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Elderly mother's friend pressures her to donate money

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My husband and I manage my mother's finances. She's 88 years old. After my father died a decade ago, she began to donate to dozens of charities, beyond what she could afford. Anyone that solicited her typically got a donation. In some cases, there were recurring donations coming from her checking account that she didn't even remember ...Read more

Family Judges Pretty Woman's Boyfriend On His Looks Alone

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am a 33-year-old woman with two young children (11 and 9). Andrew and I have been dating for almost a year, still learning about each other and building a foundation for our relationship.

My family recently told some other family members that I am too pretty to be dating Andrew and I can do much better. My younger sister even said ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 4/21/2018

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: Our 31-year-old son is bipolar. We did not realize how severe it was until a few years ago. He is a bright, gentle and articulate college graduate who can also be mean, self-centered and highly opinionated. When he takes his medication, he is cooperative and easy to live with. The problem is he won't take his medicine consistently....Read more

Not every vacation needs to include extended family

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

Should there be expectations about taking vacations/trips with other family members? We have two issues:

(1) We have three kids, including teenagers, and my brother and wife have two kids. The younger is 6. My wife and I find it hard to plan something other than a cruise, beach or all-...Read more

Used to the Lifestyle

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I'm not sure whether there is any advice you can give me, but here goes. I am a 23-year-old gay man. I have been living with my 56-year-old boyfriend, "Bob," for the past four years. I love Bob but am no longer in love with him. I would like to move out but don't make very much money and can't afford it. I can't move back with ...Read more

Marriage at midlife is one long slog

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I'm a 42-year-old man who has been married to my wife for 14 years.

We started out fairly well, but over the years, more and more arguments emerged.

Now we have three young kids, and have devolved into the Odd Couple. She is a downright slob (really bad, even by her own admission) and I'm more of a normal clean-type.

I can't keep ...Read more

Age Is A Barrier To Daughter Joining Mom's Social Club

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am part of a small social ladies group. The eight of us range in age from mid-50s to late-60s. We get together once a month for lunch, a movie, dinner, shopping, etc. I look forward to it, and we always have a good time.

Recently, we lost a few members due to relocating, and the subject came up about trying to get a few more women ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 4/20/2018

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I'm a 70-year-old woman, still attractive and athletic. I have been dating "Sam," age 74, for nearly three years. When we met online, I clearly stated that I wanted to get married in the near future and that I had three cats and wanted a man who loves animals.

Sam is a nice, educated man. He treats me well, and we do a lot of ...Read more

Unpleasant visits with motormouth relatives make estrangement tempting

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Hi, Carolyn:

We have a few relatives, including a sibling, who we don't see or hear from often, as we are busy or live far away. We meet over a meal or for an hour or so, or at family gatherings requiring a drive, and I am so frustrated that they dominate the conversation, often talking about people we don't even know or subjects that don't ...Read more

Old and Discarded

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am a 72-year-old married (for now) man. I was just told by my wife that she wants a divorce because I am no fun. We've been married for almost 50 years. Apparently, she has been planning this for quite some time. She got a face-lift, wants liposuction, etc. She goes out dancing and has been working out.

This activity has been ...Read more

Neighbors need curtains, or others might go blind

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My husband and I live next to a married couple who are about our age (late 30s). Our condos are close (less than 12 feet apart), and some of our windows face each other.

They removed all of the curtains and blinds about a year ago. We absolutely try to avoid looking into their house, and we've angled our blinds to obstruct our view ...Read more

Brother's Fiancee Is Unaware Of His Hidden Opiate Addiction

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My divorced 38-year-old brother is addicted to opiates. My wealthy, enabling mother constantly bails him out financially. My brother is engaged to a very kind woman -- a mother of three he met four months ago. She's not aware of his lies, manipulations, debt and pill addiction.

My brother has already destroyed a previous marriage ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 4/19/2018

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I have grown children from my first marriage. I now have a 7-year-old son from my second marriage, and we are home-schooling him.

My older children, who all attended public school, aren't terribly keen on this. One of them, "Jenny," criticizes home-schooling and then gets into what she considers insufficient socialization. She ...Read more

When your houseguest decides it's appropriate to invite 10 more houseguests to your house

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

My husband and I adopted a dog that does not like strangers; he is in intensive training and part of that is having strangers over to our house to practice meeting people. I usually invite a friend over after explaining the situation to them and promising free dinner and drinks.

I ...Read more

Person to Person: Why it's difficult to report scoundrels

Life Advice / Helping Yourself /

Is your personal life, neighborhood safety, child's school safety, or workplace under siege by an unscrupulous person?

Maybe there's a bully, a thief, or a sexual pervert lurking on the horizon.

So, is it easy to call for help? The answer is no. Likely, you and you alone will have to take charge. Many authority figures will dive under a rock ...Read more

The Gross Habit of Spitting

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: The other day, I was working from a cafe close to my house. As I sat there for a few hours, I saw a number of men spitting on the sidewalk as they passed by. Men in dirty clothes, men in fancy suits, young men, old men -- it seems to be a trait shared by all types of men. Fond as I am of finding and cultivating common connections ...Read more

Big Sister worries about her 'little's' media use

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am a 30-year-old woman with no children.

I am mentoring a 12-year-old girl through the Big Sisters program. "Sandie" is a great, strong-willed kid, but has been through the wringer, with a history of sexual abuse, her dad in prison for most of her life, serious poverty and her mom giving up custody (just to name a few).

This doesn'...Read more

Marriage Loses Intimacy After Accident Disables Husband

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: Six years ago, my husband of 20 years was in a serious accident. He was placed on disability because of it. Because of the accident, he can't perform sexually because his goods don't work.

I am many years younger than he is and still in my prime. I need and want the cuddling and intimacy I'm not getting and haven't gotten for years. ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 4/18/2018

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My husband's parents are in their mid-70s. They are both in good health and financially stable. The problem is, my mother-in-law has a bit of hypochondria along with some anxiety. She has self-diagnosed herself with many "syndromes" (such as fibromyalgia, restless leg, irritable bowel), and she refuses to exercise. Her syndromes, ...Read more

Taking responsibility for an 'oops' puppy

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

About a year and a half ago my husband and I purchased a dog. She was way too busy for us, so my daughter took her. We helped pay to have the dog spayed, as she was ours to start with.

Anyway, since then, whenever my daughter takes a trip for a weekend or longer, she thinks my husband and I should be the ones to take care of ...Read more