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Ask Amy: Amy revisits a favorite reader prank

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Readers: Before I leave this space at the end of June, I’m taking advantage of my senioritis and re-running some of my favorite columns.

The following Q&A is an example of a prank question that savvy readers enjoyed so much that it went viral. Honestly, I don’t know how I missed this obvious nod to a beloved sitcom, but I did.

I hope ...Read more

Flirtation With The Past Endangers Stable Present

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been married to a wonderful man for 17 years. Recently, I reconnected online with an old high school flame. We have been talking about my hometown, which is where he lives. So many things have changed! I moved away more than 30 years ago and have been missing it lately.

While texting, my old BF hinted that he loves me. I have ...Read more

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Ask Anna: My girlfriend is still married: How to handle a separated relationship

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

Dear Anna,

I have been seeing a woman who’s been separated from her husband for 14 months. We met through work and have known each other for over 10 years. The past 14 months we have been intimate and I have gotten a place for us to live. However, she recently told me that her gut is telling her not to divorce her husband over my concerns. ...Read more

Co-Worker Steals Employee's Ideas

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: During a recent team meeting, my co-worker "Alex" presented an idea that I had shared with him over a cup of coffee. He claimed it as his own and received praise from our boss while I sat there feeling frustrated and overlooked. This is not the first time Alex has taken credit for my contributions, and it's starting to lower my ...Read more

How Long Do I Have To Keep Waving?

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: When is it OK to consider a "goodbye" finished? When does a goodbye have to be followed by waving, and for how long?

After we've said goodbye in the parking lot and the other person begins to drive away, do I have to wave again as they drive by, waving at me? Or can I turn my back and focus on getting into my own car? Some ...Read more

My Husband's Career Is Turning Me Into a Single Parent

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My husband, "John," and I have been married for eight years, and we have two young children. Recently, he's been working late almost every night and spending weekends at the office. When I ask him about it, he says he's trying to secure a promotion that will benefit our family in the long run.

I've always admired his work ethic ...Read more

Ask Amy: An update reveals the need for practical help

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Readers: As I have announced previously, I am leaving this space. My last column will run at the end of June. (Readers can continue to find my work through my newsletter and at amydickinson.com.) In the meantime, I’m publishing some favorite columns and updates on previously published advice. The original Q&A (first published in 2022) is ...Read more

One-Sided Relationship Seems A-Ok To Boyfriend

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend and I have been together for eight years. We live separately, and I live with my son. The problem is my boyfriend says he loves me but doesn't seem to like spending time with me. He would rather mow my lawn than spend that same amount of time just hanging out with me.

We used to see each other several times a week, ...Read more

Single File: Sex as a Gift

Life Advice / Single File /

DEAR READERS: The woman who wrote protesting men's attitude toward sharing sex hit a nerve. Mail was robust, with wide reactions to her statement that "sex is a gift, not a right." Read on:

"Although I'm a very sexual man with no taboos or inhibitions, I think a man who grabs or gropes a woman without her consent is shameless, cowardly and ...Read more

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From 'it's a match' to first date: Steps for an easy transition from app to real-life

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

After what can feel like endless swiping, seeing “It’s a Match!” pop up on your screen can feel like a victory. But let’s be honest: The journey has just begun.

There are still quite a few steps between achieving a mutual right swipe and meeting face-to-face. From sending an engaging opening message to setting up a first date spot, a ...Read more

After Five Years, Boyfriend Still Afraid To Commit

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: I have a boyfriend of five years. Yes, you read that right: five years. I love him very much and have been waiting patiently for around four years for him to ask me to marry him. I know it sounds bad and I need to have more respect for myself, but I can't see my life without him. His hesitation stems from his parents' divorce ...Read more

Oh, Good: Another Theater Rule

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: Manners among theatergoers have been neglected, such that probably most offenders do not even know they are being inconsiderate.

The topics of cellphone use, texting, recording, photography, talking, eating, coughing, crackling candy wrappers and even hat wearing have all been covered. But the issue of leaning forward in one'...Read more

Friends, Frustrations and Finding New Connections

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I've experienced couples being completely tone-deaf to the single friends in their lives. Sometimes they have no interest in helping their friends find a relationship. I'm not even talking about setting someone up. I'm talking about having no interest in even going to a place where single people might be.

In my case, it resulted ...Read more

Ask Amy: Friend’s drinking held as a close secret

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: Two years ago, my friend “Kim” admitted that she has cut alcohol out of her life after her brother died due to his alcoholism.

I thought this was great; we have enjoyed doing things together without alcohol.

A couple of times I suspected she had been drinking.

Last summer I took my suspicions to her sister-in-law, “Bea,” who...Read more

After 25 Years With Girlfriend, Man Remains Married To Wife

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been with my partner, "Hank," for 25 years, but although he is legally separated, he is still married. We have lived together for 24 of these 25 years. He has two adult children with his wife. I used to be married and have two adult children with my ex-husband. Hank and I have one child together (now an adult), as well.

Should...Read more

Roommate Doesn't Respect Boundaries

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: My roommate has been repeatedly borrowing my clothes without permission and returning them stained or stretched out. I recently discovered that she also used my laptop without asking, leading to scratches on the screen and unauthorized downloads. Confronting her about these incidents makes me uncomfortable and anxious about ...Read more

'bionic' Nickname Doesn't Amuse

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: How do I respond when people call me "the Bionic Woman"?

I have had my hips, knees and ankles replaced, and have had four back surgeries, all due to an orthopedic disease. I sometimes have braces on my hands to help me tolerate the pain.

I know they believe they are being humorous, but I feel like a freak of nature when I am...Read more

Friendships Tested by Time

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: When I was a teenager, I had a big dilemma, and I would like to know how you would have solved it. My closest friend, "Joanne," lived just a few minutes away but had terrible punctuality when it came to getting together. She would often be up to a few hours late getting to my house, which sometimes led to me having to cancel our ...Read more

Ask Amy: Depressed elder worries depressed child

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My 83-year-old widowed mother is depressed, and I don't know how to help.

She refuses to see a therapist and sees drugs as a crutch. She has always been a very private person, is generally distrustful of doctors, and would never let down her shields to a stranger.

I have told her that I am not a therapist, but she has lately begun to...Read more

Angry Daughter Retaliates As Mother Halts The Gravy Train

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: Over the course of 12 years, my husband and I have gifted more than $400,000 in down-payment money to our adult daughter and her husband. Both are now in their mid-40s. I gave them most of this money behind my husband's back.

Recently, my daughter has been pressing me for more money, saying, "good grandparents/parents help their kids...Read more