Life Advice






Person to Person: How to cope when the honeymoon's over

Life Advice / Helping Yourself /

Did your marriage start out in a blissful state? Have you been floating on cloud nine, but now thunderstorms are on the horizon?

This is normal. No married couple can stay in the honeymoon phase forever. Sooner or later, real life takes over.

All of us start out believing our mate is close to perfect. They are somewhat of a god or goddess.

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Fit Older Woman Can Inspire, Not Discourage

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: I just saw a post on social media from a woman I worked with years ago. Unlike me, she looks even healthier after the pandemic, social isolation and slothfulness that defined the past year-and-a-half for me. This woman is at least 75, and she looks 50. She had on a bathing suit, and her legs looked tight and lean. OK, yes, I am ...Read more

Boss Loves To Interrupt

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

MISS MANNERS: I have a boss who will barge in while I am on a work call and start talking about something else. I can be midsentence, phone on ear, and he will still continue to talk to me.

How do I handle this? Who is more important in this instance: my boss or the person on the phone? Again, these are always work calls that are interrupted.

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Argument on the Front Burner

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I would like your opinion on a recent incident that happened to me. I went to my son's house to go out to dinner with him and his family to celebrate his birthday. When I arrived, the only person there was my granddaughter. My son was meeting us at the restaurant, and my daughter-in-law, "Jean," had been called into work but intended...Read more

Ask Amy: Parents ponder COVID risk to their kids

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: We have a few family events coming up that will include adult cousins who have been vocal about not getting vaccinated, along with their children who are too young to be vaccinated.

We are vaccinated, but we have children who are not old enough to be vaccinated and who would also attend the events.

The gatherings will include time ...Read more

Wife Unsettled At MIL's Frequent Presence At Home

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been married for nearly 10 years. I guess I never noticed this while we were dating, but as our marriage has progressed, it's becoming increasingly apparent he's a complete mama's boy. He calls her constantly with updates (some I'd prefer she didn't know about) and invites her over frequently without consulting me.

I have ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: The Unemployed

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: Five years ago, we moved to a small town. Initially, it was hard to meet people, but then I found "Inez," who was organizing a women's group.

At first, things went swimmingly, but I noticed that Inez gossiped a lot about her friends and their children. I wondered if she was doing the same to me. When I foolishly confided that one of...Read more

Trainee Receives Hateful Texts After Quitting

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: I quit a job on the first day of training. It was a restaurant job. The environment was so stressful and awful I could just tell it wasn't going to work out. The same day that I quit, I received a slew of hateful text messages from an unknown number; I'm assuming it was the girl who trained me. Should I go and say something to ...Read more

Criticizing A Grown Sibling: 'you're Mean' Won't Cut It

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: My older sister is a mean, opinionated, bossy person. To keep the peace, as children and into adulthood, I deflected or ignored her cruel actions or remarks.

The breaking point came when my 8-year-old daughter and I were invited by her and her husband to stay with them (as a rent-paying guest) during my divorce. I was hoping ...Read more

Ex Still in the Picture

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: About two years ago, my wife of 20 years, "Cynthia," and I divorced. Our two children are grown and out of the house. Our divorce wasn't the norm; we did it without a lawyer or mediator. Everything was civil; no one cheated or was abused. I think we both just changed over time.

About four months after the divorce, I met another ...Read more

Ask Amy: Vaccination conflict interrupts friendship

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I moved to a new state two years ago. My neighbor and I have become friendly and have visited in each other’s houses.

A few weeks ago, she plainly informed me that she would not be inviting my husband and me into her house, nor would she come into our house because my adult son is not vaccinated against COVID.

Our son visits once a...Read more

Boyfriend Sets 'do Not Disturb' Policy For Visit To Ex

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I've been dating a great guy for a year and a half. For eight years before we met, he dated a woman with teenage daughters. He never had children, so they are as close to his own kids as he will ever have. He was recently invited to the graduation party of one of the daughters. It will be a weeklong trip, since they have moved across ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Forward Deployed

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: Six months ago, I married "Jodi." We were both previously divorced. I assumed Jodi would take my name, but I was mistaken. So now, even though she is my wife, she goes by Mrs. Ex-Husband.

I admit I did not discuss this with her prior to getting married, but even so, I find it embarrassing and hurtful. If she had wanted to retain her...Read more


Barton Goldsmith: 10 damn good relationship tools

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

Successful relationships don't happen in a vacuum. They take work. And couples who make their relationships work are the ones who also have the most fun and feel the most love. It's a simple program that really works.

Here are 10 tools to get you started.

1. Give what you want to get. All relationships benefit from a pay-it-forward attitude. ...Read more

Single File: Saying NO

Life Advice / Single File /

It's one of the hardest things to do. For me, it still requires double doses of intestinal fortitude. And most of my friends say it's the same for them, too. (The females, that is; men don't seem to have as much trouble with the NO word. It just could be they've got an extra "No" gene.) Whatever the gene pool, most of us could use some tips on ...Read more


Erika Ettin: Is it luck or work that drives dating success?

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

You probably know someone who met a significant other on an online dating site. And you may have been jealous of that person who seems so happy with a or Bumble boo.

As Guy Raz always asks his entrepreneurs in the podcast “How I Built This,” I’ll ask the same: Was it luck or hard work that led to their happy coupledom? I’d ...Read more

Student Has Mixed Feelings About Late Professor

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: My college professor passed away unexpectedly last weekend. She and I never really got along, but I had a lot of respect for her as my professor. Because we didn't have the best relationship, and at times I could be quite rude to her, I'm feeling a bit of guilt. She wasn't much older than my mother and has kids that are the same ...Read more

Gossip Poisons Lifelong Friendship

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: About three years ago, I began a relationship with a man I am head-over-heels in love with, and we have been living together for two years.

Early in our relationship, my best friend (we have been like family for half of our lives) heard some gossip about my man, believed it totally for the truth, and completely changed her ...Read more

Stressed About Mom's Finances

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: Our family is like most families -- dysfunctional. Our father worked two jobs most of his life to better himself for the good of his family. My mother was a spender, but my father controlled the money. When my father passed, my mother was finally free to live as she wanted.

Yet my eldest sibling, "Dan," suddenly controlled all her ...Read more

Ask Amy: Daughter-in-law is a ‘second chance’ skeptic

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: For years, my mother-in-law “Theresa” and I have not gotten along.

I grew up with my husband (her son) and we have been happily together for eight years.

About two years ago, right before our wedding, Theresa started to call me all sorts of horrible things, called my husband even worse things, disowned him, and tried to ...Read more