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Bachelorette Party Planning Foreshadows Expensive Trip

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My best friend is getting married next year and is planning for her bachelorette party. Right now, they are looking at places that have a three- or four-night minimum and would cost each person more than $500. (That's just to rent the place.) It wouldn't cover food, gifts, etc.

My friend isn't a fancy, extravagant person, so I was ...Read more

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I tried a breakup simulator video game. Here's what it taught me about the myth of 'moving on'

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

In the world of video games, there are plenty of so-called dating simulators, a.k.a. "dating sims," in which players can craft a personality, meet potential partners and try to win them over. "Thirsty Suitors" is not that, and makes it clear what we've been missing in video games: the breakup simulator.

Despite a title that implies sexual ...Read more

Reader Searches For Serenity Through Troubling Times

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: Since August, I have committed myself to peace and happiness. Unfortunately, since doing this, every trial and trouble has been presented at my doorstep. What are the best ways to handle tribulations while trying to remain in a positive and serene place mentally and emotionally? Any advice will be helpful. -- Searching for ...Read more

Slacker-Turned-Academic Doesn't Fit In Back Home

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: Growing up, I was as bad a student as could be. I messed around so much, it felt like my entire childhood, I was being chased by school officials or my parents. I was lucky that both my parents were educators who exposed me to the world, but I did not graduate from high school and never read a book until adulthood.

This all ...Read more

Exhausted by Family's Lack of Effort

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My husband's side of the family has been really close his whole life, and it's a large family. When the pandemic hit, we lost touch with a lot of people. Then we lost a few members of the family in the last couple of years. Included in that loss was my husband's grandfather, who always threw the summer barbecues. It was a great ...Read more

Ask Amy: Rogue aunt snags reluctant dog sitters

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My husband’s father died when my husband was only 3 years old.

His father had a sister, “Anne,” who never had anything to do with my husband and his siblings while they were growing up, but has surfaced over the last couple of years.

She has given my husband some things that belonged to his paternal grandfather, but other than ...Read more

War Letters Project Marks 25th Year As Work Continues

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR READERS: Twenty-five years ago tomorrow, I told you about a new, nationwide effort to honor and remember our nation's troops, veterans and families by seeking out and preserving their war correspondence from every conflict in U.S. history.

The response was overwhelming. The founder of this initiative, Andy Carroll, just told me that, as of...Read more

Husband Doesn't Help With Newborn Son

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: I am a new parent of a 2-month-old. My husband and I don't have anyone in our state (Oregon) we are close with because we moved here a year ago for my husband's job. It's been hard because all of our family is back in Ohio, where we are originally from. We have no support system, and my husband has gone back to work, so it's just...Read more

Another Brilliant Monologue Interrupted By A Boring Meeting

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: How do you politely ask a colleague to stop monopolizing meeting time?

I've recently been surprised at the cluelessness of some colleagues, who will talk ad nauseam during meetings, offering little that is new or insightful. They chime in on every issue and talk for far too long. I once clocked a colleague's monologue at 10 ...Read more

Ready to Be Rid of Accidental 'Roommate'

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I have gotten myself into a bit of a pickle. A few months ago, I ran into an old work acquaintance at the store. We hadn't seen each other in several years. He asked to exchange numbers, and I did, thinking nothing of it. A day or two later, I received a text asking how things were going -- small talk.

Long story short, I found ...Read more

Ask Amy: A parent confronts a sad Thanksgiving

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My mid-30s daughter lived with a partner for 10 years. He is a horrid and manipulative man.

I accepted that as an adult she could make her own life choices, however misguided I may think they are.

As a "couple," she and her partner attended holiday gatherings at my home.

About a year ago, I heard from my other daughters that she had...Read more

Wife's Online Chats With Man Irk Hovering Husband

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I discovered last year that my wife was exchanging flirty texts with a local man and had been doing so for years. I found out when I uncovered an image of an adult toy in her phone's deleted images. At the time, I nearly divorced her, but although our marriage went through a tumultuous period, we are still together.

She told me then ...Read more

Single File: Smothering

Life Advice / Single File /

DEAR SUSAN: I've been dating a wonderful woman for seven months. We have terrific conversation, intimacy and friendship and are considering marriage. The problem is her mother. Although she's supportive of our relationship, she makes my girlfriend feel guilty for not spending as much time with her as before we met.

Her mom is about to marry and...Read more


The Lucky 13: Avoid these first date mistakes to make a great impression

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

First dates can be a whirlwind of emotions — excitement, nervousness and hope all wrapped into one. It's a chance to make a great first impression, but it's also an opportunity to make mistakes that can quickly derail the potential for a meaningful connection.

So, what are the common pitfalls to avoid on a first date? Here are the "Lucky 13" ...Read more

Boyfriend Living Rent-Free Charges Partner For Apartment

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: I am 22, and I am dating a 30-year-old man who is a residence life coordinator at a dormitory for a large Midwestern university. A part of his benefits is that he has an apartment attached to the dorm, so if the residence assistants need him, he is there. This apartment does not have any rent attached to it.

I was about to move ...Read more

Unstoppable Moviegoers Meet Immovable Credits-Readers

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: When we go to the movie theater, my wife and I like to stay seated through the credits, reading them and reflecting on what we've seen. This puts us in a small minority.

When we followed this practice today, the group next to us wanted to leave. The seats to their left were empty, giving them a clear path to the aisle, but ...Read more

Shut-Out Grandma

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am 67 and divorced. I raised two daughters and a son essentially on my own while I worked full time as a registered nurse and provided a decent, middle-class home for my children.

The youngest had issues about almost anything. I got her therapy, along with family therapy. She loved her father but barely tolerated me. Babysitters...Read more

Ask Amy: Wedding drama leads to devastation

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My husband's niece is getting married. I'm so happy for her.

There has been much talk about the wedding. We already received the save-the-date.

Several wedding-related conversations have been held in front of my 12-year-old daughter.

In front of the family, I told my daughter that we could get her a beautiful dress to wear to the ...Read more

Grandparents Prepare Final Gift For Thankless Grandkids

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: For years, we have given generous gifts to our six out-of-town grandchildren and received almost no thanks or acknowledgment. It hurts my feelings because I devote a lot of thought, in addition to money, to choosing something special for each of them.

Obviously, they don't care, but when we have just sent checks, not knowing what ...Read more

Reader On A Quest To Find New Role Models

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: I have been looking for inspiration because I feel a bit lost right now. I realize that my role models from before have not been good examples for me, and I ended up modeling behavior that was not beneficial. I have been looking for new sources of inspiration on social media and in newspapers, but those have been unsuccessful and...Read more