Ask Amy: Dad wants eviction, not connection
Dear Amy: My girlfriend and I have been together for over 10 years and have three kids together, ages 7, 4, and 2 years old. Once our first was born, I gave up going out and drinking — no complaints.
I feel like the kids are well taken care of. However, her moodiness and spending habits have gotten worse. I generally don't complain about it, but when she asks, I am calmly honest. Sometimes that leads to me being yelled at.
I'm not perfect, but I'm pretty dang good. I cook at least half the meals, buy at least half the groceries, spend a lot of time reading and playing with the kids, and I try to involve her in anything I want to do: Hunting, fishing, watching movies/sports, games, whatever. But if I suggest it, she doesn't like it.
She screamed at me because I bought a house for us, even though I had been screamed at for years because we were renting.
She's mad that even though she contributed nothing to the purchase, I wouldn't put her on the deed, due to her past bankruptcies.
We agreed to split household bills and the mortgage ("rent," as she calls it) 50/50, but she is always late with her payments.
I'm ready to contact a lawyer to draw up eviction papers.
My preference is to have the kids stay with me 100 percent of the time. Fifty-fifty is what she'd want.
With a 50/50 arrangement I find it highly unfair that I would owe her anything.
The fact that I make three times what she does means I should have to pay for her choosing a bad profession? Ridiculous.