (who has stood and ...Read more
Time to Ignore Our Kids
The New York Times printed some surprising advice last week: "Parents Should Ignore Their Children More Often."
I agree!
In a culture that demands we spend ever more of our time supervising, entertaining, teaching and, of course, driving our kids, the op-ed by University of Southern California psychology professor Darby Saxbe, says: Enough! ...Read more
Advice for the Surgeon General
Surgeon General Vivek Murthy has issued an advisory announcing something most of us suspected: Parenting is hard.
To ease the pain -- parents are woefully lonely, and about half report overwhelming daily stress versus 26% of nonparents -- Murthy endorses measures personal, political and workplace: more paid time off, more child care funding, ...Read more
Child Protective Services: Stop Hounding This British Star!
British TV personality Kirstie Allsopp let her 15-year-old go on a three-week train trip around Europe with a friend, age 16. Allsopp then published a proud, happy comment about it on X -- which has prompted an investigation by child protective services.
Last week, Allsopp wrote that, "My little boy has returned from 3 weeks inter-railing, he'...Read more
The Solomon of Divorce
"Relationships don't last anymore," observed comedian Rita Rudner. "When I meet a guy, the first question I ask myself is, 'Is this the man I want my children to spend their weekends with?'"
Great joke -- horrible reality. But a new solution is on the horizon. After years of research, writer/activist Emma Johnson has come up with the best ...Read more
Einstein, Where's My Pen?
Yeah, yeah, Einstein. Smart guy. This being summer, you see his face on T-shirts, sticking out his tongue, as if to say, "Ask the guy wearing this if he can explain fractions."
Props to Albert, who did figure out everything from relativity to atoms to E=MC2. But how come Mr. Genius never bothered to explain the deepest physics mystery of all:...Read more
How to Diversify Your Child's Potential
Investors are always told to "diversify" their portfolios. Don't put all your money in stocks -- what if the market plunges? But don't put all your money in bonds -- you'll miss the market rallies. And for God's sake, don't put all your money in one company.
Or, to put it an older way: Don't put all your eggs in one basket.
But when it comes ...Read more