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Tenancy causes relationship tension

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My boyfriend "Wally" and I bought our first home together 10 months ago. Three months ago, his friend "Bart" moved into our guest room.

Three weeks later he had furniture delivered. More is in the basement. Bart is self-employed (he buys and trades stocks) but has been traveling overseas off and on. When I broach the subject of ...Read more

Dating Starts To Cause Cracks In Circle Of Three Best Friends

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm 18 and was best friends with Sam for two years until we started dating 10 months ago. It has been so much fun. He is the first person I have truly loved.

When we first started dating we weren't exclusive, and he hooked up with my best friend. We all go to school together and see each other every day. Since then, I'm uncomfortable...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 1/20/2018

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My problem is my relationship with my daughter, "Carolyn." It started 10 years ago when she went to visit her grandparents in another state. My parents and I haven't had a close relationship since I was in my 20s. I am now 57.

I raised Carolyn as a single parent without a dime of child support from her father. I worked 12-hour ...Read more

She's sneaking around with her ex-husband and hiding it from her son

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

I'm a divorced woman in my early 50s with a 23-year-old son, "Dave," who I am very close to. My ex-husband, "Jim," and I split up about 12 years ago and managed over time to become friends again and co-parent effectively.

I have come to see that Jim just isn't cut out for commitment; I...Read more

A Matter of Biology

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My grandson "Logan" was fathered by someone other than his elder and younger brothers' father, "Ron." (Our daughter was separated at the time from Ron, and they ended up getting back together before Logan was born.) When Logan was born, they put Ron as his father on the birth certificate. Ron and both sets of grandparents know that...Read more

College student worries about abuse allegation

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am a 21-year-old college student. I've been friends with a fellow student named "Rob" for the past three years. I have never known Rob to be anything but a kind and trustworthy person. For the past two years, Rob has been dating another student at our college, and their relationship seems very healthy.

Last night, while scrolling ...Read more

Man Comes Up Short Learning How To Date In High School

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: At what point does a man finally give up hope of finding a mate and accept that he may end up alone?

I'm 29. I never had a chance to date in high school. My family farms, and when I was 14, my grandfather could no longer help my dad. Dad couldn't take care of things alone, so I would go out and help him the minute I got home from ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 1/19/2018

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I am 19 years old and afraid that my brother is gay.

"James" recently made a new friend at work who is gay. He has been going to the library with this new friend and spending the entire day there doing homework. James doesn't own a phone, so it is hard for my mother to get ahold of him. Sometimes he leaves for work at 6 p.m. and ...Read more

Sister-in-law's FaceTiming ruins New Year's Eve

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

When does FaceTime become an intrusion?

My sister-in-law recently relocated to our area. We invited her to join us for our traditionally quiet New Year's Eve celebration. About two hours before midnight, she pulled out her iPad and FaceTimed her daughter, son-in-law and granddaughter, and proceeded to talk for the next two ...Read more

Grandma Didn't Write That

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: Over the holidays, my wife's niece posted a picture of a recipe card on Facebook that was from her grandmother, my wife's mother. She said it was her favorite Christmas recipe from her grandmother and in her grandmother's handwriting. She wants to have it printed on a tea towel (in Grandma's handwriting), and several other ...Read more

Husband shoulders family's financial worries

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My wife and I are in our mid-60s, married for 14 years. We have two teenage children, and I have three adult children by previous partners. Our marriage is totally committed, wonderful and fun.

I worry about money all the time. We both have secure jobs that pay well; we're comfortably middle class in a university town. We face car ...Read more

Foot-Dragging Boyfriend Puts Engagement On Endless Hold

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm 28 and have been dating my boyfriend, Spencer, for 2 1/2 years. We have talked a lot about getting married. We know where we want it to be, who will be in our wedding party and what the theme will be.

A year ago we discussed getting engaged. Spencer said he'd propose sometime within the next year and last spring it seemed like he...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 1/18/2018

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My parents have been divorced for 30 years. Both made mistakes when they were married, but the end was due to my mom's drinking. Dad provided for me and now takes an active role in his grandchildren's lives, always making an effort to show up for their events.

Mom is a different story. She is an alcoholic. When I was younger, she ...Read more

When to tell niece about her husband's inappropriate behavior

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

I just found out that my niece's husband has made inappropriate comments/propositions to both of my daughters, one still a minor (17). I have to tell my niece, right? I can't see a way out of telling her, but it breaks my heart. I don't want to hurt her.

-- Broken Heart

You're not...Read more

Toxic Family Members

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am a 50-year-old married woman with two children. I am far from perfect, but I do feel I am a decent person. My issue is my sister and my mom. I have spent most of my adult life trying to please both of them. I walk on eggshells every time we have a family function, because I never know what I've done that they will be upset ...Read more

Emotional affair partner wants 'normalization meetings'

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: Over the last few years, my marriage has felt stagnant and unfulfilling.

About a year ago, I grew close to a friend and colleague (he is single), slowly at first, but then becoming more and more intimate. There is mutual sexual attraction and we share many of the same intellectual and cultural interests.

We both knew I was in no ...Read more

Anger Explodes In Words, Deeds Woman Later Regrets

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am 28 and I'm disgusted with myself about how I talk to my mother when I'm stressed out. I know it's not her. It's me.

My other issue is road rage. When I'm behind the wheel and the cars ahead of me are going too slow or the drivers make stupid moves, I'm annoyed to the point that I sometimes take risky chances to get away from ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 1/17/2018

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I am a senior in high school. My boyfriend broke up with me a month after he went off to college. We had been together for nine months, and I was devastated. He was my first real boyfriend. He treated me well and cried when we broke up. He ended our relationship because it was his first time being on his own, and he didn't want ...Read more

Sister-in-law publicly shames breast cancer survivor for not wearing prostheses

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Ms. Hax:

I'm a two-time, currently-Stage IV breast cancer survivor. When I was told I needed a double mastectomy, I did the research and decided to "go flat"; I heard too many horror stories about implants, and, on the basis of my own personal history, decided they weren't for me.

For dressy occasions, I wear prostheses, but they're ...Read more

Rethinking Sleepovers

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I have a situation at my home that I really don't know how to deal with.

We have a blended family, with an 18-year-old daughter and two boys.

My stepdaughter is a senior in high school and just let her mother know she likes girls, even though she has a boyfriend.

We would never let any boys spend the night at our house, but she ...Read more

 

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