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Science Advice Goddess: The Camera Sutra

I really like the girl I'm dating, except for one thing. On every date, she asks me to take photos of her for Instagram. Afterward, she consults me repeatedly on which will "get the most likes." I'm starting to get really annoyed, and I find it cuts into my enjoyment of our time together. She even did this on my birthday!

--Irritated

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Boss Won't Stop Hitting On Employee

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: My boss constantly hits on me, and it makes me extremely uncomfortable. I don't want to risk losing my job by complaining, but he's becoming too much. He's starting to do it in front of others, and it makes me not want to come in to work most days. I live alone, and I have to pay my bills, so I don't really know how to handle it....Read more

Responding To 'Thank You For Your Service'

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: My husband is a Vietnam veteran who is retired from the Army. When we go out and he wears his Vietnam Veteran hat, people often come up to him and say, Thank you for your service.

What is the proper response to this? To respond thank you doesn't seem quite right. I suggested I appreciate it, but he said that doesn't sound ...Read more

Therapy With a Narcissist

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: While reading the letter from the "Parent Who Does Not Want to Get Divorced," the way she was describing her husband sounded very much like he might have narcissistic tendencies.

My husband is a narcissist, and the worst thing you can do is go to marriage counseling. I know that sounds crazy, but very few counselors know how to ...Read more

Ask Amy: Roommate feels litter-boxed in

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I recently moved into a new house with new roommates in a new city. I moved in after only a short Zoom tour of the place.

Oops, I won't make that mistake again.

When I was talking with the roommates, one of the things they mentioned was how they liked not having a chore chart, preferring to live a more go-with-the-flow method of ...Read more

Job Search Stress Impacts Family's Interactions

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am currently without a job. I hesitated to inform my mother because I was sure her reaction would only add to my stress. I was right. She constantly corners me about my efforts to find a job. I talk to her nearly every day to keep up with how she and my stepfather are doing. Because she never fails to dig into me about my job search...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Stuck in the Middle in Kansas

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: A while back, I signed up for Facebook in order to stay in touch with friends and renew old acquaintances.

Several weeks ago, my husband's 35-year-old daughter, "Sheila," sent me a friend request. She has not been in touch with us since she turned 18, when my husband no longer had to pay child support. Obviously, they were never ...Read more

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Cash is king for America's pandemic newlyweds

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

After the first year of the pandemic put many nuptials on ice, Americans started getting married with a vengeance when summer arrived. Even now, couples are still rushing to tie the knot — albeit with additional precautions given the latest infection wave.

Were it any other time, this matrimonial flood would have family and friends ...Read more

Mom Burnt Out Acting As Caregiver

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: My grandmother has been sick for about a year. She's slowly losing control of her body and mind. She's not capable of living alone as she can't walk much and shows early signs of dementia. She has a live-in caretaker. My mom often goes over there to spend time with her and provide social connection. However, every time my mom ...Read more

Ready To Meet The Queen -- Just In Case

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I'm never likely to meet Elizabeth II, but if I do, how would I be expected to act? I assume there would be someone there to give me protocol tips, but I am curious.

As a citizen of the United States, I assume I wouldn't curtsy (and if I were male, wouldn't bow), but would I slightly incline my head?

GENTLE READER: You would...Read more

Proper Care for the Elderly

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Readers: Being a good neighbor can be more complicated than it sounds, at least when it comes to finding financial help for the elderly who are seeking home care. That's what experts in the field have discovered, and I am very grateful that so many of them spelled out the problems and offered possible solutions for helping out. Here are ...Read more

Ask Amy: Dad’s parenting style includes surveillance

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My husband and I have one daughter, 21, who is a college student.

I cannot get him to understand that kids need to make mistakes in order to learn.

He believes it's our job to keep them from making mistakes.

He drills her on details about school and even reads her email to make sure she's not missing something.

She doesn't want his...Read more

Long Friendship Takes Stark Turn Over Finances

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: A friend of 40 years is always saying what she can't afford, yet she owns property, has a 401(k), always finds additional work in her field and buys the cheapest groceries. She won't spend a dime, even when it's necessary.

In a recent text she was going on again about money. When I (jokingly) quipped, You're probably a millionaire by...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: A Concerned Grandmother

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My son has been married to "Josie" for 11 years. I admit I never cared for her. She has a volatile temper and creates destructive scenes. Once they married, I did my best to be friendly, hoping she would mellow with time. She has not.

In the past three years, Josie's violent behavior has escalated. She used to put holes in the walls...Read more

Millennial Life: From All-Knowing To Questioning It All

My kids enjoy having a hand in decorating our home. What that means is that scraps of cardboard become signs throughout the house. There is a scrap of paper denoting the napping to be done in the bedroom. There is a scrap of paper asking if we enjoy coffee -- on the cabinet where I keep my coffee. There is a sign on their playroom that I refuse ...Read more

Self-Reflection Is Essential

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I feel the need to provide a different view to the "Grieving Grandmothers" who wrote in saying that their daughters-in-law keep their grandkids and sons away from them.

First, your son is a grown adult who can make choices for himself, so maybe start taking the blame off the daughter-in-law. Second, maybe reflect on yourself to ...Read more

Ask Amy: Cowboy needs to wrangle human predators

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I’m an old cowboy. My wife is from the country, but not from a ranching background.

She and her children are well educated but they lack any kind of practical ranching common sense (their advanced degrees are more of a hindrance on the ranch).

They seem to think that their business, law and medical degrees make them superior. Yet ...Read more

Cancer Patient's Wig Draws Unwanted Attention

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I was recently diagnosed with breast cancer and I'm undergoing chemotherapy. My children are still in school. I have lost all my hair and wear a wig when out in the community. It closely approximates my pre-cancer hairstyle, except it's a bit shorter with highlights.

Acquaintances have seen me at events, and complimented me on my ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Wise Too Late

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I have been a single mother for 20 years. Four months ago, I was talked into letting one of my daughter's friends stay with us while her parents searched for a new home in another state. They agreed to pay me a monthly stipend for their daughter's expenses. This has not happened. I received one check, and that was it. This girl's ...Read more

Harriette Reflects On The 20Th Anniversary Of 9/11

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR READERS: It's hard to believe that it has been 20 years since the world changed forever -- since those planes crashed into the World Trade Center in New York City, at the Pentagon and in Pennsylvania. All of us who were alive at the time have stories of exactly where we were and what we were doing when this hateful act of terror was ...Read more