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Sexscapades Come to Light

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: More and more at sports events, I have sat next to men who have "man-spread" their legs, actually having thigh and knee halfway into my seat space. I find this very uncomfortable. They don't seem to understand that their thigh, knee and foot are in what I would consider my personal space.

Could you suggest a manner in which I ...Read more

Ask Amy: Abusive ex-husband now wants to share cabin

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I was married to “Bart” for several years. We divorced some time ago.

Last year we got back together but did not remarry.

As it had always been our dream to buy a cabin in the woods, last year we found a property to purchase.

We split the cost equally.

A month ago, he beat me up, threatened to kill me, and kicked me out with no...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: MADD and Sad Mother

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I have three daughters, the youngest of whom is 45. "Susan" has not been in a relationship for five years, and she has a severe drinking problem. She has had two DWI convictions and lost her license for a year. She received the usual counseling, did public service, paid a hefty fine and felt the embarrassment of seeing her name ...Read more

Game Night Takes a Turn

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I have been in a friend group that plays board games nearly every month for 25 years. We all know one another from working at a startup in Colorado nearly 30 years ago. We don't work together anymore, but we still play games together frequently. It has been tough during COVID-19, but we have played a few games online here and there...Read more

Ask Amy: Doctor suspects child has autism

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am a physician and live far away from my family.

My niece has a 3-year-old daughter.

Between distance and COVID, I have seen my grandniece only rarely.

About six months ago, while I was visiting, my family united at my sister’s house. Our cousin is a speech pathologist and is familiar with signs of autism.

She recognized ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Disappointed Daughter-in-Law

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I have been married to my husband for more than nine years and still have a problem with my mother-in-law. When I had a bridal shower, Mom didn't reply, didn't show up and never sent a card. This made me feel unwelcome. (She still has a picture of my husband and his ex-girlfriend on her wall.)

I told my husband that when we have a ...Read more

Single File: Gifting

Life Advice / Single File /

'Tis the season. It's back again, not to be denied. Crowds at the counter, mobs in the aisles, harried cashier at the register. Yup -- it's here, gifting (and regifting) time, but this year feels different: The needy are closer and their need feels greater.

-- Make a videotape and send it to your heart's delight. Take a few days to write the ...Read more

Erika Ettin: 'I hate dating!'

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

I was talking to a potential client recently who had signed up for a consultation call through my website. She told me that one of her friends had worked with me a few years ago. She’s in her late-60s, lives in New York City, is accomplished, and wants to find a partner now that she’s been divorced for a number of years… and COVID really ...Read more


Barton Goldsmith: Lessons my pets have taught me

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

Quadrupeds are great companions, but they are much more than that. These days they are our “fur babies,” and along with the unconditional love they naturally give, they also have a few things to teach us.

Here are some lessons I have learned from the wonderful animals in my life.

-- I am happiest when walking. If I absorb my dog’s high ...Read more

Should I Evict My Son?

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I have a 47-year-old son who lives with me. He pays no rent, and he does not help with the bills. He does help with some of the yard work and housecleaning, but he ignores it if I ask him to help with something that I would like. For instance, he failed to install a Dish network while I was away.

He lies in bed for weeks and ...Read more

Ask Amy: Vaccination status interferes with holiday

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am struggling with the fact my husband's family refuses to get vaccinated. These unvaccinated family members are also traveling across multiple state lines right before the holidays.

My husband understands that we shouldn't celebrate the holiday with his unvaccinated family members, but he says that in turn, we shouldn't see my ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: At the End of Our Rope

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My 12-year-old son recently informed me that his 18-year-old cousin was molesting him. I immediately informed my in-laws. They were in shock and denial. Both said, "Are you sure? Maybe they were experimenting." I was outraged and disgusted, and so was my husband. I went to the police and filed a report.

Both the perpetrator and the ...Read more

Science Advice Goddess: Bark Ranger

I'm a divorced guy in my 40s using dating apps. I'm keenly aware of what I do and don't want in a woman and make it clear in my profile. For example, I write, "If you're in a weird co-dependent relationship with a five-pound dog," we are not a match. A friend looked at my profile and was all, "Man, you have to delete that." I see no problem ...Read more

Dealing With Difficult Exes

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: How do I convey to my adult married children that I do not like being around my ex for the holidays? My son lives several states away, and he invited my daughter and her family, my ex, and my wife and me for Thanksgiving together. This will be the first time in close to seven years that I will see both of my children together for a...Read more

Ask Amy: Homeowner’s racial call-out offends family

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: Am I racist?

A couple of teenagers were at my front door, and I shouted to my husband: "Hey, there are some Black kids at the door, and I don't have time to deal with them."

Kids at the door in my neighborhood are usually selling something or are looking for yard work.

My biracial future daughter-in-law was present when I did this ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Hurting Deeply

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I am 57 years old and divorced. I am now engaged to a woman who is 29 years my junior. "Carla" is everything I ever wanted. I never intended to fall in love with her, but I needed a friend, and there she was. She feels the same way.

Here is the problem: Even though we are engaged, Carla's parents do not know I exist. For the past ...Read more

Homewrecking Co-Worker

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My husband of 19 years had an office gathering at our home in mid-August. He has been at his job for 18 years and switched departments four years ago. I had never met any of the current team members due to my work schedule.

One of his teammates, when introduced to me, grunted when she met me. My heart sank.

As I worked my way ...Read more

Ask Amy: Homemaker’s devotion is waste of a good career

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My wife and I got married right after college and quickly welcomed our first child.

I knew that having kids would take all of my wife’s attention, therefore, I did not want any more children.

But shortly after the first child came baby number two.

At that point I got a vasectomy.

Twenty years later, I have built a very successful...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Miss Her in Tampa, Fla.

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I am in my late 20s and have been happily married for over five years. Here is the problem:

My parents divorced when I was little, and my father is an alcoholic. Ever since I can remember, he would call me on the phone, drunk and rambling so much that by the end of the call, I would be in tears. The past couple of years he's gotten ...Read more

Millennial Life: Millennials Should Know Their Place

It was always parties where I stuck out, but that time specifically, it was around Easter. There were hollowed-out eggs stuffed with confetti, and the extended family had their kids running around, trying to crack the eggs on my boyfriend's head.

My boyfriend, who is now my husband, was one of the older -- but not Old Old -- cousins, and he ...Read more