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Husband is spinning fiction at writers' workshop

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am a 50-year -old woman. My husband and I have two sons.

I recently found out that my husband has been exchanging texts with another married woman who he met in a writing workshop.

My husband told me that the woman confided in him about her marriage problems and their terrible sex life. She also told my husband that she was having ...Read more

'Perfect' Man Vanishes When Alcohol Loosens His Tongue

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been dating the most amazing man for the past 11 months. As we approach the one-year anniversary of the day we met, this perfect man is showing some not-so-perfect traits. I was unlucky in love for many years until he swept me off my feet. We have both become extremely close with each other's respective friends and family.

He'...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 10/11/2018

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I am a 36-year-old man. I was in an accident 25 years ago and suffered a mild traumatic brain injury. It was tough growing up. When I was 23, I moved out on my own. This is when the real trouble began. First, I started drinking, and then I abused my medication. In 2002, I wrecked my car while driving intoxicated. The judge told me ...Read more

Hesitant to tell brother his girlfriend is a 'boredom missionary'

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

My brother wants to know what I think about his girlfriend. I don't like her. It isn't an actionable dislike -- she isn't controlling, criminal or abusive -- but I find her boring and, worse, a boredom missionary. No hobbies, doesn't watch any TV shows, thinks fandom for anything is ...Read more

Regretting Not Having Kids

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Readers: All week, we've been hearing responses to my unscientific poll, inspired by a similar poll by Ann Landers in the 1970s: "If you had to do it all over again, would you have kids?" First I printed responses from the most common group (77 percent): parents who would gladly have children again. Next we heard from people who didn't ...Read more

Granddaughters' larceny creates family chaos

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I have two granddaughters; 11 and 14. We have a vacation home, and they come to stay for a week or two every summer.

While they were visiting this year, I noticed both girls trying on old clothes and jewelry from a closet. One granddaughter asked me if she could keep a gemstone pendant that she had found. It had belonged to my mother,...Read more

Man Learns He May Have A Son He Never Knew About

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been married for 27 years and have three wonderful kids. The youngest is 16.

I recently found out I may have another son from a relationship prior to my marriage. The woman never notified me or asked for child support. I found out through someone else a couple of months ago and, thanks to social media, was able to find him and...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 10/10/2018

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: Male rape is a subject that is seldom mentioned. A close and dear male friend (in his late 40s) was severely raped twice. He was kidnapped from his residence, drugged, sodomized and left naked on the first occasion, and then his residence was broken into, and he was tied up and raped a second time. The general public may think this...Read more

Girlfriend doesn't think he'd be enough of a 'bulldog' in the delivery room

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

So, I'm a guy with a serious girlfriend. No children, but it's been talked about -- after marriage, which has also been talked about. Mid-30s.

And my girlfriend told me her preference is to have her mom in the delivery room with me when the time comes.

Let's just say, I'm mid-processing how I feel about this. On one hand, my ...Read more

Regretting Having Children

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Readers: Last month, I posed a question to everyone: "If you had to do it all over again, would you have kids?" Thousands of you responded.

Two days ago, we heard from parents who would gladly have children if given a redo. (They constituted 77 percent of responses overall.) Yesterday's column was dedicated to people who don't regret not...Read more

Man's mother bullies him over his weight

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: OK. Long story short: I'm 47, gay and single. I've spent the last eight years living away from my family of origin.

I recently moved back to my home state, although I live about two hours away from my family. My problem is my widowed mother, who's 77. We haven't had the best relationship lately because she refuses to recognize ...Read more

Opposites Share Long Marriage Despite Leading Separate Lives

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been married for 30 years. Although my husband and I are both positive people, we have not had a happy marriage.

He leads the life of a bachelor, including sex with other women and unilateral decision-making. He's outgoing, generous and well-liked. I'm a homebody who often feels lonely and rejected.

Outsiders would be ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 10/9/2018

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: Recently, I was introduced to an older gentleman. He has never been married, but he did have a son through artificial insemination. His son passed away, and he talks all the time about how special he was.

He has a very strong and commanding personality to the point of sometimes being a bit of a bully. It seems like he is always ...Read more

Connecting with a taciturn teen

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Hi, Carolyn:

Our 16-year-old son has always been taciturn -- now he barely speaks to me. Our interactions have degenerated into me nagging him about his grades, chores and activities. He doesn't appear to be depressed -- I've asked, probably not the best approach -- and he just laughs. He is the only...Read more

Childless and Happy

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Readers: In a column last month, I posed a question: "If you had to do it all over again, would you have kids?"

In yesterday's column, we heard from parents who said yes -- the largest group, at 77 percent of the responses. Today I'd like to share some responses from people belonging to the second-most common group (12 percent of ...Read more

Woman regrets inaction over campus abuse allegation

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: A few months into freshman year of college (not too long ago), an acquaintance of mine accused a popular athlete on campus of date rape and notified the college and police.

I went to a fairly small school, so rumors spread quickly and before long, most students heard some variation of the story.

I can't remember the details of what ...Read more

Blowhard Boyfriend Wears Out His Hosts During Annual Trips

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My best friend of 40 years and her boyfriend live several states away from my husband and me. Every winter she and her friend expect to come to our home for a week. We simply can no longer do this.

Her friend is a nice guy, but after a few days we can hardly stand it. He talks constantly and knows everything about everything. How can...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 10/8/2018

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: When our daughter was a child, she had emotional issues and extensive anger management problems. With tremendous concern and love, we got her professional support and therapy, and ultimately, our daughter learned the skills to control herself. What we did not do was tell extended family members of these private problems. We had ...Read more

Husband won't commit to a business venture, allows wife to carry financial burden

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

"Ken" and I have been married five years, together nine. Ken is an amazing person; he's upbeat, handsome, charming, and thoughtful, but can't seem to stick to a job. He has a master's in a high-paying technical field that cost his parents a fortune, but he hated it so much he lasted ...Read more

Parents Who Would Do It All Over Again

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Readers: Several weeks ago, someone requested that I pose a question to my readers that Ann Landers asked in 1975: "If you had to do it all over again, would you have kids?" I received an overwhelming response to this unscientific poll.

The largest group of respondents (77 percent) consisted of parents who would gladly have children if ...Read more