Life Advice





Outgrown This Relationship

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I've been in a relationship with "Stuart" for almost three years now. In that time I've grown a lot, working to become healthier physically, mentally and financially. I eat healthily and work hard at my job. I no longer drink alcohol. I want to be the best version of myself.

However, Stuart is in a different mindset. He smokes a ...Read more

Ask Amy: Fiance’s incessant talking causes problems

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My fiancé, “Albert,” talks nonstop. He will talk about any and every subject, regardless of the situation or the audience.

He doesn't care if anyone is interested in what he is saying.

He will tell endless stories — it is just one story after another.

The subject doesn’t matter. It doesn't matter if he has told the same ...Read more

Moving Back Home Comes With Questions Of Privacy

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: At the age of 30, I recently had to move back with my parents. I am not the tidiest person in the world, but I thrive on the saying, Dust, not dirt.

I recently went on vacation. I knew my room was a little messier than I'd like, but I also knew I'd return from vacation ready to tackle the pile of laundry and sweep and mop the ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Also Too Little Too Late

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I read the letter from "Too Little, Too Late," whose Vietnam vet husband is robotic and unaffectionate. This sounds like my husband.

There was never an acknowledgement for the things I did, nor did I get a kiss, compliment or sign of affection. He believed because we had a home and enough money to live comfortably, it made him a ...Read more

Recent Grad's Family Urges Getting A Master's Degree

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: I can't get over the feeling that I wasted my time and money in college. I graduated three years ago, and I haven't worked in my field or gotten even remotely close to it. My family is urging me to go and get my master's, but I don't want to waste even more of my time in school. Do you think it would be worth it to get my master'...Read more

Run Your B&B Like The Business It Is

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I have owned a very lovely bed and breakfast in a boutique community for 15 years now. In the last year, I have noticed an upswing in guests being wantonly destructive.

For example, we had a woman dye her hair bright red in her bathroom sink and then wipe her hands on the vintage wallpaper, leaving unfixable stains. This ...Read more

Ditching the Cheating Boyfriend

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My boyfriend and I have been together for 10 years. Everything was good until three years ago when a woman contacted me to tell me that she'd been seeing him. She apologized to me for it. After we got off the phone, I found her on Facebook and realized that they'd been "liking" each other's posts for years. She even posted a photo ...Read more

Ask Amy: Sexting inspires unkind comparisons

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My wife's best friend recently went through a period where she was unhappy in her marriage.

She began sexting with willing male partners and then sharing some of the pictures she had received with my wife.

I know about this because my wife asked me to fix the Wi-Fi on her phone.

While I was working on her phone, her friend texted ...Read more

New Wife Can't Stop Thinking About Husband's Old Girlfriend

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm a young wife. I married after three months of dating my military husband. He was previously in an on-again/off-again relationship that lasted about eight years, during which she had a baby with another man, etc. I believe my husband is still in love with her. After constantly asking him, he says he just wishes her well and he ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Going Crazy

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My sister-in-law is going through dialysis. She is able to do it in the comfort of her home with help of a nurse, so she can be close to her young kids. Her husband dotes on her. She isn't able to get out much, but she tries to see my in-laws for supper or coffee whenever possible. My husband and I make an effort to come over to say ...Read more

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Erika Ettin: Please pack your knives and go

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

I thought of "Top Chef" (the cooking reality show on Bravo) today for two reasons: 1. I saw a preview on my DVR showing that the new season, with COVID precautions, is starting this week. (Yay!) and 2. I took a Passover-themed matzah pizza-making class tonight via Zoom with Spike Mendelsohn, who appeared on the show over 10 years ago and has ...Read more


Barton Goldsmith: Finding joy in the little things

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

I’m thanking the gods for social media, because I have no social life off-line. None, zilch, zero, nada. If it weren’t for technology, this plague would be so much more difficult, and I am grateful for the brilliant minds that are allowing us to continue being human even if we can’t hug.

I have always loved nature, and this past year each...Read more

Single File: Support System

Life Advice / Single File /

DEAR SUSAN: Face it. Being singular is a trip. It's not necessarily exotic; it's not always fun. But when you take Susan's advice and strengthen your singleness with savvy people willing to supply you with the information or services you need -- when you need it -- single life gets much easier. And things go much more smoothly, the way they ...Read more

Older Dad Doesn't Want To Make Lifestyle Changes

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: I'm concerned about my dad's eating habits. He is getting a bit older, and although he has no preexisting health conditions, he's not in the best shape. He consumes way too much sugar and sodium, and he doesn't get nearly enough exercise on a weekly basis. I've tried to help him, but he is stubborn and stuck in his ways. He feels...Read more

Part Of Our Friend Group Only Takes, Never Gives

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: Six of us couples take turns entertaining and dining at all but one of our homes. One couple seldom entertains, as the husband is a clean freak who does not want his home dirtied. Additionally, he has stated that it is the inviting couple's responsibility to prepare a vegetarian dish for him.

We are obligated to invite this ...Read more

Choosing Positivity

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: Just wanted to say thank you for including the letters from people who really love and appreciate their spouses. Life has been difficult lately for many of us, and reading positive words is uplifting. Dwelling on people's often-petty complaints makes me feel down while reading inspiring words of love and appreciation makes me feel ...Read more

Ask Amy: Spouse doesn’t want to whine about wine

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am married to a wonderful, kind, and generous man.

We have a very good marriage. We've never had a real argument or nagged each other about anything.

I am worried about his weight, however.

He had lost a lot of weight, but now he's regaining it.

This is because he has a glass of wine just before bed.

I don't mind his daily glass...Read more

Wife Is Unsettled By Man's Obsession With Amputation

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been married for six mostly blissful years, but recently, some of his fantasies have started to worry me. About six months ago, he told me he had an attraction to women with amputations. Naturally, I was confused. I didn't even know that was a thing, but I accepted it, even though I thought it was odd.

Three ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Grateful Daughter-in-Law

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I come from a large family. We haven't had any truly rough times, but our sister-in-law is proving to be a problem for me.

"Jennifer" has never liked me. At her wedding, my other siblings were attendants, but not me. She often invites my siblings for dinner, but never me.

I could live with that, but I am bothered by the way she ...Read more

Science Advice Goddess: Stalk Of Shame

I'm a 34-year-old woman seeking a relationship. Last week, I went to dinner with a man. We had an instantaneous connection and ended up having sex. I haven't heard from him since. I've always believed sex on a first date doesn't matter if there's a connection. Now I'm worried I moved too quickly. I'm tempted to call him. Any advice on what to...Read more