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DEAR MISS MANNERS: What is the etiquette around sharing a hotel swimming pool?

Today there were five people attempting to swim laps in the 25-meter pool. Two were thrashing up and down, and rather than using the lap lane, they each took up a third of the pool's width. This left the three others to share the remaining third.

The swimmer in the ...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: Thank you for addressing the issue of "intent to offend" as opposed to being slow to adapt to newly identified verbiage. The issue our family is experiencing relates to pronoun identity.

I have a family member who has declared they/them pronouns, along with a change to their given name, in the last year. The elderly members ...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I've been with my husband for almost five years. He has a son in his 20s who still lives with us. I am really, really bothered because both of them tell everyone EVERYTHING that goes on in our household.

Topics include what goes on, good and bad, between my daughter and me; my job; if I cook dinner; if I don't cook dinner; if...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: My wife and I were invited to a dinner party by a childhood friend of mine, whom we have seen occasionally over the past 50 years.

At dinner, the host pulled me aside and asked about my political views, to which I responded, "I believe my views will differ from your own. We don't see each other often, so let's just enjoy the ...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am a young woman who works in a professional setting. I got married fairly young after my husband and I graduated from college, and we're very happy and well established. We own a house, both have great jobs and have two wonderful cats.

My manager is much older than I am, and has children my age. While we generally get ...Read more