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Annie's Mailbox: Reached My Limit

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Dear Annie: I am struggling with my neighbors. They have not one, but two barking dogs, which is double the noise. They confine the dogs to their backyard, which happens to be adjacent to ours. The barking drones on for hours, sometimes days, from very early morning until long after sunset. Our master bedroom, as well as our kitchen and family ...Read more

Ask Amy: Allergies bring on rash of restrictions

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Dear Amy: I currently am wrestling with several serious food allergies. Lab bloodwork has just revealed an autoimmune disorder. I am scheduled to see a rheumatologist in two months.

My body is thrown into a vicious cycle for weeks after consuming foods that trigger allergies.

So, what should I do when I get together with friends or family for ...Read more

Putting the Children First

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My husband and I separated two years ago. Ultimately, we divorced about a year ago due to his rising alcohol and drug abuse, which led to him being violent. I did what I could for years to get him help, offering counseling together, rehabs and anything else that would be beneficial to him to deal with his addictions.

Once the kids...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Exhausted and Healing in Florida

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Dear Annie: I am livid about my 72-year-old mother's physicians. Over the past few years, they kept writing her more and more prescriptions for opioid pain medication, despite our expressions of concern. When she ran out of pills before she could get another prescription, she experienced full-blown psychosis. Patients need hospital care in order...Read more

Ask Amy: Honeymoon ended before it began

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Dear Amy: When I started seeing my guy, we were so in tune and on the same page about everything!

About a month into dating, a switch was flipped.

While I’m making some of the biggest steps forward in my life and seeing incredible professional opportunities, he is facing jail time.

I know that it’s incredibly stressful for him.

He gets ...Read more

Husband Wants to Reconcile After Affair

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My husband and I have been having a rough time. He cheated on me with a young woman and got her pregnant. I think this was her goal, secretly. She knew he had a wife and wanted him to leave me.

Anyway, the baby will be 1 soon, and now that my husband is seeking reconciliation, I feel stuck in the middle. I've already been through ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Not a Creepy Guy

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Dear Annie: My youngest son, "Ian," is soon to marry the "love of his life." I haven't had much of an opportunity to get to know "Tess," but my wife has spent time with her and really likes her. Around me, however, Tess seems to be reserved and quiet. I asked Ian about her reticence and after some hesitation, he told me that Tess finds me "...Read more

Ask Amy: Surgeon’s risky behavior must be addressed

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Dear Amy: I’m in my 60s and undergoing cancer treatment, therefore immunocompromised.

At both of my appointments with my surgeon, she has worn a loose fitting, thin, cloth mask. She has to get very close to me — face to face — to examine me. This has made me extremely uncomfortable, and frankly angry. She has unnecessarily caused me ...Read more

Concern for Enabling Friend

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I have a longtime friend with a history of enabling, starting with her own kids. I tried to discourage her from doing that numerous times without success. History appears to be repeating itself. Her kids are long gone, but now her granddaughter has moved in. This young lady, barely out of high school, is perfectly comfortable ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Been There

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Dear Annie: I've been married for 32 years to "Conrad," and we have two terrific adult sons. My mother-in-law will be 87 soon, and Conrad is her only child. I have never had a good relationship with her in spite of all my efforts. She chose not to attend our wedding reception because it was hosted by her late ex-husband's second wife. Instead, ...Read more

Ask Amy: Toxic daughter poses danger to family

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Dear Amy: My daughter is toxic. She and her husband live with me, but with my help of a hefty down payment they will soon be moving out.

I am looking forward to their absence. I am thinking of changing the locks once they leave.

My abrasive daughter tends to get angry and then cut out whomever she thinks offended her.

The list is long and ...Read more

Single File: Augmenter or Diminisher?

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DEAR SUSAN: I'm writing to you because I can't understand something about me and my girlfriend, and it's getting to me. I think I love her. But my friends keep reminding me that when I'm with her, she makes me feel small, like a poor excuse for a man. She's always saying things like that, and I guess I'm used to it. Whenever I tell my friends ...Read more


Barton Goldsmith: How to stay in emotional balance

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The first thing to understand about emotional balance is that to keep it, you have to be constantly moving, but it’s inner movement, not break dancing. If you seek peace of mind, please know that it requires continual practice, but once you learn the basics, the practice becomes a valued part of your lifestyle.

Isn’t it interesting, how you...Read more


Erika Ettin: How to have a great first date

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While a lot of the advice I give revolves around how to get the first date, even more important is how to nail that first date. First dates — even on Zoom (or maybe especially on Zoom) — can be nerve-wracking, whether you’re a seasoned dater or not. Let’s take a look at some tips for the all-important first date, in whatever form it ...Read more

When Sharing Reconnects People

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My husband has been insulin dependent for 56 years and must avoid COVID-19, so I have stayed at home during the past 10 months, away from people as well. One morning, I wrote how I felt and then decided to post it on Facebook. I was right -- many people were feeling the same way. The responses I received were so heartwarming. The ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Thigh High in Confusion

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Dear Annie: I've been seeing a very nice man for more than a year. We are both in our late 50s and divorced. He is affectionate and kind, and I love him quite a lot. He doesn't have any of the obvious problems -- money, drugs or alcohol, but one thing bothers me a lot. He likes to wear women's thigh-high stockings.

He started wearing the ...Read more

Ask Amy: A woman warned tops a woman scorned

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Dear Amy: I was with my former partner for several years. He traveled often for work.

We had what I thought was a very happy relationship and were both professionally and financially successful.

We bought a home together when I was close to completing my master's degree.

A week after moving in, I discovered he'd been essentially living a ...Read more

Science Advice Goddesss: Job Corpse

My girlfriend of a year is beautiful, intelligent, sweet, and loving and the first woman I could see having a future with. Last week, I was told I'm being laid off from my job at a large media conglomerate. I haven't told anyone, but I'm feeling increasingly guilty for keeping it a secret from my girlfriend. The thing is I'm afraid she'll ...Read more

Bad-Tempered Sister-in-Law

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I was close to all my brothers when we were growing up, especially because we had no extended family around. Our grandparents and aunts and uncles were quite a distance away. All of us really felt it, and the siblings always wanted spouses who could provide what we never had -- a close relationship with our family.

Recently, my ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Stymied Husband

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Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married for 22 years and have two wonderful children. We both have college degrees and full-time jobs.

I am an optimistic introvert, and she is a pessimistic extrovert. We have never been close to each other socially. We have different interest and physical abilities. We also don't communicate much, even on ...Read more