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Violated by Husband's Friend

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My family (my husband, our young kids and I) vacations with two other families once or twice a year. My husband went to school with the other two husbands, and they are best friends. I have developed great friendships with their wives, and our kids are all similar ages and get along.

We have a great time, but one of the husbands ...Read more

Reader wonders how to help a depressed friend

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I have a very close friend who is extremely depressed. She is negative about every aspect of her life: marriage, career and self-image. She posts negative memes on Facebook about how ugly she is, how depressed she is and how bad life is.

She is on medication and is seeing a licensed therapist. She is also extremely overweight. None of...Read more

Friendship With Woman Makes Waves In Men's Relationship

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm a 35-year-old gay man who has been in a serious relationship for five years. During the last year, my significant other, Grady, has grown very close with a female co-worker of mine he met at my office party. (I'll call her Tina.) They have become inseparable, and when they aren't hanging out, he's constantly texting and calling ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 8/14/2018

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I've found a new way to get free food: dumpster diving. Several times a week, a group of us go through the supermarket dumpster at night to see what they've thrown away. Sometimes there's nothing, but other times, there's great stuff.

One night, I found nine ears of corn. Another time, it was 23 packs of chicken. I've found ...Read more

Husband's reluctance to support a friend in need warrants a spousal kick in the pants

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Hi Carolyn:

What responsibility does a wife have to push her husband to be a decent friend? For years, my husband was close with a few guys from grad school. As they got married and started families, the frequency of their get-togethers died down and the friendships have understandably cooled, but ...Read more

Wanting to Reconcile

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My younger brother lives many states away. Sadly, about five years ago, he decided that I had caused him many sorrows and pains, so he chose to stop contact. He said little about what I had done or said to cause that decision.

I miss him and his family a lot and have tried to reconcile. He simply does not respond. I have ...Read more

Parents worry about contact with unvaccinated child

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I'm about to have my first child. My partner and I are very excited!

My brother and his partner have a young child. They have chosen not to vaccinate.

While I am not looking to get into a vaccine debate with them, I have some concerns about letting their young child come into close proximity with my newborn.

We plan to vaccinate our...Read more

Girlfriend Questions Texting From Boyfriend's Worried Mom

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been dating James for almost a year. Things have been rough for him recently. His depression has led to school attendance issues, but we got through it.

The problem is James' mother. She's well meaning, and she has always been incredibly sweet to me, but she has started texting and questioning me about how I am doing, ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 8/13/2018

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: It is back-to-school time for millions of young people. I am an instructor at a community college and would like to offer some suggestions to make the registration process smoother for students.

1. See the school counselor at least two weeks before registration. If you wait until registration week, the counselors will be extremely...Read more

Taking in sister-in-law's abandoned kids is not how she envisioned her life

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

My sister-in-law, "Mary," has always been a mess. She has two kids with two different men who never see them, don't pay child support, and she doesn't work. Mary and her children lived with my mother-in-law, "Kate," until Kate moved into a 55-plus community and told Mary she was on her...Read more

Are Handshakes Really Bad?

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: A man who extends his hand demanding a handshake is presumptuous and arrogant. Handshaking is unsanitary and disgusting, in my opinion. Any gentleman with any intelligence should know how abhorrent it is to most ladies. Especially repulsive are workmen who have dirty hands or workers in a position of servitude. They seem to have ...Read more

Mr. Wonderful sends live-in love to the guest room

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am a retired woman in my 70s. I met a wonderful guy online. He said his wife of 20 years had recently left him -- she moved out and he kept the house.

He was sad and angry about the break-up.

After corresponding for several weeks and my visiting him, I made the decision to move in with him, even though I live 1,300 miles away. This...Read more

Wife's Deep, Dark Secret Is Credit Card Debt She's Hiding

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am married to a great man, but he's very tight with his money. We found out early in our relationship that we couldn't have a joint account because it caused so much fighting.

We share our bills, but I am broke all the time. I have credit card debt he doesn't know about. (He hates being in debt.) I have had a problem with credit ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 8/12/2018

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My 20-year-old son joined the Army when he was 18. At his first duty station, he caught his barracks roommate, whom he thought was his best friend, stealing from him. My son felt betrayed and began isolating himself from his peers.

He recently had a permanent change of duty station, and I am concerned that even with this fresh ...Read more

The Old Ways Don't Need to Change

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I know I am stuck in the "old ways," but I am trying to adapt to changing times. It is becoming very common for couples to live together before marriage.

While I have come to accept traditional and extravagant weddings as an occasion to finally declare their commitment before church and family, what I still struggle with are the ...Read more

Baby shower leads to pilfered leftovers

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I recently helped my sister give a baby shower for her daughter-in-law, "Linda." Linda's mother and sister were on the invitation as co-hosts.

The shower was at my sister's house, and she provided the food (about 10 platters), decorations, flowers, etc. Linda's mother brought one food item for about 12 people, but she knew we were ...Read more

Friend Lends Her Wedding Dress But Isn't Invited To Wedding

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My co-worker and supposed friend asked if she could borrow my wedding dress because she thought it was so beautiful. I was thrilled to lend it to her and paid for the alterations ($200 plus) as her wedding present. I accompanied her to her fittings and helped her plan her wedding for approximately 100 friends and family.

The kicker: ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 8/11/2018

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I've always known that my husband's widowed mother runs his life. She picks out his clothes and even decided which house we should buy. Of course, it's about a half-mile from hers.

I thought after we married I'd have a more prominent place in his life. Wrong! Every decision is still made by his mother. He acts as if I'm not smart ...Read more

Is it controlling to ask your partner to change?

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Hey Carolyn:

Where do you draw the line between controlling behavior and wanting a relationship you are comfortable with? Example -- I don't want to be with someone who hangs out in bars on the regular. Am I being controlling by telling my significant other, "I don't like it when you go out drinking ...Read more

No More Hemming and Hawing

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I have a friend, "Rosie," who kicked me out to the curb (metaphorically speaking) when her sister moved into her mobile home park.

Prior to her sister's moving into the neighborhood, Rosie and I saw a lot of each other. I was always sewing for Rosie, her husband and her mother-in-law at little or no cost. I sent food to her after ...Read more