Life Advice





Caffeine Fiend

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I work in a small office with only four employees and one supervisor. Two of my colleagues and I are coffee drinkers. Instead of starting a coffee fund, we started taking turns bringing in a fresh container when we find the previous one is running low. This system has worked for us and has prevented any issues from arising.

What ...Read more

Ask Amy: Reader worries about post-pandemic relating

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am feeling anxious about a return to pre-pandemic normality and am hoping you can help me find effective ways of navigating.

My anxiety is not about health precautions like mask wearing, which I believe you have already addressed.

I am more concerned that we have all been apart for a year, with widely varying pandemic experiences, ...Read more

After-Hours Texting Keeps Retiree Up At Night

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My wife and I are both recently retired. Our 19-year-old daughter lives 100 miles away at college. My wife has an elderly mother. My problem is family and friends who text early in the morning.

When I was working, I had to get up at 4:30 a.m., so one of the biggest rewards of retirement is no alarm clock. My wife keeps her cellphone ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Disturbed Middle Sister

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My ex-husband, the father of my kids, decided to date my younger sister, who is in the early stages of recovery from heroin addiction. When she wants to see her four children, she has to have a supervisor present for visitation.

My mother and stepfather support this relationship and think it will be good for her. My older sister and...Read more

Reader Wants To Support Best Friend's New Job

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: My best friend and I have been neighbors for 20 years. For 20 years, she's been a short walk away from my home; she's always been there whenever I've needed her (and vice versa). Recently, she told me she accepted a position in another state. Although I'm happy for her, I'm devastated that she is moving so far away from me. I'm ...Read more

Toddler Dominates Family Video Chats

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: My sister and I are very close, and we chat about every other week. About a year ago, she moved across the country, so now (and especially with COVID) we don't have the chance to see each other in person.

She is married and is her daughter's primary caregiver, so she has her hands full. When I initiate a phone call, it ...Read more

Still a Stepmom

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am a stepmother to a beautiful woman whom I love very much. She has given us three beautiful granddaughters and a handsome grandson. Sadly, my husband has a very rare and very aggressive form of cancer and it looks terminal.

My question for you: Do I continue to be a stepmother after his passing? I know it's most likely up to ...Read more

Ask Amy: Wife wants husband to stop being a nosy parker

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My husband is taking a company “buyout” this summer, thus retiring from his job.

The concern I have is that he is nosy! He has done things in the past that have upset me and my children (he is their stepdad).

He seems to think he is entitled to go through their rooms and poke through their things, under the guise of cleaning.

He...Read more

Man Is Weighed Down By Sadness Four Years After Separation

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I've been separated from my wife for about four years, at her request. It was justified. I wasn't the best husband. I wasn't abusive, but I was sad and feeling sorry for myself, like now.

I took her for granted and didn't show her the affection she deserved, but I have been going to therapy to work through issues that I had ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: The Young Lady

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I am a young lady in my 20s, and I think I've found the man I want to spend the rest of my life with. I want to start a family and build a life with him, but I don't know how that's going to happen.

"Jonathan" takes care of his mother and father. They are on disability, even though they aren't truly disabled. They don't drive, but ...Read more

Vegan Girlfriend Imposes Beliefs On Meat-Eater

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: I've recently started dating a woman who is a lifelong vegan. She is very health-conscious, and she even has a website and YouTube channel dedicated to her plant-based lifestyle. While I admire her dedication to veganism, I myself have never been a vegan, nor do I wish to be.

My girlfriend has joked a few times about how she ...Read more

Celebrity Comparison Rankles

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: On a frequent basis, I'm told I look like a former television personality who got caught up on the wrong side of the #MeToo movement. This person is considered attractive by many, so I should be flattered. However, this person is several years older than I am, so it doesn't necessarily make me feel great.

I realize people are...Read more

Healing from Past Trauma

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am 57 years old and autistic. Due to my inability to read people and my own bad choices, I am the single mother of three adult children, whom I love and am indescribably proud of. But I have never been loved. As a child, I was sexually abused by my father for years. A teacher sexually assaulted me in high school.

I'm terrified ...Read more

Ask Amy: First cousin is now once-removed

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: A few years ago my cousin was absolutely entrenched in doing my father’s side of the family's ancestral history (our fathers were brothers).

He even went to our paternal grandfather's native country in Europe to continue his search. While there, he located many distant relatives.

Then he did his own DNA test. He did not share the ...Read more

Middle-Aged Man Has Bone To Pick With Middle-Aged Women

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have something to say about Still Fun in the South (Jan. 4) and her complaint that single middle-aged men only look for younger women, instead of women their age. I am a 53-year-old widower. I have a six-figure income. I'm smart, healthy, easygoing and have a good life with many hobbies and interests.

On multiple dating apps, I ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: You Made a Bad Call

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: "Your Opinion Please" said he originally planned to split his estate 60/40 in favor of his son (successful) and daughter (who had mental health issues, including drug abuse). You made valid points about not punishing the daughter for past mistakes. You did miss one:

If their daughter had suffered from a more traditional medical ...Read more

College Student Questions Mom's Engagement

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: I'm a 20-year-old college student, and my mom recently got engaged to her boyfriend of two years. She's been a single mom for pretty much my entire life, and I'm nervous about her taking this next step. Her boyfriend seems cool, but I really don't know him all that well since they started dating while I was away at school. I want...Read more

Friend Might Be Lying, But You Were Definitely Rude

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am a flight attendant with a major airline. However, one of my lifelong dreams is to finish school and become a registered nurse. When the pandemic began, I had the opportunity to take a leave of absence, and I applied to a nursing program to get my degree.

For about the past four years, I've been friends with a co-worker ...Read more

Mother Inferior

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My ex and I got married when I was 19. We stayed together for 10 years, during which I was dealing with untreated depression. That did not make life easy for either of us. Eventually, he left, leaving me to care for the kids. He gave us some financial support but was not present in their lives.

Unfortunately, I did not give my ...Read more

Ask Amy: Faux ‘wedding’ is a real gamble

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My oldest daughter (age 26) is engaged to be “married.” After postponing the “wedding” due to COVID, they have picked a new date.

In a casual conversation with my other daughter (age 24), I learned that the prospective bride and groom do not actually plan on getting legally married. They have found someone who has agreed to ...Read more