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Ask Amy: Divorced mom is debt-averse

Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Dear Amy: I am a divorced mom in my early-30’s, with primary custody of my 8-year-old child.

I have been dating “Ben” for the past two years. He is a great guy and he is very good with my son.

We have been talking about getting married. He has never been married before (no kids) and I am gun-shy, to say the least.

I own my home, my son is happy, and I am trying to be extremely careful about our future.

Last week Ben took me out for a drink. He said he had something important to tell me. He confessed that he is almost $20,000 in debt. He said he is trying hard to clear his debt, but he isn’t making much progress.

I have a stable and successful career. I am extremely financially responsible and have already started saving for my son’s college education.

 

Ben seems under-employed. He is a relaxed, fun person. He said the debt came from purchasing a car and more recently from a ski vacation he went on with some friends.

I feel extremely uncomfortable now. I am wondering if Ben expects me to clear his debt by using some of the equity on my house. He didn’t ask me anything specific and I’m not sure how to feel or how to react to this.

Your wisdom?

– The Responsible One

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