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Erika Ettin: Poor grammar, negativity, and other reasons your dating profile isn't working

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Writing an online dating profile is daunting, but I probably don’t need to tell you that. As if talking about yourself isn’t hard enough already, you have to try to convey who you are, share your hobbies and interests, give a little bit of your background, include elements of your personality and express what you’re looking for in a ...Read more

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Barton Goldsmith: 10 things they don't teach you about work relationships

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We learn a lot in school, but unfortunately, information about work relationships is usually not offered, much less required, reading. Once you get into the working world, you may run into people who are difficult or don’t play by the rules. Here are some tips you were probably never taught in school.

1. Do your due diligence before letting ...Read more

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Erika Ettin: Your last date doesn't represent your dating life

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I have a client who is lovely. Let’s call her Julia. She’s 55 years old but looks 45 (which I rarely say!), she's extremely physically active, and she has a 1,000-watt smile. I’m helping her manage her Match.com account, selecting men, arranging dates, etc.

She had a first date with a man from the site, and they met at a dimly lit bar. I ...Read more

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Erika Ettin: Hug or handshake? Your handy guide on introducing yourself on a first date

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Every online dater knows the emotional roller-coaster of the process. After spending tons of time crafting your bio and choosing photos, you finally feel all the stress and effort is worthwhile when you start coming across promising profiles and starting meaningful conversations. Things reach a new level of excitement when you finally agree to ...Read more

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Barton Goldsmith: And the darkest hour is just before dawn

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When things get very complicated and upsetting, feeling low is understandable, and things aren’t going so well in the larger world right now. It’s also not far from the time of year — late spring and early summer — when suicide rates are higher than at any other time of the year.

The thing to remember is that there’s always a better ...Read more

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Erika Ettin: Does success in online dating take luck, or work?

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Everyone says, “Relationships take work,” which is true. But finding love also takes work, which many people don’t realize. I wish we were all so lucky to have that perfect-for-us person fall into our arms, but I don’t know anyone who has that kind of good fortune. Just like in our jobs, we have to make our own happiness. We have to do ...Read more

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Barton Goldsmith: 5 ways to keep your relationship emotionally balanced

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Relationships are great when the two of you are in the same emotional place, but that doesn’t always happen. The cause can be biochemical, work may be getting in the way, or your own emotions may be so powerful that they keep you from seeing your partner’s. Here are five ways to get back into balance again.

1. If either one of you gets your...Read more

Erika Ettin: Ask and you shall receive

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All too often, I get questions like these from clients:

— What did they mean when they said that?

— How do I know if they want to be exclusive?

— Why didn’t they text me this morning like usual?

— Why don’t we have plans lined up for the weekend already?

From my 11 years as a dating coach, I can certainly give an educated guess ...Read more

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Barton Goldsmith: The emotional costs of inflation

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I practice positive psychology with both my clients and myself. I am honest about the struggles we have been going through, but I can also almost always find a silver lining. With inflation on the rise and the market in bear territory, right now the best I can do is give you economic insecurity emotional survival techniques.

Like a lot of ...Read more