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Person to Person: Take good care of yourself in the new year

Life Advice / Helping Yourself /

Have you ever felt you were neglecting yourself in key ways? Few among us do enough to protect our health, beauty, finances, and happiness.

Most of us will donate our time and effort to others in need. But, as we focus on helping others, we can let our personal care slide.

"I spent much of last year taking my sister to chemotherapy treatments,...Read more

Single File: Chairman of the Board

Life Advice / Single File /

Agreed, the month of May is the usual time for tributes to moms' indispensable role. But mine is an off-season paean to those women who -- by some inscrutable twist of fate -- find themselves Chairman of the Board, responsible for every decision in their husbandless household. Why now, and why them? Because while motherhood is sacred in America,...Read more

Searching for Balance

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am writing in hopes that you can provide a different and fresh perspective. I have two sons: "George," 28, and "Fred," 35. George has lived with us on and off for the past 10 years. I call him my "boomerang kid." He has finally landed a decent job, and we are giving him six more months of living with us to get his finances in ...Read more

Ask Amy: Drunken assault severs longtime friendship

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: Recently, after dinner and a fair amount of drinking, my close friend's husband came up behind me and grabbed my crotch.

I was shocked, but decided to blow it off.

We were staying at their vacation condo at the time.

I thought that he would apologize, so we could get past this incident, but the next morning, nothing was said.

We ...Read more

Childhood Abuse Led Woman To Long Life Of Promiscuity

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I was molested by my sister's husband in 1959. I was 5 years old. Growing up in the late '50s and '60s, sexual abuse was never discussed in my parents' home. It just wasn't done then. Of course, my brother-in-law told me it was our little secret.

This has affected my entire life. I didn't get counseling for it because I didn't ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Only Questions, Still Care

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I have been with my husband for 10 years, and we have two children. Two years ago, I found out that he was bothering a 19-year-old girl. He was 30 at the time. We separated over this, but six months ago, we got back together.

Now when I ask about this young woman, his story keeps changing. He says they were just friends, and then he...Read more

Science Advice Goddess: Baby Got Backup

I've been dating this really great woman for three months. She's just decided that she needs to be single right now, despite our forming a pretty strong connection. She explained that she really, really likes me, but she's never been single for very long and thinks it's best for her at the moment. I can respect that. She also says we can ...Read more

Harkening Back to Less Hardware

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am the proud owner of a flip cellphone, and I probably wouldn't have it if public telephones still existed. I use about 100 minutes a month and have sent, in my lifetime, no more than 300 text messages, most of them one or two words in response to a text sent to me. I use no data. I still use physical maps to navigate car trips.

...Read more

Ask Amy: Newlywed won't 'meet the parents' in footie PJs

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am a newlywed. The holiday season is upon us, and I'm trying to coordinate between families, and also get myself into the spirit.

However, there is one tradition my husband's family has that I don't understand. I'm not sure how I can fit into this tradition.

Ever since they were children, on Christmas morning, "the kids" (my ...Read more

Mom Weighs Bringing Defiant Daughter On Family Vacation

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: One of our daughters (18) has been rebelling for the last couple of years. She's not doing well in community college. She is dating a drug user and has been caught in lie after lie, including about spending the night at friends' homes.

She has now decided she no longer wants to live with our rules, which include staying enrolled in ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Tired and Disgusted Other Half

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: This is an open note to my husband:

Dear Husband: I love you, and most of the time, I like you, as well. However, right now, I am too angry to talk to you.

When I exhaust myself doing "womanly" things like cleaning the moldy shower stall that you never notice, you gush gratitude. When I spend umpteen hours on the garden, you tell ...Read more

You Say Ta-May-Toe; I Say Ta-Mah-Toe

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I used to date a lady from Australia who was taught to hold her fork in the European/continental style. When she came to visit me in Milwaukee, she noticed my American style. She seemed put-off but didn't say anything. We had a pending dinner date with mutual friends, and she thought I would be set straight by seeing how other ...Read more

Ask Amy: Abandoned child says no to father's friendship

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My biological father recently sent me a friend request on Facebook, and it is freaking me out.

He abandoned my mother while she was pregnant with me.

I am a 31-year-old woman with a husband and a 10-year-old child, and I can't seem to forget my own father's abandonment.

Six years ago, I decided I was going to find my dad. I wanted ...Read more

Oldest Employee Gets More Night Shifts Than Colleagues

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I work in a small office with five other people. Due to the nature of our business, we work various shifts throughout the day.

I am the oldest employee, and when it comes to our schedule, I feel discriminated against. I usually get four night shifts and one day shift a week. Everyone else gets one night shift and the rest daytime ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Stuck in the Middle

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My husband, "Ricardo," is a naturally curious man. He usually asks questions in a charming manner, showing genuine interest in family and friends.

We have a teenage son. Ricardo often asks him probing questions about his girlfriend, which upsets our son. I totally get that Ricardo is interested and concerned for our son, so often I ...Read more

A Softy or a Sucker?

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: One of my young relatives came to me when she was thrown out of her house at the age of 23 by her parents for "no reason," she claimed. I agreed to cosign her lease so she could get an apartment, and I also agreed to pay her rent until she could find a good job. Two years later, she hadn't found a job, and I was still paying for ...Read more

Friends who avoid violent pal feel rejected

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: A few years ago, my partner and I, both artists, moved from Europe to the USA's West Coast.

We already had close connections and friends in the States -- a very nice circle of open-minded spirits. Other friends moved here from other big cities, and we quickly helped bring all the circles together through gatherings and art shows.

A ...Read more

Mom Protests When Her Ex Leaves Her Out Of The Picture

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: At 18, I married my high school sweetheart. After 20 years of marriage and four wonderful children, my husband decided the grass was greener elsewhere, and we divorced. He paid no attention to my children or my grandchildren when they were young.

He has since remarried, has a child with his current wife and acts like he's Father of ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Love My Uncle, But

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My 88-year-old uncle is mentally ill. He is paranoid and suffers from extreme anxiety. He has refused mental help for years. His three grown children also have indications of mental illness.

It is difficult to be around "Uncle Joe" because he rants about nonsense and claims that everyone is doing something evil to him. He writes ...Read more

Pouring Cold Water on Romantic Entanglements

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: A few years ago, I moved into a duplex owned by an old college friend of mine, "Robby," and his wife. During this time, I became very close friends with Robby's wife. Earlier this year I moved out. Around this same time, Robby's wife told him that she was thinking of divorce. The wife pretty much stopped talking to me once I moved ...Read more