Ask Amy: A widow can’t quite face FaceTime
I’m wondering how to tell him this. I’m hoping you can give me some ideas.
– Divorced Dad
Dear Dad: If you aren’t brave enough to take on having any kind of relationship with your first-born child, then you really aren’t a better man. You’re just a different version of the man you were. My interpretation of your issue is that you are hanging by a thread, and you know it.
I suggest that you tell your son much of what you say here, acknowledging that you abandoned him, that you are ashamed, but that you are not brave enough to have a relationship with him now. Express your fervent hope that he grows to be a better man than you’ve been.
Dear Amy: “Curious Mom” had recently hired an in-home therapist helping to care for her special needs son. Although the therapist provided good care, Curious had a number of concerns about her.
Thank you, Amy, for encouraging this mom to communicate her boundaries and expectations, using clear language.
These parents should use a “team” approach to their son’s care, and the therapist is an important team member.
– Experienced Reader
Dear Experienced: The team approach is a great way for this family to move forward. Thank you.
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