Life Advice





Granddaughters' Thong Bikinis Make Waves At Family Gathering

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have two granddaughters and four grandsons. My granddaughters, ages 19 and 20, wear thong bikinis at family swim events in front of their dad, grandpa, uncles and cousins. I believe this is incredibly inappropriate.

I'm embarrassed and I don't want to attend swim parties with the family anymore. I've told my son my feelings, and he...Read more

Alexander Demyanenko/Dreamstime/TNS

Ask Anna: Ready to come out? Tips for a smooth and empowering experience

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

Dear Anna,

I’m a 20-year-old college student. I'm majoring in computer science and have a small but pretty great group of friends, and a campus job that keeps me busy. I’m also part of the university’s LGBTQ+ club, but hardly anyone in my life outside the club knows that I’m gay.

Here’s the thing: I’m ready to come out. I’ve ...Read more

Roommate Refuses To Help With Shared Chores

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: My roommate and I have been living together for about six months now, and while things were fine at first, we've recently started fighting over the chores in our apartment. The main issue is that I always end up being the one who has to clean the shared areas because she refuses to do her part and clean up her messes.

When we ...Read more

'officer, I'd Like To Report A Cart-Napping'

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: This happened to my husband at the grocery store: It was raining, and a row of dripping-wet shopping carts stood in an area near the door. Customers could take a cart, then use the paper towels that were helpfully left there to dry them off before entering the store.

My husband dried his cart, but before he had a chance to ...Read more

Tips for Staying Sober

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I wanted to offer a few thoughts for your readers regarding alcohol awareness. The truth is that any method that helps someone reduce their alcohol consumption has to be commended. People with alcohol dependency come from all walks of life and demographics.

These phrases are the basis of Allen Carr's "Easy Way to Quit" and Holly ...Read more

Ask Amy: Parents worry their toddler is anti-social

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My husband and I have a son who is 18-months-old. He seems on track for all of the developmental milestones.

He goes to daycare three days a week.

The children are separated according to age. The place came highly recommended by other parents in our neighborhood, and we’ve been happy with the quality of care.

Last week, one of the...Read more

Flirty Manager Makes Work Less And Less Comfortable

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am single, never married. A male manager at my job is divorced. After a few weeks at the job, I realized we were both single. I have been here for about a year. This manager is flirty and appears to be into me. He acts a lot like my brother-in-law, who I don't get along with, so I have tried to avoid the situation. I don't want to ...Read more

Husband Wants To Have Another Baby

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: My husband has recently expressed a strong desire to have another child, but I do not want to at all. We already have two wonderful children, a 5-year-old and a 6-year-old, and I feel that they are more than enough for me to handle right now.

One of the major issues contributing to my reluctance to have another kid is that my ...Read more

Not Even Doctors Understand 'rsvp'

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am a retired physician from an academic medical center, and I continue to teach interested residents. I led a weekly seminar for senior residents last year. They worked very hard, and at the end of the year, my wife and I invited them to a reception at our home. The invitations included an RSVP.

Very few responded, but they...Read more

When Uncharacteristic Behavior Signals an Underlying Health Issue

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: Not quite 20 years ago, I worked for a local authority mental health agency with about 650 employees. I worked in the human resources department and knew all the employees by name because I literally had access to everything about them. I made out their paychecks, did all their insurance, and added and subtracted items as their ...Read more

Ask Amy: Amy’s favorite prank happens in ‘The Room’

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Readers: In advance to my departure from this column, I’m spending the next couple of weeks rerunning some favorites.

I don’t really have any way of “fool-proofing” the queries sent in to me, and so I’ve treated most of them as if they are serious – or at least genuine.

But sometimes, I’m the fool, and here is proof:

In ...Read more

Child's Crafts And Gifts Pile Up Around The House

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have a 4-year-old daughter. She spends time at her grandma's house and does arts and crafts projects there. When my MIL drops her off, she brings the project to our house.

We enjoy seeing it for a few days, and my daughter plays with it for a few days. Then it gets added to the rest of her toys. I want to give them back to my MIL, ...Read more

Thoughts for Father's Day

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Readers: Wishing you all a Happy Father's Day! Here are some uplifting quotes that I hope you enjoy!

"When you teach your son, you teach your son's son." -- The Talmud

"The older I get, the smarter my father seems to get." -- Tim Russert

"The strongest, toughest men all have compassion. They're not heartless and cold. You have to be man ...Read more

Ask Amy: Widow weighs burden of solitude with desire to date

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My wonderful husband died unexpectedly seven years ago.

I'm now 49, and still have no desire to meet anyone or go on dates.

My husband was my everything and, while I don't want to spend the rest of my life alone, the prospect of dealing with dating and all the hassle that goes along with it makes me wonder if solitude is really that ...Read more

Young Relative Never Stops Soliciting Gifts And Cash

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My stepdaughter has an 11-year-old daughter I'll call "Kristina." Kristina is very well-behaved, but she's being taught at home that love is measured in dollars. She is constantly hinting about gifts and candy she wants. It has gotten so bad that when I keep her, I postpone errands because she invariably finds something in every store...Read more

After Weight Loss, Mom Struggles To Feel Confident

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: I have lost around 200 pounds over the past two years. It hasn't been an easy journey at all because I have done it all naturally. As a mom of three, I gained a significant amount of weight during my pregnancies, and it stuck with me for years.

Because I am done having children, I decided to make a change so I could be healthy ...Read more

Friend's Comments Are All In 'sarcasm Type'

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I friended an old classmate on social media. We weren't close in school, but time passes, nostalgia sets in, and sometimes you like to reconnect. This girl was pleasant as a child, though not real bright, and a bit shy.

Lately she's been commenting on every one of my posts using alTerNaTinG cAps aNd lOweRcAsE letters. I'm a ...Read more

Sharing as an Access to Happiness and Connection

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: Lately, I find myself thinking a lot about old roommates, friends and co-workers. I'm talking about people from over 30 years ago, whom I haven't spoken to in decades. I think I would like to tell them how they have impacted my life in positive ways. Should I reach out to them or would that just be self-serving and weird? I mean, if ...Read more

Ask Amy: Family’s pursuits are trivial in vintage Q&A

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Readers: Before I leave at the end of the month, I’m going through my files and choosing some of my favorite “vintage” columns from over the years. The following Q&A are both from 2020.

Dear Amy: This is a “trivial” subject that has nonetheless bothered me for years.

My parents have the original Trivial Pursuit game, circa 1983....Read more

Business Relationship Clouds Couple's Response To Affair

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have a friend, "Sophie," who is cheating on her husband of 25 years. Of course, this is not our business. But now, unbeknownst to her husband, she has incorporated her lover into their everyday life. Her lover is from India and is also married. Sophie is now obsessed with all things Indian -- wearing saris, dancing in...Read more