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The Grandma Who Isn't Good Enough

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My heart and prayers go out to the "Grieving Grandmother" who is tired of the apathy shown by her daughters-in-law. Those girls are incredibly rude and selfish when they ignore her at family gatherings, but I am impressed that Grandma gets holiday and family birthday meals at all.

My two daughters-in-law have each said that their ...Read more

Ask Amy: Client’s crush on therapist creates dilemma

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I’m a heterosexual woman.

Over the course of my life, there have been a couple of instances where women were attracted to me, but when they realized what was happening, I think they got scared and backed off. I didn’t stop them.

I’ve been seeing a therapist for quite some time, and I realize I’m attracted to her.

I know you ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Been There in Ohio

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I am a 15-year-old male, and I have a dilemma about a dating situation. The trouble is that my parents do not want me to date until I am 16. There is a girl I'm interested in, and we could be dating if my parents would let me. Right now, we are just keeping things as friends, but we really want to spend time together.

I am going ...Read more

Millennial Life: Stripping Identity From Work

It was an advertisement for a flower farm this time. There were openings for studio and field assistants and delivery drivers, both full-time and part-time positions. There's always a mental flash when I see a job posting that sounds interesting but is completely out of my wheelhouse: "Wouldn't that be a nice change of pace?" I don't ask, "Is ...Read more

Put Yourself First

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I have a friend who spent many years in an emotionally abusive relationship that seems similar to what "Sad Grandma" described. What I have seen with my friend's children is that they have learned to treat their mom the same way their father did.

They watched for years as she put his needs and demands first in all of their lives. ...Read more

Ask Amy: Beach house vacay could take a toll

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: Our son “Tom” received a heart transplant 10 years ago.

He's done great. He is very diligent about keeping in shape, taking his meds, and eating a healthy diet.

Tom’s wife “Tracy” works in a nursing home. Throughout COVID, they've both been extremely careful. Everyone in our family, including Tom and Tracy were vaccinated ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: England Friend

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My 22-year-old boyfriend recently told me that he was raped by a man when he was between 9 and 10 years old. He will not tell me the molester's name. This was a shock, and I feel very sorry for him. He tried to tell his mum, but she dismissed it and told him she didn't believe him, so he did not tell anyone else.

As a rape victim ...Read more

Alzheimer's Looming

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My grandfather had severe Alzheimer's disease. Unfortunately, it lasted for a while.

He was fine before he hit 75. Occasionally, he would forget things, but it was not a big deal. As he aged, his memory got worse and his ability to forget things increased. By 80, he was bad. He didn't know who some of his kids were, and talking to ...Read more

Ask Amy: Board members are afraid of confrontation

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I sit on a community board. All board members are volunteers. Most have professional careers and are adept at having healthy and respectful discussions.

One person on the board has become aggressive and uncooperative. He puts down other members' opinions, sends hostile emails, and presents his own opinion as the only way to proceed.

...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Relatives for a Giveaway

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: We recently attended a family wedding. The invitation said the wedding was at 2 p.m., with a reception and dancing at 7:30. After the ceremony, we sat in the hotel bar with a dozen other family members, all of whom had driven over three hours to attend.

We soon learned that there were two invitations -- one of which was for a dinner...Read more

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Can virtual socializing apps outlast the pandemic?

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

For its first few years, Teleparty seemed doomed to be a niche product. The browser extension, which lets multiple people sync up their Netflix accounts so they can watch the same thing at the same time, was a hit among couples in long-distance relationships. Otherwise, few people had even heard of it.

And then, in March 2020, the app suddenly ...Read more

Neglected Niece

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My heart hurts so much. Last January, my nephew was diagnosed with leukemia. He is 3 years old. He is only a little boy. He is so strong, and he tries to be a happy little guy. My sister is always talking about my nephew and how his appointments go, and that is fine; I want to hear about them and to know what the next steps are. But ...Read more

Ask Amy: Older sister may be overly ‘sistering’

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I have been trying to figure out how to deal with family members that decide to cut off all communication with me without explanation.

One episode happened with my niece, who is in her 30s.

The last thing I said to her was, "Would you like to come over to visit?"

Her response was, "Why do people keep trying to make me do things that...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Desperate in Massachusetts

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I've been married for 24 years and have five children (two in college). I have spent most of my married years raising them, taking care of the home front and minding our family business.

Two years ago, my husband retired early, at age 45, and promised he'd find other work to compensate for the expected loss of income. After a year ...Read more

Gone Goodbye

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My significant other and I were in a relationship for 15 years. One evening, I was feeling insecure and asked whether there was someone else. Very soon after that, my significant other completely cut off all contact with me.

We were in a commitment and planning to get married, but now there is absolutely no communication, which just...Read more

Ask Amy: Ex does not want to make up after breakup

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: Over a decade ago, I escaped an extremely emotionally and sometimes physically abusive partner and proceeded to raise kind, compassionate, and successful children on my own.

Now in adulthood, all but one has established a relationship with this pretty much absent parent, who now wants to stage a get-together that includes my new ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Annoyed Bride

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: When I was a young teen, a family member informed me that when my mother was in high school, before she married my father, she became pregnant. The young man with whom she was involved refused to take responsibility and marry her. As a result, the baby was given up for adoption.

I never told my mother I knew this and respected her ...Read more

Single File: Girls Just Want To ...

Life Advice / Single File /

DEAR SUSAN: I'm a young, attractive woman who cannot for the life of me get a date. I try, but those I'm attracted to don't reciprocate my interest. Now, I'm not shy, I'm receptive to men and have no desire for a relationship or commitment. Really, I just want to meet a nice guy and have a good time. What should I do? -- From the "Single File" ...Read more

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Erika Ettin: Dating questions, asked and answered

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

In this week’s edition of “Ask Erika,” clients ask dating questions ranging from texting to cynicism to closure.

Q: [He] rescheduled our meet for next Saturday, which is no problem, except that all he does is text. I used a variation of the line you recommended: "Sorry for the delays — I'm not a huge texter.” My question, however, is ...Read more

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Barton Goldsmith: Seven myths about happiness

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

Many of us hold false beliefs about happiness. Those beliefs can actually prevent us from feeling good about ourselves and enjoying life.

Here are some of the things we believe and say to ourselves about happiness that can keep us from it.

1. “There’s something wrong with me if I’m not happy all the time.”

No, there is nothing wrong...Read more