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DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am a 37-year-old woman who moved back to my small hometown, where I sporadically run into an old high school teacher. I've greeted her each time as "Mrs. Jones."

While out with some old classmates, we again ran into Mrs. Jones, and I noticed that all of them warmly addressed her by her first name. They told me later that ...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: What is the polite way to treat a housekeeper in your home? For example, if neighbors or guests come over while she is there, do I introduce her?

Also, if I am serving my guests tea and cake, is it necessary to offer her something, as well? I'm not talking about a whole meal, but when I urge my friends to try the brownies I ...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: Less than 48 hours after my husband and I attended a gathering at the home of a couple from our walking group, I received a text from the hostess that read, "I hope you enjoyed the party. Should I assume it was an oversight on your part not to send a thank-you note? We believe we were gracious hosts and would appreciate ...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: What is the proper way to refuse a gentleman's invitation for a date? The little white lie seems wrong, and does not discourage the gentleman from issuing more unwanted invitations.

Is there a way to salvage his ego, particularly when one is genuinely appreciative of courteous and courageous efforts? Friends suggest calling ...Read more