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Annie's Mailbox: Thigh High in Confusion

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I've been seeing a very nice man for more than a year. We are both in our late 50s and divorced. He is affectionate and kind, and I love him quite a lot. He doesn't have any of the obvious problems -- money, drugs or alcohol, but one thing bothers me a lot. He likes to wear women's thigh-high stockings.

He started wearing the ...Read more

Ask Amy: A woman warned tops a woman scorned

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I was with my former partner for several years. He traveled often for work.

We had what I thought was a very happy relationship and were both professionally and financially successful.

We bought a home together when I was close to completing my master's degree.

A week after moving in, I discovered he'd been essentially living a ...Read more

Science Advice Goddesss: Job Corpse

My girlfriend of a year is beautiful, intelligent, sweet, and loving and the first woman I could see having a future with. Last week, I was told I'm being laid off from my job at a large media conglomerate. I haven't told anyone, but I'm feeling increasingly guilty for keeping it a secret from my girlfriend. The thing is I'm afraid she'll ...Read more

Bad-Tempered Sister-in-Law

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I was close to all my brothers when we were growing up, especially because we had no extended family around. Our grandparents and aunts and uncles were quite a distance away. All of us really felt it, and the siblings always wanted spouses who could provide what we never had -- a close relationship with our family.

Recently, my ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Stymied Husband

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married for 22 years and have two wonderful children. We both have college degrees and full-time jobs.

I am an optimistic introvert, and she is a pessimistic extrovert. We have never been close to each other socially. We have different interest and physical abilities. We also don't communicate much, even on ...Read more

Ask Amy: Vaccine doesn’t inoculate against hurt feelings

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: Here's one for the bizarre era in which we are living.

I have been close friends with "Brenda" since we were kids.

We touch base a few times a week (electronically). We are now both 65 and live in the same community.

Like everyone, we've been struggling to get COVID vaccinations.

Brenda messaged me, saying, "Our friend called us ...Read more

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Person to Person: Working to create your best self

Life Advice / Helping Yourself /

Are you frazzled because the pandemic has shaken your lifestyle? Has it left you with muddy goals and a scary feeling your life is off track?

If so, you’re normal. All of us must reconnect with our vision of who we are.

Most of us would like to be our best self. But, during our national crisis, it’s been difficult to hold onto that vision....Read more

Slowing Down

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am old, and I worry about falling. I have read advice to us old people on numerous websites on how to avoid falling. But one thing is missing: It is important not to hurry.

I have only anecdotal evidence, but I have observed that hurrying often leads to falling. One friend died after a fall rushing to answer the phone. My wife ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Soon to Retire in Florida

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I am hoping to retire in six years. I have been investing some money through my job and have accumulated a comfortable amount. My wife had a similar fund at her job, but took the money out a few years ago. She says she doesn't know where she spent it, but I'm pretty sure it went to her daughter (from another marriage), the same place...Read more

Ask Amy: Food-snatching incident leaves bad aftertaste

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: Several years ago, my husband and I visited his brother and wife for a vacation.

We stayed with them and relied on them for transportation.

One night, we went out to dinner. His brother ordered some fried pickles as an appetizer.

My husband told him he had never had one before and reached over to take one.

His brother slapped his ...Read more

Millenial Life: The Wonder in Brief Moments of Caring

I used to work on a university campus. Women from various offices would use their lunch hour to put on their tennis shoes, change into tight athletic pants, throw on the old "1994 Gardening To Live" shirt and power-walk the halls of the building. I was young enough to find the women unrelatable. Years later, I remembered them when I plotted a ...Read more

A New Beginning Up North

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: Please help me. I am in my mid-40s and have been with a man for seven and a half years. He has four children who I absolutely adore. His youngest is 12. We started dating when she turned 5. We have had them full time for the past seven years. I have gotten pregnant five times with this man. There were three miscarriages and two ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Driving Us Nuts

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My 26-year-old daughter has been married to a wonderful, hardworking man for three years. They have a beautiful child and a nice home. The problem is my son-in-law's mother.

This woman has disliked my daughter from day one, and for no discernible reason. My daughter and her husband tried talking things out with her, but she always ...Read more

Ask Amy: Millennial wonders if 'thank you' is too old-fashioned

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My grandmother is a traditional Southern lady who drilled her grandchildren on the importance of a heartfelt, promptly sent thank you note after receiving a gift or kind gesture.

I’m recovering from surgery and many people have been kind enough to bring me a meal as I recuperate.

I like letting people know how their kindness has ...Read more

More Letters on Love

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Readers: Recently, I asked you to write in with what you love most about your partners. I received enough responses to fill a book. I printed some on Valentine's Day, but I'd like to print a few more -- because these letters brought me such joy that it seems wrong to keep them to myself. Read on for a smile.

Dear Annie: What I love most ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: A Dog's Plea

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I am a manager of a small company. The problem is, one employee burps uncontrollably throughout the day. She seems shocked every time it happens. I find this to be unprofessional and rude, and it is horribly embarrassing when it occurs in front of colleagues. People laugh behind her back. I've tried to make a joke of it by brushing ...Read more

Ask Amy: Guest’s choice to post wedding video upsets couple

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My husband and I were married last month.

This was a very small wedding with only 25 people. We had been waiting for this day for over 10 years!

I am upset that one of my new sisters-in-law took it upon herself to not only record the entire ceremony on video on her phone, but one hour into the reception, she posted the whole ceremony...Read more

Shattered By Loss

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: Last month, I lost the man of my dreams, my husband. It hurts so bad without him. I don't know what to do. I miss him terribly. He was my everything for years now. He was my heart and soul. My heart is broken into a million pieces. I have talked with counselors; some help, others don't. We still had so many plans for the future. It...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Outraged in Pennsylvania

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My ex-son-in-law has temporary custody of my granddaughter, "Cathy," who is 8. Every time I buy her something, she wants to leave it at my house. I couldn't understand why so I asked her father. He said it was because Cathy had overheard him talking to his ex (my daughter), fussing that Cathy would lose things they bought her, or she...Read more

Ask Amy: Parents teach daughter how to be a 'sugar mama'

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My 21-year-old daughter (a senior in college) met her boyfriend two weeks into her freshman year (he is 23).

He asked to come live with us after his graduation.

There are far more job opportunities where we live than in his rural hometown or their college town. We agreed and have treated him like our fifth child. We support him in ...Read more