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How many times have you heard something like this?

“I don’t want to waste your time.”

“You’re too good for me.”

“I’m too old/young for you.”

“I’m too short/tall for you.”

“You’ll get annoyed with me trying to keep up.”

Generally, these lines are in response to an initial message on a dating app. For example, a...Read more

Dear Anna,

I (31F) called off my engagement about a year ago and moved to a new city. A few months later I matched with a guy (26M) on an app — the second person I dated post-breakup. We hit it off immediately, but I wrote him off as relationship material: He’s five years younger, still finishing grad school, and had never had a serious ...Read more

For years, I’ve worked with clients who come to me saying the same thing: “I just can’t find the right person.” When I dig a little deeper, a common theme appears — they’re clinging to a very specific idea of who their “type” is. (It often starts with a physical attribute, but it goes beyond that.) Here’s the kicker: That type ...Read more

SACRAMENTO, Calif. — On a summer Tuesday evening, a group of 18 young women gathered at Alma Wine Bar in downtown Sacramento — most of them complete strangers to one another.

By the end of the evening, fueled by a few glasses of wine and a handful of casual board games, new friendships were forged and potentially long-lasting connections ...Read more

Dear Anna,

I’m 44, divorced, and very happily in my “slut era.” I’m dating casually, having fun, and not looking for either one-night stands or The Love of My Life. I’m somewhere in the middle. I want chemistry, good conversation and sex with people I genuinely enjoy spending time with, even if it’s not headed toward forever.

A few...Read more

There’s nothing like a first impression, and in the online dating world, that means your photo and your bio. Admittedly, the photos are the first thing that most people look at. But for the purposes of this article, let’s focus on the written part of a profile.

Talking about yourself is difficult. It’s a delicate process where you try to ...Read more

Dear Readers: Since announcing my departure from writing this syndicated column, I have heard from scores of people across various platforms, thanking me for more than two decades of offering advice and wishing me well in my “retirement.” I am very touched and grateful for this outpouring of support.

The thing is – I don’t think of ...Read more