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Ask Amy: This woman’s place is in the home – alone!

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am a wife to a good husband who is 12 years older than I am.

We recently lost his wonderful mother (at age 93), and mine (she was 80 when she died).

I loved both of these women and I miss them terribly.

My mother lived with my husband and me for the past five years, and I took care of her.

Now that she is gone, I am craving ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Husband X

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Dear Annie: I'm a 35-year-old mother of five. In January, I was rushed to the hospital because I thought I was having a heart attack. It turned out to be a pulmonary embolism (a blood clot in the lungs). After leaving the hospital, I did everything the doctor told me. I quit smoking cold turkey after 20 years, and I changed my diet.

Physically,...Read more

Living in Fear

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I'm a happily married woman with two young children. My problem is that I'm very overweight, and I'm desperately afraid that my husband will leave me for someone skinny. I've voiced these insecurities to him. He swears to God that I'm the only one he'll ever love, that I'm so beautiful and that he has no interest in other women, ...Read more

Ask Amy: Husband’s secret could make for awkward vacation

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Dear Amy: I just found out (from reading an exchange of text messages) that my husband of 40 years has reconnected with an old girlfriend.

They have been actively corresponding for about a year. Both are in their 70s.

Their relationship is far more than a happy re-connection between old friends, catching up and sharing their news. They act ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: The Maid of Honor

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I am a 20-year-old, single female. I have been friends with "Tony" for two years. Tony is 25, married and has two children.

About a year ago, I started having feelings for Tony. He and his wife were separated at the time. (She'd had an affair.) Then he and his wife got back together. Two weeks ago, Tony told me he has feelings for ...Read more

Do I Share Family Drama With My Son?

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I'm a father of two amazing children and completely loyal husband of more than 20 years. But I have an ongoing issue with my parents-in-law, especially my father-in-law.

About 15 years ago, when our oldest child was a toddler, my in-laws became upset that I wasn't pushing religion hard enough in the household. They told my wife I ...Read more

Ask Amy: Post-divorce disclosure brings about dilemma

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Dear Amy: After we divorced (decades ago), at some point my ex-husband told me that he was the father of another boy (he and I have two sons).

He said the woman had used him as a “sperm donor” without his knowledge and that she wasn’t interested in him playing any role in the child’s life, nor did she want any money from him.

I’ve ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Three Flustered People

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Dear Annie: I am one of three adult children in our family. We had another brother, but he died several years ago, leaving a wife and child.

When our mom passed away recently, she left me as the administrator of her trust. Mom had the idea that since one of her four children was gone, her inheritance should be split between her three living ...Read more

Boyfriend Moves On

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My former boyfriend and I were in a serious, exclusive relationship for nearly six years. While we never lived together, we were intimately close and spent most nights together. He always told me how much he loved me and that I was the best.

Seven months ago, he blindsided me. He broke up with me, in the coldest, least empathetic ...Read more

Ask Amy: Mother wonders if daughter is too happy

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Dear Amy: My 31-year-old daughter is "happy with her size." She doesn't seem to mind that she's nearly 300 pounds at 5-foot 5-inches tall — until she has a mood swing and then she gets mad at me because I'm not big like her.

I never bring up the subject — ever.

I don't know what to say and have to be very careful how I address the subject....Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Devastated Wife

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Dear Annie: Last week, I made a shocking discovery while cleaning my bedroom. My husband had several pornographic tapes that he had recorded from the adult-channel network.

We work opposite shifts and see each other only on weekends. I had no idea he was keeping this pornography in our house. We've been married 30 years and have always enjoyed ...Read more

Single File: Community as Connection

Life Advice / Single File /

Linking yourself to the community is the next step to widen your circle of connectedness. By joining a voluntary organization or international agency (whichever seems more important to you and seems to need you more), by manning a hotline for a battered-women's shelter or helping to organize and international fast day for world hunger, you're ...Read more


Barton Goldsmith: How to deal with crooks, con artists and liars

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I have been lied to by so many contractors, I would be surprised if there weren’t an internet course on how to swindle your customers. Arguments, yelling, threats and just plain meanness over a few bucks makes me sick. Luckily, there’s more than one way to take your power back.

Of course, Yelp and Google reviews offer a way to let others ...Read more


Erika Ettin: Exes exit stage left

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

I got this text from a client last week saying, “I really want to solve this issue of men mentioning their exes! Or maybe that’s just normal? Does that happen to other clients on every first date?”

And then this week, after a different client went on a first date, she told me her date said some things in passing that gave her pause.

One...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Turned Stomach

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I'm a 55-year-young woman. On Mother's Day, I went to lunch with my family, at my sister's house.

One of my brothers was giving the other brother advice about something that was happening in his life. They were sitting across from me, and when my brother was finished, he looked in my direction, and I started to sing. It was only a ...Read more

Science Advice Goddess: Thin Line Between Love And Bait

My relationship with a man I'd been dating was getting serious. His previous relationship ended when his girlfriend dumped him. Last month, he ran into her and told her he was seeing me. She began crying and begged him to take her back. He was torn about what to do. I told him his feelings for her weren't romantic but stemmed from a sense of ...Read more

Millennial Life: When Inspiration Isn't Enough

Had he just driven 53.5 miles south, he could have ended up at my house. Instead, Richard Branson sped into the sky, keeping a good deal of us in southern New Mexico, and around the world, captive to a livestream from Spaceport America and Virgin Galactic.

I hadn't planned to tune in that morning. Breakfast at our house, particularly on the ...Read more

Single File: Walking Single File

Life Advice / Single File /

Married or not, each of us walks single file through life's landscape, because everyone has a "single" part , our unique individuality -- separate and apart from the crowd. Yet from time to time we may travel in lockstep, two by two, when someone we like comes nearby and walks with us. Drawn by love's force, this person may stay with us a ...Read more


Barton Goldsmith: It's almost the most dangerous time of year

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Most suicides do not take place at the winter holidays, like most people think, but happen toward the end of July and in August. At this time of year, being aware of how the people we love are feeling is even more important than usual.

It’s not enough just to say something if you see something; you may have to be the one to give someone a ...Read more


Erika Ettin: Ghosts don't deserve your time

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I have a former (male) client who has what I’ll call a "ghosting pattern.”

He will text someone after a date he thinks went well to ask her out again. She doesn’t answer. He writes to her again. She doesn’t answer again. He writes again (maybe this time on Facebook and LinkedIn, too) … you get it.

While most of us can see she’s ...Read more