Ask Amy: Offer of rides turns into taxi service
I rarely hear her say anything good about anyone.
I'm getting the impression that she expects people to cater to her, but doesn't reciprocate. I think friendship is a two-way street. It's not all about one person.
Over the years I've noticed that Julia is not interested in hearing about anything good in my life. Nothing!
The bad things I tell her about seem to make her happy and the good things are met with resounding silence.
What kind of a person isn't happy for a friend who is having a happy life?
Is this just pure jealousy on her part? Is this even a friend?
I'm having my doubts whether Julia is truly a friend, or if I’m just wasting my time. What's your opinion?
– Frustrated Friend
Dear Frustrated: “Julia” is demonstrating how schadenfreude fuels her relationships. Schadenfreude is defined as taking pleasure from the misfortunes of others.
You might be wasting your time trying to keep this relationship alive, but before you exit, you might describe Julia’s behavior and the impact on you. She might not quite realize the loop she is circling.
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