Ask Amy: Cohabiting couple should mop up mess
Dear Amy: I am moving in with my boyfriend in a few months. He is everything I’ve ever wanted in a partner, and I’m excited to move into the small one-bedroom condo, which he owns.
I’ve been spending most nights there since we started dating a year ago.
I only have one concern … he is incredibly messy.
We’re talking piles of laundry all over the place, trash overflowing, and months-long expired food in the refrigerator.
I’m quite the opposite. I like everything neat and tidy. I know that I’m going to need the space much, much cleaner to comfortably live there.
What’s the right way to address this? And what is the right time to do so?
I’m particularly conscious of the fact that I’m moving into his place. Right now, when I spend the nights, I’m technically still his guest.
I do some cleaning already, but feel like I can’t be too critical at this point about the piles of laundry and leftover food.
I’ve tried to raise it gently. I don’t want him to be put on the defensive, especially in his own home, but things definitely need to change.
– Clean, Please!