Ask Amy: Enabling robs adult son of growth
Dear Amy: My husband and I have always been hard workers.
We were never extravagant, but we believe we have led great lives.
We set aside money for our children to go to school – and we foot the whole bill. Our youngest graduated from college and moved to our second home.
He doesn't pay rent – or any other bills, for that matter.
His girlfriend lives there with him.
I don't have issues with them living there, but I do have issues with my son not working in a real job.
What I mean is that he doesn't put in 40 hours a week.
He doesn't have to, because he has no bills.
His girlfriend is a worker, so the issue is really my son.
I'm getting ready to retire and I'm tired of enabling my son.
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