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Couple Wrestles With Communication Breakdowns

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I love my wife very much, but we are, unfortunately, having a communication/interpretation issue. She is inquisitive and asks a lot of questions. I become defensive when I'm questioned. Sometimes I feel it shows a lack of confidence or trust in me. My wife says I am being too sensitive.

There are times when I infer a negative tone ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Need Him To Go on Vacation in Eastern Washington

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I have started dating a divorced Jewish man with a teenage daughter. I, too, am Jewish. "Simon" has been divorced for many years, and has continued to celebrate the important high holidays in the company of his daughter and his ex-wife (who has not remarried).

Simon and I have a lot in common, and everything is going so well between...Read more

Employee Feels Nervous About Going Back To Office

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: When the pandemic hit and we were all sent home, my job went remote. After about six months, I moved in with my parents because I couldn't afford my apartment in the city. Now, nearly two years later, my company is saying we all have to come back to the office in the fall. There's no firm date yet, but it will be soon. I don't ...Read more

Answer Family's Nosy Questions Honestly

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I have always been on the fence about having children. I ultimately decided it would depend on who I meet and get serious with.

As fate would have it, I met someone who doesn't want to have kids for medical reasons. We have discussed it, and she is open to adoption if I ever want to have kids.

The issue here is my family. I ...Read more

Stress at Work -- With Triplets on the Way

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am a 39-year-old man who is married to the greatest wife in the world. We have three boys and one girl; our oldest is 19, and our youngest is 8. A couple of years ago, I started a cabinet-making business, and it is growing faster than I could have imagined. Our oldest son works full time with me. Even with his help, I am falling ...Read more

Ask Amy: Uber dispute becomes uber permanent

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: “Glenda” and I have been friends for 43 years. Glenda and her sister “Brenda” are twins – and I’m friends with both of them!

Glenda’s 60th birthday was coming up. After months of deliberation and pandemic restrictions we decided on a small group going to a local casino for brunch and fun.

Glenda, Brenda and I were in on...Read more

Advice To Graduate Leads To Major Falling-Out

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been in my second marriage for almost 20 years. My wife came with two grown children, who each have two kids. I have tried to be the best family man I could, and a father and grandfather who treated them like they were my own.

My wife's daughter Diana recently disrupted everything after I gave her daughter (my granddaughter) ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Sad Wife

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My husband and his brother, "Sam," are both in their 50s. My mother-in-law thinks Sam is "the golden child." He and his wife receive the best gifts, and we get whatever trash she can put her hands on. She gives my sister-in-law all the best jewelry, and I get cheap junk. She recently told me that for my birthday, she was sending a ...Read more

Friends Won't Stay Out Of Reader's Relationship

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: My friends genuinely feel that because they do not like my boyfriend, I should consider leaving him. My boyfriend is great to me, but my friends question where he is going in his career. I sometimes question his career path as well, but we've been dating for only a few months, and I've seen major strides from him. How do I tell ...Read more

Ignore 'no Gifts' Request, But Don't Bring It To The Party

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: A former teacher of mine, a beloved figure in the community, is being given a surprise retirement party by his students, colleagues and friends. The hush-hush invitations read sternly, PLEASE, NO GIFTS! A money tree will be provided!

The rationale is that given his modest salary, he will need the money to help him retire, ...Read more

Boyfriend Is Hiding Things

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years. He's a hard worker, which appealed to me, as I've always been the breadwinner in previous relationships. But lately, I feel like he's not putting any effort into the relationship.

For one, we always hang out at my house. I've only been to his house three times in the two years we'...Read more

Ask Amy: Woman should leave abusive relationship

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am in a relationship with a man my age. We share many interests and values. The problem, I believe, is his lack of respect for me.

I want to be communicated with in a way that shows love and kindness.

He says he respects me, but his behavior does not demonstrate it. He yells, is critical, and is very impatient with me.

I’m ...Read more

Wife Of Three Decades Has Never Initiated Intimacy

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: After 28 years of marriage, is it strange that I would like my wife to initiate sex? I would like to know that she is interested, not just me. When I brought it up three weeks ago, her response again was, We can whenever you want to, which wasn't true because I have been turned down before. Any suggestions? She stays home all day and ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Want My Daughter To Be a Strong Woman

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I am having an argument with my husband and need an impartial opinion.

My daughter, 19, has been dating "Thad," 21, for four years. Thad recently admitted that he cheated on her, and now she is breaking up with him. She discussed it with me and then sent him a text message that it was over. He texted her multiple times, but she didn...Read more

Single File: A Son's Epilogue

Life Advice / Single File /

DEAR SUSAN: One of your columns caused me to read your bio, and I learned that your son Scott lost his father when he was very young. My mother's greatest accomplishment, she says, is bringing up her three children to have college degrees without needing a husband. (My manuscript about that experience, "The Widow's Son," won an award at a ...Read more


Erika Ettin: Simple ways to expand your online dating search -- without compromising your must-haves

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

Starting on a new dating app or website can feel like New Year’s Day (usually without the hangover), and there are a ton of possibilities ahead. You can’t help but be a little giddy with hope and excitement. You set up your profile, pick your best photos and start narrowing down your search criteria to find your ideal partner.

But like a ...Read more


Barton Goldsmith: Most of us are touch starved

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

The pandemic brought the term “touch starved” to the forefront of our lives. It was very sad to see news clips of families standing outside hospital windows just to get a glimpse of their loved ones. Many people have died holding the hand of a medical caregiver instead of the person they have spent their entire adult life next to. It was and...Read more

Friend Upset That Man Watches Earwax Removal Videos

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: I was visiting with a good friend recently and noticed as he was looking at his phone that he had been watching ear wax removal videos. I asked him about it because it looked like he had a lot of these videos open. It seemed weird and kind of gross to me, and I really couldn't figure out why this seemingly normal guy would be ...Read more

Uninvited Guest Steals All The Frosting

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I had a group of co-workers over for dinner and one of the women brought a delicious chocolate cake for dessert. As we were finishing dessert, a neighbor dropped over.

She sat down at the dinner table and I poured her a glass of wine. She reached over and took a piece of candy that was sitting on top of the cake -- and I was ...Read more

Unplug With a 'Pioneer Night'

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: You recently printed a letter from two physicians with an alcoholic daughter. Al-Anon is the organization that supports friends and families of alcoholics, and Alcoholics Anonymous is support for the individual with a drinking problem. You recommended Alcoholics Anonymous.

We were in this couple's shoes recently. Our daughter ...Read more