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Baby shower leads to pilfered leftovers

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I recently helped my sister give a baby shower for her daughter-in-law, "Linda." Linda's mother and sister were on the invitation as co-hosts.

The shower was at my sister's house, and she provided the food (about 10 platters), decorations, flowers, etc. Linda's mother brought one food item for about 12 people, but she knew we were ...Read more

Friend Lends Her Wedding Dress But Isn't Invited To Wedding

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My co-worker and supposed friend asked if she could borrow my wedding dress because she thought it was so beautiful. I was thrilled to lend it to her and paid for the alterations ($200 plus) as her wedding present. I accompanied her to her fittings and helped her plan her wedding for approximately 100 friends and family.

The kicker: ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 8/11/2018

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I've always known that my husband's widowed mother runs his life. She picks out his clothes and even decided which house we should buy. Of course, it's about a half-mile from hers.

I thought after we married I'd have a more prominent place in his life. Wrong! Every decision is still made by his mother. He acts as if I'm not smart ...Read more

Is it controlling to ask your partner to change?

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Hey Carolyn:

Where do you draw the line between controlling behavior and wanting a relationship you are comfortable with? Example -- I don't want to be with someone who hangs out in bars on the regular. Am I being controlling by telling my significant other, "I don't like it when you go out drinking ...Read more

No More Hemming and Hawing

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I have a friend, "Rosie," who kicked me out to the curb (metaphorically speaking) when her sister moved into her mobile home park.

Prior to her sister's moving into the neighborhood, Rosie and I saw a lot of each other. I was always sewing for Rosie, her husband and her mother-in-law at little or no cost. I sent food to her after ...Read more

Spouse is disappointed in family's reaction to cancer

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: Recently, my wife was diagnosed with cancer. We began daily radiation and weekly chemotherapy treatments. We are both self-employed, and so we have some flexibility in our scheduling, but it has been a lot to handle.

My wife's mother and her family have been enormously supportive. We have lots of friends who are there for us, too.

My...Read more

One-Way Friendship Ends, But Feelings Of Guilt Remain

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My friend from childhood, Camille, has never had my back. I have done the heavy lifting in our friendship our whole lives.

While I was on vacation two years ago, she was diagnosed with cancer. I came home immediately and drove to the hospital at 1 a.m. to be by her side. I've always been by Camille's side for everything, even though ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 8/10/2018

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: As a patient, I know how easy it is to forget to take your medication one day. As a pharmacist, I also know how serious the consequences can be. A recent report finds that one out of seven Americans with chronic conditions, like diabetes or heart disease, are not taking their medications as prescribed.

Sometimes patients neglect ...Read more

Son's introverted fiancee not comfortable at family meals

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

My son and his fiancee bought a condo close to us, which then flooded. They moved in with us and repairs have taken longer than anticipated.

His fiancee, "Laura," is an intense introvert. For that reason, I gave up my exercise, TV and craft room for her to have her "alone" time.

The problem? She feels trapped when she must ...Read more

Person to Person: Avoid extreme emotions to improve relationships

Life Advice / Helping Yourself /

Do you feel a lot of anger and disappointment? Does your temper get the best of you?

Or, do you watch the news, wondering if the world is coming to an end?

Most of us can get fired up over a lot of things. However, these extreme emotions can put a lot of strain on our relationships.

"I was in a bad mood for over a year," says a friend of ours...Read more

Waiting for Confirmation on Sister Suspicions

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My granddaughter, "Melanie," thinks that she has a half-sister 24 years younger.

Melanie believes that her father, long divorced from her mother, was asked by his former unattached girlfriend with whom he remained friendly, to "help" her have a child before it becomes biologically too late.

Now, my granddaughter has become very ...Read more

Stepfather prevents mother-daughter communication

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My mom and stepdad recently invited themselves to visit my husband and me. Since they live several states away, most of our communication is done by email or talking on the phone.

Each call is answered by Mom, who immediately puts the phone on speaker, so he can listen in.

They share a cellphone and email account. He often deletes or...Read more

Mom Charges Daughter-In-Law Rent Even After The Wedding

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My mother-in-law owns the building my husband and I live in. I moved in with him about a year ago, before we were married. Because she owns the building, she doesn't charge her son rent to live there but asks that he help manage the building, which takes about three hours a month. (He has a full-time job outside of managing the ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 8/9/2018

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: Twenty-five years ago, my ex-wife left me and took our four children with her. I married again a few years later and now have four lovely, intelligent children who make me very happy. The children from my previous marriage are now in their 30s.

My oldest daughter, "Jean," is a psychologist. Jean has never said I was a bad father, ...Read more

Be a lifeline for a depressed friend in need

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

I have this friend who lives close but I haven't seen in months. No one in our group of friends has seen her recently. Every time we make plans, she cancels, saying she is too sad or has been crying all day.

I'm really worried. She moved here more than a year ago to be closer to ...Read more

Dispirited Da Vinci

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I recently turned 27 and feel as if life is just passing me by. I try so many different things to find career opportunities and to meet other people but nothing leads to anything, and I am always stuck back at square one.

It seems like nobody ever gives me a chance (social and economic). Is there a way to move on in life without ...Read more

Mom's plans to be a landlord end in tears

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My husband and I (and our two children) are relocating. We have spent the past 18 months researching a really beautiful mountain community.

We were approved for a rental property there, but it fell through just as we were packing the moving truck.

Luckily, my (relatively well-off) mother heard about it, and out of the blue, she ...Read more

Baby In The Buff Causes Grandma Some Concern

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My daughter Scarlet has a precious 18-month-old baby girl I'll call Sierra. Scarlet, her husband and the baby spend a lot of time at their beach house, where they have several full-time employees, including a nanny, housekeeper, cook and gardener. These employees have been at the house for years and are practically part of our family....Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 8/8/2018

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I am a 20-year-old college student and live at home during the summer with my mom and stepdad.

The problem is, my stepdad makes me uncomfortable. He is a porn addict. He leaves girlie magazines all over the house and downloads porn on our home computer. As if that isn't awkward enough, he is always looking at my body. He also ...Read more

The next generation has no interest in mother-in-law's collectibles

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Hi Carolyn!

My mother-in-law has spent much of her life accumulating collectibles, heirlooms and furniture with the rationale that she will give them to her children and grandchildren someday. Her four grandchildren are still in high school. She's decided that "someday" is now and is getting upset that her family isn't jumping at the chance ...Read more

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