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Dear Sgt. TM In Tulsa: Thank you for reading, and for your response. Other readers agreed with you.

In responding to this challenging question, I was mindful of the fact that “Sick of Secrets” reported that the family of the victim was aware of the sexual relationship at the time it happened, and that the victim and her family members had all chosen not to report this – either when it happened many years ago, or subsequently.

I was concerned that an angry ex-wife might choose to “out” a victim, when in my opinion this should not be her choice. She had been sitting on this knowledge for many years, and her motivation now, as I read it, was to punish her ex through disclosing this to their teenage children.

As I said in my response, if “Sick of Secrets” had any reason to doubt her ex-husband’s behavior now, then she should act. She did not report having any concerns (she and her ex share custody of their children), and that’s why I responded that telling her teenagers about this would only shift the burden of this knowledge from her to them.

Dear Readers: Have you ever had your question published in the “Ask Amy” column? If so, I’d love to hear from you. Did you accept or reject my advice? Was the issue you wrote about ever resolved?

As part of our ongoing conversation about human behavior and its consequences, I’d love to learn how things turned out for you.

 

Please, get in touch! Write to me at askamy@amydickinson.com – write UPDATE in the subject line, and tell me your story.

I welcome the opportunity to be back in touch.

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(You can email Amy Dickinson at askamy@amydickinson.com or send a letter to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or Facebook.)

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