Ask Amy: Harassment interferes with friendship
Dear Amy: I've been friends with “Marianne” since high school. I was a bridesmaid in her wedding.
My problem stems from her husband, “Chris.” I had only met him once before their wedding.
My boyfriend was unable to attend, and as a single woman I was heckled by most of the "married" groomsmen, who loudly speculated that I was wearing a thong (not true – I was wearing absolutely normal underwear).
I decided to abstain from drinking, as the groom's crowd made me nervous.
While Marianne was on the dance floor, her new husband approached me.
Chris was quite drunk and started making sexual comments to me.
I tried to keep the conversation light and got away from him as soon as possible.
A year later a mutual friend of ours got married. Again, Chris got drunk and started having another weird conversation with me while Marianne was elsewhere.
Later that night we were all dancing as a group and he flipped me over his shoulder. I was extremely uncomfortable and embarrassed. I avoided him for the rest of the night.
Several months later, we went to a festival with friends.