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Barton Goldsmith: Honoring your father

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

If you were lucky enough to have had a good dad, not a Super Dad but just a regular guy dad, you really hit the jackpot. So many kids grow up (or try to) without the emotional support or even the presence of a father. The idea of not having one is heartbreaking to me, and I know it is all too common.

On this Father’s Day, you have only one ...Read more


Erika Ettin: Does this date come in my size?

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

Sometimes I feel like Carrie Bradshaw when I write about dating. (Did I just date myself? I loved that show.) Just as Carrie would have shopped for clothes on "Sex and the City," I want to talk about how online dating is a bit like clothes shopping. I know the analogy is a little cringey, but bear with me for a minute.

When most of us go ...Read more

Partner Doesn't Reciprocate In Making Reader Happy

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: I honestly feel that I have been bending over backward to make my partner happy, but they haven't done the same for me. I realize that I am constantly asking them what they want from our relationship, but they never reciprocate. Should I be worried that my partner has not asked me what I want out of the relationship? There are so...Read more

Blind Date Becomes Neighbor

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: Several months ago, my cousin invited me to join him and his wife for a night at the theater. As I am single, they also asked if I would mind if they brought along a young woman, to which I said I would not mind at all.

The woman they introduced me to seemed nice enough, but I found her to be much too young. I am 33, and she ...Read more

Politics Dividing the Family

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My husband's brother and family are somewhat estranged from our family due to one family being "anti-vax" and the other "pro-vax." Even before COVID-19, we had become more distant because of our opposite political views -- one family supporting the former president and one family not. We used to see each other several times a year,...Read more

Ask Amy: Enabling parents look for a way out

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: Recently, our adult daughter “Clare” asked us for $4,000 to help her daughter attend an extremely expensive college ($75,000 a year) on the East Coast. We had already just given Clare $5,000 (for another purpose), and we offered tuition and housing for community college. She refused.

My husband and I are retired public school ...Read more

Lonely Widow Mulls Offer From Younger Acquaintance

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My husband died recently. I have been approached by a much younger man for a sexual relationship. I want to, but I feel he is too young. I'm 61, and he's 37, the same age as my son. We have been friends for years, and I am unsure if I should change the relationship. I see no future in it except occasional sex. Should I drop it or ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Mother-in-Law from Hell

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I have two daughters-in-law who seem disrespectful to me. The first one only visits on Christmas day. Yet she has no problem calling when she wants me to take her kids to a doctor's appointment or pick them up from school. The other one does the same, but her excuse is that they are too busy to see me because they are spending time ...Read more

Future Empty-Nester Worried About Lack Of Buffer

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: Many of my friends are about to be empty nesters, including me. My son is graduating from high school and moving away for school. The same goes for the kids of three of my closest friends. We are all in a bit of a panic about what life will be like after our kids are gone. We are all married, but that doesn't necessarily mean ...Read more

Friend's T-Shirt Uniform Causes Embarrassment

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: We have a close friend who is really one of the nicest people you'd ever want to meet. His family and ours often get together for dinners at each other's homes, restaurants, etc.

The problem, which causes some of us a bit of embarrassment, is that his "dress" is always shorts and a T-shirt. Dinners with guests beyond our ...Read more

Stuck in Boyfriend's Past

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I met my boyfriend over a year ago, and he told me that he had been divorced three times, with the last one to be finalized in a month. I had been divorced for many years and had not dated steadily for a few years. I had been celibate for 13 years.

I lowered my standards for this one. I must say that he was a kind, respectful and ...Read more

Ask Amy: Husband worries about in-law’s largesse

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I have a very supportive family, but they are not able to be financially supportive of me as an adult.

I am very proud that I am about to pay off my student debt. My wife and I, both employed full time, are looking to buy our first home.

My wife's family would like to help us out financially, which is kind but unnecessary.

They ...Read more

Recovering Alcoholic Feels Helpless As Cousin Implodes

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I was an alcoholic. I have been sober since 1994. I live with my elderly aunt and assist her while working in ministry. Her son lives with us and is, basically, a hopeless alcoholic. He drinks all day and lies on the couch. I know that if this continues, it will be fatal.

We have tried to get him into two or three rehabs, and I can't...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Pulling My Hair Out

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: When my brother "Steve" comes home from college, he stays up until 3 a.m., sleeps until 2 in the afternoon, and leaves his chores and homework until the very last minute.

I don't understand why he doesn't keep a regular sleep schedule or take care of his homework and other chores early in the week. Instead, he dumps his laundry on ...Read more

Friend Doesn't Share Money Troubles

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: My friend is struggling in life, but she didn't bother to tell me. I recently met up with her for lunch and found out that she had been evicted from her home. When I asked her why she didn't tell me that she couldn't afford to pay her rent, she said she had been too embarrassed to say anything.

I wish she had said something to ...Read more

'Esquire' Makes Little Sense Nowadays -- For Anyone

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am a lawyer of some age, having had a license for more than 40 years. I often have to address written communications to female colleagues.

When I began practicing, it was observed that the title "Esq." was exclusively for male lawyers, no females having been squires. In letters, females were addressed as "Atty." Those who ...Read more

Son Is Headed Toward Debt

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My 19-year-old son has been floating through life since he graduated from high school. He decided early in May that he was not going to return to college, so my husband, his stepdad, who has been in his life since he was 4, and I decided that he either needs to move out by July 1 or have a full-time job with a goal that he is ...Read more

Ask Amy: Accidental witness to a kiss wants to tell

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: One evening at a party about five months ago, I inadvertently witnessed a passionate kiss between the husband of the family giving the party, and the nanny to the children.

It was dark in the room (I had been resting there).

When the man subsequently turned on the light, I said nothing.

He urged me to “give him a chance to fix it,...Read more

Boyfriend's True Colors Emerge After He Moves In

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I was married for 16 years and am finalizing the divorce. I decided to start dating again and found a really nice guy with a wonderful personality. I'm attracted to him, although I never thought I would love again. He's my age and has a kid. We talked for six months -- after which he moved in. We have been living together for more ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Maid of Dishonor

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: A good friend of mine was recently married, and I was her maid of honor and happy to do it. The bride had only one other woman in her bridal party, a high school classmate who now lives halfway across the country. That meant all of the bridal party duties became my responsibility.

I thoughtfully planned, budgeted for and hosted both...Read more