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Millennial Life: Advocacy Shouldn't Sound Like Call Me Back

Cassie McClure on

One of my pet peeves is getting a voicemail from someone who just simply asks me to call them back. No topic. No indication if it's urgent, or important, or worst case, urgent and important. Usually, this makes it drop down on my list of priorities, unless curiosity gets the best of me and I do have some time.

I've been debating effective forms of advocacy over the past couple of years.

The voicemail thing sticks with me because it reveals a quiet truth about how people respond to requests. It's not that we don't care. It's that we don't have enough to go on. We're all triaging constantly, whether we admit it or not, and when something arrives without shape or direction, it can drift. Advocacy often runs aground in the same ways, and advocates wonder why no one picks up.

Take the meeting request, sometimes scheduled without your knowledge, with no agenda. The calendar invite lands with a vague title and zero context, and suddenly you're left guessing whether to prepare, participate, or politely endure. There have been several meetings where a set of questions ends up in your inbox a few minutes before or worse yet, you settle down in a room, and there's a turn to ask you specifically to lead the meeting because no one is really sure why we're all here.

I also see exceedingly long and meandering emails with no ask. They're thoughtful, maybe even moving, and it tells you everything except what you're supposed to do with it. Do you reply, forward, donate, show up somewhere? Advocacy stalls in that gap between emotion and direction. If the goal is action, then the action has to be unmistakable and not implied.

Stories matter, but only if they connect to power. A compelling story can open a door, but it won't walk through it on its own. If you tell me something that moves me but never connect it to a policy, a vote, a budget line, or a decision-maker, I'm left holding a feeling instead of a lever. The advocates who make change respect both. They make you care, and then they tell you exactly where to push.

Deadlines don't escape this either. "As soon as possible" is often code for "this wasn't prioritized until now." In public life, everything can feel urgent, but not everything carries the same weight. The advocates who get traction are the ones who rank their asks. They tell you what matters today, what can wait until next week, and what actually moves the needle. People respond to urgency when they trust it.

Then there are the dreaded reply-all emails that should have been a plan. Ten people, plenty of enthusiasm, no decisions. Energy without structure turns into churn, and churn looks a lot like progress until nothing happens. Effective advocacy puts rails on that energy. Here's the goal. Here's the timeline. Here's who owns what. Without that, even the most committed group spins its wheels.

 

And then there's the follow-up, or the lack of it. A great conversation, a room full of nodding heads, and then silence. No recap, no next step, no accountability. Most advocacy doesn't fail in dramatic fashion. It fades out. The people who are effective close the loop. Here's what we agreed on. Here's what happens next. I'll check back on Tuesday.

It's not glamorous, but it works.

We don't ignore that vague voicemail because we're indifferent. We ignore it because it asks us to do the work of figuring out what the caller should have told us in the first place. Advocacy works the same way. If you want people to act, you have to respect their time and their uncertainty enough to be clear.

The most effective advocates aren't always the loudest or the most passionate. They're the ones who make it easy to move forward with them.

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Cassie McClure is a writer, millennial, and unapologetic fan of the Oxford comma. She can be contacted at cassie@mcclurepublications.com. To learn more about Cassie McClure and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com.


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