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Dear Anna,

My husband and I opened our marriage about six months ago — something we'd talked about for years and finally decided to try. We did everything "right": read the books, had the long conversations, established our agreements. But six months in, the experiment seems to be working for exactly one of us. He has two new partners he sees...Read more

As a dating coach, I get a lot of questions along the lines of, “Are there questions I can ask early to know if someone’s for me long-term?” Or the more blunt, “How can I tell early if I’m about to waste my time?” (For starters, that attitude isn’t helping.)

I’d like to explain an analogy I use called Chicken Nugget Theory.

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Dear Anna,

My girlfriend and I (both mid-30s, both queer women) have been together for almost two years, and our relationship is solid — we communicate well, trust each other and have a great sex life. Recently, we’ve been talking about the possibility of having a threesome. Neither of us has done this before, and we’re both genuinely ...Read more

Writing an online dating profile can be daunting, and it’s out of a lot of people’s comfort zones. We’re taught not to brag, but isn’t that what online dating is — a chance to showcase who you are? Yes and no.

Talking about yourself is hard — your hobbies and interests and a little background at a minimum. Plus elements of your ...Read more

Across Los Angeles, you can feel the shift in dating without anyone saying it out loud.

Men talk about how hard it’s become to meet someone, while women talk about how peaceful life feels now on their own. The gap between those experiences is often framed as women asking for too much, but that explanation misses what’s actually changed. ...Read more

Dear Anna,

I’ve been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half, and our relationship has been really solid — he’s kind, thoughtful and we’re genuinely happy together. I lost about 80 pounds a few years ago before we met, and he’s only ever known me at my current weight. Last week, my sister showed him an old photo from my high ...Read more

When I saw my parents recently, I thought it would be fun, both as a dating coach and as their daughter, to ask them about how they met and how their relationship progressed. I always knew some details, but I didn’t know the full story. March 16 marked their 46th wedding anniversary, so I would like to give tribute to them in this article.

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CHICAGO -- Alicia Williams has had some rough dating experiences.

The 29-year-old mom of two dated a guy who claimed he was divorced, even presenting her with papers to prove it. It turns out they were fake because, after Williams searched social media and public records, she discovered he was still married.

“He was telling me he wants to ...Read more

We are more connected than ever before, with our high-speed internet, pinging smartphones and ever-updating apps and social media networks. (iPhone 17e, anyone?!)

And yet, we are also lonelier than ever, especially younger generations who are even more likely to be on their digital devices for longer periods of time. Gen Z, it turns out, is the...Read more

Dear Readers: Since announcing my departure from writing this syndicated column, I have heard from scores of people across various platforms, thanking me for more than two decades of offering advice and wishing me well in my “retirement.” I am very touched and grateful for this outpouring of support.

The thing is – I don’t think of ...Read more