Ask Amy: Prospective grandmother can’t celebrate baby
Signed,
– Doing My Best in Oregon
Dear Oregon: I am so sorry this happens to you and your family. Rheumatoid arthritis is a serious, progressive and painful autoimmune disorder that leads to extreme fatigue, joint inflammation and pain.
You should not have to explain this to anyone for any reason. You have the right to use your handicap placard any day you want – not only when you are feeling your worst.
When I hear stories like yours, I think: People … we’re the worst!
And yet – you’ve asked for a “kind way” to respond to this rudeness, which restores my faith in humanity.
The way you’ve signed your question (“Doing My Best”) actually suggests a great response to this sort of aggression, and it is certainly a response that could be used in front of your children: “I’m doing my very best today. Are you?”
Dear Amy: Recently you published a question from “Perplexed,” asking about the propriety of sending holiday cards featuring photos of a deceased person.
I'm the person who wrote that question. My friend's husband passed away several years ago, but she continues sending cards featuring photos of the two of them together.
I read your response along with another response in my local newspaper.
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