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Ask Amy: Long-married hubby really wants out

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I have been married to my wife for 27 years.

We have three adult children.

I have not gotten along with her in a long time.

She has no interest at all in sex. We sleep in the same bed but keep to our own sides.

I am very ill, and she is helping me through my illness.

I always had the conviction that you marry for life.

I recently...Read more

Wife Finally Explains Closetful Of Unworn Jewelry

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been married to my loving husband for 28 years. We have a great relationship, and are soul mates. On holidays and birthdays my husband is generous, but he buys me jewelry that suits HIS taste, not mine. He likes a specific style that I don't care for at all, so it sits unworn in my closet. After all these years, he finally ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Wanting in Illinois

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: For the last several months, I have been going through a rough patch with "Collin," my husband of six years. There have been so many things going on -- illnesses, deaths in the family and a stressful life -- that it has taken a toll and we no longer are intimate, emotionally or sexually. It seems like we've lost something, and I don'...Read more

Boyfriend Owns No Formal Attire

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: My boyfriend told me he doesn't own a suit or dress shoes because he has never needed them. I suppose this makes sense in theory, but I just can't understand why a grown man wouldn't own any formal clothing. Even my 15-year-old brother owns a suit. Is this a red flag? -- Buy a Suit

DEAR BUY A SUIT: Rather than thinking of this ...Read more

Feeling Lukewarm About Dinner Invitation

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: Is it wrong to accept an invitation to someone's house for a casual dinner if you don't plan on reciprocating?

They are nice people and I would feel bad not accepting their invitation. However, I don't entertain very often, and there are many people I would prioritize over them when I do plan to host a dinner.

GENTLE READER:...Read more

No One Cares Anymore

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am a 75-year-old woman in good health, and I've been married for 54 years. I have wonderful children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren. My problem is that many lifelong friends and most of my family members don't seem to want to maintain a relationship with me. When I contact them, they seem glad to hear from me, but for the ...Read more

Ask Amy: Reconnected romance demands disconnection

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I've been dating an old high school romance for six years.

We reconnected after his wife left him for another man and he had started dating other women, including me.

I was his confidante for many months, and our friendship turned to commitment.

He has insisted on keeping all of his exes as "friends," despite their aversion for me ...Read more

Son Insists Couple Has Obligation For Grandkids' Tuition

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: What financial responsibility do parents have to their adult children and grandchildren? We are a blended family of 35 years. It is the second marriage for my wife and me, with four children and eight grandchildren. One child insists it is our responsibility to assist with the cost of educating his two children. Over the last 15 years...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: New York Grandma

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My daughter has two kids, ages 9 and 5. My husband and I saw the 5-year-old's report card, and we gave her a dollar. We also saw our 9-year-old grandson's report card, which was excellent, so we gave him $5. He was so excited.

The following week, our daughter returned $4 of the money we had given her son. She told me that both ...Read more

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Person to Person: How to cope when the honeymoon's over

Life Advice / Helping Yourself /

Did your marriage start out in a blissful state? Have you been floating on cloud nine, but now thunderstorms are on the horizon?

This is normal. No married couple can stay in the honeymoon phase forever. Sooner or later, real life takes over.

All of us start out believing our mate is close to perfect. They are somewhat of a god or goddess.

...Read more

Fit Older Woman Can Inspire, Not Discourage

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: I just saw a post on social media from a woman I worked with years ago. Unlike me, she looks even healthier after the pandemic, social isolation and slothfulness that defined the past year-and-a-half for me. This woman is at least 75, and she looks 50. She had on a bathing suit, and her legs looked tight and lean. OK, yes, I am ...Read more

Boss Loves To Interrupt

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

MISS MANNERS: I have a boss who will barge in while I am on a work call and start talking about something else. I can be midsentence, phone on ear, and he will still continue to talk to me.

How do I handle this? Who is more important in this instance: my boss or the person on the phone? Again, these are always work calls that are interrupted.

...Read more

Argument on the Front Burner

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I would like your opinion on a recent incident that happened to me. I went to my son's house to go out to dinner with him and his family to celebrate his birthday. When I arrived, the only person there was my granddaughter. My son was meeting us at the restaurant, and my daughter-in-law, "Jean," had been called into work but intended...Read more

Ask Amy: Parents ponder COVID risk to their kids

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: We have a few family events coming up that will include adult cousins who have been vocal about not getting vaccinated, along with their children who are too young to be vaccinated.

We are vaccinated, but we have children who are not old enough to be vaccinated and who would also attend the events.

The gatherings will include time ...Read more

Wife Unsettled At MIL's Frequent Presence At Home

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been married for nearly 10 years. I guess I never noticed this while we were dating, but as our marriage has progressed, it's becoming increasingly apparent he's a complete mama's boy. He calls her constantly with updates (some I'd prefer she didn't know about) and invites her over frequently without consulting me.

I have ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: The Unemployed

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: Five years ago, we moved to a small town. Initially, it was hard to meet people, but then I found "Inez," who was organizing a women's group.

At first, things went swimmingly, but I noticed that Inez gossiped a lot about her friends and their children. I wondered if she was doing the same to me. When I foolishly confided that one of...Read more

Trainee Receives Hateful Texts After Quitting

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: I quit a job on the first day of training. It was a restaurant job. The environment was so stressful and awful I could just tell it wasn't going to work out. The same day that I quit, I received a slew of hateful text messages from an unknown number; I'm assuming it was the girl who trained me. Should I go and say something to ...Read more

Criticizing A Grown Sibling: 'you're Mean' Won't Cut It

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: My older sister is a mean, opinionated, bossy person. To keep the peace, as children and into adulthood, I deflected or ignored her cruel actions or remarks.

The breaking point came when my 8-year-old daughter and I were invited by her and her husband to stay with them (as a rent-paying guest) during my divorce. I was hoping ...Read more

Ex Still in the Picture

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: About two years ago, my wife of 20 years, "Cynthia," and I divorced. Our two children are grown and out of the house. Our divorce wasn't the norm; we did it without a lawyer or mediator. Everything was civil; no one cheated or was abused. I think we both just changed over time.

About four months after the divorce, I met another ...Read more

Ask Amy: Vaccination conflict interrupts friendship

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I moved to a new state two years ago. My neighbor and I have become friendly and have visited in each other’s houses.

A few weeks ago, she plainly informed me that she would not be inviting my husband and me into her house, nor would she come into our house because my adult son is not vaccinated against COVID.

Our son visits once a...Read more