Life Advice





College Student Is Tested Trying To Reason With Mom

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am a freshman at a Midwestern university, and I love it. I finished my first semester with straight A's, and my second semester has been strong. I have a great group of friends and have already made plenty of memories. My problem is I have been having a disagreement with my mom. I would like to rush a sorority in the fall, and while...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Unsure of What To Do

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My husband's sister "Kelsey" filed for divorce a few months ago. Her soon-to-be ex-husband kept in touch. He told me that Kelsey had been cheating on him with the guy she is currently seeing. I didn't want to believe him, but in the past few weeks, I've discovered that Kelsey has been lying to her parents, her brother and me about ...Read more

Husband Unwilling To Support Wife After Layoff

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: I am a 35-year-old woman who is married to a man four years older than me. Within a year of landing my first high-paying job, I was unfortunately laid off due to budget cuts. The day that I lost my job, I told my husband that I would need him to support me until I get back on my feet; my severance pay would last us only a few ...Read more

Young-At-Heart Lady Wants Permission To Wed Younger Man

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am a single lady in my late 60s, but appear to be 20 to 25 years younger. I am in good health and enjoy youthful activities like badminton, Frisbee, swimming, canoeing and camping. My outlook and constitution have always been those of a younger lady.

I have met a law enforcement officer who is about 25 years younger than I....Read more

Is Forgiveness Necessary For Healing?

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I'd like to offer an alternative perspective on your advice to "Trying To Heal," who is finding it hard to forgive her abusive mother. I would argue quite strongly, and from experience, that forgiveness isn't necessary to healing. Trying To Heal is under absolutely zero obligation to forgive her mother, and she can still heal ...Read more

Ask Amy: Widower worries about dating again

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am a 73-year-old man. My wife died three years ago. This year would have been our 50th year of marriage.

Although we had many ups and downs throughout our marriage, we loved each other and raised two wonderful children who now have children of their own. (I also have a daughter from a previous marriage.)

I have many grandchildren ...Read more

Sisters' Display Of Greed Is Last Straw For Sibling

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My father died five years ago at 90. For the last 20 years of his life, both my sisters shunned him because they disliked his second wife (who predeceased him). She had never been anything but kind to us all. They refused to speak to him and, when he was dying, announced that they wouldn't attend his funeral.

When an aunt informed ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Grandmother with Principles

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: Five months ago, I met "Abby" at my job. We have a lot in common and have become close. We flirt with each other. Here's the problem. Abby is 41, and I am 20. She looks and acts much younger.

Abby is in a terrible relationship with her narcissistic soon-to-be ex-husband "Dave." They have two young children. Dave is jealous and ...Read more

Student Afraid To Tell Parents About Side Job

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: I've started working in nightlife, and it makes perfect sense for my schedule. I'm a full-time student during the week, and I rack up a lot of tips on the weekend by working the bar at a popular nightclub. I need to have a job to help pay for my expenses. But it's a little tricky. When my parents ask me what I'm doing to make ...Read more

Siblings Left In The Dark About Brother's Death

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: My brother passed away and I found out about it from a nephew (not my brother's son) who posted it on social media. I find it absolutely disrespectful that my sister-in-law would not personally call me or any of my siblings (there are four of us) to notify us of his death.

It's not a matter of conflict with anybody. My sister...Read more

The Stress of a Stay-at-Home Mom

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I recently got married to the father of my youngest child, and so far, nothing is going as planned.

Some background: When we discovered I miraculously got pregnant with my third child (his first), he wanted me to quit my job and be a stay-at-home mom.

I didn't like the idea, and I kept my foot down until she was a few months old. ...Read more

Ask Amy: Young military marriage leads to quick divorce

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My daughter has been married almost a year.

Her husband is in the military, and they had to get hitched so she could live with him during the COVID-19 lockdowns.

They live on an isolated military base. She takes care of the house, started a business, volunteers for the Red Cross, and has a dog keep her busy.

She just graduated from ...Read more

Wife Of A Disabled Veteran Fights A Battle Of Her Own

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My husband is retired from the military and living with a mental illness caused by a traumatic brain injury. As a result, he's disabled. We have four children. Over the years, he has developed an extreme sense of financial entitlement. Although I'm responsible for our finances, I cannot control his spending.

His compulsions include ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Desperate Housewife

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: A few months ago, my husband mentioned that he'd responded to an email from a girl he used to know. I didn't think much about it, but then I saw him composing an email, and every time I walked near him, he shielded it from me. He started spending more time on the computer, and I got curious. Finally, I checked his account and saw ...Read more

Single File: Reader Mail

Life Advice / Single File /

DEAR SUSAN: Hopefully by now you've gotten some email in support of your position on the engagement ring issue. This widely and fervently held and programmed belief is just one more symptom of the stranglehold marketing has on our culture, overriding all. -- Mike

DEAR MIKE: You and I may be the only humanoids on planet Earth who see the ring ...Read more


Barton Goldsmith: Paying it forward helps to build a better brain

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

We are all being made much more aware of how we have to exercise our brains to keep them in shape for the long term. Many people do puzzles like crosswords and sudoku, but I have a suggestion for another means of brain building that will make your life better as well as the lives of others.

As a therapist, I am constantly using my brain to ...Read more


Erika Ettin: Do dating apps work?

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

A question I get all the time, from clients and strangers alike, is “Do dating apps work?”

Here’s the thing: Any app can be efficient or successful, depending on what you put out there and how proactive you are in the process. If you put up six mediocre pictures and no writeup and expect to attract quality people, you’ll be sorely ...Read more

Reader Doesn't Want To Talk About Breakup

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: Not long ago, I ended things with a person I had been in a relationship with for five years. Without a doubt the hardest part of the breakup has been having to re-explain it to all those who knew us as a couple. I am wishing that everybody would mind their business and just assume that I don't want to discuss the details any ...Read more

Circle Of Friends Walks On Eggshells Around One Person

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: When I started dating my fiance four years ago, I became friends with the wife of one of his best friends. The relationship had been fine until a friends' weekend away.

One evening, I tried to slow our group down to wait for my fiance, who was walking about five minutes behind us all, before we sat down to dinner. We were on ...Read more

Singing With Grandma, Against All Odds

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My husband comes from a large blended family. His mom is married to a man he has known as his stepdad for his entire life.

Recently, our teenage daughter revealed that she's uncomfortable around this stepdad because he gropes her inappropriately while hugging and greeting her. My husband mentioned this to his mother and stepdad and ...Read more