Ask Amy: Woman meets men who want to spar, not spark
Any suggestions?
– Ear Phoned
Dear Ear Phoned: Remote mics can pick up a lot of ambient noise.
If this person calls you (not if you call them), you should try again: “I hope you understand that I actually cannot hear you when you use your earbuds and mic. Can you at least put me on speaker?”
Dear Amy: I’m the part-time sex worker of 35 years ago who wanted to keep this knowledge from my mother-in-law (I signed my letter “Holding”).
Then, “Upset” wrote to you, disappointed that you didn’t call me out for being a sex-worker during my youth.
In response, I’d like to say:
1). It was 35 years ago!
2). I don’t believe I did any long-term damage to my psyche or libido.
3). My husband was a client – why isn’t Upset calling him out for patronizing a sex-worker?
4). You’d be very surprised at the number of seemingly “normal” young women who have been sex-workers at some point in their life while trying to make ends meet during their college or post-grad years. I’d guess that one woman in every 300 or 400 has done this for a time.
– Still Holding
Dear Holding: I don’t often run rebuttals to previously published Q&As, but you make a very good point.
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