Ask Amy: Co-worker might not deserve closure
Dear Amy: I went on a date with a co-worker some weeks ago.
We both had a great time, and he suggested a second date the following weekend.
I waited for a text to set something up and when nothing came by Thursday, I decided to text him. We agreed to do something Sunday, but Sunday came and went and I got radio silence.
I texted him on Monday, saying it's too bad we never got together, and he responded back a few hours later with, "Yeah, I should have let you know I was spending time with my family."
We had a company-wide holiday dinner where it was very obvious that he was avoiding me at all costs, yet texted me as soon as he left, claiming he didn't know I was there.
I suddenly realize that as a woman, I was doing all the pursuing and he was basically sitting back and letting it happen.
He was always so sweet when we crossed paths at work, so this ghosting took me by surprise.
He is a few years younger than I (he's 23 and I'm 27), but he acted so mature before all of this happened.
I know now that he is too emotionally immature for me, but I really want to ask him why he did that, and let him know how much it hurt me.
I think I need closure. Should I pursue closure from him?
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