Dear Annie: Both my adult daughter and her husband are employed. Since they do not cook, when my husband and I visit them, which is approximately four times a year, they send out for food and ask us to pay our share of the bill, or, on occasion, she will use my credit card to pay for the whole bill. When we go out to eat at a restaurant, I ...Read more
Dear Amy: I’ve been married for 23 years to a really mellow guy who had always been very private.
We haven’t had a good physical relationship in a decade because of his medical issues.
I assumed he had just lost interest, and I almost gave up.
We seemed to be rounding the corner to a more loving relationship, but there was something ...Read more
Dear Annie: I have a 35-year-old daughter with two children (ages 13 and 2), and they all are living with us. "Micki" moved in after leaving her common-law husband a few months ago. He was the third man in her life.
Since Micki has been home, she has been going out every weekend. I am "old school" and believe she should come home from work and ...Read more
Dear Annie: I am a single mother to my one daughter, who is now 29. She moved from our hometown because that's where she met her husband, and she now has a son, my grandson, who is 1 1/2 years old. She asked me when she first got pregnant if I would move down to where they live to babysit Monday through Friday for them. Long story short, I did...Read more
Dear Amy: I never wanted to marry or have children.
When my husband proposed I knew it was right to say yes (no regrets). We ended up having a honeymoon baby ... and two others after that! Now they are 7, 5, and 3.
I LOVE the life I thought I didn't want. I'm a stay-at-home mom and I homeschool all three children.
My husband works two jobs. ...Read more
Dear Annie: I work for a major corporation, and I like my job. However, my boss has betrayed me.
She is single, and I wanted to set her up with a friend of my boyfriend. She sent me her picture, and my boyfriend asked me to send the pic to his phone so he could send it to his friend. Instead of doing that, however, he texted my boss all night ...Read more
DEAR SUSAN: I finally ended a long marriage that was filled with lies, cheating and mental and verbal abuse. (It took years for the divorce to become final.) My therapist, children, family and friends all are encouraging me to start dating again and begin a new life with a new man who deserves and respects me. I shudder at the thought. Whenever ...Read more
A client sent me a text recently asking, “Can I ask you? Why am I still single? In your opinion? Maybe I’m not putting enough effort in? I want love to find me! Arghhh!”
I actually get questions like this more often than one might think.
I replied, “This sounds like a question that can’t be answered over text! You’ve obviously had...Read more
We all want to feel inspired in our lives, and it’s good to get into the habit of seeking inspiration rather than expecting it to find you.
As a writer, I am always looking for new things to write about. The ideas that come seemingly out of nowhere are always the best, of course. I love writing from that place where my heart and head are one ...Read more
Dear Annie: This letter is addressed to all those who think back on a first love and believe their feelings are undiminished.
I did that and had the ability to discreetly check back on that love. I found that he had told his wife he was glad he married her because he never could have married an independent woman, which is what I am. I also ...Read more
Dear Amy: My partner, “Chas,” and I have been together for 30 years.
My sister “Shelly” introduced us. Shelly and Chas are very old friends, in fact, Chas is her daughter’s godfather.
Chas tends to be quiet and low key; Shelly is exuberant and loves attention.
All these years, we have shared various family gatherings and holidays. ...Read more
Dear Annie: My nephew was in the hospital last summer. Because the hospital is closer to our house, his parents and the nephew's 17-year-old girlfriend stayed with us for two nights.
Within a few hours, we noticed $70 was missing from a container on the kitchen counter. We asked if anyone had seen or moved it. That same evening, the girlfriend ...Read more
I thought I was happily married. Recently, I found a cherry Chapstick in my husband's coat pocket -- a kind he'd never buy. He claimed he randomly grabbed it at the drugstore checkout. Last week, he said he'd be visiting his mother at the nursing home, but I later learned he never showed. I asked him about it, and he said work ran over. ...Read more
Dear Annie: Please tell "Ready to Die" that she can get disability payments because she has a mental health disorder. The problem is that people tell the disability examiners how badly they feel. But that is not the examiner's job to assess. They want to know how dysfunctional your daily life is.
I am writing to offer suggestions to her and ...Read more
Dear Amy: My best friend of 25 years is having an affair.
I’m devastated. We raised our kids together, our families spent holidays and vacations together, but most of all she has been my soul sister and confidant.
I have tried to be the best support since this began, listening and trying to be non-judgmental.
The problem is that my dad ...Read more
Dear Annie: We are the grandparents of a beautiful 4-year-old girl. We have been watching her for the past three months because her parents had their water service shut off due to lack of payment. A month ago, they had their gas and electricity shut off, as well. They are living off of the welfare system with no other means of support.
In the ...Read more
Dear Annie: I knew my husband had a Twitter account, and I thought he only followed groups. Then, one morning, I looked at his account and saw that he was following around 75 people. They included two women. I saw that he had been tweeting at one of those women between six and eight times a day for several weeks. He said it's not a big deal ...Read more
Dear Amy: Before the pandemic, I met a wonderful woman and fell in love. The catch? She was from New Zealand and had to return home in November of 2019.
She and I made arrangements for me to move there.
Then the pandemic hit and created unending border closures. My flight was canceled by the airline.
We engaged in a long-distance relationship...Read more
Dear Annie: I am taking a foreign language class at school. The first week, there was a new girl, "Molly." No one talked to her except me. I made her laugh, and we had fun at lunch. She became my only friend in that class.
Two weeks later, "Scarlett" arrived. At lunch the next day, Molly asked Scarlett to sit with us. They started talking about...Read more
Dear Annie: I have read the "Ask Ann Landers" column and now the "Dear Annie" column since I was a little girl, and I am writing to you at age 66. I always wanted to write into the column but never did.
But the recent letters about families feeling obligated to spend Christmas together, even when they live far apart, gives me a unique ...Read more