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I wouldn't mind being asked to be part of a posed group photo, so I could decline politely, if I chose.

As it is, it seems as if participating in any kind of group activity means that your picture could be published and circulated anywhere without your knowledge or permission.

Is there any subtle and graceful way to deter these shutterbugs?

-- Camera Shy

Dear Shy: It is possible that -- when you sign up for a seminar or purchase tickets for an event -- you are tacitly agreeing to have your photo taken and used, without realizing it. Some organizations embed language into their contractual boilerplate that basically says that anyone purchasing a ticket (or clicking "agree") is also agreeing to have their photo taken and shared.

Otherwise, I don't think you should search for subtle or graceful ways to deter people from taking your picture. You should simply say, "Please don't take my picture."

Dear Amy: I was distressed by your anti-Semitic answer to "Disgusted Husband," who was refusing to attend an orthodox bar mitzvah ceremony because he thought it was "sexist."

Shame on you.

-- Also Disgusted

Dear Disgusted: In my answer, I pointed out that many conservative faith practices (including conservative Christian denominations) are sexist "in structure, if not on the surface." I also pointed out that anyone has the right to practice their religion any way they choose, and that if "Disgusted" didn't like it, he should stay home.

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