Ask Amy: Woman wants to avoid parents’ skeevy friend
Dear Amy: I am in my mid-20s and have a great relationship with my parents. I live nearby and see them multiple times a week.
They have a large social network of other married couples as friends, many of whom I’ve known since childhood, as they were the parents of my own friends, classmates, neighborhood kids, etc.
In the past couple of years, I’ve started to feel uncomfortable around one of their male friends, “Biff.”
He has never done or said anything specific, but I can’t help but just feel this … icky vibe when I’m around him.
It’s little things, like just leaning in too close when he talks to me, holding eye contact too long, and “teasing” in a way that if it was coming from a man my age I would perceive as definite flirting.
My parents are planning a weekend vacation at the end of the summer at an Airbnb. They plan to invite several of their friend-couples, including this man and his wife.
I really want to go, but I can’t shake this nagging feeling that I will be spending the weekend avoiding him and not wanting to wear a swimsuit in front of him.
I have absolutely no idea how to bring this up to my parents.
I don’t have any quantifiable examples to give them or incidents to cite as to why he makes me feel this way, and they’ve been friends with this family so long that I’m honestly scared to bring it up and cause a rift or any kind of tension.
What do you think I should do?
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