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Ask Amy: Sister gives new meaning to ‘cruise control’

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Dear Amy: Two years ago (prior to the pandemic), my husband and I went on a cruise with longtime friends. They then asked us to join them again.

The date is approaching, and we are having a huge problem letting my sister know we are going. I know this is a first-world problem, but my sister is a widow and counts on us to provide her with all ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Not on My Watch

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Dear Annie: My husband and I are raising our two teenage grandchildren. Our grandson is 15 and recently started going out with a girl. They attend the same school and are Facebook friends. We don't know this girl, but after their first outing to a mall, she posted pictures of them kissing. The following weekend, they went to the movies, and she ...Read more

High School Still Haunts Me

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am a 76-year-old woman who is still not over her teenage friendship troubles.

I should preface this entry by stating that I am by no means stuck in the past. This instance simply comes to mind whenever I face shortcomings in life.

I'll now set the scene: It was early September of 1962. I had just turned 17, and I was a senior ...Read more

Ask Amy: Friend needs a different kind of wake-up call

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Dear Amy: I have a friend who I love dearly, but she's crossed over a couple of lines with me lately and I have gently cut her off.

She is a drama queen and is constantly having relationship problems.

The other day she texted me at 3 a.m., telling me she was leaving her boyfriend. She showed up at my house at 5 a.m. with her 16-year-old ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Worried Hubby

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Dear Annie: Your column is the first thing my wife reads every morning, so I figured I'd write. An issue has come up that I'd rather not discuss with anyone else.

My wife and I are both retired. We go to the same neighborhood coffee shop every morning. We've gotten to know the owners and the other folks who go there, including "Harry," a ...Read more

Exclusion From a Picture Is Worth a Thousand Words

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Dear Annie: My brother has been dating a woman for several years, and they recently became engaged. I do like her, but here is my issue: She is another nationality, and her family (in another country) does not like her dating a "white guy." They refer to him as "white trash," though he is well-educated and makes good money.

She has a very ...Read more

Ask Amy: Dating is disrupted by smoke-filled rooms

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Dear Amy: I'm a single dad. In the past six months, I have met a wonderful woman.

I'm 45 and she is 41. She does not have children of her own but is very close with her brother and two sisters, and her young nieces.

They are a very close family. They get together on Sundays.

The problem is that her father is a chronic smoker. He smokes in the...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Confused in West Virginia

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Dear Annie: My husband and I have a small online stock trading account. Several months ago, he mentioned that he was thinking of giving our son and daughter-in-law money to open their own stock account. I immediately told him I was against it. I then left to go to the store and thought that was the end of it.

When I arrived home, I found my ...Read more

I Feel Like a Second Choice

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Dear Readers: As I'm sure you all know, today is Thanksgiving, a holiday dedicated to celebrating the things we're grateful for. To get in the spirit, I'd love to hear what you are grateful for this year. Send your responses to

Here's a letter from a reader who got creative when it comes to holiday scheduling:

Dear ...Read more

Ask Amy: Adult survivors of abuse must be heard

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Dear Amy: I am a mom with two grown children, “Charlie,” 26, and “Liza,” 23.

Liza recently let me know that she and her brother were molested for many years throughout their childhood by my sister-in-law.

I am terribly sad that my children thought they could not come to me and tell me this when it was happening. My heart breaks for ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: A Favorite Essay

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Dear Readers: Happy Thanksgiving! We hope you are fortunate enough to be spending the holiday with family and friends. And an extra shout-out to those readers who are spending the day volunteering at shelters and soup kitchens. Bless you for your kind hearts and generosity of spirit.

Here is one of Ann Landers' favorite essays, which we feel is...Read more

Single File: Learning To Love

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DEAR SUSAN: Some friends say I'm too full of myself, that I'm too conceited to fall in love. But really, I know myself very well and like myself. Will that keep me from finding love? -- From the 'Single File' Blog

DEAR BLOGGER: The short answer is NO. But it's the longer one that clears up misconceptions that have found a home around loving ...Read more


Barton Goldsmith: 5 ways to sweeten and deepen the love between you

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You can show your love in a million or so ways. Here are a few more to help you deepen and sweeten your relationship. You may already be doing some of these. If not, pick one or two and see how it goes.

1. Share what you both love best. I play guitar and sing a bit, and when my wife joins in, suddenly it’s a scene from "Duets." Sometimes ...Read more

Swallow Your Pride; Ask for a Ride

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am an 80-year-old female, a widow. I live alone.

I have a history of having arthritis, and I can't take medications for arthritis due to having had stomach ulcers. I had a hip replacement in the spring, and I had hoped I would be able to walk without the use of a walker. It is apparent that I am going to need the walker to ...Read more

Ask Amy: Drunken daughter makes tragedy worse

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Dear Amy: My husband died recently after being hit by a car while out on a walk. He left behind two children from two marriages.

My stepdaughter, "Belle," is 34. My son "Hank" is 24 and on the autism spectrum. He lives at home and takes classes.

Belle is an aspiring actress who tends bar when she doesn't have a wealthy boyfriend to take care ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox: Not Treated as an Equal

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Dear Annie: I am a sophomore in college and have been living with the same roommate for the past two years. I've known "Max" since high school, and we were good friends. Toward the end of last semester, however, Max started to do things that really irked me, but I was stressed from finals and thought maybe I was blowing it out of proportion. I ...Read more

Science Advice Goddess: Fossil Fool?

My husband died of a heart attack at age 75. On his phone, I saw several unsettling texts from younger women, alluding to improper liaisons and asking for money. We often helped needy families, but I'm suspecting these women tempted and took advantage of a kind, caring old man, or maybe he turned dirty old man (looking for something more ...Read more


Erika Ettin: Top 5 reasons to be thankful in dating

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As Thanksgiving is upon us, it’s time to put aside our pride and simply be thankful for the blessings we have in life: our health, our family… and dating apps?

In this day and age, we can do just about anything with technology: Read a book without flipping a single page, have groceries delivered with the click of a button, see our friends ...Read more

Husband Feels Like a Roommate

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for six years. We're older, and it's the third marriage for both of us.

At first, my husband was very passionate, loving and anxious to please. We took a lot of trips and went out to eat and socialize regularly.

Gradually, over the past three years, he has moved into the guest bedroom, and we ...Read more

Ask Amy: Emotional affair strains long marriage

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Dear Amy: My husband of 50 years has had an “emotional affair” for a year with an old flame from college.

They have exchanged very intimate emails and texts, which I discovered by accident. When I confronted him, he denied that it is an affair, but just two old classmates exchanging messages.

When I confronted him about the intimate nature...Read more