Life Advice



Navigating Family Dynamics in the Aftermath of a Narcissistic Parent's Death

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: Very late in my life, I realized I was raised and influenced in a narcissistic family. My late father was a (mostly angry) narcissist, and my late mother was a patient, long-suffering enabler. My father had a governmental position where he was "in charge." At home, he was also large and in charge, which suited his narcissism.

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My Friend's Addiction Is Hurting Us Both

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I have a friend whose father recently died. They were incredibly close, and my heart hurts for her. She and I had met at her father's house 20-plus years ago and became super close for many years.

Life happened, and we're not as close as we once were even though I still consider her to be one of my best friends. I lost my own ...Read more

Struggling With My Son Who Only Uses Me for Money

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I left an extremely abusive marriage almost 30 years ago. The physical, verbal and mental abuse was so bad that I had to escape from the house one day when my husband was not home. I had a son with him that I had to leave behind. My son was 5 years old at the time. He would not have let me have him, so I made the decision, with the...Read more

Boyfriend Spends Too Much Time With His Friends and Not Enough With Me

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I've been dating my boyfriend, "Tom," for three years, and we recently moved in together. Things have been mostly great, but there's one issue I'm struggling with. Tom spends a lot of time with his friends and usually doesn't include me. He'll go out with them several times a week, sometimes staying out late, while I'm left at home...Read more

Celebrating Summer

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I feel you overlooked an important point in your response to "Inheritance Issues," which has been an occasional topic in your column.

Elder financial abuse is all too common. If the mother can't make bill payments without help, the implication is that the brother prepared, or had a lawyer prepare, the paperwork to transfer the ...Read more

Tips for Staying Sober

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I wanted to offer a few thoughts for your readers regarding alcohol awareness. The truth is that any method that helps someone reduce their alcohol consumption has to be commended. People with alcohol dependency come from all walks of life and demographics.

These phrases are the basis of Allen Carr's "Easy Way to Quit" and Holly ...Read more

When Uncharacteristic Behavior Signals an Underlying Health Issue

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: Not quite 20 years ago, I worked for a local authority mental health agency with about 650 employees. I worked in the human resources department and knew all the employees by name because I literally had access to everything about them. I made out their paychecks, did all their insurance, and added and subtracted items as their ...Read more

Thoughts for Father's Day

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Readers: Wishing you all a Happy Father's Day! Here are some uplifting quotes that I hope you enjoy!

"When you teach your son, you teach your son's son." -- The Talmud

"The older I get, the smarter my father seems to get." -- Tim Russert

"The strongest, toughest men all have compassion. They're not heartless and cold. You have to be man ...Read more

Sharing as an Access to Happiness and Connection

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: Lately, I find myself thinking a lot about old roommates, friends and co-workers. I'm talking about people from over 30 years ago, whom I haven't spoken to in decades. I think I would like to tell them how they have impacted my life in positive ways. Should I reach out to them or would that just be self-serving and weird? I mean, if ...Read more

Tension With Father's Family

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My older brother and I have been dealing with a touchy situation for years. We are both adopted; our parents divorced when we were very young, and they both remarried.

Our adoptive father was abusive, and our mother had her own share of issues stemming from major depression. We were primarily raised by our mother and stepfather, ...Read more

The Gift of Sobriety

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My daughter is the co-owner of a salon in Florida. All the folks there work extremely hard trying to make a living.

Here is the problem: Let's say "Karen" books a hair color treatment that requires three hours to complete on a Thursday. That time frame is now blocked off on the schedule. On Wednesday, Karen is contacted to verify ...Read more

Go With True Love

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I've been seeing this guy for almost a year now. We practically live together, in fact. At first, to be honest, we just "hooked up" for, as he put it, "pleasure." But over the course of about three months of these hookups, our relationship got a little more serious, and now, almost a year later, we have deep feelings for each other. ...Read more

Love Versus Infatuation

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My "Laura" is the light of my life. It's been more than a year since we found each other, but my whole body still shakes with anticipation every time I see her. Recently, though, I can't help but feel a growing tension between us. This is my first real romantic relationship, and I know that I have a lot to learn, but Laura can be so ...Read more

Let Her Go

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am a man in my late 50s. Until recently, I was in a long-distance relationship with a woman -- let's call her "Maria" -- who lives about a thousand miles away from me. Last month, out of the blue, she accused me of cheating on her with her cousin, who lives about 45 minutes away from me. This is 100% not true. I met the cousin only...Read more

Distant Daughters-in-Law

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: For years, I have tried to have a relationship with my two daughters-in-law, and at some point, I finally gave up. Now, when we get together, the family gatherings are not horrible. But at best, they are superficial.

It is very difficult to have conversations when they text nearly the entire time -- which I never address -- or ...Read more

Should I Stay in a Loveless Marriage for My Kids?

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I never thought I would send one of these letters. I have been married for almost 20 years. Last September, my wife asked for a divorce after what was a rough year, one that was much rougher than I even thought. A week after the request for a divorce, I found out she had been having a long affair with my son's Boy Scout leader ...Read more

Emotionally Distant Boyfriend Makes Me Anxious

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I've been with my boyfriend, "Mike," for five years, and we've lived together for three. I've noticed he's been distant lately. I can't quite put my finger on why; he says he has just been stressed about work.

He has also been spending more time on his phone. Last week, I saw messages pop up on his phone from a woman named "Sarah,...Read more

My Husband's Career Is Turning Me Into a Single Parent

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My husband, "John," and I have been married for eight years, and we have two young children. Recently, he's been working late almost every night and spending weekends at the office. When I ask him about it, he says he's trying to secure a promotion that will benefit our family in the long run.

I've always admired his work ethic ...Read more

Friends, Frustrations and Finding New Connections

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I've experienced couples being completely tone-deaf to the single friends in their lives. Sometimes they have no interest in helping their friends find a relationship. I'm not even talking about setting someone up. I'm talking about having no interest in even going to a place where single people might be.

In my case, it resulted ...Read more

Friendships Tested by Time

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: When I was a teenager, I had a big dilemma, and I would like to know how you would have solved it. My closest friend, "Joanne," lived just a few minutes away but had terrible punctuality when it came to getting together. She would often be up to a few hours late getting to my house, which sometimes led to me having to cancel our ...Read more



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