Ask Amy: Widow is caught in a ‘parent trap’
It has become very uncomfortable being around her at family events.
I have refused to go anywhere where we will both be present for a long period of time.
She recently married and I thought she would mature, but it hasn't happened.
I have tried to improve the relationship, to no avail.
How do I deal with this constant elephant in the room?
– Stuck
Dear Stuck: Actually, this issue of a partner’s child not accepting a new partner is at least as old as “The Parent Trap.” It surfaces frequently in this space.
“Marcia’s” father helped to create this problem, and he doesn’t seem to be doing anything now to promote a healthier relationship between two women who are important to him.
The answer here is two-fold: Your boyfriend needs to stop letting his daughter run his life, and you need to stop letting her control you.
Marcia is taking up way too much space in your relationship. She is an adult. I understand wanting to keep your distance, but perhaps you should try the opposite.
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