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Ask Amy: Granddaughter’s life is too messy

Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Dear Amy: I’m writing about my 20-year-old granddaughter.

She didn't get along with her father at home, and asked to move in with me.

She was having emotional problems and even at one point tried to end her life. She was also diagnosed with juvenile arthritis.

You can't really tell except once in a while, when she says she's in pain.

Because she cried that she was having problems with her dad, I allowed her to temporarily move in.

She promptly quit college and her job. She sleeps away most of the day.


She has been here for a year. She uses every excuse you can think of not to do anything with her life, although she recently did get a part-time job.

She only comes home when she feels like it (a few nights a week). Her bedroom is wall-to-wall clothes, dirty dishes, etc.

I always used that room for my other grandchildren to stay over. Now, none of them want to stay with me.

I'm 71 years old, have worked all my life, and am now retired and struggling to get by.


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