Life Advice





Friends Don't Keep Movie Snacks To Themselves

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am a 63-year-old woman, and I met a friend (another 63-year-old woman) through a Bible study group four years ago. A week ago, we went to a movie theater. She brought out snacks and a drink for herself, and proceeded to eat and drink in front of me.

I would have never done that; I would have brought her a drink and snacks. ...Read more

Jealousy Is a Red Flag

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am a woman in my mid-30s, and my wife is in her early 40s. We met a little less than two years ago and haven't left each other's side since. We got married about a year ago. Needless to say, we both fell fast and hard for each other. When I met her, my whole world changed, and I look at the world in a completely different way. ...Read more

Ask Amy: Family should explore legacy of trauma

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am the oldest of 13 first cousins on one side of the family. Many of these cousins are considerably younger than I (up to 21 years younger), and grew up many miles away from the extended family. As a result, these cousins are not privy to a lot of family history that I learned from the time I was quite young.

Now, two of these ...Read more

Teen Navigates Opposing Currents Of Reality, Religion

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm a 16-year-old girl, and I've been struggling a little bit. My family is super-Christian. They believe that members of the LGBTQ community are sinful because of who they are. I do not agree.

I have a small group of friends. Two of them have come out to me as bi and gender-fluid. When my family talks about gay people, they say ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Bruised in Nebraska

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I'm 12 years old, and my brother is verbally and physically abusive. Sometimes it's just playing around, but other times it really hurts. When I yell out, my mom gets involved. She sends us both to our rooms without even knowing what the problem is. She doesn't want to hear it. She always says, "You'll just have to work it out on ...Read more

Loving Partner Need Not Worry About Labels

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: I've been dating the same guy for a year now. I adore him, and I really enjoy spending time with him. We go to the movies and on walks together. We go out to dinner together and volunteer at a local hospital. We know each other's favorite foods and what to do when each other is sad. But we haven't said I love you yet. To me, it ...Read more

Give Yelling-In-Public Beau A Taste Of His Own Medicine

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: My boyfriend has a horrible habit of calling out my name when we're in public. If he's looking for me in a store, instead of walking around a bit, he just starts yelling my name!

When we were meeting up at a store once, he was coming down an escalator and called my name out to get my attention -- from across the store! He ...Read more

Husband and Son Won't Stop Drinking

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 34 years. We have two grown children, both of whom still live with us. They work and pay rent toward our mortgage. I have no problem with their living at home, and I don't think my husband does either. The problem I have is that both my husband and my son are alcoholics. They both work hard, but...Read more

Ask Amy: Daughter wants needy mom to back off

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am a 26-year-old married woman who is struggling to tell my mom to back off!

My husband (of three years) and I love to waste a weekend or two a month just being alone together, without the chaos of friends or family.

My mom calls me every weekend and asks me to come over. On top of that, she texts me at least once a day telling me ...Read more

Woman Starting To See Through Boyfriend's Big Talk

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am a 41-year-old divorced woman. My two grown children live with their dad. I have been in a relationship with Sir Talks-a-Lot for 16 months. I feel like I love him, but I'm having lots of doubts. When I don't see him, it doesn't bother me. If I made a pros-and-cons list, there would be more cons than pros.

And he talks nonstop -- ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Short-Circuited in Oregon

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I am a fairly tall sophomore girl in high school. I have dated several guys, but their personalities are not like the guy I have a crush on.

"Ravi" is a junior. He is handsome, shy, intelligent, a good artist and very muscular. The problem is, he is the shortest person in the whole school. I like him a lot, and I want him to notice ...Read more

Adult Child Dislikes Way Dad Treats Mom

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: There are a lot of things that I do not like about my dad. He can be very condescending and a bit of a chauvinist. I do not like the way that he speaks to my mother. She is kind and gentle, and my dad talks to her as if she's some type of indentured servant. I'm married now, and I find myself sometimes speaking to my wife in a ...Read more

Maybe Just Leave A Will

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: Over a century ago, when my grandmother had a heart attack, she collected her children and their spouses together and distributed her valuables, as she did not want to be bothered with writing a will.

When she gave her jewelry to her daughters, she said that she would like to see them wear it while she was still alive. When ...Read more

Is My Relationship Doomed?

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for 10 years. We've had a lot of trials but always managed to hold onto each other and weather the storms. The last major trial was that I cheated on him with one of our best friends. I feel terrible about it; in fact, I think I may have managed to break my heart more than my boyfriend...Read more

Ask Amy: Friendship falters over bungled gift

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: Over a year ago, I was pregnant with my first child and a friend of mine offered (she offered, I did not ask) to give me some of her maternity clothes that she was finished with.

I gladly accepted and was grateful for her generosity!

My husband and I ended up losing the baby, right at the beginning of the third trimester.

As you can...Read more

Parents Hesitate To Allow Addict Son To Move Back In

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My 24-year-old son is in rehab for the second time. We paid for the first, but we are not financing this one. He has moved in and out of our home since he was 18. We have tried written agreements, but he doesn't follow them. We let him move back in after his first stay in rehab, despite the fact that he had stolen from us and had ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Proud of My Sons

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My husband and I are in our late 70s. Although we had a modest income, we managed to send all our children to college, and they now are financially comfortable. We have been retired for several years and are on a limited income.

My children like to come home for every holiday, and we enjoy having them. The problem is the food. They ...Read more

Single File: You Ask, You Pay

Life Advice / Single File /

DEAR SUSAN: Just as men had to be dragged into helping women with housework, so, too, do most women have to be dragged into sharing dating expenses -- even if they are the ones who asked for a date! To me, that's another form of denial -- denial of equal social responsibility. (This has been a sticking point of mine for years.) The women who ...Read more


Erika Ettin: How to handle 'how did you meet?' questions when the answer is an app

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

This is the week of the Jewish High Holidays, and a lot of Facebook and Instagram posts show photos of people around a long Rosh Hashanah dinner table with family and friends. (I personally don’t do anything for the holiday, save for eating some matzah ball soup, which I might do regardless!)

We’ve all been there — gathered around said ...Read more


Barton Goldsmith: 7 things I am going to do after the pandemic is really over

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

They say you don’t want to die with regrets. And after living through the last year and a half, you are likely to have a few — mostly related to what you didn’t do before the pandemic, when you could have done almost anything. Now the urge to live life fully has become ever stronger.

Pre-pandemic, we attended events several times a week ...Read more