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Ask Amy: Sibling rivalry buffets sib in the middle

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I don't know what to say to this couple.

– Stumped in California

Dear Stumped: These people slid through a loophole of sorts, and while what they did might be technically allowable, it is deceptive and unethical, and, if they are educators, they know it. All the same, they may believe they have valid reasons to justify their choice (the need to step up and care for aging parents, for instance).

It isn’t necessary to say anything to them. If they wonder why you are being silent, you can tell them, “I’m disappointed by your decision to place yourself ahead of classroom teachers and others in order to get vaccinated. I don’t enjoy passing judgment on you, but from where I sit, it just seems wrong.”

Dear Amy: Responding to your column featuring questions from people who were grossed out by the kitchen habits of relatives, I worked 50 years internationally with food, certified in HACCP (Hazardous Analysis of Critical Control Points), a food safety process developed by Pillsbury in the 1960’s for NASA.

Food safety is of the utmost importance in my book. My dad was a chef and taught me when I was a kid: “If it is hot, keep it hot, if it is cold, keep it cold, and always wash your hands.”


– A Reader in Las Vegas

Dear Reader: Your father’s wisdom is certified fresh!


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