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Annie's Mailbox for 11/10/2017

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I am one of 13 siblings. Both of our parents have been sick for the past four years. At one time, we had a family meeting, and everyone agreed to pay $20 a week for a caregiver, since we all worked. But slowly, my siblings started to bail out. The first to go was their favorite (and ungrateful) daughter.

Dad died three months ago....Read more

College student can't say no to manipulative friend

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Hello Carolyn:

I'm a college sophomore and I am close with a group of girls from my freshman dormitory. One of them, "Allison," relies on me too much and I can't handle it anymore.

Allison is constantly asking to borrow my car (she can afford an Uber), get my help planning her class schedule, or for support in a crisis. Recently, she texted...Read more

Look Who Dropped In

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I occasionally have lunch with a relative whose company I enjoy. We usually have a nice time, but lately she has been bringing a last-minute guest with her without telling me. Sometimes it is another relative, and sometimes it is a person I've never met. This has caused seating confusion and a less desirable room at places where we...Read more

Recommendations to heal a wounded soul

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I had a bad childhood, where I was physically and emotionally abused by my mother. She was a single mother of four, and I am the oldest.

I am now responsible for my aged mother's care and finances.

I find myself very resentful and holding grudges from more than 40 years ago that interfere with my ability to be a loving daughter, ...Read more

As Boyfriend's Hair Disappears, So Does Woman's Attraction

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My physical attraction to my boyfriend has significantly diminished due to his baldness. I know this may seem shallow, but I have lost all interest in intimate contact with him. When I look at his bald head or he rests his head on my shoulder, it literally makes my stomach lurch!

Our romance began 20 years ago when he still had hair....Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 11/9/2017

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I often feel sharp bites like pinpricks on different places of my body, especially at night. At first, it happened only in the bedroom, but now I get them while sitting in my family room and even in my car. I thought it might be bedbugs, but an exterminator ruled that out. He said he had no idea what was causing the bites and ...Read more

Binge-eating husband is a runaway train

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

My husband had a heart attack two years ago and nothing we do gets him to eat better. He can eat two bags of chips, a container of ice cream and lots of bread and butter every day when he comes home from work. It is so hard to watch him doing this. He just won't listen to anyone or try ...Read more

Germy Friends

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: Two elderly friends I know who live far away made plans to spend about six days in my city. I invited them to stay at my house for three nights, and they made reservations to stay in a downtown hotel for the rest of their visit. I had not seen them for a number of years, and I thought it would be nice to spend time with them. I ...Read more

Mother's pursuit may be pushing son away

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My college-aged son and his male friend, "Randall," were staying with us at our vacation home this summer. This was the first time we had met Randall.

Late one night, I went downstairs, assuming they had left the TV on and had gone to bed, and walked in on them in a state of undress during an intimate moment.

Both of them panicked, ...Read more

Divorced Mom Mulls Overruling Dad On Daughter's Social Life

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My ex-husband and I have been divorced for three years and share custody of our 10-year-old daughter, who lives with me full time. Her father lives out of state and sees her during the summer months.

Last year my daughter had an incident (an I'll show you mine, you show me yours kind of thing) with a friend at school, and my ex and I...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 11/8/2017

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I have been married to my husband for only one month, and he already has had a brief fling with a woman from his office. This caught me completely off guard. I thought we were happy, and I am pretty sure my husband enjoys being married to me. He always says I am much more than he deserves.

I have repeatedly asked him why he would ...Read more

When the un-neighborly neighbor is you

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

I'm wondering how to make amends with a neighbor who's aloof and distant. She moved in four years ago. Soon afterward there was a misunderstanding about my friend parking in front of her driveway and she was unnecessarily harsh about it, especially since I was seven months' pregnant at the time. It really upset me, and my ...Read more

Getting Back on the Teaching Horse

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am in my 20s and working multiple jobs. A few years ago, I began substitute teaching at the elementary school in the town I grew up in. For about two years, I filled in for many teachers and even worked long term a few times, but I was never a permanent employee at the school. It was fun connecting with the kids, and I even ate ...Read more

Mom's doggy day care raises hackles

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I moved in with my boyfriend fairly recently. His mother, "Betty," comes to the house every day while we are at work and lets the dogs out and helps in the yard.

We are totally fine with that and are openly very appreciative; she is a fantastic person and I'm grateful to be accepted into such an awesome family.

Amy, we have not asked...Read more

Man Who Lost His 'spark' Gets Inspiration From Readers

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm responding to Wallowing in the North (June 16), who has had a wonderful life and has accomplished all the goals he set out for himself at age 56, but now feels no spark to carry on. Abby, he's in a unique position to help someone else who hasn't had all those advantages in life.

He could foster a child and enlighten that child ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 11/7/2017

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My boyfriend lives with a woman who gave birth to his child. He says it is not a romantic arrangement. She wanted to get pregnant, and he provided the genetic material. He sleeps on the sofa.

My issue is, when he wants to spend time with this kid, the mother must always be present. She also isn't aware that he is dating me, and we...Read more

How 'twin brothers' can respond to rude questions from adults

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

My wife and her sister gave birth two days apart. Six months later, my wife's sister and her husband were killed in a car accident, and we adopted their son and have raised the two boys as "twin brothers" even though biologically they're cousins.

My wife's sister's husband was a ...Read more

For God and Country -- or Something

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I have witnessed a change in a local American Legion post over the past several years. I support and commend anyone who has served our country. Originally, these posts were established by veterans and run by elected veteran officers and veteran executive board members. These posts were founded with bylaws and rules supporting the ...Read more

In-law wants to protect her investment with engaged couple

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I'm engaged to be married soon.

My fiancee bought a house last year, with a sizable down payment provided by her mother.

A few weeks ago, my future mother-in-law expressed the sentiment that we should wait to put my name on the deed of the house in order "to see how the marriage works out."

I understand that she wants to protect her...Read more

New Carpet Provokes Old Complaints From Husband

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been married for 45 years. My husband and I get along fine. We each have our little quirks, but after all these years, we are used to each other. There is just one thing that really bugs me about him. When repairs need to be done outside the house, we have it done -- new roof, new siding, driveway paved, even solar panels. We ...Read more


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