Ask Amy: Esteemed fellow caught pocketing poker chips
Dear Amy: My wife and I, married for more than 48 years, have raised two wonderful children.
Our son, 39 and unmarried, is unlikely to ever have children.
Our married daughter is 34. Her and her husband’s intentions are unknown to us.
We struggled to get pregnant in the 1980s, and one thing we both regret is not sharing that struggle with our parents.
They did not press us about when they might become grandparents, but as we enter our early 70s, we better understand how it might have been kinder to inform them that we very much wanted to have children and were, shall we say, definitely working on it.
We have not asked our children their plans, and we don’t intend to.
I’m not really asking what to do here. This is more for those young people who might know what their intentions are but haven’t told their parents. Either way, I imagine most parents would be like us, loving their kids no matter what the decision.
It would just be nice to know.
– Been There
Dear Been There: Thank you for sharing your perspective about this.
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